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Backstabbers
My Bestfriend and I meet in kindergardon, and have been friends ever scince, but now he is hanging out with these other girls (who are total losers by the way) and he says he doesnt want to be friends anymore. Just a couple days ago he tryed weed!! all because of these girls...:@ i no i should'nt care anymore but i can't help it, i feel like im still his bestfriend and all that...i feel so bad that all my friends pretty much are doing weed, and i want to just stop fighting and be friends agian, but the girls that he hangs out with now dont like me, and they have also tryed achocal and they've only hung out for a couple of days! im afried they will try something worse....
Please help,
Lost And Confussed.
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you are a good person to be worried about your friend. sometimes people dont see what they are doing is stupid until it is to late. you r friend will eventually realise it is wrong what he is doing, but by then it may be to late.
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I like how you call the other girls losers when your the one who is obviously the loser since he doesn't want to hang out with you.
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Hi there,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn't make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whether your friend's just being annoying without realising, or s/he's done something terrible that's totally wound you up, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you're feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Goodluck
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They will most likely try something worse. End up dead, or severely screwed. Along with your ex-friend, keep that in mind.
It's out of your control though. He no longer probably cares about your thoughts. Just let him go, because it would appear he's done so to you.
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