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My friend is not acting like one!
I have a friend who is verbally and physically abusive. She called me and my other friend a**holes for stupid reasons, and she just us both (hard!). She's been doing little things like that forever, like calling me an idiot or stupid, and maybe hitting me a few times. I could deal with that, but now she's gone way too far. I know that's not how a friend is supposed to act. She doesn't seem to know that her behavior is mean and immature.
I'm avoiding her, but I know I can't do that forever. What should I do?
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talk to your frined, tell her how you feel and that what shes doing is wrong, but go easy in her. maybe she is ahaving problems at homeor someting, but if thats not the case then jjust talk to her if she keepson doing it then just stay awaway from her
albania
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wow sounds like she needs some serious help. maybe you could talk to a couucelor at school and if you feel comfertable with it have her come to. if she was a true friend she should be the one trying to help you stay away from people like her. it sounds like it is a good idea to stay away from her, that just sounds like to much drama,and if she asks why you are avoiding her tell her, if it hurts her feelings, maybe that is a good thing, sometimes reality has to hit someone really hard in the face before they realise what is going on.
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tak to her tell her how you feel and if she doesnt understand that dont hang out with her as much i'm not saying dont be her ffriend just make new friends ... tell her that what she does is hurting you maybe she'll understand
from tearzofblood
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Heyy gurl<3 You have to confront her. I know it might be tough but once you tell her it will feel like a load of your chest. Once you confront her she will not get mad at you cause you want this friendship to last so you are making an effort to help this friendship survive. You have to tell her really how you feel you can't lie to her cause lieing is worse cause then it will blow up to this hige arguement and then you might not be close friends again. So save your friendship now don't procrastanate.! (howeva you spell that)
~lauren
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Wow, If shes calling you names like that, and abusing you like that, I dont call that a very good friend at all. If I were you I wouldn't be her friend because all she is doing is putting you down. And hurting you. It may be hard to avoid her, but let her know that shes not gonna an cant treat you like that. You could even talk to her about it. Maybe she needs help her self. She kinds sounds mental. =/
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get your friend and confront her, tell her that if the abusive mean stuff doesint stop in the next few days thenyour not going to be her friend! plus you shouldent be treated that way!
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Avoiding her was a good first step, now it's time to take action. You already know that she is abusive and abuse is AGAINST THE LAW. If you tell the principal or your parents or another trusted adult, action WILL be taken. Even though you don't like her now (understandable) you still care about her, don't you? If you tell someone, they won't just throw her in jail--they will give her therapy to try and heal her of these violent tendencies. So really you would be doing a wonderful thing for her.
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Just tell her she is hurting you and she isn't acting like a friend is supposed to act. If she really cares about you as a friend then she might stop. She is probably just doing it because she thinks she can get away with it. If not do your best to stay away from her> If it's completely unavoidable then tell a parent, a counselor, SOMEONE who can stop her.
Hope I helped
*emster*
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Well maybe you could talk to that friend for a while see how she feels and why she has been doing these mean things. If that doesn't work tell that your friendship is over because you don't like or understand her abusive behaviors. Hope i helped
Jessica
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You don't need to hit her back or start a verbal fight or anything, but stand up to her and mean it. If she can see you're serious and strong, she'll likely back off. I'm sure she's only doing this stuff because she feels like she can get away with it. You can repair a friendship like this, but only if you take a firm stance against her BS and she cares to still hang out if she can't be all dominant over others.
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I had a friend like that too, and i did it back to her, and then she backed off of me, and she told everyone how much she hated me, and made up stuff, and streatched the truth, and long story short, she lost just about all of her friends, and they knew that i was nicer.
im not saying go all out, but if she hits you, hit her back, dont stand tehre and take it! that tells her she can do it, and you dont care, but you do!
try to get your other friends to do this with you, there is power in numbers!
if you need anything else? just ask!
_KAS_
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well seems like ur "friend" really is a bully. i would go see a teacher or guidence counselour in school (if u go to school that is) and talk about it . hope i helped!
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tell that mean girl to be more nicer towards you i think you should not be friends with any of the girls lke that just make some new friends that are nicer hope this helps
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Why don't you sit down with your other friends and discuss it? I'd suggest forming a plan to make her know she is not doing what is right. What you do is sit somewhere else for lunch. She will come to sit with you, as she'd be alone, and if she tries to sit down, tell her she cannot. And give her the exact reasons why. Tell her that until she begins being a good friend, and stops being so abusive, all of you do not want her as a friend.
If it's an invitation for a social outing, then do it at that point. Or, if she invites you, tell her no because of it, and she should call someone else. Then they say no. It's actually best if she invites you, as it happens time after time.
2 things will result possible. First, she may change to a good person, when you begin to talk to her again. Or, she will find new friends. Either way, you should not be friends with the present her, and you come out ahead. Do not be afraid to do this, it works a lot.
-Steven
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look i know this doesn't soud like a good idea but try it tell how you feel and bring other friends with you tell her if she doesn't shape her additude and stop touching you,your going to have to pull the plug on this friendship once and for all. if she touches you or hurts you tell a some body trust me she will stop this immatureness or you will have to put a restraining order on her.
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