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Staying Strong For A Friend
Well, a few weeks ago, my best friend's boyfriend (also a really, really close friend of mine) was admitted into the hospital after somehow getting his head stuck in the stair banister and almost sufficating to death. He was in a coma and we didn't know if he'd ever wake up. He did (thank god!) but he is still at the hospital because he doesn't remember how he did it so they have to make sure he didn't do it to himself. Almost all of our other close friends have already seen him (my bff, my "should be boyfriend", and their other best friend), except for me. I miss this boy sooo much, but while its heard for me, it's even harder for my best friend and his best friend (my "should be"). How do I stay strong for them when they need me the most while I'm crying inside?
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I haven't been to see him (I've talked to him on the phone and stuff) because everytime they go they plan it too late and I'm already busy. I know you may thik that sounds awful that I think I have "better things to do" but its kinda hard to cancel a horse show the day before.
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okk its hard on everyone. you cant really "stay strong" for them. i know that seems like the right thing to do but you miss him to. its not your responsibility to stay strong for them. everyones sad and its just gonna take some time.
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This isn't a matter of just you being strong. Everyone has to be strong and weak with each other when something like this happens. You shouldn't and aren't expected to be the one to hold everyone together while you can't even keep yourself together.
You need everyone the most too. There shouldn't be just one person whose suppose to help everyone. Everyone helps everyone out with these feelings. Don't be afraid to think about yourself and to cry to someone when you feel upset. I know it's your best friend's boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that you can't be upset too.
I think what you should think about doing is going to see him with your best friend. I know that you might be scared that you'll break down, or you don't know if you'll go crazy, but I think at the same time if you actually saw that he was going to be ok, it would bring you comfort and closure. When someone is in the hospital, you should go and see them to show them that you care.
This is a really scary and hard situation. Nobody is allowed to expect you or anyone else to be the strong one. Everyone is weak at times.
-TheTeenGirl
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hey, to be strong for a friend you have to stay strong with yourself. if they need a shoulder to cry on be there for them. just always let them know that its going to be okay. dont do anything stupid like ditch them for plans or something to make them even more upset. be extra nice to them but dont make it obvious. jst know that there sensitive so any little thing that you do can upset them. cait♥
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