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I have a friend who is verbally and physically abusive. She called me and my other friend a**holes for stupid reasons, and she just us both (hard!). She's been doing little things like that forever, like calling me an idiot or stupid, and maybe hitting me a few times. I could deal with that, but now she's gone way too far. I know that's not how a friend is supposed to act. She doesn't seem to know that her behavior is mean and immature.

I'm avoiding her, but I know I can't do that forever. What should I do?

Heyy gurl

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Hey all.
I have a spanish teacher, and he is saying, doing and drawing things that offend me.

We learned the body parts in spanish, and sometimes he makes us stretch. Well one time he said "no for estomoigo" (i am horrible at spelling, and that means stumach) and he would like rotate his hips. like in a circle.

then recently we learned things to do, like dance,(bailar) and sing (cantar)
and he would to the actions and then we would have to say what it is outloud, and in spanish. He would go, "me favorito" (my favorite) and start to "dance" and he would like do like humping type things it was so wierd. and like push his but out like fast but slow at the same time(if that makes sence)

And then, this is what totally offends me. he will draw people, and they will be having a conversation in spanish. He will usually draw a rap singer, (a male) and then a "curvy" female.
Usually Jenifer Lopez or Beyonce. He draws them with extreme curves.
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that middle pard would be like the hips. and its gross. he will write, like "bootielicious" as the guys responce,or something like that, and he says it sometimes.

My friend said today that she liked to run (correr) in spanish! and he drew a picture of her, and he made her have really short shorts, and said that she had really short shorts! I understand it because of running and all, but thats gross!!

Also, today we had a fire drill, and the alarm things were going off, and he kept saying "attencion a me, attencion a me,
attencion a me,attencion a me,attencion a me,attencion a me" (that means, give me your attention) and he would not let us leave! he always wants us watching him, creepy. and then he always blows a whistle! its soo annoying and he did that today!
I dont think that has much to do with sexual harassment, but it is dangerous!

If you need to know more, ask!

He is a really good teacher, but he is young, and a lot of the other girls find him attractive, but i dont, because I find him offencive sometimes. I know he is a good teacher, and i want him to continue teaching, but I dont want him to do this stuff. is there anyway I can say something (not to him) to an adminestrator or someone, but not in a mean way, just to talk to him about what he does that Myself and some other girls find offencive?

Do you think that this is sexual harassment? am I totally over-reacting??

Please help!

I'll rate and leave feedback!

Thanks! any help is really appreciated!

-Kas-

Heyy

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