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A Friends Faith
Alright. Well, my best friend in the whole world is starting to confuse me. She is a real big Christian, as am I, and I understand that. But sometimes when I turn on the radio and like rap or something comes on, shes like "God doesn't want you listening to that." But then she will go to a party and dance to that same music. We are in 6th grade and she is dating an 8th grader, I'm pretty sure God doesn't want her doing that either. How do I explain to her that its ok to listen to the music you like or the shows you like?
Plz help! I will rate 5 to any resonable answer!
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She might just be saying that because she doesn't like the music but she doesn't want to sound bossy. Let her do what she wants to do and do what you want to do. Just because she disagrees or maybe thinks that God looks down on it doesn't mean that you have to stop
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She does have a point, though. God doesn't want you to listen to that music. Of course, i used to listen to secular music and i still do [but it's not bad. it's more along the lines of Ryan Cabrera and things like] to an extent. Maybe you should try Christian Rap [Grits, Toby Mac, etc.] it's got the same beat, they just rap about Jesus and things along those lines. && you should tell her next time she goes to a party [if it's a BAD one] that "God doesn't want her there".
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um.. just straight out tell her, she sounds like a hypocrite and she has no right to tell you what not to lisen to.
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That's stupid. Next time you're with her and she's listening and dancing to that same music, say to her, "God doesn't want you doing that!" and see what her response is. I'm sure she'll get the message.
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well if she does that like dance to songs she just said god doesnt want to you to listento that then next time you tell her that I can listen to what ever I want besides I know that you are going to dance to this song anyway. or do the same thing to her she will see how anoying it is or...tell her that she is a total hipocret for saying that.
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Tell her that even if she doesn't want to listen to that sort of music, she has no right whatsoever to try to place restrictions on what you can and cannot do and use religion as a basis for it. Religion is a personal experience, not something you should try to impose on others. Also just tell her that you won't interfere with what she chooses to do as long as she doesn't dictate to you what you're not allowed to do. Friendship is about loving and accepting people as they are, and once someone is trying to unjustifiably (ie if you're not doing something that could directly harm yourself or others) reform the other, there's something wrong.
Good luck, hope you work this out, and sorry if my answer was a bit rambling!
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