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I am so self conscious
I have a problem...as you may have read ealier I like this guy named Max and he looks at me sometimes. Most people tell me to say hi or strike up a conversation with him and I just don't have the guts too. If you are going to tell me "Oh don't worry what other people think" then don't even bother to answer this question. I need better advice than that. I really don't know what to do. I have been rejected 4 times in the past 3 years...so I'm not all that attractive then. Help!
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Okay, first of all, how do you know he rejected you because you were unatracctive? I've had the same problem with a guy, and just because he rejected me I didn't think it was about the way I looked. If the guy says your not good enough for him, then he's not good enough for you. If any guy puts you down and just compleatly shreds your self confidence, then I don't think he's worth to be kept. (besides if he was looking at you what would make you think your ugly) still, keep your eyes, and your options open.
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i totally agree with what becca said...keep it short and sweet in the beginning. even start by just saying hi while passing in the hall. if he responds, you'll know he's interested. if he seems a little distant, well then you've saved yourself from rejection because you never really put yourself out there in the first place. and don't base you're "attractability" just on the fact that you've been rejected 4 times in the past 3 years. guys are assholes sometimes, and most of the time it has nothing to do with looks. so please, realize that there's more to a realtionship than just looks. in fact, if a guy rejects you purely based on looks, he's not worth your time. hope this helped!
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I know people say dont worry about what people think but I nkow its human nature. If you are too nervous to talk tohim dont. I'm going ot be honest, if you go up to him when your really nervous you'd probably make a fool of yourself. People do stupid things when they're nervous. In reality you just gotta wait till your ready and do what your comfortable with!
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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Guys like it when a girl has a good personality.. sometimes personality can over rule looks. So when he's around, start talking to ur friends and make it look like ur having a lot of fun. Then maybe he will notice u more.
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Why don't you try talking to him a little bit at a time. If you see a cd he has, say "hey - that's a great band" keep it short and sweet. that way, if he's interested, the ball is in his court. just do a little detective work and see what he's into. when the time is right bring it up. i know it's scary to talk to someone new - but this way - it's only one sentence. you can do it! good luck and let us know how it goes! :)
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I completely understand about the 'not having the guts to talk to him' thing. Some people are not as brave as others. My advice to you is to have a friend talk to him. Alot of the time, friends are the best messangers. They will feel comfortable finding out information for you. It's a great favor because if they don't like him then they can ask whatever you want them to. That's usually how I end up finding out who likes me.
xOx Emmz
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