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Q: I'mm stuck in the middle of my two friends... they always get in fights and its extremely annoying...i m better friends with one then the other, but i dont wanna take sides... wat do i do to stop this?

thx.
annoyed & in the middle

They shouldnt be saying that its because of you or w/e...if they wanna fight let em fight but you don't need to be in it..if it is something really stupid just drop it...no need for anyone to take sides...xOox

Q: my good friend, ill call her jenny, has this boyfriend, ill call him scott, and they were going out for about 6 months. Jenny told scott she was not loving him as much and Scott broke up with her. Jenny was so upset and wouldnt stop crying. They got back together and a few times he has made her cry again. I tell her to dump him now before she gets hurt agian but she says "i thought if i was happy, you would be happy for me, but i guess thats too much to ask" so i tell her "i want to see you happy and every time he makes you cry, your not happy and you just need to end it with him" she wont though and im afraid of how something bad happened to her. The first time they broke up she wouldnt eat for about 4 days and she got a bad rash all over her body. HELP!!

its not ur fault! i mean if she didnt want to get hurt so would drop him...but if she is being that way that is her fault! and plus..friends like that would have ssaid something and at least drop the guy...its to her if she wants to be happy or not...all i am saying is..let her make her own choisces...because one day shell learn!
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Q: one of my best friends is changing and she asked me for the truth so i told her so now she is all pissed at me when she was the one who asked me that and rite now i cant stand her i need so much help pleaaaaase help me

I think she has no right being mad at you! because she was the one who asked not u...and if she really wanted to know the truth she wouldnt have gotten mad at u...its her fault that she is mad at u...u just need to talk to her...and if she dont talk to u then u have no right to talk to her back...wait till she comes to u!!
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Q: i have a friend lauren and we got in a fight the other day and we made up that night. we discussed our issues and stuff but my main one was that i dont trust her and her i. and we said we would work on that but i cant shake the feeling that she is hiding something from me and that she secretly doesnt want to trust me or just cant should i confront her on this or should i just lay low and wait for time to pass?

Talk to Her! because if u wait so might not even care at that point! just taalk to her! that is what i do. If i need to talk to my BFF i do and if she laughs at it then that is her choise not mine. TALK TO HER!
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Q: my friend who has been ma m8 mate since nursery, but every few years she changes best friends now she goes out wif other m8s who r ma m8s aswell wif out teling me and i really feel left out. CAN ANY1 HELP ME PLZ PLZ

u should have a talk with your best friend or w/e...maybe it is because u two are are in differnt styles like in friends wise...if u really want it to be as BFF talk to your BFF...BFF's should always tell each other things...no matter what it is!
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Q: my friend is having her birthday party tonight, she invited a few of my other friends that arent really friends with her, but this girl didnt invite me and we are really good friends and it kind of makes me jelous of my other friends and a little mad at this girl... what should i do to feel better??

Well i say just like forget it. Cause one of these days she well soon to find out that she had asked u to the party and prolly had a better time. Dont worry i know its tough but ya gotta understand it too. Well i say just kinda ask her/him about it and she what she says. Hope i helped
Ash

Q: My friends popular friends don't like me much, so they told her I said I didn't like her. She believed it and now won't talk to me and I was supposed to go to a dance tonight but now am all depressed in my room. Also she's my one and only best friend. What should I do?

I see yur point! i have friends like that...what i do is not talk to them back and wait to have them come up to u...they are not talking to u so dont talk to them unless they come up to u and say stuff like sorry or whatever...i waited for like 3 days without my best friend talking to me and then she came up to me and said she was sorry. Well hope i helped x3 ash*

Q: I have this friend and i always tell her who i like and she talks to him about me, like not in a bad way but in a good way, but every person i like they end up likeing her! what do i do!?

Maybe you need to just tell him yourself. i can understand why u want your friend to talk to him.. but maybe she can tell him something way different about her. ya know? or just tell him that you really like he and just ask the Q maybe he will get the point! hope i helped ya!
xOx

Q: ok so my best friend amanda is making sooo many wrong choices, she just barely turned 15 and shes been doing weed and drinking and having sex, ive been telling her to stop doin that stuff but she just doesnt listen, she knows its wrong but she is striving for the attention, can you guys please help im soo desperate for help right know i dont know what to do, i rate high!! thanx

i have a friend just like that. all i do is tell her it wrong and i just talk to her when she is bust talking to her boyfriend. I dont care what she says i tell her and she gets mad at me. that is her fault if she is gonna ruin her life like that, but as a friend it is a great thing to talk to your friend and tell her its not right! Hope i Helped ya xOx

Q: O.K. This is sad and I have no idea what to do. My best friend, Haley, wants to kill herself. She's never met her dad and her 200 pound 7 year old brother gets all the attention and her mom's a total slut. She gets books about death and she's writing letters to the devil and God. I don't know what to do about her. She's threatened me that she will kill herself and it scares me that she will. I don't know what to say or think about this. We met last year but got really close. She's two years older than me and I could really use advice on what to tell her. I need help, or my friend does. Please don't be sarcastic about this because I'm scared and you will only make it worse by replying rusely. Anyone who answers nicely, I'll love you forever.
~~~Kayla~~~

OMG! i was about doing the same way... i can relate...you need to let somone know this!! and dont let this happen...I would say this is really not a joke and you need to tell somone! Your friend might be hurt about sumthing and might not tell anyone maybe somone made her really mean and deep inside. As a friend, you should help her out. No matter what she says or tells you to back off or w/e i would not care dont let her do that! that is a very bad thing and i almost did it...well if u want me to tell u more you can visit my site Addie14's advice column or email me at Ashbug203@aol.com! Hope i helped and i am scared too!
Addie*

Q: okay, there is this kid named Tom, Tom is annoying beyond belief but hes my neighbor and our parents are real tight. moving on.. he was flirtin n touchin (he was like touchin her back n lookin at her thong) this girl named Sara. well Sara got extremely annoyed and asked her boyfriend to beat up Tom. whenever i stick up for tom, he jus blows it off nd whenever i tell him to stop being annoying, he denys it. ive tried calmy talking to him but HE DOESNT GET IT. so here is my question: do i stick up for Tom and have him totally ignore it, or do i let him get beaten up and learn his leason.

I say maybe he should learn he own lesson. its nice that you are sticking up fo tom but maybe he rather take care of it himself... try and see what happens...hope i helped ya! Addie*

Q: i think my best friend doesnt like me anymore its just somtimes well ok alot of times recently she seems really pissed at me and it seems like she trys to avoid me but i ono please help me out

We are on the same page! me and my best friend do the same thing! well just kinda try and find new friends to hang with... wait until she comes around...that is what i am doing right now...waiting for my friend to come and talk to me...she has tho but see if your friend will. Hope i helped ya!
~Addie~

Q: I am thirteen and I have lots of friends at school but my best friend is scared to spend the night at my house. In order to try to get her to, I have to either pay her money or give her my most valuable possesion. It's really gay. If she spends the night at my house, she has to have another friend come WITH her and she picks people that I hate to come so she's never been over to my house! How can I get her to spend the night at my house without having to bribe or pay her? HELP!!! ASAP!!!

I think that maybe you should talk to her and say"why?" because if your best friends u need to ask her why. if she has a problem with staying then ask her what is it? You should talk to her or maybe ask some of her other friends. Hope that you find out. And best friends should always tell u everything!!

Q: ok theres this one kid i have known for about 3 months and i think he is really cool and i have liked him for awhile... well my best friend has only known him for a month and went out with him... and like i really liked him the whole time but wanted her happy but she broke up with him bc she didnt like him all that much and now me n him want to get together but iono what she will say... should i talk to her bout it or just tell her i like him n i am prolly gonna hook up with him? some one plz help me
Thanks so much Love alwayz
Lost and Confused

Hello, i think taht you should ask your friend if it would be okay or just talk to her about him... if u really like this guy then try it but if u dont wanna loose your friend then dont... i wouldnt want that to happen.. i had a friend like that and she talk to me and she sisnt go with him.. so make th right choose

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