Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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Are there any ideas in theories concerning relativity and the universe that at the end of eternity, time goes back to the beginning and starts all over again, following the same timeline of events?
I read about something like that a few years ago and was wondering if it had any base at all. (link)
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I know that such theories exist, but I don't know much about them. I pondered about this and discovered that there are several well-known theories related to it:
Matter and energy can be neither created nor destroyed, so all that exists now always has and always will exist. All the mass of the planets has always existed and everything we have created only adds to that mass. The forces that drive gravity, heat, light, etc. always exist in some form. There was no beginning and there will be no end; the universe as we know it is only one universe in a series of universes. Everything expanding and contracting in an infinite series of Big Bangs is like all of space breathing. In and out.
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I am 13/F and not the best christian. I dont go to church but I do pray everynight. Well on Sunday my brother's best friend asked me out and I thought he was joking so I quickly and coldy said No way! Then that night I really liked a guy and foolishly prayed "lord, I know I havent been the best but please you know how much I like him could you please somehow influence him to ask me out? Ill pay the price like......you can make this week torture for me if he just does that one thing" then I went on with the prayer. Now me and the guy WERE really good friends. Then on Monday he got mad at me for no reason and one time when we were shoving eachother in the snow he just yelled "STOP FLIRTING WITH ME!" I was taken back but not too mad. Then everyone starts calling me names and a looser and stuff for no reason. I get really confused cause im actually very popular. Then I find out I failed a Math Test! I have been a straight A student since grade 1 and have NEVER failed a test. Then at lunch since I forgot my lunch the guys start calling me anorexic. I also got tripped in the hall and other stuff. On the busride home the busdriver said she couldnt see me in my seat and gave me a checkmark for it! The next day my best guy friend got mad at me for not telling him who I liked. In the end I gave him a note (a VERY sincere note) saying how I thought that there was no need to ask and he didnt need to know and how it didnt matter who I liked because im ugly and not like girlfriend material like my best girlfriend and how I was happy he was my friend and I considered him my best guy friend. also on that day the rumors kept going on and getting meaner and on the busride home I got another check mark for being a little late even though my teacher kept us in 5 minutes after the last bell. Then today I find out the guyfriend thinks im a freak and I scare him. These guys shove me to the ground and kick tons of snow in my face for a long time (they like held me down) then someone found my agenda and said that on the frontpage it says im in love with this one guy and how I think he really likes me and when I go to prove he's lying its written there in MY handwriting in ink. So now that guy thinks im a freak. My best guyfriend told people what I thought about myself so now everyones bugging me about it. I sat in gum wearing my favourite jeans and I got a third checkmark which means im getting a bus write-up in the morning. What is happening to me? Is he seeing if I can take the week or is he punishing me or what?! (link)
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I don't think that God is punishing you or testing you, I think that maybe God is showing you that there are more important things to be praying about than a date.
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I keep pondering whether God is supporting homosexuality, or opposing it. Many of my Christian friends have told me it's a sin to be homosexual, or bisexual for that matter, and according to the bible marriage is between a man and a woman. However, I always viewed it as God would accept you no matter who you are, or what you believe in. I am wondering which side I should take. I am not against homosexuality/bisexuality at all. I am befriended with many of them, and they don't bother me. It's just I am not sure which side is right, and which side I should go for. I need explainations on which side is better, even if it's based on opinion. Thanks in advance! (link)
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This is a purely subjective decision, you need to decide for yourself.
As a lesbian, I can tell you that anti-gay Christians do more harm than good.
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I posted another question a few days ago about my Dad. But, for I think four or five years, I've been praying that my Dad would stop yelling. My mom has been praying since the day I was born that he would stop. He cusses, screams, you name it at me and my family. I can't take it. I'm crying typing this. I thought God answered all prayers. Why can't he answer this one? (link)
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With abuse, only one person (or deity) can help you - yourself. You need to leave and do all you can to take your mom with you.
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Say your spouse dies and goes to "Heaven". You learn to cope and marry again. Then you and your new spouse somehow die (whomever first, it doesn't matter), but you both go to "Heaven". Now you're there with two martial partners. How is your time divided? Or how does that work? Can you love them both? Can you "be with" them both? Will they know of each other's existence?
There obviously isn't a right or wrong answer, so all opinions welcome and appreciated. (link)
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I don't believe in the Christian idea of Heaven being a place with other individuals, but I think I can answer this question.
Heaven is timeless because it is eternal. Because it is paradise, you would be able to be with all your loved ones and there would be no conflict.
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this sounds really crazy but i dont know what to belive in ! i have been baptized etc but i dont belive in god, jesus , any of it my mum baptised me so i didnt have a say my step sister belives in 14th century witch craft and im interested as my sister told me that there first rule is " do what u please aslong as it does not hurt a soul" and that makes soo much scence to me ! i no this sounds different wicht craft etc.... but i want to learn what the do and how to become 1 i cant ask my sister as she and i dont talk etc ... does it mean that because im baptised i cant take another religion where could i find advice on this 14th century witch craft and advice will help xxxx (link)
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Go to your library and/or bookstores and find books about Paganism, witchcraft, Wicca, and whatever else you're interested in. I used to be Pagan - and I was baptized - and I think it can help you spiritually.
Please spell and punctuate properly, your question is very difficult to read.
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I am still stuck on this issue. As you could see from my past questions, I need serious help with this issue. My husband does not accept me for my baptism. Even though I was like 5 and have not sinned and did not know the difference as I do now, does that make it wrong? I feel like I am going to lose my husband because of this. He will not leave me. This is my personal feeling. I want my husband to accept me fully. We have difference views on certain topics in the Bible. He does not believe certain things I have to say. He is always right. How am I suppose to know which interpretation is the right one? Was I baptised wrong? Should I follow my husband and his belief for the sake of our marriage and our future children and be baptised in his church? We are both Christians, but different kind of churches. But I only believe in one baptism. Should I not be baptised and just suck it up and go to church with him and forget it? I do not want to have to go to different churches and how could I raise my child that way? He will not leave his church and allow us to be "one" as marriage should be. I am willing to do this. What should I do? I am so lost. I don't know if I should talk to a therapist or what. (link)
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It sounds like he doesn't respect your beliefs, which might be a symptom of a bigger problem. If either of you value religious details over your relationship, little can be done to improve it. Talking to a therapist would probably help both of you as a couple and as individuals.
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Alright. Well, my best friend in the whole world is starting to confuse me. She is a real big Christian, as am I, and I understand that. But sometimes when I turn on the radio and like rap or something comes on, shes like "God doesn't want you listening to that." But then she will go to a party and dance to that same music. We are in 6th grade and she is dating an 8th grader, I'm pretty sure God doesn't want her doing that either. How do I explain to her that its ok to listen to the music you like or the shows you like?
Plz help! I will rate 5 to any resonable answer! (link)
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She might just be saying that because she doesn't like the music but she doesn't want to sound bossy. Let her do what she wants to do and do what you want to do. Just because she disagrees or maybe thinks that God looks down on it doesn't mean that you have to stop
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I put this in spirituality even though it doesn't really fit...
When I was a young teen I was very active in my church and school. I was in the choir, I helped to organize the children's liturgy, and I took part in the discussions and events that our Catechist organized all the time.
When I was seventeen I feel in love with another girl. For a few months we kept our relationship secret, but eventually it had to come out and my church pretty much ostracized me and told me in no uncertain terms that my help was no longer needed. My relationship with that girl lasted for two years and we are still very close friends. What happened with my church makes me very sad, but I don't regret my choices. I am a bi-sexual woman and I'm not ashamed of it.
The problem is now I am dating a guy and have been for a while. Old friends from the church are suddenly talking to me and being all nice and welcoming again. It's breaking my heart because I know if this relationship ends and I meet a woman I want to date I'll be kicked out again just as quickly. They keep inviting me out to dinner or to mass, (I have kept going over the years but I'm basically ignored by everyone.) Part of me wants desperately to be accepted and loved by these people again, the other part of me is just furious with the way they treated me and the pressure they are putting on me now to conform. Should I just accept this while it lasts or should I maybe say something to these people? (link)
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Their behavior has been extremely unChristlike. They have judged you, they have kept their love from you, and they have not treated you as they would treat Jesus.
Would you be willing to attend another church, a more accepting one? Attending spiritual/religious events with these people can pollute your spirituality, so it would be best to find a more loving community.
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I am 19 and haven't dated in a year becuase i am tired of going out with people i know will not really mean anything. I recently started hanging out with an old friend, in which we get along great. One night a group of four people were debating and me and her agreed on everything. She is a very sweet girl and we share a strong passion for God. After my last breakup i kinda started to go away from god somewhat, and recently I have been coming back to him, and she really makes me want to countinue strengthening my walk with god. The only probly is, she is 14. (link)
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Sorry, dude, the age gap is too big for now. How about you just stay friends with her?
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i belive in no religion and i think i need a purpose in lif. does anyone know a good place for me to find about every religion since there is so many out there. (link)
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There is no quick, easy way to thoroughly find out about every religion or even just a few. Finding your purpose is a long, contemplative process that never really stops once you start. Does one religion or school of thought appeal to you? Start with one that interests you and read several books on it by several authors.
Good luck!
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I live in Utah and I expect everyone to have big opinions on my religion because it is different. My boyfriend is LDS (morman) and I am Lutheran. We have breifly dicussed if we were to get married, where would it be at. He wants a temple wedding and I want my chruch wedding. There is no way I would convert. But we seem to argue about this a lot. I am scared I might lose him because of this. How can I settle it without losing him? (link)
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You two need to discuss your core beliefs, such as God's nature and if people are inherently good. Once you find what core beliefs you share, build on those. You may find that you have more in common than you think. You two will see what's more important and both of you should probably be able to compromise.
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i've been really doubting Jesus Christ these past few days. i believed in Jesus before and i trust that i'll believe in him once again, i just need some motivation and i need to be reminded again of his grace and glory. please help me turn my life back to God. (link)
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If this has been happening just a few days, don't worry about it. Periods of doubt are completely normal; even priests experience them from time to time.
However, if this continues for several months, you might try studying other religions and theological theories. There is nothing wrong or sinful about studying other religions.
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I'm really confused, and surprised. I talked to my friend today, and we were talking about how I'm interested in Witchcraft, and then she said "Are you telling me you're a witch?"and I got kinda uncomfortable and Was like,"not really"cause I'm interested in it but I'm not one..yet. And then I asked what she thinks a witch is, and she rattled off all the storytale things, and I was really surprised. I'm trying to explain to her what modern "white"witches are, but I'm doing the best I can, but I dont know if thats good enough, I cnt eactly tell her to go look it up online. (link)
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How about you get yourself a book on witchcraft to learn up on it some more, then have her read it?
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