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Well my name is Liza. I am 14 years old and I love to give people advice. I currently go to Oakivlle High School.I am a cheerleader there.I am new here at Advicenators. I am about 5'5. I'm athletic. I am very outgoing, I am very sociable and I am very lovable if you get to know me. I love to shop. I am a kind, gentle person. I love to play sports and everything that has something to do with somehting athletic. I guess you can say that I'm smart but like book smart not like common sense smart because I really lack common sense and any of my friends can tell you that. If ever you ask a question about me the first they would say is "she is such a blonde"(I've been told this). It is sad but its who I am and I like being me. The thing that I really don't like is the fact that other people try to be something that there not. Some want to be something that they want to be but the thing that they don't realize is that they are unique in there own way and thats what makes them special. They try there hardest to be something other than them but the only thing that they need to do is to be true to themselves and they would live there lives as wonderful because they will never have the feeling of trying to be something and fail. They are already champions in there heart but they just need to search deep inside. Thats what I did and here I am giving people advice and living my life in the fullest and being the best I can.


Well since this is an advice column ask me a question and I will try to answer it as best as I could possibly give you since I'm practically failing English.Ask and I will answer. Some people call me as there therapists. Its awkward when they me that it feels like I'm a freak or something but yeah. I am here to give advice and thats what I will do. Just ask and I will try and answer it the best as my brain can think of something brilliant to say!!

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my friend and i are in a fight right now. she asks me to do everything for her and when i do it all i get is a thanks your my bff. and ive done like 45000000 things for her...goes from doing her xanga to myspace to downloading music for her to getting music for her. ive had it. and the other night me and my other friend got into a fight and she is my friend that iam mad at nows friend and she told her that she was mad at me so my friend said ok i blocked her so that means she blocked me on her own will. so i got all on her case and got pissed at her. is this a good reason to be mad at her or just silly and should become friends again?

-abby

Dear Abby,

Well first of all you really shouldn't do everything, that she could probably do herself. If she trades you like with not even thinking about a second what your reaction would be, then what makes you so sure that she's just not using you for those kinds of things you know. If she is your so called "friend" she would not have done that. She would have thought of what your feelings would be either if you get hurt or get mad at her. Friends think about that stuff. THey don't just go ahead and do it just because one of her other friends are mad at you. I think thats pretty pathetic on her behalf. If you are willing to give her one more chance then you could try and become friends again and tell her how that makes you feel the next time you see her or him. She needs to know how you feel. But if you think that, that was the last straw then you should look for friends that actually care about your feelings. Well if your just mad at her because she blocked you, well just talk to her about it and ask why she did what she did.

Well I hope I helped..
Liz

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i have this really pretty,skinny,friend.all the boys are atracted to her not me. i dont know how to tell her im jealus of her? and i dont know how to get over it? plz help me before christmas is over. it is urgent.

p.s i rate high

Probably not ALL the guys like her. Some may like you but never tell anyone. And about the jealousy stuff well just tell her the more you keep it in the more it will become. Then all of the sudden the whole jealousy thing can ruin your entire friendship. Plus all the guys that you think are attracted to her are the ones you like right? Well that doesn't mean that all of them are attracted to her.

~Liza~

P.S.
Tell me how it goes.

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Me and this boy have been really close friends for a year. Now he's started hanging around the other guys, who are all jerks. They were beating up on a kid one day and it made me mad. I stood up for the kid and the boys all ended up getting in trouble by a teacher. Now my friend is mad at me because I embarrassed him in front of his friends. I was just doing what I think is right! Well, now he says he hates me and is tired of the "bull shit". I love him and I don't want to lose him but I have no idea what to do now. None of his new friends like me (they think I'm a psycho) and I feel like he cares more about what they think than he cares about me. It's really really depressing. Write back soon, please & thank you.

From what you wrote this guy seems like a jerk. Sorry from saying that. If he does that then he really is not your "best friend". Best Friends stick up for you not trade you from somepeople that really don't care for him. I don't think he really cares about them more he just probably got caught up of being with a bunch of guys that he thinks that are cool. Pretty soon (hopefully) that he will realize that they are jerks and maybe find some other friends that like you. Try and keep talking to him. He doesn't hate you. Anyway tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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Well I have a best friend and we haven't spent time together totally for 3 to 4 weeks. She and I have been busy as heck. Twice she spent the night over this over girl's house. She calls her, her best friend too. But she's told me that I’m number one. Well now I’m starting to feel left out because I also know her other best friend and we get along well. I just can't stand them being together hanging out and I’m never invited like when the other girl invited my best friend, Kay, to sleep over. She doesn't even call me that much anymore. I remember like in the beginning of the year that the other girl, eliz, was not in the picture and now she's treating her as she's been there for her like I have and SHE HASN'T! She's now including her in everything of her thoughts. I feel like if she had to choose between me and eliz needed to be helped up off the edge of a cliff she would grab me, but after talk about eliz the whole time. We also go to different schools like I go to high school and they go to junior high. Kay even cried when eliz needed to talk to me and didn't want to talk to Kay secretly. I was pissed on how she cried over her and I thought would she do the same to me. When they recently had a sleepover last Friday and she was showing me pictures of the sleepover and she had a picture of them together with the word "best friends" at the top. I felt my heart break that moment. That sleepover was for a "project" which they just played around the whole time though. I barely see Kay anymore and we live so close like 5 seconds from each other's house that I can see in her windows. But she sees eliz 24/7 though. She's also about to go on a cruise for a week and I won't see her than. I wanted to spend this time with her. I'm wondering if she even cares about me anymore really. My friendship love for her is fading. She's even keeping secrets from me like letting that eliz girl know before me and she promised she wouldn't do that in the beginning. She's acting different too and I don't like it. She tells me I’m totally #1, but the way she's been equaling me to this eliz chick that thought sounds more and more false to me. I've known her for 3 years and she's known her for 1 and a half! She treats me like she would treat her. I'm not included on any that they do and I hate that. Also my other friends when we get together I try to get Kay to go quick. She didn’t even attempt to have me come along. I don’t know what to do about this. Am I being unreasonable or totally fair and have a right to be a little ticked? Please help!!

Actually I'm in the same situation right now. If she is treating you like that she really isn't your best friend. Best Friends stick with each other no matter what. So I do think that you have the right to be pissed. You have other friends that you can talk too and that care for you. I'm not saying that to totally give up on her its just that you have other friends that you can turn too. I'm turning to my decision so I think I'm going to stop there. Please think about this very carefully. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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hey. Im thirteen and i have this friend who is a boy. Hes like my best friend and we have been best friends for about 2 years. the thing is that i think that i like him. I don't know what to do. If i tell him im afraid how he will react due to the fact that i have dropped no hints and he thinks we are only friends. Also im really afriad on how this will affect our friendship because i don't know what i would do without him. i know this is tough but i really need help on this one!

Well its common to have feelings with your best friend(boy) especially if you've known them for a really long time. I would just confront him that your having feelings towards him and maybe he likes you too. But if you keep it to yourself he will notice that there is something that is wrong so the best thing would be is to tell him. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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my ex and i are best friends,he has girlfriend and me her dont like each other, but its like now im realizing i still love him but i couldn't ever imagine being more than just his friend, even though we you used to go out,my friends say i should tell him how i feel but i just dont kno has a girl that he loves dearly but i get this vibe that maybe its something he not telling me,so im trying to figure out if its love or friendship. so what should i do should i tell him how i feelor should i just let this friendship "be real"?i also want to have sex with him and i think he knows that but he doesnt want to hurt his girl and i told him what she dont know won't hurt her so what should i do?

I really think you that you shouldn't do anything just be his friends he needs a friend. Plus if it is love he will break up with his gf and go with you. And don't have sex with your best friend and especially if he has a gf.Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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For the past few weeks my best friend has been acting a lot different towards me. It seems like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. We used to hang out all the time, now when I ask her to come over she ignores me or tells me her mom doesn't feel good. She once told me her mom was putting up Christmas decorations. I went there two days later since we were going to church and her mom was putting up decorations then & didn't seem to care I was there. At school if I'm talking to her and our friend Dan (changed the name) says something, she tunes me out and starts listening to him. Last night we went to the beauty pagent thing our school was doing, and she told me "you know, maybe we shouldn't go places together anymore." That gave me the notion that apparently she doesn't want to hang out with me anymore. One other thing is the other day she told me I couldn't come over because her mom was mad at her for something. I have a friend who's friends with her brother and he told me that her little brother had a friend spending the night. So what do you guys think is going on? Oh, and I've talked to her about her ignoring me when she talks to Dan but she just continues to do it. Any ideas or suggestions on what else I should say to her? Thanks.

If she is your friend she wouldn't do that. If this continues my best choice would just to talk to her without your friend (Dan). If she listens to you then, then its just probably that she likes this guy. You know something else people change when there growing up. Not every person that you were really close to you doesn't mean that there gonna be there 4ever. I'm not trying to put you down with this but its true. I've been in this expierence before and my friend and I still talk but not as much as we used to.
And if I'm wrong about this situation please 4give me.

~Liza~

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ok, i moved schools this year and my friend from my old school moved ther too but i never knew and at my old school wwe always used to hang out and now she just ignores me and shes being meen to me and she gives me an attitude.

someone plz tell me what to do i'm sooo confused!

Well if she does that to you then she really isn't your friend. But maybe you not knowing that she moved to the same school as you, well she might have thought that you were ignoring her. You know what I mean. Well the best thing you can do right now is probably to talk to her and tell her what you feel. Ask her why she's been doing that. If she doesn't want to talk well just let her be. Maybe she will come around.

Hope that helped.
~Liza~

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