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Hey im Porsche and im 16! finally! I am a christian with strong beliefs and i am proud of it! I live in England and love to advise people and be able to help them. I do it alot with my friends and they have wacky problems sooo ive probably heard about quite alot! My friends think my advise is good and i hope you do to! I can only really give advise on relationships and mental health becuase thats what i studied soo anything else i will suck at haha! If you need help or advise dont be affriad to ask send me an email! God Bless!
xox Porsche

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i like my best guy friend. but.. i try not to like him because i know who he likes for once, he's my bestfriend[cant ruin that],he doesnt see me in that way, and he goes to me with his problems. i like him lots because he's soo sweet and nice. i need help.

hey
you cant deny true feelings, ive tried and its horrible. But youve got to decide. You should try and think what it would be like with him. Would he treat you the same and come to you with his problems. You could try flirting and seeing what his reaction is and decide then whether it is apropriate to like him or if you would rather saty friends. its really up to you but hes your best friend and would you want to ruin it or would you want to keep what youve got because it sounds awesome. Try and look for other guys to have your eye on. I know it might be hard to start with but it will pay off.
i hope ive helped
xox Porsche

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I really fancy this guy (lets call him J) in the year above me and I know he knows who I am and I've hung around with J and his friends, although never directly talked to him and I'm not sure whether he's interested in me or not.
Recently I went to this youth club and didn't know J would be there, but he was. When I sat down I was talking to this other guy (D) and then when I looked round as we had stopped talking me and J somehow managed to lock eyes and then we both quickly looked away. Then later, J came up to me and jokily warned me that D fancied me, I just laughed because he had made a joke like 'watch out, its dark!' but I didn't say anything back.
For the rest of the evening J sort of hung around with me and 2 of my mates, one of them who is like his best mate. He never said anything specifically to me though. When he and his best mate left I said bye to them and they both said bye back.

The next day me and my friend were on the train and so was J, when he saw us he went, 'Wow, its the girls from yesterday!' and I noticed that although he was talking to one of his girl mates, he kept looking back at me, but we never made eye contact.

And at school once he just stared at me for ages but he wasn't making eye contact so I couldn't be sure whether he was looking at me or someone behind me.

Then yesterday I went to the youth club again, he didn't really hang around with us for the first hour but I noticed him watching me when one of the guys got me up to do strange dancing (I felt like a total prat) and when another guy I'd never seen before came up to me, told me he loved me and then stood there hugging me for about five minutes, J smiled and made eye contact with me in a way that said 'He's crazy isn't he?' and I said, 'Riiight' (signalling that hug guy was strange) and smiled back at J. Then later we were sitting down and J sat near and when someone asked if we all (people in the area we were in) hung out together, he looked at me and then said 'yeah' (which is strange cos I don't hang out with him) and later on we made this eye contact and it was like no one else was there and it was just me and him, like we had this secret understaning, I looked down after a while. It was weird, but good.

I saw him today and it seemed that whenever someone talked to me he sort of looked at me in interest. But his eyes are really hard to read, when he's not making eye contact I don't know whther his eyes are just glazed over and he's just looking in my direction.

He seems to be not the type of person to approach someone he doesn't know very well and I'm the same, so I can see that it's going to be hard to get chatting to him.

Sorry if it was long, but do you think he likes me?


Hey
it sounds that he is a really shy guy and well it sounds like he could like you! espesially from all the eye contact! i think if you really like this guy then if hes not likely to come over to you and talk then you should go over and talk to him. If you make the first move then he will feel less uncomfortable and this youth club sounds the perfect place to begin to talk to him. You could wait and see how it goes if you begin to hang out more because if he likes you then it will become really obvious in time. Or you could tell one of your friends who is good friends with J also soo and they could find out for you and then you could ask him about it, if you feel brave enough!!
i hope i helped! XD
xox Porsche

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so basically me and my ex broke up about 4 weeks ago i think ha. Well i have not spoken with him in about 2weeks. We had a fight and i told him i was over him and he said he just wanted to get in my pants. We havent talked since because being friends with him was always a competition. He still is calling my friend for i duno what reason it is getting really old. Now he called me the other night on a withheld number, normally i do not pick up but i forgot about him. He started pressing a bunch of buttons and what have you, then i hang up and he calls back and makes up some stupid prank phone call line. I told him to grow up. Then he didnt call. This is an 18 year old here. I am trying to get over him i even found a new love interest, but it is so hard, he was my first love and i had sex with him. Now it makes it even harder that he keeps calling me and being extremely immature. As of now ive been ignoring it, Should i confront him about his actions? But, im afraid if i do that he will think i want him again. Should i just keep ignoring it? Why do you think he is acting like this? I mean he is back with the girl he dated before me. HELP.

heya! If you try and ignore it then he should get bored and give up but if a week or two and it continues then you could confront and if he says anything about getting back together then just tell him clearly how you feel and that you really do not want to get back with him. He cant get back with you if you dont want to its impossible! Youve done well to move on and he is probably acting so imature because he hasnt moved on himself. he shoud move on soon and if you ignore it he will probably help him move on faster and this may cause the prank calls to stop!
I really hope this helps
xox Porsche xox

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Well i lately have been falling for one of my good friends. Part of me is not sure if i should be because i love the relationship we have as friends. The other half of me wants to, who knows maybe its just my hormones. But i know he is interested bcause he told my one friend mike(im friends with mostly guys)
he was going to hook up with me but this one kid kept getting in the way. I duno i really i am interested, i dont think this will ruin our friendship, but its just different i guess. I am debating if i should just go for it and tell him how i feel if he hasnt already got all the hints ive been passing. Should i just go for it and tell him how i feel?

Hey if you really think its something you want to do and you do have feelings for him then it is the best thing to do! Just tell him how you feel and because you are good friends already then it may be easier for you. Also if it doesnt work then just say to him that you stil really want to be good friends and would hate for you to lose what youve got! Not that you should need to tell him that becasue i have got every faith that you two will be fabulous together.
I really hope this helps and just go for it hun!
xox Porsche

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In books you always read about a girl leaving
everything behind to stand strong and alone by
herself. (Anna does it in the A-List series by
throwing her phone away when Ben calls, I noticed
it in several Sarah Dessen books as well) I
recently left my best friend and my boyfriend
in a horrible situation, I wanted to see if I
could stand on my own two feet. Now, in the
books they never show how the girl moves on and
stands strong on her own. I feel so empty and
alone without my comfort people around me.
How do I go on and let the world see I can be
strong and I can live on my own two feet?
This is really important to me, but its really
hard as well.

Your rele brave! one thing youve gota understnd is that it will be rle hard becasue books are books and make it look easy! but if you want to do this and i think its a good idea then you cant let the world see you cry and you gota stop listening to anyone elses opinion cos yours is the only one that matters! What you think is right wil be right for you! Good Luck and you can do it
xox Porsche

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i really really like this guy, we broke up a few months ago and we've been hanging out occasionally recently because his best friend is dating my best friend. my friends say that when we hang out there is alot of a sexual tension between us. the first time we hung out after our break up was 2 weeks ago and we made out a lottttt. He's kind of a man whore and has realized it recently and says it's a bad thing. He's been acting differently lately and not flirting as much, what does this mean? should i start talking to him more? we're still friends and we still kinda flirt but idk what to do. HELP.

it wont mean anything bad its just hes realised hes a bit of a whore and wants to change cos he knows it nt gd! bt i think you should talk 2 him about how you feel cos you nevr no he probs feels the same way for you! but you will never know if you dont talk!
Good Luck xox Porsche

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were britney and justin married?

no they were just together for a while.

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how do you lose a crush? im a 13 year old girl and i cant stop liking some guy! well, hes cute and nice and all, and sometimes i remind myself of their flaws if they really have any, but it doesnt help. infact, ive never really stopped liking my crushes.. when i was younger, from like first grade to 3rd, crushes were basically meaningless. then from 4th grade on, like my main crush in 4th, 5th, and 6th, if i saw them, i'd still kinda have a crush on them.. and now i like 2 guys, but i dunno who i like better, either............... gosh middle school is hard. and like whenever i hear love songs and stuff i always think of the guys i like! lol

my friend kinda has the same problem. well for her, she thinks of this guy ALL THE TIME. and she cant get him outta her head. i dunno what advice to give her.. i mean, clearly he doesnt like her back, ever since the beginning, and i didnt tell her so it wouldnt be mean, but i kinda nudged at it, by like saying that she should focus on other things and not worry so much over him and such. and she overreacts over every little thing.. like he even asked her out on AIM and she was all jittery and excited.. when hes probably just joking, cause a guy's done that to me too, but it was a joke. but i guess i kinda see why she does that, but what can i do to help her move on? its hard.. shes liked him for like almost 2 years now, and she doesnt have alot of self confidence, and she thinks hes like amazing cause hes funny, nice, popular, and plays football. she doesnt even try to get him to notice her. like she keeps stalking him on myspace! seriously! she saves his pics, and even got his phone # without the guy knowing. but she wont call him, either, or post on his myspace. in my opinion, if she wont even try, then she probably doesnt want it bad enough. so like.. yea.

Heya well for you just lik people and you cant help who u like n if you have liked them for a long time then you will still have feelings for them a while after. You should try and focus on how goreous they are and try and not notice the flaws in the guys you like. Everytime you think of a flaw think of a possitive and then think of how happy ull probs be if you were together!! i find it helps alot!!
As for you friend you should try and persuade her to make him notice her, like leave him a message on myspace. Try and get her to understand that if she doesnt do anything then it will not ever happen. If she refuses then try and attract her attention to other guys who she is closer to. A guy is only amazing if your close to him and he is al of them things and is amazing in your eyes! Try and convince her to either move on or find another guy cos there is plenty of them out there!! I hope this helps. If you need anything else that ive not answerd or helped with just ask!! Good luck! xox Porsche

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there's this guy who lives like right near me. And i knew from the first moment that he liked me. lets call him 'L'. I dont like him that way..i really like another guy who happens to be his friend too but he doesnt live near me. I'll call him 'J'. Anyway a girlfriend of mine confided in me that she likes 'L'. i thought that was fine because i dont even like him and ive known it for ages. anyways last night i think i led him on too much and didnt mean to and we ended up kissing and now we're going out. I feel so bad...i dont even really like him, he's like my best friend and he's great but i dont think im doing the right thing by myself, my best girlfriend, 'L', or 'J' for that matter. omg, what am i doing? please help me i dont want to hurt anyone.

Heya i think the best thing you could consider doing is stop going out with 'L' because you are certain that you dont like him in that way then when he finds out he will be heart broken. If you say something now then its going to be easier on you. Just tell him that you preferd it when you were just friends and you want to stay just friends and that it would be fairer on both of you. Also going out with L may upset your best girlfriend and if you didnt mean it she will probably get over it. I think youve got to do something hun! But i hope everything works out ok 4 u!!
xox Porsche

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okayy. i need help on flirting. i like to talk to this one guy online, and i want this boy soooooo bad. he's really shy though, but if i talked to him, i think it would go pretty good.. but the thing is, i'm shy too. so how do i get the guts to go up to him and talk to him???

You could try telling your self if you want this then you gota work at it! And also what is the worst that can happen! What are the chances that it will fly back in your face! they are very little. Just say to yourself no pain no gain! then find something you both find interesting like something you talk about online and it should feel less nerving for you. But it isnt easy and you will get used to it the more often you try it! But dont not do it or ull regret it! Go for it !!
Hope it helps xox Porsche

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i thought this guy liked me, actually, i was pretty positive he did. & then today, he wasn't as friendly as he usually is with me. which made me like tottaly sad. i was practically positive he liked me, everyone told me it sounded like it. idno, maybe i just got my hopes too high? i dont know..anyways, what do you think was up with that? i mean i didnt talk to himn alot today, but he was kinda mean on the phone, even though he was kidding. anyways, what should i do?

He could have been less friendly because he could have just had a bad day! And he wouldnt mean to but if hes not in the mood then he wouldnt be as friendly and flirtatious as usuall! See what he is like tomorow becuase it could have been that it was just not his day! it twill b ok!!
xox Porsche

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i'm trying to get as many peoples opinions as possible, so please answer honestly: if you went to a school that is pretty open minded and liberal, etc, (this is a question about two girls, so ignore the homophobic aspects, pretend thats not an issue, what i'm talking about is age) do people think it would be weird for a junior and a freshman to go out? you see it all the time with older guys and younger girls, but would any of you think it was strange if it were two girls?

I personally dont think it should be any different if it was two girls to whether it was a guy and a girl!! Soo noo i think it would be cool if they really liked each other!
xox Porsche

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Okay, so Jane and John are in 10th grade and I'm in 9th. I really like John and John I think is still crushing on Jane and Jane is desperate for a boyfriend now that she'd go out with anyone(so she said to me herself). I think john sorta kinda likes me and according to everyone he does because he hugs me, holds me, picks me up, and gave me one of thos goofy i like you smiles.

The thing is that Jane gets the guys I like before me and technically she already got John. They went out a few tiems last year and I don't thihnk that John's still over her. Let me tell you that a lot of the girls including me like John and so if John does still like her and ask her out, it's going to crush me.

What can I do to have John notice me more? Since there aren't any more school events we'd both be interested in going to, there's no chance of meeting him outside of school since we're loaded with homeowrk (We're nerds. We're taking harder courses)

If you want him hun you gota fight for him!! well take him out but if youve got homework then try studying together or make the excuse that you need a tutor and you think hell be perfect for the job! this way you get the homework done and you get to spend time alone with the guy you like! also being with someone else will help him get over Jane a little easier and quicker and then hopefully notice you in that way a bit more!! But it think the best thing to do is to try n study with him! I really hope thats an idea youl agree with! good luck xox Porsche

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Ok so i have this ex boyfriend and sometimes i tend to see him around,he works at a restaurant and the other day he gave me and my friends free food, and to everyone else he can look in the eyes and act normal but when i get close he tends to act like tough and hard and cannot look at me in the eyes, i look at him but he just stares down...and i tell him thank you for the food and he says ur welcome but still does not look at me.Im just wondering if anyone could advice me on what this could mean...it has me really confused.Thanks

Heya! I think it sounds like he may not be fully over you yet! this could casuse him to look down with nervousness when he sees you! but it should go away with time and if you speak to him more often then he should become more comfortable with you again! it could mean many things but i think mainly it is that he still likes you but realises that you two are over! sooo dont worry hunni! Hope this helps xox Porsche

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I think he might have had feelings for me the last time he saw me (which was in the middle of june). He was like flirting with me but I didn't realize it at the time. And every time he sees me he like smiles and he sort of looks into my eyes- but I get all nervous and I lose the courage to go up to him and talk to him. He's older than me (but all my bfs have been) and I know I'll never see him again. I wish I could just call him and tell him how I feel- I feel almost certain that he's interested. But I don't know what I would say to him on the phone without sounding creepy and awkward. (I really don't know him that well and I haven't spoken to him since June)

So any advice on what to do (to get this relationship started) would be greatly appreciated. Like what should I say on the phone?

Heya, before you talk to him i think you should meet up with him before you say anything and try and see if you think there is still the same feeling between you two He could feel differently. If you still feel the same after you have seen him and spoken to him then you should just try and hint it by flriting a lot and see if he shows emotion back! Also another important thing to check is if he has a girlfriend! If you havent spoke to him for a while you made need to check hes still available! When you feel there is something there then tell him (if its easier for you then over the phone) but tell him casually and that you have liked him for a while and dont pressure him and be sure to say that you still want to be friends! I really hope it works for you! Please tell me how it goes!
Hope it helps xox Porsche

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i read in a magazine that one sign of a guy cheating is if their cell rings and they either shut it off quickly or run to another room to talk. my boyfriend usually does this, but theres no other evidence of him cheating. [although he was accused of cheating on me once although it was a lie because this girl just liked him, and hes sworn he'd never cheat on me because he's been cheated on too many times]. am i just being paranoid?

Heya what are the chances of him actually cheating on you! they are very slim! and he obviously cares about you because he goes out with you and there could be a thousand and one different reasons why he could be closing his fone. But by the sounds of things he knows how iy feels to be cheated on so a really doubt he would put you through the same and that feeling of knowing is terrible!! Its not paranoya but you are just curious i think! but really dont worry about it hunni! If you are still worrid then talk to him and he should understnd if you ask him why he does that but really dont worry! It will be fine!
I hope it helps xox Porsche x

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well i was starting to like guy cause we were talking all the time and then he asked me for a picture of my.. yeah and i said no thne he got all crazy on me and started calling me prude and telling me he would never want to be with someone like me. im like okay i dont rly care anymore what you think then yesterday when i woke up i had a text msg on my phone and was like ilove you and always will. i know hes trying to get action. what do i do.

Youve just got to try and ignore him and try and have nothing to do with him! I know you make like him and it may be hard at first but he clearly just wants one thing and is willing to try anything to get it! Don't worry about him just leave him what he said about you is not true so dont worry. He clearly doesnt love you hunni.
I really hope it helps xox Porsche

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I have this guy friend and i have had a crush on him since i can remmber but hes always been like a friend now he has this girlfriend who doesnt like me she doesnt even like me going over his house every time she with him and im around shes always all one him and when i look at them out the windo (i live next door to him) she not she looks normal for once but what im trying to say is everytime they kiss he always looks at me and he as asked me out sometimes and says what his girl dont know dont hurt her what should i do? i do like him but i mean if hes with her i cant go with him

You are right you cant go out with him when he is still going out with her! There is two choices really but it depends on how much you like him. You could either move on as best you can and just stay friends OR you could tell him you have feelings for him and if he says he has them back then say he should finish with his current girlfriend because its unfair on her. If he does have feelings for you and he continues to go out with his current girlfriend then it is unfair. Say to him that he has got to understand that you should not consider him until he has been honest with his current girl friend. So a think hunn that you should just talk to him about it and definately not go out with him whilst he is in his realtionship! but tell him to be honest with both of you! But otherwise b pateient hun! Hope ive helped xox Porsche

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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help

I really think that you shoud finish this realtionship asap! You are clearly not happy with him and if he cheats and hooks up with other people then he really isnot worth it. you can do far better hunni! He doesnt take you seriously anymore and that isnt right in a relationship! You clearly worth more and show him he is not invincible! Hope it helps Good luck xox Porsche

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i am from australia, im 16. my name is alice.
well, i met this boy a couple of months ago. he works with me.

i went to work one day < i wasnt working > just syaing hi, and he was there and i hadnt normally seen him there before because he works in the day and i work weekend and arfternoons.. i introduced my self and we started hanging out in the arfternoons when i would go there after school. and then i fell for him. a couple weeks later he moved out of home and moved in with a couple of his friends. and he decided to go back to school for a year to finish year 12, ( i am only in year 10 ) so he stopped working for a bit and we kind of lost touch because he didnt have much money so he couldnt call me or anything. that was about 2 montsh ago.. then i saw him again recently because its holidays,, we hung out and had lunch and just caught up. he has these gorgeous blue eyes that i cant stop staring at, and blonde hair. he's the sweetest guy i have ever met and i really love him. we started workign again toegther recently and we flirt alot. things like tickling me all the time! and calling me cute names. but i dont know whether he just wants to me friends with me or he likes me mroe than a friend. i really want to find out before we go back to school beacuse chances are, we will loose touch again. someone please help me out i just dont know how to tell him how i feel. i cant stop thinking aboout him. when i'm with him i feel happy and secure, but when im not with him i miss him so bad and cant stop thinking about him. please could someone help me out here?

Alice.

Well it already sounds lik you two have a bond already so it shouldnt be so hard to talk to him. You should try and take him out somewhere and then bring it casually into the conversation that you have some strong feelings for him. If he says no then tell him you still want to keep in touch and stay friends. but from the sound of how you flirt he may have similar feelings. You'l be fine and just tell him casually and try not pressure him as this could put him off!! But good luck hunni and it wil be fine. Hope this helps
xox Porsche

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