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Shy Girl
I'm really shy at school, and I have been since the 3rd grade. I really want to be more social and outgoing!!! I've tried joining clubs and stuff, but that really didn't help.... Any suggestions?!!! I really need advice for this!
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I know how u feel, i've been shy since i was like.... 5!!! email me sometime at crazyflirty@yahoo.com . even though im still shy, i try to sound loud with my friends, laugh loud, and even look and flirt with boyz. it may sound like im not shy, but im SUPER SHY!!!!!
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OH MY GOSH! I'm Like that too! YOU HAVE TO EMAIL ME!!...or i/m me...seriously....I'll tell you some of my experiences.
PLease...email me.
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this is a good step....telling us u need advice...thatz pretty outgoing....well just think about it....life is just life...whatever your going to do....ur still going to die...ur not even going to b with these kids wen u grow up....so u noe just let everything out....
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Shy girls unite! I know exactly how you feel: I have lots of friends whom I love to hang out with, but I still can't just walk into a room full of strangers without wanting to run and hide.
I think you shouldn't bother trying to be Miss Socialite: you should try being social with one or two people at a time, to start. If there are interesting people you'd like to get to know, just bite the bullet and ask them to do something fun (I know, it's so hard, but you do have to take some sort of initiative).
Once you've accumulated a few people you feel comfortable with, you can start expanding your network. Try organizing some group activities, and tell your friends to bring other people along. Maybe you could even co-host a party with one or more of your friends.
I'm totally in favor of meeting new people through clubs -- I think it's much easier than any other way -- but you can't expect that they'll automatically produce friends. You still have to make an effort to reach out. Make sure it's the kind of club where you all actually *do* something together, though -- like the yearbook, or a play, or charity work. And make sure it's something you honestly enjoy, otherwise it sort of misses the point.
Also, I'm curious: why since 3rd grade? Did something change for you then, like a new school or something? If you can remember what it was like when you weren't so shy, that may give you some clues about how to change things now.
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When people are talking. just join in. If you can't do that, do what I do, talk to one person about something, and in about five minutes everyone knows what you're talking about and puts in their ideas. Have you tried a debate club?
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I am totally social, but I do know how it is when your like in anew school or something.
Joining clubs are good, don't be afraid to get out there and make new friends.
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