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15/f - Grade Ten in highschool
If you read this whole question and answer, thank you so much. My happiness is on the line, and I would really appreciate any help I can get. I will appropriately rate all answers. :)
When I entered grade eight (first year of highschool) I kept friends with some people from elementary school. After a year passed they told me I was an ugly bitch and a loser. They said it over the computer, not even to my face. I ditched them and made new friends, it took a year but finally I remade my life. Best thing that ever happened to me.
Over the summer I became friends with a new group of people and for the last month and a half I have been with them all of the time at school. I do not see my old friends because of their schedules, unfortunately.
These new friends have been ignoring me for the past month. They make plans infront of me without inviting me, don't save me a seat in classes and overall just ignore me. I knew it was because the 'leader' of the group was threatened by me because I was (not purposely) stealing attention away from her. She didn't want to deal with the competition so she started to ignore me. Everyone else started to follow, and soon it became really obvious.
Today I invited one of the girls to go shopping with me and she was supposed to call me yesterday but didn't. When I called her this morning she lied and said she 'didn't know' that one of my others friend's birthday party was today so she couldn't come.
The other girl, having the birthday party, invited basically everyone she knew to the mall to go shopping. There was not a limit on people that could come, but I was the only person not invited.
I have not done anything wrong, at all.
I know I can't be friends with them anymore, but I have run out of options. My school isn't that big and because of the events over the last two years, I have tried being friends with everyone. I have run out of options.
I tried talking to my 'friends' about ignoring me but they ignored me. I should of known better.
What should I do? I do not have any more options of friends here.
So far I have only thought of moving, but for all of that work, will I really find any decent people?
Or I could always not be friends with anyone until I graduate and people mature.
Finally, if I stayed friends with them (or tried) I would have to put up with how bad they are to me. Should I really have to do that?
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i'm going through a very similar problem right now and all you can really do is talk to them... it probably won't work b/c people are the way they are and most the time the hardest thing is to accept that they probably won't change... but it's always worth a try... and if they don't start being true friends and treat you equal then i say heck no don't put up with them treating u like crap... as hard as it seems to find new friends there are always new people to become friends with...and there's no reaon you should have to be alone the rest of high school...there are people out there that will treat you like a real friend... i hope everything turns out alright and good luck =)
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Girl, reality check-GET NEW FRIENDS who are more down to earth. You do not have to move or anything like that-just change your friends. You sound like you are hangin' with the popular crowd. Well most of those people are usually fake and shallow. If you fit that description then go ahead and put up with them. If you're not fake and shallow then there are Alot of other people out there who'll love you for you.
You're young and may not see it now but Remember YOUR HAPPINESS IS DEPENDENT ON YOU.
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My best advice is just to talk to the other people about it. If they still ignore you after that, then they don't deserve to be your friend. You se seems like a nice person, and you don't deserve to be treated like crap from them. You could maybe try to join some out of school sports groups or something, and make friends from different schools.
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