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My name's Kendal and i'm 17. I've been through quite alot of stuff, from heart breaks, to messed up parents with drug addictions & not being together, to fights with just about anyone about anything. I'm the youngest of 7 children, 4 brothers & now two sisters. In school I use to be the kind of girl who thought they were better then everyone else, and was the popular bitch who played varsity basketball & softball as a freshman. Alot has changed. After my older sister died things sort of started coming into perspective. And i just wanna help ppl out now. If you need anything about anything. I'm here to talk, help, listen, whatever. I dont judge, and i usually can understand where the ppl are coming from. My lifes had alot of ups and downs and i really just wanna help out. I wish i would of known about this site a few years ago! Currently i have a boyfriend, Chad. And i usually hang out w/ him and my friends after school and on the weekends. I'm super social, and i think easy to talk to. So ask me anything! Btw the user name's from the song, from the tv show; 8th and ocean. If anyone was wondering. ha. MUCH LOVE!
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On July 25th my mom and my step dad will be leaving for iraq for a year and a half. My dad and my step mom are now going thru a divorce. My dad is moving us from waterford to clarkston. My dad had 2 kids with my mom, me and my brother. he also has to kids with my step mom, my younger sister and brother. Now he has to pay child support along with bills, house payments and gas money. This forces him to go back to his old job where he has gotten 3 surgerys in the past 2 years because of it. i have the option of west bloomfield or clarkston schools bcuz i can go under either adress depending on what i choose. Im just not sure were i should go. I know it would be so much easier if i went to clarkston and im VERY sick of my friends trying to guilt me into going to wst bloomfield. plus ill only be going to clarkston for two years, ill be ack with my friends in 11th and 12th grade. SO i gues im saying, what do you think i should do, what would be easier? I really would appreciate if you guys could help me.
If your gonna end up getting back w/ your friends in 11th & 12th grade if i was you i would wanna be w/ them all throughout highschool. i cant make the decision for you or anything but i just think that you'd wanna spend all four years of highschool w/ all of your friends.. if their pressuring you to go to West Bloomfield its probably b/c that want to be w/ you & that means they are good friends & if i was you i would wanna keep them. however if you go to Clarkston you'd meet alot of new people. And you would probably keep in touch w/ your old friends, plus it'd probably be more like starting over. Depends on what you wanna do. hopefully that helped a little :] good luck w/ your decision
i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them
1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!
now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point
it'advice about my mom please
thank you
That is horrible that your mom is doing that to you. Especially just b/c she thinks their ugly. Obviously she only wants the best for her daughter, which is cute. But could get very annoying, & i guess to you already is. if i was you i would just try and not listen to her, try and show her the good things in all the guys that you like, or whatever. Show her that the boy cares for you as well. And that it really isnt her choice. But other then that, i dont know what to tell you. Just dont continue to lie to her, just say that you really dont like the other guy. And that you can like whoever you want. Say that he isnt ugly, and stand up for them in front of your mom. hopefully she'll see that you really care about them. Hopefully that helps :] & Good Luck.
AHH Please help me anyone!! My dad just started smoking and I'm sorry but I hate smoking and cigarettes and lighters and the smell I just hate every single part of it, plus I didn't want my dad to start smoking...so when he came home, I snuck into his car, and there is this little compartment where he puts his cigarettes and lighter, so I put this note to him that shows him all the bad points of smoking, and how it can effect you..and then I stole his lighter and it's hidden in my sock drawer!! But I am sooooo SCARED because he gets really mean sometimes (but he never abuses me or anything.) so I'm really scared for what he is going to do!! Was this a good idea?! I think he smokes every night outside from like 8:30 to 9:00 ( he doesnt think I know.) Please someone tell me if this was a good idea, or what I should do ?! PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!
P.S.- is it ok to keep a lighter in a sock drawer? Or will like my dresser blow up?!
Thank you so much!
Firstly your dresser wont blow up, so i think its fine there. And secondly i think what your doing is seriously the right thing, i dont know how addicted your dad is to smoking. But hopefully he will understand that you are just trying to help him. So thats good. if he gets mad just simply say i'm only caring for you, and that you dont want to see him w/ lung cancer or anything like that. Cause you love him. I think he'll appreciate it :] Good Luck.
okay..
Basicly my mom has anger problems..
Her anger is causing many problems, and her relationships with the family are at stake.
She has LOTS of anger and I think the anger management classes would be a waste for her, because she needs to know whats bothering her. If i try to tell her, she'll start yelling and slamming things around saying why do you think i'm crazy..i don't need those fucking therapists telling me whats wrong..blahblahblah.
Are there any ways to MAKE her go to therapy?
so maybe someone could help me out?
i'm pretty tired of living with this.
First of all i am sorry that you have to live w/ that in the first place. Secondly, make sure if you ever approach her on this that its a very calm approach & that you dont think shes crazy, just think shes making life hard but going off in her tranturms. Tell her that the therapists arent just going to tell her whats wrong, just tell her how to fix it. & tell her that its making things hard for you & your family as well. And that you really want her to go, make sure its respectful but shows that you really think she should. If that doesnt work, or you've already tryed that. Try telling other ppl in your family - maybe her parents, her siblings or someone closer to her in age, and also still close to her, i think if she hears it from more then one person she'll realize it more.
Hopefully that helps! Keep me updated, and i'll def give more advice if you need anything more ♥
my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my mom and I have never really been close,but it seems like we are drifting even further apart than we use to be like yesterday we were fighting about how to cut my hair even though I was paying for it my mom told me I had to get it trimmed becouse I couldn't handle styling it,but I was paying for it so I should have been able to get it like how I wanted so I got it trimmed just becouse she wanted me to to keep from starting an argument.Then like when I broke up with my boyfriend jesse she asked me how could I break that poor boys heart like she was taking his side of the situation.The other day it got so bad that I ranaway to my aunt's house and now my mom dosn't truest me anymore what should I do?
please help me!
Me & my mom never had a good relationship, and i always wish we would of. So you should def. try and be close to her now.
If she doesnt trust you, you have to get that back. By doing exactly what you say you will, and being responsible, helping out around the house shows that. She'll know that your trying to help out, and trying to show her that you can be responsible and she'll like that.
Also just to be closer to her, just do things w/ you and her. Try going out to like a breakfast place in the morning and talking and really tell her things going on in her life, most moms like to be close to their kids.
That or just sit down and watch a movie w/ her and you two can chow down on popcorn or such food. Just do things w/ her, one on one. You'll become closer to her. If you have one on one things you do w/ her like 3 or 4 times throughout the month. And tell her important things in your life. You'll quickly become closer, if you talk about things. My friend Tiffany and her mom have the BEST RELATIONSHIP and even in 8th grade Tiffany's mom knew the firs time she had drank, and done things w/ guys. i'm not saying you have to be that close, but its something you'll def. always want. :] hopefully that helps!
My friends' mother is an alcoholic. She is constantly drunk, belligerent, and aggressive, yells and passes out in front of guests. Her children cant stand living in the house anymore, but despite numerous calls to child services and the police, they have been told that there is nothing that can be done unless the mother seriously injures one of them. I fear for my friends, the stability of the family, and their mental well-being. All of the family members are kind and caring people but at home, they are constantly at each-other's throats and on the verge of a possibly much more serious problem. Is there any way to force this mother into a rehabilitation program? I really appreciate any insight you can provide, my friends are at the breaking point and feel there are no options left.
Oh wow. Lemme tell you, my mother was an alcholic for as long as i can remember. And i have a pretty good idea of what your friend is going through. Make sure to keep in communication w/ her always, you never know what could be going on at that house. Constantly have her and her siblings over, and maybe have another adult talk to the mother. The mother obviously needs help from someone more then her kids. As for her kids depending on how they feel, they should make the final decision. Try telling them to talk to her when shes sober, and have them say they think it would be a good idea if she went to a rehab place. We tryed talking my mother into it and it took a while but she finally ended up going to one.. but other things happened from there. Make sure they research the rehab place and understand where shes going to be. They should def. call another family member to stay with and have talk to their mother, possibly someone close to the mother, their grandma, aunt, uncle or anyone like that. BUT make sure you know that their are options left. And that everything will eventually work out, their mother just need help now. They just need their mom to want to go to rehab and then it will be easy to send her there. Keep me updated, and hopefully everything works out. ♥ Much love
Tonight is familynight and I've known about it for about 3 days. I also got invited to go somewhere else with some of my friends. But the thing is that the place that I might go with my friends A LOT of people are going to. So it will give me a chance to mix and mingle with a lot of people and have fun. The place with my friends seem so much more fun that family night. But I don't know if I should just ditch my family for my friends? Can anyone help? What would you do? What is the right thing to do?
Well you obviously don't wanna hurt your parents, and you really wanna hang our w/ your friends. Very understandable, i would def just do both. Hang out w/ your family, and then afterwards go to the party. But if the family thing was later do it opposite. If you cant do that, i would just hang out w/ your family for the night. Friends have these things all the time, next time you could even host it. but a family night for me would seem like a rare thing.. and your family is def more important. Hope it works out!