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you knw what ill just type this as fast as i can i dont care about spelling errors bcuz i am sooo mad.
i am sick of my life
frst of all because of my sister
one sister is the problem child in the family and my parents dont know that she [lots of times] blackmails me
and ive had it
im usually the nice girl
and im DONE
my sister [olderrrr] she puts on a fake pesonality with other ppl but with me shes suck a bi*ch.. im so mad i dont even know what im typing
i forgot everything i wanted to say
my life sucks
im ONLY 14
BUT WQHY does this happen to me
i need a punching bag
where can i get one
i just cant wait for school because thats the only place i can hopefully find happinessi
im so pissed off my life sucks
this is not how a teenge lifeshud be like
whatsss w

I don't think that you are "done with life". That is what someone suicidal says, and suicide should not be taken lightly. You are having some troubles right now but who isn't? In the long scheme of things, your sister being mean to you is not worth saying things such as "I am done with my life".

I'm going to give you advice about your sister. You guys are probably just going through the rough years of sibling rivalry. Nobody's relationship with their sibling is completely perfect. It's nothing new and nothing worth killing yourself about hun.
My parents have generally better relationships with their siblings now because they're adults and have matured. And you don't even have to be an adult though, it's maturity. Nobody's perfect, yes. But just stay calm and ride out these tough years. No big deal.

Your life does not suck. You want to go back to school that's good. I can't wait for school to start either because I want to see everyone. That's normal, again nothing worth getting upset about.

You said: "This is not how a teenge lifeshud be like". Well, what exactly is a teenage life supposed to be like? Everybody's different and you can't base your life on somebody else's. Are you going by a teenage stereotype? Because I have news for you: It's not like how they show it on TV. And the girls and/or guys that you might see around school who you think lead the "teenage life" don't go exactly by the book either. So, be yourself and don't compare to stereotypes.

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okay so first things first, don't preach to me about how i shouldn't be doing bad things blahh blahh, just answer the question. so about a month ago i got caught with a lighter, and a shot glass, kcool. everything was back to normal with my family in a matter of hours. then, like a week after my mom found my pipe and rolling papers, everything was back to normal and i was allowed to go out again that weekend. but, the day i went out, i got brought home by the police at like 4am. my family's acting normal again like nothing happened, but i'm afraid to ask to go out anymore, do you think they'll let me do stuff anytime soon?

EDIT: Okay, but addiction starts somewhere.
I'm guessing you are still a teenager considering that you live with your parents under their rules. You aren't allowed out, and going places is definitely a privilege. Most teens get this privilege, it's whole part of getting more responsibility as you grow up. You've lost this privilege for now. There's one part of being a teenager gone. You use drugs and drink alcohol, which could possibly cause problems for you down the road. There's another part gone.
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The fact of the matter is you messed up. Big time. They already had forgiven you, then you went out again and messed up again. Second chances don't just keep coming. I can't speak for you parents because I don't honestly know whether or not they will let you out anytime soon. I don't know them. I just know that if it were me in their shoes, I wouldn't let you go out. It's not even that you did something wrong...it's that you did something really bad three times. Three times. You were given three chances and you blew all of them. That's why I don't think you should be off the hook. Because we all know that drugs and alcohol are bad yes, but the fact that as soon as you were off the hook you went out and did something wrong again...that's not good.
I suggest not bringing up the subject of going out anymore. Let them come to you with that. Show maturity in not whining or complaining or sneaking out.
And I know you don't want to hear this but I have to say it: Please don't screw up your life by using and abusing drugs and/or alcohol. It's not worth it. You'll look back ten years down the road and wonder why on earth you ever decided to do them. And by telling us that you don't want to hear us preach to you about how you shouldn't be doing bad things, then you know that they're bad and you know someone is going to say it. Use your common sense.
Good luck.

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16/f. I just found out that my mom cheated (or wanted to cheat) on her boyfriend of many years. He is in rehab for drinking and driving and has been in there since about late fall of last year. My mom is 36 yrs old and likes to party on weekends with my best friend's mom and some other people. That doesnt bother me, I like seeing my mom have a good time but my best friend told me last night that she overheard her mom talking about how my mom wanted to hook up or did hook up with my bfs mom's boyfriends friends. (Sorry for the confusion lol) And I've been thinking about it since she told me and it really bothers me. I never saw my mom as a cheater. My mom lives with in my grandparents basement but has an appartment that is for her boyfriend when he comes home and she tells my grandma and I that she stayed there after partying but now I'm starting to think she brought these guys over or stayed with them. I just don't know what to do. I can't even say she did cheat but I am about 90% sure.

Wow what a rough situation.
Well, first off, unless you personally saw or heard your mom talking about this, don't believe it completely. I'm not calling your best friend a liar, but sometimes with things like this it's best to get the information firsthand.
If you're uncomfortable (which clearly you are, I'd be too), then maybe you should calmly talk with your mother. Don't go right out and ask her "Are you cheating on your boyfriend?!". I mean just sit down and talk with her about life, love, etc. Work up to bringing up the subject of her boyfriend. If she seems to be comfortable with talking about him, then maybe you could bring up your confusion. If she doesn't seem comfortable, drop the subject and try again later. We're looking for understanding, not confrontation.
I hope everything works out okay.

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f/15 and sorry, this will be long :/ i live with my great aunt, i refer to her as my grandma, my mom is an ex drug addict who was never there, she's got another kid now, and she stopped drugs. she tries to be all parental whenever she visits though. i'm talking, overly parental. every little thing she wants me to get permission from her for, and she doesn't even have legal custody of me. my grandma, she is way passive. she accepts me for me, but if my mom gives her an evil glare and raises her voice she gives in to her. seriously, i dont know what to do, i try talking to her, and she screams at me, and tells me i'm being a smartass, and she tells me i look like shit, that i need to be normal, and i'm talking to a "normal" guy, he's really southern, but he likes me too. and she keeps telling me how freakish i am, and how i need to be normal, and how he won't like me, and what i need to change to keep him around. i keep trying to talk to her, and she just yells at me. everytime she visits i end up crying. i usually wait till she leaves, but she's honestly gotten so rude i cry in front of her, then she yells at me more. she tells me to grow up and stuff, but i'm overly emotional. like i said, i've tried talking to her, but it never works. i just need to know what to do. i've also tried talking to my grandma, and stuff, but nothing ever works. my mom always ends up yelling at me and making me feel worthless.

I'm very sorry that your mother treats you this way. I think that maybe she tries to make you perfect possibly because she wasn't able to be there for you earlier. It's gotta be frustrating for you though. I'm sorry that she's always trying to cut you down.
But you should remember that when she's tearing you down, it's mainly out of her own insecurities. And, though she's your mother, don't let the insults get to you. She probably doesn't even mean most of them. I wouldn't try talking to her about it, as you've done that already and it hasn't worked out to well.
I think the best thing to do at this point would be to just 'hear' what she's saying when she's insulting you, but don't actually listen. By this I mean, try not to let it sink in...just have it go in one ear and out the other. Don't respond, that could just fuel the fire. Obviously, when she's asking you as a parent to do something, you should listen to her. I just mean when she's cutting into you, pay no mind to what she says.
You are you, and you can't change that...even for her. So don't try anymore. You're not worthless, always remember that. =]
I hope this works out for you.

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I got my period for the first time back in November.
(i'm 14/f, by the way, 15 in a little over 4 weeks) Anyways, my mom doesn't know yet. I don't know how to tell her, because i'm too embarrassed! She said she's thinking about taking me to the doctor if i don't get it (or tell her about it) soon.

Any tips on how to tell her? Thanks soo much!!!!!!!

What I would do is just sit down with your mom to talk. Make sure you guys are alone, then it's less embarrassing. Start off by saying 'Well, Mom, there's something I should tell you...' and then don't delay, just spit it out. If she asks you why you didn't tell her about it earlier, just explain your feelings of embarrassment. Everyone goes through this, so relax and be open to your mom.
As for the embarrassment, she might embarrass you a little with the 'Oh my baby's growing up so much!' but that comes with the territory honey. It's best to be honest with her about it because this is a big part of your life.
Good luck!

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Look I Come From A Strict Family...
Both Of My Parents Are Teachers...
And Im 13 And Im Already A Total Party Animal...
But My Parents Wont Let Me Do Anything!!!
My Dad Will Not Let Me Talk To Boys...
Let Alone Have A Boyfreind!!!!!
And I Just Want To Be On My Own A Bit...
And EveryTime My Parents Say No....
We End Up In A Fight...!
What Should I Do...!

The next time that you ask your parents about talking to boys or having a boyfriend, try asking in a very mature way. Like, don't yell or shout or use that famous line 'But all my friends do!' As hard as it may be, if your parents still say no then surprise them by backing down. Then you're not fighting and you've exhibited some maturity which will make them more likely to let you do things in the near future.
Trust me on this: I've been there and it definitely helps to back down sometimes.
Good luck!

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