My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
Answers: 385
Last Update: February 27, 2005
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I am going out w. this guy that i only like as a friend. I like this other guy a lot! But that other guy doesn't really like me like only as a friend. I don't know if i should brake up with the guy i'm with to be with the other guy
(even though he isn't ready to have a girl friend) or should i stay together with that guy.
Sincerely,
lost in which love (link)
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Well I mean you dont NEED a boyfriend currently in your life ya know? If I were you and I didn't have feelings for this kid I were going out with anymore, I'd break up with him. Not in a mean way but I mean...you might as well not go out with each other if you only think of him as a friend. Ask him if you guys can still be friends but just tell him that you don't feel much in the 'romance department'.
And..as for that other guy, if he's not ready to be in a relationshiip now you should respect that (not that you arent)... I mean ultimately, its all your choice but just think about how it will effect others around you too.
Hope I helped.
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ok well i have a friend but lately shes been pissing me off... last year she made out with this guy and all they did was kiss but she went around telling people that he fingered her... then this year she hooked up with him again but she says she doesnt like him anymore... she still like makes out with him and i guess its like the "friends with benefits" sort of thing but i get so mad at her because i know the only reason shes doing it is to be "experienced" so she thinks shell be cool... then she tells me not to tell anyone but she like advertises it all over her live journal thing... the rest of the people that know are annoyed by it too and i dont want to talk to her because everytime i talk to her about anything negative she takes it way to personally and gets all mad... help!
-i rate 5s for good answers (link)
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The best thing you could do is tell her your opinion on this. If she doesn't listen...then this may sound cruel but, let her dig her own hole..and let her get out herself. She knows what she's doing...so just let it happen, let her make her own choices and all you could do is stay away and stay out of it.
Hope I helped. =)
-Gessyka-
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theres this girl that has been following me around since 7th grade she never talks or when she can you can't hear her.I dont like feeling like I have a shodow its emberassing when I talk to people and they try and talk to her but she just wont talk. Its the most annoying feeling so thats why i dont even enjoy lunch anymore id rather go to my next class. even if i say to someone "i need to tell you something in private" and walk away she still follows me. Shes the shyest person EVER and i would feel bad hurting her feelings. BUT I CANT TAKE IT ANY LONGER. pleaseee help i'll rate 5's
thanks (link)
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You may not just want to "try to be nice", because you should really talk to her. I'm sure she'll talk to you if you talk to her. (whether you could hear her or not)
To make her comfortable you have to speak to her and ask her questions. Don't just ignore her and talk to her every once in a while. Introduce her to more people because she'll become more comfortable. And when she waits with you by the door and stuff, so you're not jusut both standing there, ask her some questions and just talk to her...
I'm like that in my school too. I mean I'm like REALLY quiet...and don't ever make fun of that girl (not saying that you do) but just be like..."well why dont you try talking to her." if someone asks you why she doesn't talk.
I'm like that too though...for real. Like at home I'm loud and crazy but in school I'm just...not myself. And it's hard to be outgoing.
She probably has social anxiety disorder which isn't that eay to get over..I know because I have it. Or maybe she's had a traumatic experience which is why she is so quiet.
But seriously, take the initiative to talk to her. I'm totally not kidding. It would help her out in the long run adn make things better for you too.
Oh, I have an idea...write her a note in the class where she sits next to you...and just say whatever in the note. You'll be passing notes and then you could just bring it up (not in a mean way) but why shes so quiet. Don't ask her "why dont you talk?" because she wouldn't like that..I know. Just be like "hey (then put her name) why are you so quiet/shy?"
Then you'll get to the bottom of this and have a better understanding of it...seriously though you should do that.
_-*Me*-_
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I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah (link)
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I think you shoudl definitely let her know you're there for her. There's not much else to say...but just if you're willing to support her you should let her know so she doesn't feel completely overwhelmed.
That's nice of you.
-Gessyka
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Ok heres the problem.. my friend got her peroid in 5th grade.. so she gets it normally now.. but when she was supposed to get it this month she didnt.. She never had sex.. what could be the problem? (link)
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Aww it's nothing to worry about. When you first get your period the cycle is a little off...Like me, I've had my period for a year, and I just missed this months...it's really nothing to worry about...
But if you miss much more months, I'd tell someone just in case...
But...it's nothing to worry about, don't worry.
=) Gessyka
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Okay so i have these two best friends..and we`re all best friends. One of them changed completely just for her boyfriend and then when the other one pointed it out, the first one got pissed off and now they`re not friends anymore. Now, one of them deosnt care that theyre not friends anymore but the other one does, and she keeps telling me about how unhappy she is. Ugh, i have no idea what to do. I want them to be friends again, but i dont know wtf im supposed to do about it.
Sorry if this is long and confusing, but oh well. (link)
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Trust me, I've had many situations like that where I was in the middle just like you. I would try to help and stuff, but it just wouldn't work...one of them cared and the other one didn't...but eventually it all worked out in the end (which doesn't always happen I might add)...But I'm just thankful it all worked out.
I hope it works out for you and your friends too, but honestly I would just let it take its course because it's not fair for you if you try to bring them back together. I mean you will feel really good if you succed at it but it will just hurt more if you fail...=(
so just let what happens happen as much as it sucks...
Good Luck...
*hug*
Gessyka
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me and my friends have a so called"friend" named jodi.weve known her for like half a year.at first she seemed cool.but then she got really annoying.she started acting like a bytch and only do what she would wanna do.so should we keep talking behind her baq and acing like were her friend.or confront her and tell her we dont wanna be her friend
13/f (link)
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You should not keep talking about her behind her back...but you also should not be bluny with her and tell her you don't want to be her friend anymore. I know how annoying people can be but believe it or not everyone is annoying to someone and you wouldn't like it if they came up to you and told you not to hang around them anymore...you know what I mean?
I mean, I don't blame you for wanting to take a break from her but how about without your friends knowing, you go up and confront Jodi and tell her that you don't appreciate how she only goes with what she wants to do...and choose an arrangement for you guys to all choose different things you want to do...
good luck...just please dont hurt her feelings...
~Gessyka~
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i just found out that one of my best friends has been telling people that i was pregnant and had a miscarriage before, it really hurt when i found out, especially when i found out that this was why my boyfriend broke up with me, i want to tell her how i feel but i have no clue what to say, any ides on what i should do? (link)
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Just spill your guts out to her...tell her everything...she's not a very good friend if she made that up about you..you should tell her everything and talk to your boyfriend...please..just let her know how you feel.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
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i love all my friends dont get me wrong but i really like one of my friends and he knows i like him but he has a girl freind and i think he likes me but i really dont know what to do?? (link)
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Talk to him...if he's your friend you'll understand...if you don't want to do that and you want to find out then there's not much else to do but wait for him to approach you...and in a situation like this he most-likely wont.
Good Luck..
try emailing him..
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my friend tina looks way older for her age and she is 13 and older guys like in their 20s hit on her. and we went to the movies by ourselves i though we were going to get raped because these guys were following us around all nite and she told them i was 17 but im 13 and i dont even think i look 15 how could i pull of 17!
Older or not! (link)
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I would definitely talk to her about it and if she doeszn't want to listen you should tell someone.
Either that, or you don't hang out with her alone anymore...only with supervision...
You could get yourself into a lot of trouble...you need to talk to her...if she's your friend she should listen and tell her that you're worried and you DON'T WANT HER LYING ABOUT YOU anymore...,make sure you get that straight...that is very important...
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what do u do when ur best/f wants to kill herself and u cant do anything about it bc u dont live any where near her any more?
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Tell someone...call her house and tell her parents over the phone. It may be awkward but if it nmeans saving your friend...you just have to do it.
~Good Luck~
*hug*
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i babysit this child whom is eleven. She is a very impresionable child, she goes on to the internet to meet boyfriends and cuts herself.what should i do? (link)
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Oh my gosh...lately I've been hearing a lot about people who cut themselves...I'm not going to lie...I've...actually done that once before. ...but it was NOT MEANT for the intention of suicide...I REGRET EVER DOING THAT...and I'm okay...I was never addicted to it...but...does this 11 year olds parents KNOW that this young girl cuts herself? This is not good. She's so young...she may not understand how badly this could hurt her emotionally and physically. You're best bet is to ask her about it..and if she lies to you about it then tell her parents/guardian...but the thing is...telling them may actually provoke her to cut herself more...trust me...you really can't stop her if she's totally addicted and WANTS to do it...you know what I mean? Yes, there is a way to help her but...you have to show her love...maybe she feels lonely...
Lonliness is all tied into her cutting herself and her "internet boyfriends" maybe at home she's not getting much affection. Maybe she just feels isolated...
do you know how her life in school is? Or with friends and family?? There's so many things that can be tied into this...
Does she have any problems she talks to you about? If she does try to work from there AND PLEASE keep me updated on this...I need to know more about how this turns out. I don't want this girl to cut herself. I literally cry about things like this almost every night. I know so many people who have cut themselves and it hurts to think about it...
Just please...talk to her...tell het guardians to put special parental blocks on the computer to prevent her from going in chatrooms and talking to random boys who she calls her "internet boyfriends".
These things can lead to serious consequences and please just let her know that you're there for her anytime she needs to talk, but also don't forget to set boundaries for her as her babysitter.
~Good Luck on this~
~Gessyka~
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hopefully i can make this as short as possible, so here we go (by the way i am a male and am 15 years old, going to be a sophmore next year); the person i like to portray myself to be is a really nice and caring guy who is what some people would call not as much a guy as guys are, but anyways, there is this girl who is really really nice, and really really fun and energetic, she is always "bouncing off the walls" and also has a great sense of humor and is really fun to be around, i really enjoy being around her. here is some more information: i didnt know how to let her know how i felt about her, because i look up to her as a rolemodel as the person i want to be like, funny, smart, and just plain fun and not perverted or anything, like she never curses or says sick jokes or anything like that, so anyways, one day after school i stopped her and told her that i thought she was really cool and she in turn said the same thing to me, and i told her that i never thought i would meet anyone else like her. to finish off the information- i am moving in about 3 weeks, leaving state going off to somewhere else because of parent complications and what not, and now i just want to get to know her better; she did give me her email, but knowing her she doesnt check it except every month or so, so that it does not get deleted, because it is a hotmail account, so if i am lucky she will see the email i sent to her asking her if she would want to go for a walk and talk sometime so we can get to know each other better, but i dont think that will work. so anyways, here is my question- i want to find a way to ask her to do something with me (and by the way she doesn't want to date anyone or get into a relationship, that is why i want to ask her on a walk), but i dont know what to ask her to do, i thought of asking her for i walk, so we can talk more, because i want to get to know her better, so i dont know what to ask her, and second of all i dont know how to contact her, so far i have just been waiting to see if she will reply to my email, but i dont think she will, so i want another way to ask her, and i am not so sure about calling her house or knocking on her door and asking her that way, i only have 3 weeks left before i am gone and will not be able to see her again, so i just want some advice (and by the way she doesnt use chats either), so i would really appreciate it if someone could send me some advice, thanks a whole bunch if you do! (link)
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That is so sweet. You sound like you definitely meet the standards to the person you want to portray when you're older...
Talk to her...from what you said about you telling her that shes a cool person is a start. Just simply ask her if she wants to take a walk down to a store, a park, or just down the street anywhere that's close by to just get to know each other more. Make sure you tell her everything you feel. You don't have to tell you you really LIKE her or anything...but make sure you tell her that you respect her as a person and that you enjoy being around her. Tell her that you want to be there for her and be her friend and open up to her a little bit...
From how you described her she seems like an awesome pertson to be around. You sound like a great guy, and you show how you care by typing to us which makes ME want to be around you...because you seem so nice...so why wouldn't she want to be around you? Girls like caring boys...that's the bottom line. Just tell her what's on your mind and I'm sure only good could come out of it...
Remember, you only have three weeks so try to make the best of those days before you move...don't hold back.
~Gessyka
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I just got to this new school and a boy goes there that ive know just about my whole life and we hate each other and we got into a fight and I have a huge bruise and im a girl he likes to pick on me. (link)
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Don't fight back with him. He obviously has issues if he can't fight a man....come on! Even I can fight a man. (I'm not saying that men are stronger then women though), BECAUSE THEY AREN'T! Do you see men trying to have babies?
Go to the guidance counsler and principal if he tries to hurt/tease you again. Ignore him though. If he picks on you and you don't pick on him back, he'll get into even MORE trouble...YAY!
Seriously thoughm don't mess with him back...you don't know what could happen and I'd just leave it be. THe next time he does anything to you whether verbally OR physically (or both) then tell somebody right away even if it doersn't seem very serious...because things like this CAN be serious, but you just may not realize it at first.
GL,
*-_GeSsYkA_-*
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Ok I can not stand this girl at my school she is a total b****!She thinks that she is popular but she isn't she is sooo mean tooo everyone.I was friends with her but then I started to date her ex- and she got so mad!!!!And she already got a boyfriend after she dumped her ex-!I just can't stand her!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!
signed,
HELP (link)
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Ignore her...if you're not friends with her anymore then it really shouldn't matter...you know? And if she brings up the fact that you went out with her ex-boyfriend, then tell her "you obviously got over in so I got into it." And just walk away.
~GL~
Hope this helped.
*-_GeSsYkA_-*
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my boyfriend thinks my freinds are silly people but they are not (link)
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um...kay
What really matters is what you think of friends.
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What's your email address or IM s/n? Mine is virgogrrl915 (on AIM) (link)
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Infinity o0o
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I have liked this guy for a really long time and i really want to go out with him. He really likes me too. The problem is neither one of us is brave enough to ask the other one out. So do you think i should make the first move or wait for him. I hear him talking about me all the time. What should i do? (link)
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MAKE THE FIRST MOVE...that's AWESOME when a girl makes the first move...
It's like...we're in control of something.
~GL with that~
DO IT! He'll be happy...hehe
*-_GeSsYkA_-*
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I want men to die... is this normal? (link)
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No...
But having them endure pain is okay...
As long as they don't die...*winks*
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I'm really shy at school, and I have been since the 3rd grade. I really want to be more social and outgoing!!! I've tried joining clubs and stuff, but that really didn't help.... Any suggestions?!!! I really need advice for this! (link)
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OH MY GOSH! I'm Like that too! YOU HAVE TO EMAIL ME!!...or i/m me...seriously....I'll tell you some of my experiences.
PLease...email me.
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