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Friend wants to go maybe too far
My friend *Jessica* wants to give her boyfriend head on friday. She's thirteen. And tehy've only been dating for three weeks. I think it's a bad time to do because she's not even sure she wants to. She's also going to give him head in the school playground.
She and her boyfriend haven't talked about it and she doesn't plan on it she's just going to do it because his friends told her he's expecting her to. And she wants to please him.
I just think she might be making a mistake and I want to get her to think about it first. How do I do this with out interfering with her life or getting her mad?
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I would interfer in this situation. Not only is she 13 and doesn't have a clue (hopefully) what she is doing, how wrong it is for a 13 yr old to be doing it, but just for the mear fact that she will be setting a certain image for herself. You need to let her know that if she does this she will be showing the present and future bf and friends that she is willing to do anything for a bf. That is something that she shouldn't be doing to herself. Having respect for yourself will bring other respectful ppl around herself.
When you do talk to her, just simply say I don't want to be the one that always put a damper in your life, but this isn't right. Tell her why in the most respecting way. What ever you don't make her fill ashame of her thoughts, make where she thinks fully about the situation. She knows part way that it isn't right, she just needs some reassurance that it isn't. Then end it with (hopefully you mean it) I would want you to interfer when you thought I was about to do something wrong!
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hun this is the time to tell your friend that she cant do that! i mean 13! for gods sake! omg! take it from someone whos boifriend wanted me to do that i said no and he was not so cool bout that but i still delt with it. i mean really i didnt do it because I DIDNT WANT TO and he wanted meh to! please tell your friend it is nasty
your friend, LIA
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Tell her to stop right away. No matter how great she thinks it is, I've also had a friend who was exactly like this when she was 13. She was never quite the same afterwards. If you care for your friend, you would get yourself involved in this situation whether your friend wants you to or not.
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Yeah... interfering is what you want to do and what you must do. It doesn't matter if she gets mad, she needs to know how wrong, disgusting, and horrible the mere thought is! I might also go to this guy's crummy friends, teach them something called 'morals', and resist the urge to pummel them into the ground. If her boyfriend truly wants this at his age you should tell her to break up with him, and that it really is hard to see why she would stay with such a perverted peice- I'll stop here, sometimes I get carried away. If she gets mad at you, good. Do what you can to prevent this from happening and stop it from happening again. Either she'll stay mad at you and eventually screw her life over, or she'll realize she's wrong and you'll be even better friends. Friends don't stand idly by and let their friends begin a path to wreck their lives.
And, as usual, I hope I helped, even in the least bit.
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I don't think there is really a way to do this without getting her mad. She might be at first but think about how grateful she wil be after she realizes how much of a mistake it would have been. Just tell her exactly what your reasons are. I definetly agree that it is too early and especially if they have only beek dating for 3 weeks. You are doing the right thing so don't hesitate!
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Tell her like it is and if she can't understand your feelings then let her ruin her life on her own. Don't get caught up in new teen sex thing going on!
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