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Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people
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Ok, so I always talk on AIM, but girls always ask me to call them. Problem is, I'm bad at talking on the phone, without having an "awkward silence." Especially with the girl I'm crushing on. What are some good phone topics or good conversation starters on the phone so that it doesn't feel awkward, and so I can call them more frequently? O I'm 15/m btw.
Believe me, random conversation starters are the best. Just talk about whatever comes to mind and it'll start a conversation. Like... Right now I'm noticing that Advicenators has a green//teal layout. You don't really see too many green layouts do you? You see, that's a conversation right there. Although, that dosen't work for everone so. If that dosen't work for you then you can try out different ways to start a conversation. Like having thought about something before hand. Anyway's, I hope it all works out for you
-BlackBatman-
mmk so my bestfriend since 6th grade and i started going out in 9th. we had this whole crazy connection, i cant be without you kind of relationship.(this was in 9th grade) well he wasnt actually allowed to date soo i only saw him at school and i think schools really important and when we started going out my grades dropped super low. because school was all "boyfriend time". and so i freaked out and pushed him away. and now its 10th grade and he hasnt really talked to me since. and i still love him. he doesnt really know what happened.. how do i get him back or to atleast get him to talk to me..he means the world to me..
Yeah, I've been there. This acutally happend to me last year. Really the best thing to do is to just tell him what was going on and how you feel. And if he can't understand that then hes probably not a very good friend.
-BlackBatman-
okay. i am 5'8". do you think that is too tall for some guys. the guys that are about my height. i mean. i would prefer a taller guy. but it doesnt really matter. are taller girls a turn off for guys?
To tell you the truth: it depends. Some guys find that a taller woman is extreamly attractive. Others find it to be a bit akward. Every guys is diffrent, so, I can't really give you a straight answer on this one.
-Black Batman-
pleeease help! I have a guy friend that is always up on me i use to like him but i like someone else now, so he always flirts with me and has his arm around me and holding me and i dont want to tell him NO GET OFF ME! caus i still wanna be his friend, just not like a couple, what can i do to kinda give him the idea i dont want a boyfriend and what can i say to make him stop putting his hands around me other then no or get off me or your making me uncomfotalble, they all sound so stupid
True, they do sound stupid, but often they do work. Believe me. Tell the right guy, "No means no" It'll hit hard to his heart. Although if none of that crap they tell you in school about how to handle a problem like this works then go with the "NO GET OFF OF ME!"
-BlackBatman-
Why do guys think that they are stronger then women?
Why do guys say this when you like them and confront them about it "i like you and all, but i dont want our brother/sister type relationship to be ruined"?
Why do guys think that they have the power over a women?
I'm a girly man at best, but I'll attempt to answer you question. Yes, most guys do think that they are stronger then women because manly men are the ones who are doing the dominate things. And as for your second question, maybe all the guys that you've asked that question to just like to be with you as a friend and nothing more. Hard to believe yes, I know, but not all guys will fall over you. As for your third question. It goes back to my answer of the first question. But not all guys think that way. Just because you're maybe you've had some bad experiences dosen't mean that every guy is a controling ass.
-BlackBatman-
uggh i dont even know where to begin. thanks for reading this and trying to help but seriously what youre about to read is alot!
ok so i was going out with this guy last year and i got back together with him this year a few months ago.. well i broke up with him because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend but i still wanted to be friends.
my ex best friend (lets call her bob).. ok i got into a fight with her and i really didnt do anything and she ended up turning everyone against me, we made up a long time after but i found out she was pretty much mad at me for no reason she pretty much picked a fight, well.. theres another girl who was my best friend last year (lets call her billy) and i found out that they made a plan to get me jealous of them being best friends and after they found out i broke up with my bf they were happy (they liked him) and pretty much everyone in my school likes him that knows him.. and we had a party the day i broke up with him and he was sad when i wasnt there but as soon as i got there he was acting all happy and hanging out with my two "ex best friends" and he knows i hate them. so at the party bob asked me if she can go out with him because she found out he wanted to go out with her (this was the same day i broke up with him). what pisses me off is that he is only doing this to get revenge with me and shes doing the same probaly just like she had the plan with billy..
theres more to this that i didnt mention but really i dont know what i should do!
Well they're all backstabing. I think the best thing that you should do for now is to stay away from all of them, because they will all just try to cause trubble.
-BlackBatman-
Hey, how did you get your main picture like that? Did you use paint? Just wondering, it's cute. :] ♥heyybaby
Yeah, I used paint
Gatta love those inverted colors
Okay, so recently I started a relationship with this guy that I like a lot. Everything is going great and he calls me all the time, but there is one problem. My best friend seems jealous. He's like a brother to her so she isn't jealous of me, she's jealous of him. Everytime he calls, I can't give him my undivided attention because she acts hurt if I don't talk to her at the same time. However, then they are both talking at the same time and I can't understand either of them. I tried speakerphone, but he hates it because of the background noise. And he is getting frustrated because I always have to ask him to repeat himself. I live with my best friend and I spend time with her all the time so I don't know why she is competing with him. I just can't take it anymore. It is too much work. What should I do?
I think that you should explain to your boyfriend and your best friend about how you feel. Talking about it helps a lot in most cases. I personally think that shes competing with him because he might be taking over. Sometimes the best friend gets jealous because they think that the boy or girl friend is taking their place, or something along those lines. So, I think the best thing to do is just to discuss it with both of them. Hope I helped.
If you need anymore advice then get back to me.
-BlackBatman-
this will be kind of long but i really need help and will rate high. i basically have no life. i have friends but they all live so far and it's hard to make plans. someone always cancels, or i lose my ride, or something happens. i live in the middle of nowhere and attend a school outside my district. i spend my days and nights alone and i actually got a job so i could feel like i was out for at least a few hours every week. to be honest, i was hoping to make friends at the job but they gave me a job in the back of the store all by myself and that doesn't help either. i try to talk to people at my school and most of them just really don't care what i have to say. i guess i'm just not interesting. three of my friends i have not seen since they left my school and the two i do see are completely disappointing in the sense that they do nothing but emotionally harm me. i need to know how to meet people, and make more friends... i have no idea how to get out and socialize if i can't do that at work and school. i just need some advice because i feel like giving up on life. all i really want is someone i can hang out with when i'm not working to escape my pathetic excuse of a life... i don't understand why it's so hard. :-/ please help me.
I know EXACTALLY how you feel. I've pretty much been in the same situation for most of my life. Yes, it seems hopeless about 100% of the time, but you just have to keep trying. If you keep trying you'll always have a chance to get a life. In the meanwile you can try and find something that you enjoy and that makes you happy. One of the ways I escape is by doing this. Giving advice to people. Just keep trying.
-BlackBatman-
My boyfriend and I are really close. But he's also "close" to most of his female friends. He hugs them (Which I don't mind) and then he sometimes kisses them on the forehead. And then to make matters worse. He keeps writing these "love poems/letters" to his ex-girlfriend. I confronted him about it, and he said (and I quote), "Yeah, I still love her... But not like that." And then I read the poems. And it's so... well.. sexual and stuff. The kind of things you'd write to a girl/boyfriend. And she doesnt even like him anymore! (I'm pretty much best friends w/ her) I love him soo much.. But at the same time, people are telling me I should break up w/ him... HELP!
welp, its obviously distrubing you, so tell him to tone it down a bit or stop all together....or you could try n' make some kind of deal with him. like for ever letter he writes someone else, he has to write you one too, n' hugs and stuff.
Well this is my problem. I have this friend who I use to have TONS of things in common with,but now that we are older we don't share as many interests anymore. I still love my friend to death, but we're not the same people we use to be. So what should I do. I rate high!
well, sometimes friends dont always stay together..its understandable that you still care, and you can still be friends with that person, but you have understand that things won't be the same. maybe you're in need of a new frined? i know that old friends never really faid, but sometimes you have to move on to be happy
well here's the deal ive had a lot of trouble with this friend...so i will start from the begining so this guy we will call him "fred" well fred was going out with this girl "sara" so fred and sara were going out and fred would sneak over sara's house at night and they would do "stuff" well one night sara didnt wanna do the stuff but fred did and fred forced himself upon on her and raped her anally (they had never gone that far before)he wasnt caught till afterwards, he is now in a self help center...well the reason why he is in the center is not cus of raping sara is because he was caught molesting his sister...he later confused that he has molested his sister for the past 6 years now and his sister didnt know any better cus shes 10 now and it has been done since she was 4 and didnt know she was supposed to stop...so now he is in a self help center has been for a year now...his mom doesnt know i know what he did nor does he and they expect me to resume my freindship with him cus we were best friends..ive talked to my youth pastor about it cus im a Christian and i know i should forgive but its hard too speccially since sara was also a best freind and freds sister is like my little sister...i dunno what to do...should i forgive him should i stay friends with him or what because i know he will be coming back soon....
since your a christian n' all that you can forgive him, but you can't forget...its really up to you, but in my opinion, a person like him dosnt deserve to have friends as good as you