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Friend Trouble
okay i have this friend and sometimes i cant stand her!!! me and my other 2 bestfriends have told her why we get mad at her all the time she said she would change but of course she didnt...i dont know why i cant tell her that i dont think we should be friends...but i think because if im not friends with her...her bestfriend kelly wont be friends with me
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umm i think that if the gurl u tryin to change u want to changer her cause she's mean but i dont think u should try to change a person becuase i've tried before and it ended badly but if u dont want to be her friend just ignore her i think she will get the poit sooner or later.
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hm ive been in a similar situation and 1st of all u CANT come at her meanly when u sit her down and talk to her be nice and calm and dont tell her things like well u do this and bug me and ur annoying, cause that doesnt make any one feel good! and if ur only beeing friends with her because ur afraid somebody else wont be friends with you well then im afraid kelly isnt a very good friend. just tell this girl how u feel nicley and to please stop doing them because they really "interfere" with ur friendship hope i helped!
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Well.. I knida understand your situation.. I have plenty of friends that get on my nerves ALL the time.. but i always just remember why im there friend and how cool they are when i don't want to rip there heads off ;).. Anyways.. If Kelly if your friend then she should continue to be your friend even if you stop being her best friends friend. Although that can be a weird position for Kelly. Considering her best-friend can get mad at her for continuing her friendship w/you. So you should definitely realize that if kelly decides to space herself from you for maybe a little while (not forever) that its for the best. But I say.. don't give up on your friend just yet... Talk to her ((again)) and this time be mroe straight foward.. tell her that shes really starting to bug you to the point where your friendship is going to be a hard one to keep if this continues.. but dont tell her to change. Shes her own person. If she changes then she might not be the same person at all and all of her good qualties can go down the drain w/her bad ones 2. Just simply tell her exactly what annoys you and your friends. And ask that when shes around you to maybe keep those things to a minimum or not do them at all. She has to respect your feelings about things if its YOUR friendship.. [(It takes 2 to tango... and it takes 2 ppl to make a friendship.. and both have to put in an equal share)]. Hopefully she'll take this the right way and maybe just take what your saying into consideration.. if you let her know your friendships on the line
-hope i helped-
xoxo..
if u need anymore advice u know where to find me ;)
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I think that's great how you tell her why you get mad at her. That's too bad she says she will change and doesn't. Have another talk with her. Tell her that she's been saying she'd change countless times, but she hasn't changed at all. Tell her to keep her word or your friendship will not work out. Hopefully she will actually change this time.
As her bestfriend Kelly, she might be your friend...maybe or maybe not. That's completely up to her. Be in her shoes. Imagine if you hurt Kelly's bestfriend and were no longer friends with her. If Kelly was still your friend, that might hurt her bestfriend's feelings. In the end she'd probably not be your friend because she doesn't not want to hurt her bestfriend's feelings. That's understandable.
If Kelly DOES stay your friend, that's good. That probably means her bestfriend does not mind your friendship with Kelly. Either way, you have to consider everyone's feelings. Whatever happens, at least you still have your other two bestfriends =)
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you see...to be a friend you need to accept them for who they are..right? well if you want to make a friend you want to be yourself around them dont you? you want them to like who YOU are doncha? Well, i do. And since you can't accept her you need to tell her. I know her best friend won't like you but it's HER best friend. Not yours. If you are going to cut her from your life you need to cut her all the way from your life. It's only fair and I know life isn't fair but that's why people are in the world...we're here to make it as fair as possible. do the right thing.
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I know what you mean. Sometimes I think of my friends and I can't stand the thought. Sometimes they annoy me like crazy and I wonder why I am ever friends with them. The key to not getting annoyed with your friends is space, you can't be with them 24/7 so maybe one overnight is enough. I wouldn't try to change your friend, but remember that sometimes you may be annoyed with them but there had to be a reason you became friends with them in the first place right?
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well some of the reasons someone is mean or annoying is because they are feeling left out. if you just try to be nice to her, maybe she will be nice back. if she doesn't act nicer, have a talk with her and tell her exactly how you feel.
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