15/f - Grade Ten in highschool
If you read this whole question and answer, thank you so much. My happiness is on the line, and I would really appreciate any help I can get. I will appropriately rate all answers. :)
When I entered grade eight (first year of highschool) I kept friends with some people from elementary school. After a year passed they told me I was an ugly bitch and a loser. They said it over the computer, not even to my face. I ditched them and made new friends, it took a year but finally I remade my life. Best thing that ever happened to me.
Over the summer I became friends with a new group of people and for the last month and a half I have been with them all of the time at school. I do not see my old friends because of their schedules, unfortunately.
These new friends have been ignoring me for the past month. They make plans infront of me without inviting me, don't save me a seat in classes and overall just ignore me. I knew it was because the 'leader' of the group was threatened by me because I was (not purposely) stealing attention away from her. She didn't want to deal with the competition so she started to ignore me. Everyone else started to follow, and soon it became really obvious.
Today I invited one of the girls to go shopping with me and she was supposed to call me yesterday but didn't. When I called her this morning she lied and said she 'didn't know' that one of my others friend's birthday party was today so she couldn't come.
The other girl, having the birthday party, invited basically everyone she knew to the mall to go shopping. There was not a limit on people that could come, but I was the only person not invited.
I have not done anything wrong, at all.
I know I can't be friends with them anymore, but I have run out of options. My school isn't that big and because of the events over the last two years, I have tried being friends with everyone. I have run out of options.
I tried talking to my 'friends' about ignoring me but they ignored me. I should of known better.
What should I do? I do not have any more options of friends here.
So far I have only thought of moving, but for all of that work, will I really find any decent people?
Or I could always not be friends with anyone until I graduate and people mature.
Finally, if I stayed friends with them (or tried) I would have to put up with how bad they are to me. Should I really have to do that?
i'm going through a very similar problem right now and all you can really do is talk to them... it probably won't work b/c people are the way they are and most the time the hardest thing is to accept that they probably won't change... but it's always worth a try... and if they don't start being true friends and treat you equal then i say heck no don't put up with them treating u like crap... as hard as it seems to find new friends there are always new people to become friends with...and there's no reaon you should have to be alone the rest of high school...there are people out there that will treat you like a real friend... i hope everything turns out alright and good luck =)
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My two best friends just recently started drinking over the summer. I have been away and just found out about this recently. I however, dont want to start drinking they are, I think it is pretty pointless and I dont need alcohol to have a good time. I KNOW that I am able to say no if I am put into a pressuring situation by them, but I am afraid our friendship isnt the same anymore. It seems like they want to move on to bigger and better things, but they truly are my best friends in the world. What do I do? 15/f
you're totally right it's pointless!... man, my best friend started drinking in 7th grade(we in 10th now), thank god she don't want me to do it, if she did i'd slap her...lol... though you probably don't want to do that... anyway, and you're right the friendship probably isn't the same anymore. and if by bigger and better things you mean possibly getting into drugs and going to jail, yeah. but if you sayin what i think you sayin then hellz no they ain't... how many drunks have you seen become something really important in their lives... not many(besides presidents, but that's not a good example...lol). you should talk to them about it, most of the time it don't help, i'm not trying to be negative, but addictions are VERY hard to stop or even realize for the person doing it. and if they start pressuring you to do it, tell them no, duh(but you would already know 2 do that)... and tell them how it makes you feel and how you feel about them doing it and how you feel yalls friendships arn't the same... and if they really care, if they're really the best friends in the world, dispite their addiction, then hopefully they'll stop, or at least stop trying to get you to do it(if they do, or are) and respect you for being so much cooler than their sorry asses(no offence)... hope i helped
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Female. I used to have a lot of best guy friends, we had this huge group. One guy got all of them in to drugs, now they spend their days getting stoned. They're so perverted now, they expect since I have big boobs that I`ll do things with them. I've fallen really hard for one guy, he's totally sweet and respects me, but I hear from everybody he does drugs too and he's not a virgin. (Keep in mind, were 13)
What should I do? Is this guy totally unsafe and wrong to be around?
13 huh... ok... you should steal all there drugs and pretend a purple monkey ate it!...jk... you should so ditch those loserz(no offence)... they might have been awesome and the coolest people ever... but think about... they get stoned all the time... they want you 2 do "things" with them... seriously... and the guy you like... if you liked him b4 he started doing drugs(if he does them)... he's NOT the same person...and NEVER will b... and if everyone is telling u he does drugs and isn't a virgin... at 13... but you say he's nice and respects you... he's probably just trying to get you to have sex with him... i know it's hard to be in a situation like this... i've known someone that was in the same situation as you... and thank God i talked some sence into her or she wouldn't have any chance of ever having a real future... and if you do go out with that guy(supposing he does do drugs)... even though you probably say you'd never do them... you will... you're only human...and it will most likely ruin your life forever... or at least screw it up a whole lot 4 a long time
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i've been friends with this for like 3 years and we've always been close because we saw each other pretty much every day. now we're both in different classes and we never see each other i just feel like i wanna cry because i just miss her and all that we've been through together and i really just don't wanna lose her as my best friend. has anyone else been in this situation? if you have can you tell me about it. and how can i get my friend back. thank you soo much.
i know exactly how you feel... yall should hang out after school then... just b/c you don't have any classes together doesn't mean you can't be friends... my school's so big i havn't had a class with my best friend since 8th grade... so we play on our school basketball team and other teams outside of school... spend every moment we can together after school... and it's made us better friends b/c we have to try so much harder to stay friends... i think it's just a test of friendship... and i think yall will stay friends if yall care as much about each other as it sounds... and yall been friends for too long for something so small(though it seems so big) to get in the way of that
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(SORRY IT MAYBE LONG, BUT PLEASE HELP)
so ive been friends with this girl since the beginning of this year. when we started being friends we always made these jokes that we call eachother ugly but it was a joke and it still is and yea. but like now she we are like really close friends and im friends with her friends and shes friends with my friends.
they get along fine but say we are hanging out with a group of 4-5 friends i always see this, she is always being so critical of what i say and do but not to the others. she always shuts me down and doesnt let me be happy. but for some reason i know for a fact she isnt doing this on purpose. i also told her 2 times that she is doing this to me and she never said anything to me.
idk what i should do. i know i should talk to her but i dont know what to say. please help me!!!
this sounds exactly like what happend to me few months ago... you should tell her it's making you feel down that she's talkin about you like that and that it mite have been okay used to but it's kinda been bothering you lately... if she doesn't say anything she probably realizes what she's been doin and feels bad that she did it and doesn't want to admit it... so if she don't talk you could say, " why won't you answer me, best friends are supposed to be able to talk to each other, supposed to have each others backs, and always be there for each other... can't you just tell me what's goin on?"(or sumthin like that)... i hope everything turns out all right
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my friends always make plans to go places like the mall the arcade the movies etc. and they never invite me. i dont think they do it on purpose but when they are planning whos going to go they never ask me if i want to go and they know i never have anything to do. i hate it and when i ask them if they want to go with me they never want to go. i hate not being included it really bugs me and stuff.. for example today my 3 bestfriends are all having a girls day out today of course no one asked me if i wanted to go and i tried hinting that i was bored and wished i had something to do and they dont get it. i dont want to be left out anymore i always talk to them and say ya know what how come im never invited and they say oh sorry we will include you from now on and the next time they go somewhere they invite me but then they forget again. i tried just hanging out with other friends instead but the same things happen with them. its like im not loved by my frineds.... they will talk to me in school but they have their other friends. i only have 1 friend that i hang out with alot but shes so annoying and i avoid her sometimes and im wondering if my other friends think im annoying and thats why they ignore me. i hate this soooo much noone wants to hang out with me. im not shy or anything i dont understand why my friends would rather hang out with their other friends. :(
well... they don't really seem like friends to me, but i don't know them. i don't think it's just that they don't want you around or you're annoying or anything... i think they sound pretty shallow... and if they were doin that to me i'd ask what's up with the not inviting me ness, it ain't cool, if we ain't really friends tell me strait up. and for all those other friends you say you hang out with at school but they have other friends they hang with outside of school instead of you... maybe you just ain't found the right people yet that really care about you and want you with them all the time... believe me i know... i'm in 10th grade and just found people who really care about me... even though i've known them since 8th grade... it takes a while and i was a loner for quite some time b4 them... "Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow-ripening fruit." ~ Aristotle... i hope i helped
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I like my friend, josh and today i told him that i liked him and i couldnt really tell if he liked me or not andi just really dont know because alot of people think he likes me but my friend told me he didnt like me well what should i do? and if you have any advice on how to get a guy to like you that would be so helpful!! thanks!!
well... if a lot of people say he likes you... and only one of your friends say he doesn't...maybe your friend likes him too and is a little jealous(if this friend is a girl)... so i think you should ask him if he likes you too... but don't be all annoying like and hyper/preppy... just talk to him normally and play it cool... so if he says he just wants to be friends then it won't be so embarrassing... good luck and i hope it goes well for you
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whatever i do i also seem to be following my friends. even if i don't want to do it i follow them anyway. say its a movie i don't want to see i go see that one anyway. i never stand up for myself. but i love my friends. but how can i do things that i want to do?? i tried one time to suggest something else and they just like stared at me. helpp mee
man, i know just how you feel... and it sucks don't it. maybe you feel like you ain't got anyone else(if that's the case... you prabably do and don't realize it..."love is blind, friendship just closes it's eyes"), but you're probably just sick of it. you gotta stand up for yourself, if they give you a chance show them you know how 2 have fun, and if they don't maybe they arn't really true friends. maybe if they knew how much you cared about them they'd understand better. have you tried asking them 2 the movies or sumthin like that, or do you ask after they ask you(that part confuses me a little... so if you do ask them when they ask you... try asking when they havn't... sorry, that was probably really confusing)... but if they really care about you as much as you care about them, it'll get better... good luck
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