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Hey, my best best best best best best x10000000 is having a birthday soon. She's turning 13. I want to do something special for her, and i want to buy her something special too. Ant ideas???? I need gift and activity ideas! Thanx (link)
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I am the same age...and since my friends are 'coming of age' I got them all wild thongs for their birthday as a joke. If you want to surprise her you could throw her a surprise party and invite all her friends. You could also kidnap her, blindfold her, and then drive her to a spa or something similar and pamper her. Hope I helped!
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Tomorrow night I'm having a friend over. We'll both be home alone, cuz my rents are gonna be at the neighbors. We're both 13/F. What should we do when the ball drops??? SOMETHING EXCITING AND WILD (link)
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If I were you (i'm the same age)...I would probably get a couple pots and pans and make as much noise as I possibaly could. Another fun idea is going on the roof and bringing up a boombox and going crazy with that. Those sound fun to me...hope I helped.
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Ok...my friend Abby has major problems. She's always telling everyone shes fat when shes only 100 pounds!! We are 13 and also she used to cut herself. She passed herself out in the shower and she got a big bruise on her back. Her mom is always in jail for doing drugs and her mom had a mixed baby! Abby lives with her grandparents... and they dont take her seriously when she says that shes Depressed. I tell my mom everything she tells me and my mom is really trying to help her and my mom even looked up people to help her...do you think we are doing the right thing by helping her? or should we let her deal with her parents? please help my friend! i will apprecaite it soo much! (link)
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That is what friends are for. Although she might not want to admit that she needs help your doing the right thing. She'll probably be really mad at you at first but she'll thank you later. You friend if lucky to have someone like you that cares so much.
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Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??
Signed NEED HELP FAST! (link)
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Totally!
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Hello, im 17 years old and i grew up with 3 friends since pre-school. We are soo close. But 2 out of the 3 are racists. I never really cared because they didnt say anything around me. Then i started dating an African-American. And they are saying things about me and my boyfriend. I love them and i have grown up with them but i love my boyfriend ALOT too.. he means alot to me. Now im stuck in the middle between my bestfriends and my boyfriend. What i am i going to do? Thank You.
Sincerely,
stuck so deeply (link)
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Usually I would stay stick with your gal pals...and ditch the guy. But from what you have said I'd say it's your friends that have a problem not him. I'd talk to them and straight up ask them what their problem is with african-americans. If they can't accept someone for the color of their skin...then i don't know what to think about them.
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Ok- I usually am the one giving out advice... but I am stumped on my own problem. Well here is what happened:
I used to have a best friend named Justine. We hit it off great from the start. After the first month we'd known eachother, we spent the night at each other's houses almost every weekend. We had only known eachother for a year when the inevitable happened- but we'd shared so much together. I had told her all of my deep dark secrets, and she had told me some of her own.
Well- this summer, I had been at my cousin Ashley's house- and we had been chatting with boys on AIM. I told Justine about it when I saw her- and for some reason, she FLIPPED. She wouldn't talk to me, and she ignored all my e-mails to her.
This year, I went back to middle school, and Justine had changed completely over the summer. She had all these cheerleader friends, and she was acting like she was better than everyone else. She even sits in front of me in my English class.
This is where the problem comes in. I don't want to be Justine's friend anymore- she is such a brat- but I do want her to act civil towards me (in English she is always sighing, like she hated being around me- and she tells people, when I can hear- that she hates me). What can I do to make her stop acting so immature??? (link)
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Sometimes you can't change the fact that other people are immature but rather step up to the plate and be the one that defys it. I wouldn't stoop down to her level and do things like that but rather just confront her like a mature person would do and just say something like, "Justine, I get the point OK? You don't like me. I don't know what I did to make you not like me but could you just please stop." It will make her think twice and it might get her to stop. If it gets any worse I would tell a teacher or other adult to keep special supervison on her and you can tell them to keep it anonymous. Hope I was some help!
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okay i have this friend and sometimes i cant stand her!!! me and my other 2 bestfriends have told her why we get mad at her all the time she said she would change but of course she didnt...i dont know why i cant tell her that i dont think we should be friends...but i think because if im not friends with her...her bestfriend kelly wont be friends with me (link)
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I know what you mean. Sometimes I think of my friends and I can't stand the thought. Sometimes they annoy me like crazy and I wonder why I am ever friends with them. The key to not getting annoyed with your friends is space, you can't be with them 24/7 so maybe one overnight is enough. I wouldn't try to change your friend, but remember that sometimes you may be annoyed with them but there had to be a reason you became friends with them in the first place right?
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Ok I have an advise column on here. I try my best to answer questions and i think i do pretty well from my ratings. But some people are being very cruel and sending me things that say stuff like: I have a problem, i cant stop thinking about __my name__.... and HOW I CANT GET HER OFF THIS PLANET. and stuff like that.. and they tell me how much they hate me!!!! WHAT DO I DO?!?! I dont want anyone to hate me or anyyyyything like that! I dont have bad feelings about anyone i know... i just dont understand why people would hate me!!! ahh (link)
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I don't think they actually hate you i just think they are being morons. The internet is full of cruel morons so don't be too alarmed when one of them shows up.
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I wasn't really sure where to put this, so I picked friendship, since it has to do with a friend.
Okay, so it's indirectly about my best friend. Her name is Lisa. But it's also about her boyfriend. His name is Tyler.
So, recently, Tyler told me that he's wanted to ask me out since he first came to our school in the middle of this year. (I'm a girl, in case you people didn't already figure that out.) I've always liked him, but I never let on. But now, he knows.
So, today, I stayed after school, because I didn't want to go home and clean my room. (It's a MESS.) Well, Tyler ALWAYS stays after school. For reasons unbeknownst to me. (I hope I spelled that right.)
Well, at first, we were just sitting at the picknick table, talking. About nothing, really. Then we got onto the subject of us liking eachother. Which quickly turned into flirting.
I had a metal... Thing, I have no idea what it was... in my hand. Well, Tyler took it. I tried to get it back, wich turned into us holding hands. Which turned into a kiss... Which turned into a make-out session...
Now, Lisa is my very best friend in the whole wide world, and I'd rather do ANYTHING than hurt her... But I think I just did.
We both knew it was wrong. And it was. Now I'm wondering what I should do. Please help me. :( (link)
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That was wrong but at least you know it was wrong. I think you should tell your friend and just be honest. If Lisa is more important to you than Tyler then maybe you should just stop hanging around him. BUt you also have to think for Lisa, if your boyfriend is shallow enough to make out with your best friend then what kind of boyfriend is he really? This also applies to you. Just be honest, she'll be happier that you told her instead of keeping it from her and lying.
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lately my friend and i have been getting in really stupid fights. i mean she expects me not to be affected at all when she calls me a moron and a bullshitter. she thinks everything revoles around her. like should i be her friend? personaly i am pissed at her. she called me a bullshitter and a moron when we werent even in a fight! and then she sayd no affence! but like why wouldnt i be affended by that?! i have really defensive friends and they look out for me in all, but i told one or two of my friends about this problem and i just realized that i dont want them to get into this. and she also said fuck u to me. i hadalready told her i do not like it when she calls me those things, and yet she still does it. (link)
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Personally I don't think its worth the friendship. If you have already told her to stop and she hasn't then something is obviously not getting through her head. I would lay off the friendship for awhile and see what happens. It doesn't sound like its that uch of a loss because it sound like you have a lot of good friends already.
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My Friend doesnt like me anymore! I dont know why.. she just wont talk to me! (link)
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Be honest with her, go up to her and ask her if there was something you said or did that could have upset her. Also, think about anything you could have done that might have made her mad at you. She also might not be mad at you but there are other things ging on in her life that are fogging up her head.
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hey i alexa and i have a friend name vone he's my bestfriend but i've like since iwas in 4 grade and now i want to tell him how i feel but i dont want to mess up our friendship if we break up please help me. (link)
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I think you hould really think which is more important to you; his friendship or having him for more than a friend. If you chose friendship just keep going on being the Alexa that he loves and if you chose more than a friend than there are risks you are going to have to take. Tell him that if you do break up you still want to be friends. I broke up with 2 boys and we are still friends. Hope I was of some help!
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My friend *Jessica* wants to give her boyfriend head on friday. She's thirteen. And tehy've only been dating for three weeks. I think it's a bad time to do because she's not even sure she wants to. She's also going to give him head in the school playground.
She and her boyfriend haven't talked about it and she doesn't plan on it she's just going to do it because his friends told her he's expecting her to. And she wants to please him.
I just think she might be making a mistake and I want to get her to think about it first. How do I do this with out interfering with her life or getting her mad? (link)
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I don't think there is really a way to do this without getting her mad. She might be at first but think about how grateful she wil be after she realizes how much of a mistake it would have been. Just tell her exactly what your reasons are. I definetly agree that it is too early and especially if they have only beek dating for 3 weeks. You are doing the right thing so don't hesitate!
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Ever since 4th grade(I'm in 6th) I've been best friends with Sam. We constantly had sleep overs and all that girl stuff. But as soon as we got to sixth grade, she suddenly left Kallie and I behind(Kallie is another best friend of mine). Its not that I don't want her to have friends. It is that I want her to notice us again. Her new friend Karen is really rude, she prank calls my house all the time. I just don't know what to do about it. I miss her terribly, change is not my favorite thing in the world and this is a huge change for me.
Confused and Samless,
The evil Poptart (link)
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Dear Evil Poptart,
Sounds like you still really want to keep this realationship going...and I don't blame you. Friendship is easy to start and hard to stop. I think the best thing to do is simply talk to Sam. Show and tell her how much you really want to be her friend. Talk to her and tell her how you feel you are losing connection and you are afraid that your friendship will end if you don't so something about it. Also mention that her friend Karen is less than friendly to you. As for the prank calls tell Karen to stop calling our house and if she doesn't then have your parents call hers. If you feel a little strange doing this yourself confront Sam with Kallie with you to give you more confidence. Hope everything works out and feel free to ask me a question anytime!
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i have this friend... let's call him Duckie. well he recently began to date my other friend, (we'll just call her Juicyfruit). as foolish as it sounds, i would do anything to make someone else happy. and so i helped them set things straight and get going on a healthy relationship. but Duckie is my best guy friend in the whole world and i hug him every day when i see him between classes.
Juicyfruit is a jealous girl. she sent her other friend to set some "ground rules" for me. it was stated that i am not allowed to hug Duckie anymore unless Juicyfruit gives her consent. so i did what i thought was right and i confronted her. she said that she was sorry for losing her temper, and just to forget that she even cared about the hugging thing. in other words, she was pissed.
Juicyfruit is a sort of a player and Duckie might be able to make her stick with him so she can actually feel love. and jealousy would interfere with their own joy. i wrote a letter to Duckie telling him he was not to hug me, speak to me, or even look at me because i only cause trouble.
so i did what probably makes them happy. but after losing my best friend and having Juicyfruit's popular little friends look down on me with scorn, what do i do when i have made two people happy... but I'M not in the same bliss?
someone help me. i don't want to be selfish. all i ever wanted to do was make people happy. but i'm too STUPID to know if this has gone too far. (link)
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I can understand your wanting to make people happy but your first concern should be your own happiness. I'm not saying be selfish and put others down or anything but if you are happy chancs are it will make the people happy around you.
Does Duckie know ou feel this way? Sounds like you two are really good friends. You should be able to tell him exactly how you feel without ruining anything.
Juicyfruit doesn't sound like that great of a person to me but then again I don't really know her.
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how can u tell if someone is flirting and what is the body language if you're just close friendz? what are the fliting hints frm guys? (link)
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Well it really depends on your age. Guys in middle school or so seem to always want to be around you and talk to you or they completely avoid you. If they avoid you there isn't much you acn do about it but if you want a guy to notice you don't just try to look cute every time he walks by. Actually go up and talk to him.
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How do I tell my my really nice friend that she wears WAAAAY too much makeup? She's pretty underneath it all, but I swear she puts on so much makeup nobody knows what her real face actually looks like anymore. I don't want to hurt her feelings, I just want to help her out. (link)
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I'd just straight up tell her that she doesn't need it because she is already beautiful. If she says it is because she wants to look pretty for the guys then tell her how are you ever going to know if they really like you and not just all the make up your wearing.
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I'm really confused at the moment. I have this friend. We have been friends for about 8 months. But since January me and him have become really close. I have had loads of friends that are guys but I am his first friend whose a girl. We are always hanging round in college together. People seem to be getting the wrong idea. Anyway a few days ago we were in some real quiet place and he said he was confused to whether he liked me in that way or not. So he tried to kiss me. I didn’t want to because I thought it might change our friendship. I thought it might ruin it. In the end we kissed. It didn’t change anything. I still don't feel for him in that way and he doesn’t feel for me in that way. But then yesterday we kinda kissed again. I don't know what to do. We don’t like eachother in that way so why do we keep doing this. I feel bad afterwards but we aren't hurting anyone. He hasn’t got a girlfriend and I haven’t got a boyfriend. Is this wrong? (link)
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Your not doing anything wrong. If you both feel comfortable with the realationship you already have then I would keep it that way. Don't feel pressured to change anything because it's your desicion not anyone elses. Good luck!
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Most my friends have seemed to not care about me anymore. They all just care about other friends now, and never have time to even just say "hello" to me, but they have time to spend time with other people for hours on end. I feel so betrayed, these people that i called friends just don't seem to care anymore, I hardly ever talk to them anymore, when when i attempt to, i get responses of "uhuh" or any other word related. What can i do to get them to actually notice me? =( please help! (link)
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Well the real questions is do you want to spend the time and effort into trying to make them notice you or do you want to just drop them and find some new best buds? If you want some attention just outright ask them what is wrong with them. If they just keep ignoring you then you definetly need to just stop hanging with them because they aren't "friends".
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i have friends but the second i turn my back they talk about me make fun of me and they are so two faced and a backstabber because they always go crawling back to my arch arrival enemy antonia what should i do? (link)
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Well sounds to me like they aren't really friends. If they are back-stabbing you and making fun of you I would stop hanging out with them.
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