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Alright, so me and this guy have been talking for over a month(we've kissed) and he sends me cute texts a lot. I never know what to say haha. One time he said "yes! You are beautifullll!" and I said I love when you make me smile. But I've said that before and oh know how to make me smile and blah blah blah. But what are something's I can say that will kind of seduce him? It like "oh I'm so horny right now" and things that have to do with sex or oral or anything. We aren't doing that ANY time soon and irony want to tak about it. What are things I can say that will make him smile too? Things I can do/say that he will smile or laugh or get happy or even make him feel like he "wants me"? Also.... When he sends a :) or a

You are overthinking it and freaking out. Just be yourself.

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16/male i was unsure about my sexuality for awhile but for awhile now i do think im gay i thought i did like girls but ive become more and more attracted to guys looking at guys really turns me on i get turned on by gay porn and i really want to start to experiment with a guy
i really want to have a boyfriend it is normal to feels this way about the same sex isnt it?

Sure, it is normal to want to experiment and see if you like the same sex. If you think you are gay, then so be it. There is nothing wrong with it; you should not feel ashamed. Go find your man! :P

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(female) hey anyone please answer i keep here as soon as this happened i may be over reacting but omg ok so, i got on this website were you can chat with people because i was bored and I said hey and then a warning popped up and it said Warning: we have to warn you from federal law that this person is a registered sex offender! and then he said heyy and i freaked and exit out! I am really scared I hope i am just over reacting and everything is fine but im just scared they can get my information and were i live in stuff please help do u think he could -ThANks

Nah, dont worry about it. Just try blocking him if you can, just dont reply. Actually, you should be careful with whoever you write to on the internet. Never give out any personal information. Most sex offenders do not come with a warning sign.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now. Two 1/2 months ago I cheated on him when he went away on a trip with his parents. I know I shouldn't have done it but it was with a guy I was interested in for a long time and I got those urges. Long story short, when I cheated on my boyfriend I went all the way with the other guy and we didn't use a condom or anything. My period missed and I took a pregnancy test that showed a big positive. It's been a couple of months since I cheated and I'm 100% sure I am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend I'm pregnant. He got all excited and thinks it's his baby. I guess I can't be for-sure it isn't his though because we've been having sex every since a month in the relationship though, you know?

I never told him I cheated. I don't want to ruin the relationship. I can't be for sure the baby isn't his or anything. Should I tell him? I just don't know what to do because I have feelings for him and I know he'd make a good father. I mean, if I tell him and he gets mad and leaves me but the baby turns out to be his then it's all complicated. It's such a sticky situation. Help?

MAURY MAURY MAURY!!! Just get an abortion and relieve yourself of that drama. Good luck.

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So there is this boy and I am not going to get much but he did like me at one point and I dont know if he does anymore so I am trying to move on but it is hard!!! and it would be easier but I lost my best friend last year because lets just say she went bad. She knew how to make her way around guys and she brought out the flirty side of me, now since I have lost her I am having the hardest time doing this on my own! I really need help! The guys I try to text including the one I don't know if he likes me anymore, when I text them I feel like I mess up and say stuff wrong. Liek the other night night, I text one of my ex boyfriends because I am starting to like him again so I figured I would try, and I tried to bring up something from the past and he replied something that made me feel stupid so now I think he thinks I am stupid and he hasnt acted like we are friends since then...! I really need help on getting my own self back and getting a boyfriend, I really need one and want one to get my life back together! Please help !---ThAnKs(:----!

Sounds to me like you need a confidence booster. It was not your best friend that the guy liked, it was YOU. So screw that friend, you'll find another. And as for the guys, guys love nothing more but confidence. Flirt in the way that makes you comfortably, and do not try to be something you are not. You'll get over this boy eventually, you are just dwelling in the past.

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I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer twice with my ex. Because he made me feel so insecure about our relationship. He never gave me a lot of attention, he never called me. He didn't text me very fast. My ex gave me a lot of attention and made me feel loved. And my boyfriend never gets jealous about other guys except my ex because we went out for 2 years. Also I get really jealous if my boyfriend talks to other girls or hangs out with them. My ex kept coming back to me even when I was going out with him. I keep cheating on my boyfriend with him though. Now I stopped. I feel guilty about it because I think my boyfriend has never cheated on me. I just don't trust him. Because he talks to a lot of girls and never gives me a lot of attention. All he does is buy me gifts and its always jewlery. But i feel guilty that I cheated. My best friend told me he deserved it. My boyfriend still doesnt know i cheated on him. On our anniversary last month my ex texted me. And my boyfriend responded to his text. And my ex's answer was "were more than just friends" and he got so mad. And his mom asked me if I was being unfaithful and I said no and lied. What should i do? Ive never cheated on a guy EVER. I've been cheated on before. Guys have left me for other people. How can I deal with this relationship? I need help from someone :(

Before I advice you on anything, let me just say that your friend is wrong. No one ever deserves to be cheated on...period. In your situation, it seems like you just dont like you boyfriend. You are probably still with him because you either dont want to hurt him or you dont want to be alone. Which is okay. Still, if you cheat on someone, it is because you really dont want to be with that person. So break up with him, and see what else is out there. Maybe reunite with your ex?

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So, over the past months I've been second guessing my love for my Boyfriend. I've been dating him for 4 months now, but I've known him for about 2 years before we started dating. Before we started dating you could tell that there was always something more between us. And this year we finally started dating. and It's been an awesome couple of months. I never knew i could care about someone so much until I met him. But this last month, I've been thinkin about everything. Do i really love him? Is this guy the one? and i've been so depressed the past month. I'm so confused. I cry about how I don't know if I love him, then I'll cry about how I'm hurting him not being around him. then i cry about how i don't want him to leave or go. I've never been or acted like this until I met him. and its only been like this the past month. Oh and his family is AMAZING. i LOVE him family and they love me. I feel like i've been dating his family the past month, not him. and i really wanna get back to dating just Him. but when he tells me he loves me, i just wanna break down and cry. i just miss the way things use to be, just having fun with him and not worrying about Love.
Oh and i have a doctors appointment next week, because I'm crying so much and so badly. my mom thinks i have unbalanced hormones because its been so bad.

What do i do? what do u think?

HELP.

Maybe you're just tired of the guy. Like not annoyed tired, just that you may want something new. But you've known this guy for a while now and he has become more of a habit. You guys are also extremely close, which would make you feel bad about hurting the guy. Perhaps you just need to take a few hours/days and find out what YOU want. Forget about who you would or would not hurt, or what people would think of you. That is not important. I have an important philosophy. Do what will make you smile at the end of the day.

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So, long story short: I went back to my school after graduating because I wanted to pick up a couple extra classes. Theres this new young teacher there and when I first saw him there was a rush through my heart. He is soo good looking (hot!), friendly, and charming. He came from Thailand, so he has this really cute accent too. He's in his early thirties and Im 19. I don't know if I could ever date him but I wish I could get to know him even more. After talking to him a few times I told him I had already graduated. He seemed to spark up a bit after I mentioned that. There was also a school dance and he told me he wasn't much of a dancer anymore, but later we had fun dancing beside eachother for part of the night. I said: so much for 'not a dancer anymore' :p

From what I hear he is loads of fun in the classroom. I heard this from students (he teaches elementary here now) and lots of people in my community. He seems to be kind of going through a rough patch though because deciding to teach here was a quick decision and he had to find a house quick, get to know the community quick, and adjust to the position quick, you know? He is doing a great job though finding ways to survive lol. I can see he is dedicated to his teaching cause he stays at least five hours after school most nights prepping and stuff. He doesn't have many close friends just yet, so at school I bought him a candy cane when our school did a candy cane sale for Christmas. He came to me later when I was at work and asked "was it you that sent me the candy cane?" I said yes, and he said "it was greatly appreciated... really. Greatly appreciated" with a big smile. I could see that he was happy just to be thought of in this new, crazy place. He's only here for this year, same with me and I want to know if getting to know him better or asking for his e-mail would be wierd

Nah, you guys have been flirting already, so I think it will be fine. He seems very modern, doesnt seem to act old. Good luck! Ask him if he texts :P

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This will be long....

So first off ive never even kissed a guy and i'm in sophmore year...some of you will think oh that's not bad but it really take a tole on you when all your friends have and all they talk about is guys and their boyfriends =(, I have the smallest boobs ( they won't be getting any bigger because of my genes) my mom was small too. ANyway those things make me very self concious.But anyway i reallly need your help trying to undetstand this guy.
So me and this guy started talking and well everything seemed to be good but i don't know if this is normal things guys do. They text you one day saying" lets hang out" and the next day they don't text you for days making you sit there and wonder if you did something wrong. I really didn't even care that much I basically was like ok whatever. but then he did it alot.like i will text him ( and the other way around) and i'll say something and he won't text me back for a loonng time. He always asks how my day is I'm just confused should i wait I mean i'm really not going anywhere aha but still is this good bad? I try to wait a while to text him back maybe like waiting for me you know? Can you give me ideas making him want me like he does to me?? thankyou

Dont worry about it! lol Im 19 and ive never kissed a boy either. You'll learn that there are more important things in life. About the boobs, omg, Victoria's Secret has this amazing bra, called the miracle bra. My friend uses it - she has barely anything - and boy does it work miracles!

Well if the kid takes a while to text back, then either he lost interest or he is losing interest. Try ignoring him. Some guys go crazy when the girl stops chasing and they come running back like little sick puppies.

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I am 12 & have fallen in love. He's all I think about. I can be doing math & find a way to incorporate him into it. One of my friends (his best friend) keeps telling me he's gay but I don't know what to believe.

At 12, I really doubt the kid is gay. Kids at that age joke around with that stuff. At 12, you arent sure about anything, so the kid prob. isnt gay. Dont ask him, it will only piss him off if its not true.

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i love makeing out with this one guy but i have no feelings for him. I do however have a thing with another guy and i don't see him making out anytime soon. I have had chances to kiss the first guy but i wont. how do i get rud of this urge to be with him?

Why would you want to get rid of the urge to be with this new guy that you like? Go make out with him instead. :)

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Ok so I like this boy and apperently he knows. My friends decided to message him on Facebook to ask him if he likes me and for his cell number and all of that. Then my friend hacked my account and asked him out for me but i deleted it before he could see it. Then thIs week he commented on my status saying that I was cute. Is there any chance that he likes me after all that?I want to move on but I really do like him...

There may be a chance that he likes you. Guys will not lie and comment you "cute" if they do not mean it. I mean, then he just wouldnt have commented at all. I suggest, though, for you to stop going around the topic, making your friends ask him out for you or to see if he likes you, and to just go for it and flirt with the guy. I mean, I dont know how old you are, but most guys really like it when a girl is up front with how she feels and isnt afraid to express it.

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16/f.

theres this one kid who likes me like alot, he always calls me and texts me but i just dont feel the same way about him. and whenever he says stuff, i just dont respond back to it.

what should i do.
i dont want to hurt his feelings..
but i also dont want to lead him on..

You'll eventually have to hurt his feelings somehow. The best way is to just tell him straight foward that you only see him as a friend. Do this if you dont want to lead him on. Now what I would do since im a coward, is just ignore his calls sometimes. Like sometimes pick up and sometimes let it ring. And if he gets the courage to ask you out, just tell him "Sorry, Im not ready to be in a relationship right now". And just act normal around him.

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male/15
there r 2 gay guys that like me and there r 3 really hot girls that like me. i am very strait, the to gay guys r friends with the girls, how do i let the guys no im not interested without makeing the girls think im insensitive

wow...u must be hot... cause to have 5 people after you.... take it as a compliment. :)

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I'm a 16 year old guy and at this age more and more of my friends are losing their virginity and hookin up with girls. I go to parties and all that fun stuff but I still havent had my first kiss. My goal is to have my first kiss before I turn 17 which is in a month. What should I do? I need tips on how to kiss and how to get into the situation where a kiss might happen. thanks

Im a 17 year girl and I havnt kissed a boy yet. I think its cute when a boy isnt a "player". Dont try to speed it up. I know a couple of boys who regret their first times. Just be yourself and have fun. Dont try too hard. Im sure you'll get what you want. :)

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Okay, There's this girl let's call her NAS. Now I like her and she now knows that I like her. The thing is I've asked her a buncha times if she does like me and she can never give me a straight answer. After 7th period she likes to give me a hug and then she'll hang on my arm or wrap her arm around mine and walk around with me. But she's just so ambiguous and it confuses me. What I want to know is honestly what can I do to get her to give me a straight answer, and do you think she likes me based off of this one tiny tidbit of information?

Well it depends...If she is a flirt, then probably no. But if she isnt a flirt, then yes, there is a big chance that she likes you. My advice to you, is to ask her out. Dont wait. The longer you wait the worse the situation gets. A girl gets tired of flirting with one guy. Especially if it seems like he doesnt like you back. And if she says no, then so what? Its just one girl. Plenty of more fish in the sea. You're young, its not like you are gonna spend the rest of your life with her.

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ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.

my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.

he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.

i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]

i think its a lust/love relationship. Just think: are you willing to give up your life for him? The day you decide that is the day you'll truly know whether you love him or not. But i do agree with you. A boyfriend is a best friend you can be intimite with.

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Hi i'm 14/f
There is this boy that i absolutely love he is just so nice and great in every single way he really likes me too he even said he loves me in person.
I'm a really like 'good' girl and i'm asian so you know how family is like really important and you can't get a boyfriend you can only get married once your 25 or whatever.
I really want to go out with him and i know this realationship will last but i hate going behind my parents back but i really love him what do i do?
Thank you so so much

You should tell your parents...they will understand.

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Hi,I'm 15, male and very shy. I like this girl in my class and I think she likes me back because i caught her staring at me serveral times and i some time stare back at her but I'm still not convinced that she likes me to ask her. what should I do?

I think you should start flirting with her. If you think she likes you, then later on, go for it. Ask her out. If anything, ask her to go out with your friends at first so it wont be so weird. But remember, most girls wait for the guy to make the first move. I know that guys can be just as shy as most girls but thats the way life is. Either way, what is the worst that could happen? That she says no? O well, then you'll move on. But at least you wont be wondering what could have happened if you had made a move.

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Well i get really shy around guys i like and i'm wondering if there are any ways i could try and become less shy because when i talk to a guy i like i find that i have nothing to say so it's awkward. I really want to be less shy...but another reason i dont get very close to guys is because i am 19 and i have never kissed a guy so i feel weird getting close to someone because i am scared to kiss them because i am scared i am going to mess it up. any ideas of what i can do to get over my shyness????

You and I both. Hehe. I think it's that we are afraid of letting guys into our lives? No idea. Just next time you see a guy, forget that he is a guy. Just treat him like you treat your other friends. After all, he is a normal human being. And about never kissing a guy, its perfectly normal. I know lots of girls who have never kissed a boy. Although I'm only 16, I have also never kissed a boy. But you cannot look for a boyfriend. Don't seem desperate because that can be very unattractive. Good luck, let me know how it goes. :D

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