hey my best friend is acting weird and i think she ie jelous that i am hangin out with one of my old friends b/c he old group of friends are bein mean to he and ignore her now and i try to talk to both but my b/f is never their when something happens so wen me and my other friend are talk about it i think she feals left out b/c she dosn't no wuts goin on wut should i do???
oh silly girl (say with lisp) lol... Invite her and all of your friends to the movies and hang out together... go to church together... invite her and another friend to sleep over... tell her what's going on with everybody... try to set her up with a guy... she won't feel left out if you include her! whether it be by telling her everything, or inviting her to hang out more... good luck with that! :)
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heyy! im 13 yr. old girl.. ok so i had this friend and she was my best friend since kindergarden.. we were friends from kindergarden to 5th grade .. then came middle school .. she became somewhat popular somehow .. but she was trying wayy to hard .. anways im in 8th grade now and its only the begining of the 2nd marking period .. she has been mean and stuck up and a bitch to me .. i get upset sometimes (i dont cry but her being me to me hurts bcuz we were friends for so long) and like should i be upset or am i jealous? plz helpp !
oh i went through that... ya... I suggest you don't be a prep because that's what semi-popular preps do, stab eachother in the back and lie and be two-faced. Don't be jealous of her! Look at what she did to you, do you want to be like that and do that to other people? Be upset... and then get over it and hang out with people who will appreciate you. *cough* like the freaks, goths, punks, skaters, random weirdos... they are very accepting of the popular-prep-rejected people. lol... yes i know stupid advice... *hides*
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my friends always ask me personal questions like "who do you like" .. but i dont know if i should tell them bcuz they might tell other people ... how do you know when you can trust your friends?
I thought I could... but my friends ended up lying and talking about me behind my back. Really... you have to ask their friends, their enemies, and neutral people what they think... and whether or not they think your friends can keep a secret.
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ok,i have a friend named ian,and another named jason,,their only my guy friends until i found out ian liked me,,,!!!then he started to flert with me alot & jason knew that i didn't feel comfortable with ian,,,so {not to make ian jealous}jason gave me a necklace that said ''friends'' he had one that said''best''
ian got jealous...alot..what do i do?????
honesty! or tell him to get over it... he's your friend too, don't cry or anything. lol don't say that. just tell him how you feel and thank your friend Jason for helping you out. :)
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okay i have this friend who ive only known for like a year and weve only been good friends for like a couple months but anyways he is going out with my bestfriend ..and i mean i hate when people my age (14) say i love you if you can tell they dont mean it but i KNOW they do and i hangout with them like everyday and i have so much fun with them they are the two people i can honestly say i trust i love them both to death they are my bestfriends... but this kid got charged for raping these two girls..but he didnt do anything like that he would never do that...they are just stupid and try to start shit and thats not something to joke around with and so he was locked up for 2 months until he went to court...and his gf's (my bff) mom found out she said she wanted her to have NOTHING to do with him..he got out and we were over there everyday and she had been lying to her mom but then we got cought the other day and her mom was bullshit and told my mom the whole story and now we cant see him because neither of them want us going over there...my mom says i can talk on the phone with him and stuff and maybe go over in a little while when he gets off house arrest but i feel so bad he is my bestfriend and she loves him and he is the only one she has besides like me and a few others.... please helpp
just wait till he gets off house arrest. Call him and her every day... three way call sometimes, write him letters, sneak out at night to visit him, email and IM him, tell them both how you feel... and keep hanging out with him when he's off house arrest. Just comfort your friend daily and say it sucks she can't hang out with her boyfriend. In the mean time, don't talk to your parents... they deserve disrespect if they can't respect your friend and your rights to hang out with who you want. :) Good luck with all that! :)
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There's this friend I have and her name is Kellen. She's really sweet, quiet, a good friend, and she's 15. And she has this boyfriend who is 18 and his name is Nick. He's fun, loud, and likes to mess around with everybody while Kellen is usually the girl in the back (I mean the girl who doesn't say anything unless she definetley has to answer). And last Sunday, Kellen, Nick, and I were hanging out at the mall. Kellen went to get ice cream for all of us and I stayed with Nick at the table. And Nick said "Well, you're getting more and more beautiful day by day. One of these days you'll be mine." I didn't say anything because I was embarrassed (and because I'm only 14). And Kellen came back and I pretended nothing happened because I also felt bad for Kellen. What should I do? Should I tell Kellen? Or should I leave it alone?
Definitely tell her. She's your friend and she trusts you. And her boyfriend, well just take it from my 18-year old guy friend "You cant trust an 18 year old boy, all they think about is sex and getting as many girls as possible." So he could be a player... or he could have just been complimenting you. So don't worry your friend, just tell her... but you should probably confront him first.
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(13 yr old girl)ok so me and my friend (lets call her Ashley) were best friends. But they i started middle school and we had this big fight over nothing! And a new friend i met in middle school, lets call her Mary, would tell me what Ashley said about me and Mary would tell Ashley what i said about her... and this caused us to fight even more!! She just got in the middle constantly and like now we dont talk anymore.. question : should i be friends with Mary even though she split me and my BFF apart ..
p.s- Mary is friends with ashley .. and mary is friends with me now .. (but idk if thats a big mistake)
it sounds like Mary probably didn't mean to split you two apart, I've been the new girl before and I know what it's like to "come between fighting friends"... it also kinda seems like your friend Ashley wasn't really trying too hard to salvage your friendship, so I wouldn't worry too much about her. I think you should stil be friends with Mary, but let her know that you don't appreciate her telling your "rival in a conflict" whatever you say about whoever that may be - in this case, tellin Ashley what you said about her. If she doesn't understand that... well i'm sorry. ehhh good luck with all that.
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ok i have this best friend kinda....she wasl ike my realllllly good friend all thru middle skool n shes a really good friend but she has been getting REALLY annoying...we still talk even tho we go to diff highskools now...but shes soo annoying!!!! shes the NICEST person ever tho lyke she would never hurt ne 1s feelings...but whenever i sign on she IMs me lyke the second i sign on and she ALWAYS talks about her boyz probs...and they r s0o0o long....EVERYTIME! i dont kno how to tell her that its annoying to hear about the same thing every time i sign on...i dont wanna hurt her feelings but its soo annoying!
wow... I went through the same thing. but my friend was really sensitive so i didn't tell her. ehhh... she ended up falling in love and didn't have problems as often. so... just tell her, but be nice and gentle
"look, your are the coolest, nicest friend and ur awesome but... you keep talking about boy problems EVERY SINGLE DAY... and it's kinda bringing me down a little"
(don't say she's annoying or she'll get mad)
well good luck with whatever you decide to do... :)
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I just moved to arizona from texas.. my best friend cried wen i left, and said that i would always be her best friend.. but its a couple of months after i moved, and she doesnt seem to pay much attention anymore.. She never calls, writes letters, or emails... we talk to eachother on AIM sometimes, but wenever i talk to her im so happy! but i feel like she is forgetting about me even though she says im not.. i get so depressed about it, and i cry.i would do anything for her!! she is soo important to me! we tell eachother everything and anything.. wat can i do to get her to relize wats shes doing to me without hurting her feelings?
cest ne pas possible! :(
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I showed my friend how to use this website and how to become a columnist, b/c i thot that she'd be awful at it. But now ppl are asking her direct questions and not me. And i dont want to be jealous, but i'm the first one who was here and now she's taking my place. What should i do?
tell your friend how you feel. it was kind of mean of you to do that because your motive was that you thought she would suck... ur kind of being just as bad a friend as her, so the best thing is to ignore it and get over it and get a life outside of advicenators.com.
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When you are a new mom, but are used to having tons of friends back in the high school days which aren't so long ago, and all your friends have all been gone for a year since the baby, and you have no way of locating old friends, how do you find new ones? My life consists of like the grociery store, and Wal-Mart, will I ever have a life again? I'm so confused, I used to have SO MANY friends, guys and girls, and they've all just fallen into the black hole in the earth. Can other moms relate, and even though I love time with my child, I can't help but remember and long for those days of talking to people my age, besides family. How can I befriend other moms my age without looking weird?
OH hun don't feel bad. So many moms go through that.
You have to search... there are groups for moms.
Try church, even if you aren't religious, they have special groups for women and mothers that are very fun and insightful and really bring something new to lives.
Try doing community service or volunteering... you'll meet new people and feel better.
The gym/recreational center is often a place to meet other people. If you think that I could help you, email me your interests, age, location, and some other similar information and I could possibly find the right place for you to make friends. Good luck :)
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okay there is this girl named Tessie and she is supposedly one of my best friends! well everytime I try to plan something with tessie she always says that she can't do and always seems to have an excuse! what should i do? is she really my friend? she seems to think we are but i don't believe that she is telling me the truth!! i think she is using me What is ur opinion on this??
sounds like she's using you or messing with you. Just ask her straight up. If she is... beat her up. lol jp. if she isn't but she treats you like that, she might have a real reason/a secret that she can't tell you. so ask her to be honest and tell u what's going on.
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I've already asked this but didn't know how to ask everyone. I'm male, 25. I've been going through a very stressful time with my job and family recently - I got laid off despite excellent qualifications, because they have outsourced to Canada, and was quite severely depressed. I am introspective, and don't have many friends, but value the ones I do very deeply. Anyway, I rather stupidly decided that I would be jealous of my friends' families, and their lives generally, being so much better than my own. In a moment of despair I told some of my very best friends (some of who I fancy majorly, but that's another matter!! LOL) that I never wanted to see them again. I swallowed my pride a few days later and apologized, but I don't know if they'll ever truly forgive me. I don't even know what I'm asking advice for... Maybe how do I broaden my friendship circle so I'm not so dependent on these few, given how shy and reticent I am? Or how do I stop myself reacting angrily under extreme stress? I just feel so lonely sometimes, I don't know what to do. I know I need a more positive outlook but what possible reason do I have?
I understand... I've gone throught the same thing. There are so many things you can do.
1. Ignore the shitty advice some people here will give you... they don't understand your situation.
2. You probably need Zoloft or other medication. Talk to your doctor about your problems with social interactions and depression. It can help you be happy and be yourself and make more friends.
3. Start writing a journal... you can get out your feelings and learn from your mistakes.
4. Get a punching bag, join a karate class, join a kickboxing class, etc... that relieves stress.
5. Join a yoga class or go to a spa and get a massage. You definitely need to relax and go on a mini vacation.
6. Look at your options. Plan out a couple things. Try something new. And maybe look for a different job.
7. Go to a club - plenty of people to meet there.
or try a bar - a couple of drinks in you system can loosen you up.
8. Tell your friends the straight up truth and apologize. But then forget it and act normal, because if you make it a big deal, so will they.
9. Get a hobby! Learn an instrument, play a sport, go to the beach, start painting/drawing, join a club, or start volunteering. This will help you get your mind off of your problems and not feel like a loser.
10. Compliment someone else... help someone else out, help the environment, volunteer, do community service... do something for some one... This will help you feel good about yourself and raise your self esteem.
11. Try something new. Get a new hair cut, wear a different style of clothes, get a piercing. Trust me, this will attract attention and help you to get over your low self esteem and shyness.
Well... if you have any questions or comments just hit me back! :) Good luck to you!
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Sorry this ones loge but i need help
I'm in a really big social group at school and my 2 neighbors r in it. ive know them since i've moved in and we became really good friend. when school started 1 of my neighbors bff was at my school. right away we hated each other and i don't no why. about a week ago my neighbors and the bff started a book that no one was aloud to see. it really pissed me off and made me realize that every one i surrond my self with are a bunch of backstabing, secret telling liars. i got in to a big fight with 1 of my neighbors and iots sort of resolved but after that was over the bff wrote me a note calling me a poser and a tramp and talking shit about my bf. i was soo pissed off. now i don't want to hang out w/any off them but there like the only people i no.
p.s. me other friend feels the same
Sounds like the movie Mean Girls, eh? Well I've gotta say, that does sound like the typical 'popular group'. I know first hand what that's like. All I can say is that you can't ditch that group fast enough! You might be a loner for a week, but if your a good friend, then you should make friends fast. Maybe try switching styles gradually? Punk? Goth? Jock? Or just be yourself. Everyone loves that... Just tell her best friend that she can **** herself and that you are way better off without her and her back-stabbing loser friends. If that doesn't work... play dirty... everything she does to you do to her times a thousand. Or just ignore her and hang out with your boyfriend. Either way you can't just stand back and take that shit from her.
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