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Thaaaattt's me! The anonymous advice giver from the other keyboard! mwuaha! Actually, I'm a 13 year old give from Southern Cali here to give you some helpful hints on getting through sticky situations without any trouble at all. Send me all your questions on friendships, crushes, and school blues and I'll be sure to get back to you!
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Dear oh wise one,
I have a boyfriend now and he hasnt been on for a while havnt talk to him for like a week almost anyway what should I do i sorta like him but he is a very good friend of mine should i go on a date with him and do i kiss him when the moments right? anyway HELP!
Alot of people say there are friends and there are "more then friends". Since you guys are friends, moving to the next step shouldn't be a problem. If you are close enough, you should be able to literally walk each other through a relationship and even ask questions if you have to. If you ever doubt feelings for one another, you always have the past to rely on. Just talk to him about how you feel. I'm sure he will understand. Good luck hun!!!
xOx Emmz
There's this guy who I've been in love with 4 like more than past 6 months. He knows I like him but it seems as if every time i try to IM him he'll either sign off or seem not too interested in talking to me. The only class I have with him is study hall but we never talk there. I really want to talk to him more because maybe if he got to know me better than he might start liking me. I also want to get to know him better. There's no time tho where i could really talk to him in person and i dont know what to say. I really want to be with him and have conversations and stuff. What should i do? please help!
Sometimes it's an uncomfortable feeling when someone knows someone else likes them. It makes it uneasy for them to talk to that person. First, you might have to tell a tiny lie. IM him and say you don't like him anymore, you just want to be friends. Then become his good friend so he will feel comfotable getting to know you. Following this, be flirtacious but not too obvious. He'll probobly start liking you by this time, allowing you to not play so hard to get.
xOx Emmz
okay well theres this guy that i rlly rlly rlly like but he's a grade lower than me and hes moving at the end of the year
The best way to find if a guy likes you is lead him on slightly. Drop hints and be flirtacious but not too daring. Keep a limit and you'll be fine. If he starts dropping hints then it looks like you may have a relationship in the making. Good luck, hun! I'm here for anymore advice.
xOx Emmz
Ok, well my good friend has a boyfriend, I've known her since I was 6 and her and her bf go on the bus. And it turns out that now I have feelings for this boy and it doesn't go away, and I'm starting to get jelous when he kisses her and things. Am I a bad friend, what should I do?
You are absolutely not a bad friend. Hun, if we could pick who we had feelings for then I would deffinetly not be in the situation I am now. You obviously have a crush on him and its natural to feel jealous when you see the two of them kissing and showing affection. What you have to do is keep your feelings to yourself for a while. Become his good friend. Talk to him, understand him. Unfortunately, she beat you to him but just take time. Their relationship won't last forever because relationships at a young age don't. All you have to do is be his friend and a little flirting won't hurt anybody. Good luck!
xOx Emmz
How would be the best way to get trust as a Guy? Girls think all we want is ya know!!!! 17 male
Just act like your self. Girls don't want to seem "pressured" and don't get the wrong kind of girl. Trust me, as a girl, I know. Trust takes time, not just a few dates. Get to know her and let her get to know you. Tell her your goals and values and be clear on what kind of relationship you want. She will be charmed by your stability and ambition.
xOx Emmz
Okay, so there's this guy. We're sort of friends, but there's complicated issues between us. A while back, like in May/June, I liked him and he liked me, but we never went out or anything. Because of certain reasons I'm not willing to explain. Anyway, I've gotten over him and I really like this other guy. But whenever I talk to or see the guy I used to like (we'll call him Bob), I usually get butterflies in my stomach and get kind of nervous. Yet that doesn't happen when I'm around the guy I like now. And I really like this guy, I do not like Bob. Seriously, I am being honest with myself. But then how come I always get butterflies in my stomach when I'm around Bob? Does that mean I like him and I just can't seem to admit that to myself..? I seriously don't think I like him though. Arrgh, I don't know. The thing is, I don't even have a reason to like him. So what's the deal here??!!!
Telling yourself you don't like someone is hard. When you make a transition from guy to guy, it's hard because you can still feel the linguring love that hangs around. Right now, since nothing is for sure, hang with both guys. Pretty soon you'll sway either towards Bob or away. Good luck, hun!
xOx Emmz
I have a problem...as you may have read ealier I like this guy named Max and he looks at me sometimes. Most people tell me to say hi or strike up a conversation with him and I just don't have the guts too. If you are going to tell me "Oh don't worry what other people think" then don't even bother to answer this question. I need better advice than that. I really don't know what to do. I have been rejected 4 times in the past 3 years...so I'm not all that attractive then. Help!
I completely understand about the 'not having the guts to talk to him' thing. Some people are not as brave as others. My advice to you is to have a friend talk to him. Alot of the time, friends are the best messangers. They will feel comfortable finding out information for you. It's a great favor because if they don't like him then they can ask whatever you want them to. That's usually how I end up finding out who likes me.
xOx Emmz
I like this guy Max and i think its weird that I have never met him, but I catch him looking at me. I try to not believe it and think its my imagination. Like today i was working on something at school and and he was in the classroom next to mine and so as I was working I looked up and caught him looking at me and we locked eyes for a split second and then he looked down...was this my imagination? I HAVE NEVER MET THE DUDE! How can he look @ me?! I mean, i dont think i'm that attractive...HELP!
As they always say, Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder. You may not find yourself attractive (i bet you are tho lol) but maybe this boy does. This has happened to me before. Go up to him and talk to him and maybe get his screename or phone number. Once the two of you talk and get to know each other it just may be a match made in heaven!
xOx Emmz
this is kinda long beware
hey 15.f.cali here
ok i have a few questions and i am in need of some insight... Well i like this guy and he is so flirty and we are friends and we have been for about 4 years and now we hangout alot and talk alot and we have all the same friends and what not and he knows i like him cuz he asked me in a note (we have 2 classes together and he sits next to me) and i said well you but i dont want anything to change if you dont feel the same way. ok and so after i said that he wrote we need to hangout more. and everyday almost he tells me i looke really cute and tells his friends im so hott and because they ar my friends too then tell me...we have so much fun together and i think we would make such a cute couple cuz we are both open minded people and we are into the same things... my question is what do i do? like a few of my friends are like he is shy when it comes to that so ask him out. but i am too and i could never do that. whats a girl to do???
muha thaks
Lisa
Sounds like you are one lucky girl! From the looks of it, he is completely head-over-heals for you. Alot of shy guys preffer friendship even though they secretly are crushin' as well. Keep it on the down-low and pretty soon he will feel more comfortable opening up to you. Good luck!
xOx Emmz
I've liked this one guy I've known since we were 5 for about 11 months. He's only known since June, and rejected me flat out. I know that there's not chance for anything between us...but idk...I keep holding on. My friend a few days ago suggested that I might be in love with him. And I'd never given the subject a thought, but now that I am, I'm even considering it. Is it possible for me to actually be in love with this guy that is absolutely perfect for me? And if I am, how do I come to admit it or let him know without confessing my feelings straight out to him? Please let me know what I should do...
-Hopelessly In Love-
The way I see it, when you find that perfect someone, they will feel the same way about you that you do about them. Maybe though, this guy doesn't know you well enough. Try to just be his friend and maybe that will work. I deffinetly wouldn't jump to love. Love is a great, scary, exciting, incredible, heart-jumping-out-of-your-chest, head-over-heals feeling. You'll probobly not experience love for a long time and neither would I. But of course, its okay to crush and date. Sorry I couldn't help more!
xOx Emmz
I have a crush on my best friend thats a guy! He doesn't know but I don't know how to tell him and I know he doesn't like me like that...But how should I tell him I like him? I RATE HIGH AND GIVE GOOD COMMENTS!
I've been in this situation before. Alot of people have. It's awkward because there is that nervous feeling inside of you: what if he doesn't like me? If you don't feel comfortable telling him all at once then don't. Maybe drop a few hints or flirt a little. You could even have one of your other friends ask him if he likes you. Be careful with that though because I know from personal experience that guys don't like it when girls bombard them with questions about them liking someone. Just be yourself and try one of the things above. Also, be aware that if he doesn't respond to you the same way you do to him, that's normal. He's a guy and they are kind of slow! lol! Good Luck!!
xOx Emmz
i want to like some1 rlly bad. i just started goin to junior high with all of these new ppl but i don like any o the guys that r in my classes! its rlly sad n sumtimes it rly depresses me cuz i want a bf. so how can i get myself to like som1? this question mite b kinda impossible to answer but plz try to. thnx
Love isn't something you can FORCE yourself into. It's something that happens naturally and when Mr. Right comes along, trust me, you'll know. Right now, don't focus on relationships, especially at such a young age. Set your sights on school and your future and one day, love will find its way to you.
xOx Emmz
Ok, the guy i like is like 5 feet. give or take a few inches. And i'm like 5 8. It's a HUGE height difference, and idc about looks, but i dont want ppl making fun of him b/c he's going out with a giant or make fun of me for going out with a midget. We're both in 7th grade. I think i should just continue liking him. I think i have a good chance with him. What do u think?
This is happening to my friend right now. All you have to remember is, if you really like him, then what people think shouldn't matter. Don't let other people bother you. They are just jealous.
xOx Emmz
ok here it goes..
my best guy friend and i went out for roughly a month, then he broke up with me. Well he's gotten over me and gone out with all these other girls, but i still have feelings for him and he has no idea whatsoever. i want to tell him, but then again i don't because i'm afraid that it might mess things up. and just a couple minutes ago, he read my profile and it has a quote in it that says "if two past lovers can remain friends then they were never in love or they still are" and when he read, that he imed me and goes "thats not true, i loved you until i saw you as a friend" i dont know, something about him saying that made me feel weird. i really really like him, but i feel like i can't do anything about it. This might be a confusing question, and it might be hard to understand what im asking, but if you do please help me..
Sounds like he's not worth it. Don't mind me being so blunt but your one and only will probobly value you as both a friend and a lover so perhaps this ones best to have as a friend. Especially since he got over it so fast. You deserve someone who will comit themselves and not fear friendship and love.
xOx Emmz