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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

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My friend, who I used to be best friends with, used to go out with this guy that I like now. They had gone out for 7 months. I talked to him, and told him that I like him, and he said he likes me as well. I went to my friend and asked her what she would do if me and her ex went out, and she said that she probably wouldn't be able to be friends with me anymore. Her ex is still friends with her, and doesn't want to hurt her feelings. I kind of feel the same way, but I'm leaning more towards not being her friend anymore anyway because we barely ever get along anymore. I really want to go out with this guy, but I don't know what to do, because I don't want my friend getting hurt, and he doesn't want to hurt her as well. Any suggestions?
-- How would I convince him to not care what she thinks, and just go out with me? she broke up with him anyway, so what's the big deal?
Please help me.

hey, well friends come before guys. also you never date your frends ex, expessically if she doesnt want you to. thats just like the rules of girl world. cait♥♥

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hey everone ok well i have this friend and she's mad at me /c i told some people about this guy she told me abuout.. and ya we're not friends nmore.. and she lives across the street from me!!! omg now her friends r making fun of me.. and today one of them wuz making fun of me of how i walk... and ya my mom thinks im friends w/ her still and i can't tell her that we're not friends nemore over some stupid guy!! cuz she'll get really mad at me!! so what should i do? pleese help me!!!

hey, well dont tell us this stuff, tell her! have a talk with her and tell her that this isnt how you want your friendship to end [ if it ever does = ) ]. cait♥♥

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So, me and my mates go out alot,usually chat up a few guys, get a few numbers and sometimes a new boyf. Its all good, but usually when we're at whatever place we're in, the guys we chat up are usually hanging out with their girl mates as well. The girls chat to us, ask us if we fancy any of their mates, and 'would we like on of the guys numbers?' and so on, and usually the girls are really nice. Me and my mates thought it would be cool to stay in touch with them and hang out sometimes, but we never do. The thing is, to stay in touch with any of the girls we meet you have to get their numbers. And we cant exactly say "Hey, can I have your number?" to them ecause it will sound like we're lesbians or something. Is there a way of getting the girls numbers so we could make more friends and hang out with them that wont sound like we're chatting them up? Cos we wouldnt chat them up, we're girls that are into guys, and would just like some more cool girl mates. Any ideas?

hey, well you could maybe ask one of hte guys for the girls number. say like wow "christine" sounds cool i might want to hang out with ehr sometime can i hvae her number? or find an excuse to ask the girls. like say she interested in reading and you havea bookclub. be like if your interested heres my number. then she will give you hers. thats what usually happens. cait♥

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i have this freind n well shes not pretty i no that mean but its true but anyways, this guy on myspace is like u r gorgeous you r hot n all this stuff n its a lie its this kid she met @ my freinds party n she doesnteven no him! she hasnt seen him since then n i dont want her to get hurt hes prob. just you no one of those dumb assses whos retarded. wat should i do? talk to her ab it? i juss dont want her 2 get hurt.

hey, well i know someone who got into a relationship with someoone on myspace. its veyr dangerous. the guy that she was in a relationship with was a rapist. tlak to her about it ASAP. cait♥

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ok..i have like some friends that i just cant seem to stay out of fights with..they are always taking everything personally or misunderstanding wat i say..but instead of coming to me and asking me wat i meant they just get pissed off and treat me like shit..now dont get me wrong i want to be their freind and stuff but i dont know how much more i can take!!! wat should i do?

hey, talk to them about it. make an agreement that if they ever hear something that you said about them or anything like that to confront you about it before getting mad and taking sides or w/e. thats waht i did with my friends. cait♥

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Does anyone know a good way to tell who your real friends are? because i have a feeling that alot of my "friends" are backstabbers. Is there a way i can find this out without being too obvious? thanks so much!

hey, there are many signs if a "friend" of yours isnt a good one. here are some thigns that you can do to test out your friensdhip. tell one ofteh grils that you think is a backstabber. make it be about one of YOUR DEPENDABLE FRIENDS. but the secret is oging to be fake. example say dylan is such an ugly slut. tell "dylan" or the friend ou choose and tell her to tell you if the backsabber told her. cait♥

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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?

please help. how can i tell her to just quit it?

hey, well obv. she expects you the worship the ground she walks on like you said. she isnt a real friend if she wants you to envy her. have a talk wiht her about it and if she really wants to keep the relationship between you to she will fix it, cait♥

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ok... my friends ALWAYS do things during the weekends but NEVER invite meh, and i`m sitting here crying rite now because my friends are out right now and i`m home BOREd! this is the 4th weekend in a row that they`ve done this to meh...... WHAT DO I DO??

hey, you have to ask them why they dont invite you anywhere. ask them normally tho like not in a winey voice so that they feel bad for you. another thing you could do is invite people places. dont just wait to be invited! also invite everyone and dont exclude anyone on purpose cause you knwo how they feel. cait♥

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alright. see heres the thing. last night i had a dream where i was hanging out with my bestfriend (hes a guy. im a girl) and ive known him a loooonng time and when i first met him i liked him alot but i had a boyfriend (still have the same bf) and i ignored my feelings for him and really they went away now that i know him really intamitly as a bestfriend. so last night i had a dream that was with him and we were 5 years older and i was laying on him and stuff and we were making out and then we had sex. and im really worried cuz i liked the dream :( and being that i have a boyfriend and hes my bestfriend and on top of that i am really good friends with his girlfriend. so all of this is freakin me out. do you think it was just some random dream or something more?

hey, i think taht you still mgiht like this guy. havign dreams about guys are very normal. especially if your crushing on them. chances are the dream isnt realistic. i eamn it could happen but the chacnea re slim. tlak to him about your feelings tho. cait♥

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i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore idk please help!!!

hey, you have to talk to her! if you dont then youll never be friends again. be the bigger person adn take the plunge and talk to her first. you dont have to do it directly. it would be best to do it directly but if you really dont want to do it by AIM, the phone, a note, email, or text messgae. cait♥

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So I pretty much have two major groups of friends but some of the people in those groups (including my best friend, her boyfriend, and my should be boyfriend) I only see them at lunch/recess/when we hang out. Well, now they are saying only 8 people at a table and we aren't allowed to go see our other friends at other tables. I just, just gained my best friends trust back (by pouring my heart out to her but I was desperate) and I can't afford to loose her again. I'm also afraid of it blowing my chance with my "should be", both of them sit at another table. It's gonna be even worse once my friend comes back from the hospital because then my "should be" goes back to his other table and AHH! Sorry that was really long but does anyone have any suggestions so I can still hang out with them, too?

P.S. I'm really busy after school and don't have enough time on the weekends as it is to see everyone.

hey, well if you dont have set seats then alternate tables every other day. that way you can see everyone!! if you dont have enough time to hang with each person separatly hang out with oen group of people one day and the other oen the other day. cait♥

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Well, a few weeks ago, my best friend's boyfriend (also a really, really close friend of mine) was admitted into the hospital after somehow getting his head stuck in the stair banister and almost sufficating to death. He was in a coma and we didn't know if he'd ever wake up. He did (thank god!) but he is still at the hospital because he doesn't remember how he did it so they have to make sure he didn't do it to himself. Almost all of our other close friends have already seen him (my bff, my "should be boyfriend", and their other best friend), except for me. I miss this boy sooo much, but while its heard for me, it's even harder for my best friend and his best friend (my "should be"). How do I stay strong for them when they need me the most while I'm crying inside?

hey, to be strong for a friend you have to stay strong with yourself. if they need a shoulder to cry on be there for them. just always let them know that its going to be okay. dont do anything stupid like ditch them for plans or something to make them even more upset. be extra nice to them but dont make it obvious. jst know that there sensitive so any little thing that you do can upset them. cait♥

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okay i have a friend who cuts herself and i know its my fault cuz she never would have done it if i never moved. And I haven't talked to her in a while becuase its too painful, i feeel so bad and i feel like i should make it right since i caused her to do it. Do you think i should call her (i haven't talked to her in lik 3 months cuz i was scared.) We were best friends since we were 5 years old we were inceprable but when i moved she didn't know what to do so she turned goth(which i have no problem with) but then she started cutting. How can i help her? and do you think i should call her

hey, first of all its not your fault that shes cutting herself. you may have moved and caused her to but dont balme it all on you. honestly you werent going to live near her forever. yes, i think you should call her. she prob. misses you to death! give her the idea of making new friends and tell her that you will contact her daily(if the first call goes well). tell her that its going to be okay an d that youll even come visit soemtimes. comfort her and be there for her. cait♥

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15/f. my best guy friend recently admitted to me that he has a major crush on me. however, i see him as a brother (and he has remarked that he still sees me as somebody that he can talk to). he and i have talked about how we're always going to stay friends, even if we have feelings for one another because we have a really good friendship. he also asked me if i'd like to go with him to a banquet next year as friends, and i said yes. my only concern is that now things are going to be awkward between us. how can i let him know that it's perfectly fine with me if he likes me, and how would you feel if you were in his position?

hey, dotn be bothered by worrying about it. its fine as long as you dont have feeligns for him. if you do tell him. you may get a great relationship out of it, if not stay friends. jsut tell him that its okay to like you, but you dont feel that way about him. cait♥

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im 13/f and ive been getting really close with this guy in my grade, like friend ship close. and hes been opening up to me and told me he cuts and i cut to. so weve been talking and im really afraid and i want to stop him from cutting but i dont know what to do.. any suggestions??

oo and theres another problem with this guy.. people have been telling me that we should go out because we talk on the phone for hours and we know each other inside and out, but hes hung up on this one girl like really really hung up on her but shes totally wrong for him and we both know that. is there any way i can help him get over her?

hey, i dont think that you should be worrying about making him stop cutting himself if your cutting yourself too! there are other ays of dealing with pain then cutting. if you only feel like your friendship close and not ready to become a couple then tell him and everyone else. if your ready then take the plunge and ask him out or wait for him to ask you. you cant make him not like a girl. he has to do it himself. maybe if you show hima good time hell forget about her. cait♥

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well i have asked a question on how i can be more outgoing cause its affecting my ability to be able to make friends. well i try to be interesting but no one seems to like me. like i see people in the halls at school saying "want to come over my house" or "Want to go bike riding" no one ever asks me that, is it because i'm boring? what can i do to make people want me as their friend? and how can i keep friend? i am really desperate for help. :( i have like one kind of best friend and she never even asks me to do stuff! she doesnt even invite me to her parties! and please dont say "why dont you ask THEM"

hey, i think your just shy. join clubs or join sports programs. do afterschool activities. be very social. talk alot. about your "best friend". she isnt your best friend if she doesnt invite you anywhere and invites others places. cait♥

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14/f. jonathon, my best guy friend, has been acting like a jerk to me the past few weeks. i got mad about it, and we kind of stayed away from each other for a few days. he and i were really close before then and told each other everything. as soon as jonathon and i quit talking for awhile, sarah, my other best friend, started hanging around him and he apparently "replaced" me with her in the sense that he began to tell her everything and stuff (his "depressing" life story and the big part that i played in it). so last night jonathon and i resolved our issues, and he told me that there's no excuse for the way he's been treating me, but the only reason that he's been weird is that he has a major crush on me and kind of doesn't know how to act around me right now because he likes me but doesn't want to scare me off (we had talked about not dating anybody until high school, so even if we like each other we kind of vowed to just stay friends). so now things are kind of how they used to be (after we were "cool" again, he asked me to this big banquet for next year as friends and i said okay). now i'm hoping that things are going to be just the way they were before. but, i'm worried that he's replaced me with sarah as somebody to talk to. do y'all think that i'm overreacting? by the way, i don't like him in that way, he's just my best friend. do you think that maybe he started hanging around sarah more to make me jealous or something?

hey, alk to him about it. let him know that you dont like him in that way. hes probably just looking for soemone to talk to because hes afraid to talk to you. the reason why hes afraid is cause hes now intimidated by you because he likes you. cait♥

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I've been best friends with this girl for like sense we were born sense our moms knew each others.Well lately my friend hasent been hanging out with me that much mostly in school we allways used to spend the whole morning together and at lunch and stuff.Is just that lately shes been hanging out and flirting with lots of guys and thats why she hasent paid much attention to me.Also one of the guys shes been mostly flirting with is my bf. Wich really gets me pissed off cuz he dosent do anything is her that gets all over him.I've tried to talk to her before about this but she just says shes having fun and shes not doing anything wrong is just that i worry too much.

hey, you probabaly are over-worrying jsut a tad bit. but i totally agree with you that her flriting with your boyfriend is wrong. she can talk with him and maybe flirt a tiny bit but over-flirting is jsut unacceptable. shes paying attention to much to byos right now to pay attention to you. thats what it seems like to me. shes boycrazy and everyone gets like that between ages 13-16. just hang otu wit other friends more then her. give her time. she will come around soon. cait♥

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hi! well one of my best friends is going out with my brothers good friend. they have only been goin out for 2 days..and their relationship just bugs me for some reason--dont worry im not jealous one bit lol. its just that we share a locker and he is always there now...it seems like they are always together now..and talking to each other inbetween classes. it also kinda seems like she is trying to brag about stuff and throw it in my face. because i just talked to her and she was like yeah so me and ryan (her boyfriend) went over to nicks..and nick is this kid that i had a thing for..well for a night but thats a different story. and then shes like well yeah your brother came over there and it was all just weird. and i dont know i dont see a reason to tell me that? sometimes i just dont get her anymore. they just bug me when they are together and everytime with her when shes talking to ryan..she makes me look stupid..like saying weird remarks about me and stuff..i dont know if she doesnt know she is doing it or what but i look at her like what the hell is going on? i told her that i thought it was weird theyre going out but she doesnt seem to care. i think its weird that she now hangs out with my brothers friends and sometimes my brother. im scared im gonna lose her. and i told her that and she was like ohhh dont worry thatll never happen..blah blah! but seriously their realtionship just bugs me soo much and i dont know why! what do you think i should do? i have already tried talkin to her bout it..but nothin really happened and i dont wanna get into a fight about it! i just dont know anymore..things are all screwed up! seems like she likes to rub it in my face that she has a boyfriend and i dont??? well im im 10th grade--16 and shes in 9th grade--15 and ryan the boy she is goin out with is in 11th grade--i think hes like almost 17?! what should i dooo....like i said please dont suggest talking to her because i already did..and im suppose to hangout with her this weekend..but lately she has been buggin me..and i cant cancel them either!?..

thanks! i'll rate 5 for anyone who answers.

hey, i think that right now shes caught up in the whole idea that shes dating an 11th grader. to her its an excitement. give her time. continued hanging out with ehr and trying to make the realtionship work. because if you ignore her and not talk to her as much its going to make things worse. cait♥

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I'm 16, female, and straight. I have a few really close female mates, and occasionally I get really strong feelings for them. Like the other night, I was on the sofa with one of my closest friends, watching a film and we were just holding hands like we often do, and she was curled up with her head on my lap, and I had these really weird feelings, like I wanted to be closer to her, and have a really special relationship with her... I didn't say anything coz I thought she'd think I was really weird. But then the next day, she said to me "you know when we were on the sofa yesterday, I had this really odd feeling, like I wanted to kiss you or something," and I was like "thats so strange, I felt the same.."
We both have boyfriends who we love, and are straight. So whats with these feelings?

hey, it could be that you are bisexual. your probably thinking eww bisexual gross but being bisexual isnt that different. its totally normal actually. alot of people are like that. but its not normal to be holding hands and having her lay in your lap. theres def. some love attraction thing there. cait ♥

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