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Q: Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

no its not wrong unless u dont feel comfortable with him doing that. if YOU dont feel comfortable with him doin that, then tell him not to. Other than that its not wrong. hope i helped. ~Candy

Q: ok, so i have a ton of guy friends, and i never have any trouble talking to them or anything. but theres this one guy that i have a crush on, and i cant look at him when i talk to him! i dont know why, i can talk to him fine, but i avoid looking at him, which makes me look stupid! what can i do to make myself look at him? i can talk just fine, but the looking is the problem... thanks!!

i have never been shy but i have delt with guys that r shy. it will take a while but when you hang out with this guy more it will become easier to look at him as well as talking to him w/o u felling stupid or nething like that. hope i helpped. ~Candy

Q: my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does.

tell him how u feel straight out. ~Candy

Q: hi, im 13/m i have this gf we started going out like 2 months ago and its been really cool and i really like her alot but now i found out shes been smokin pot and drinken and shes only 13 though it was her first time it was kinda shocking cuz i expectede more from her i still like her but i sont kno if i wanna handle this i dont know what to do should i keep going out with her.

I used to smoke weed and cigarettes daily over two years ago and the guy I was dating at the time didn't like it. But the thing was we went out for 3 and a 1/2 months and he didn't tell me until we had been going out for 2months. And I quit right on the spot because I cared that much abotu him. My advice is to tell her how you feel because she might not know it's bothering you. She might do the same thing I did and quit just for you. I don't know. If she cares about you, she will definatly consider how you feel. If not, she is worth it if she is going to put that s**t before your feelings. Hope I helped!! Please keep me updated??? Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: ok...i have been going out with this guy for about a month now...he has become one of my best friends too...any ways....my friend is all over him ALL the time! she hugs him, holds his hands...and i dont like it...im going out with him not her! im not jealous....i just dont like it! what should i do!?!?!? thank you soooo much!

I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him you don't want her to hang all over him and that he needs to tell her to stop. Then hopefully it will stop. If not then you have to tell her straight out you don't want her hanging on him. Hope I helped! Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Well!My name is Sami and I am in a big old miss hap right now with a lot of things in my life.
I have not takled to my ex bf in over a month ya kno but yesterday I was online and he IMed me. He said some really mean comments to me. Like he kept on calling me a slut and stuff like that. I am not a slut either.I asked him what I did to him and he didnt say anything for a lil while. On halloween I went to six flags with my ex bf adam bc I thought that I still had feelings for him, all that we did was kiss. We didnt really even make out, just lil pecks here and there. My old friend nichole is telling dominic stuff that isnt true. Shes telling him that I did more with adam, when I didnt. So after I asked dominic what I did to him he was like, you went and saw adam on halloween.I told him that we didnt do more then kiss, but he was like," thats not what i heard". He has never even met my friend nichole, they have only talked on the phone. they dont really even kno eachother, and he is gonna believe her over me. Well I found out when I saw adam that I DIDNT have ANY feelings for him anymore. Atfer he and I kissed I went in the bathroom and cried bc I made the mistake of kissing him. It just hurts to much that dominic doesnt believe me bc last year when we dated we were in a mis hap just like this, where he didnt believe me, he believed everyone else. But in the end he figured out that I was not lying to him and that I WAS TELLING HIM THE TRUTH. Dominic has a gf and I can honestly say that I am happy for him. Its good to kno that he is happy. He thinks that I am all sad and miserable when I am not. Yeah I miss him and stuff but I am slowing moving on. Okay another thing is last weekend I went and saw my best friends: phoebe, dylan and tara. We all were at taras house watching a movie ok. Dylan and I are really good friends. Hes my bestest friend in the entire world. When we were watching the movie he and I were cuddling and kissiing. And yesterday online I put stuff to dylan like...Dylan-your my best friend in the entire world. I love you to death.LoL!We had fun last weekend didnt we? Your a good kisser, I hope I get to kiss you again." I am not the type of gurl that is going to kiss any guy. I have to like a guy to kiss him.I really like dylan more then a friend. I can say that I am falling in love with him. Maybe I already am. Dylans just difffernt then other guys. He excepts me for who I am. He has never hurt me in any way at all since Ive known him. Yeah dominic to me is the perfect guy but he has changed so much since we have broken up. I still really dont kno what was so bad that I did to him. I stoped talking to to dominic last night at 9 pm and I signed ofline and called Dylan right away. I cried like the whole time on the phone. I know that dominic is mad, its how he gets about situations like this. Yeah his feelings for me are fading but he still cares. It hurts more that he doesnt believe me about he adam thing, then him calling me a slut. How can he believe my old best friend nichole over a gurl (me)who is was in love with and knows inside and out. He doesnt kno nichole at all? I am at school right now and all I have been doing for the past 4 hrs is crying. Should I be crying over this or just let it pass bc I know that he is just mad and doesnt mean it. Its like Im single anyways. I have a right to kiss a guy if I like them ya know. Well please help me I am so confused.

Hey Sam!!!! It's me, your gurl, Candy!! I still need to meet Dylan!!!! :) You know Dominic is just jealous that you are tring to move on and date other guys. You desevre a guy who will treat you right and give you the respect you deserve!Yiou don't need nicole or urbanor dominic if they are gunna treat you like shit. Nicole's and urban's asses are mine!! You are one of my really good friends and I am not gonna let them treat you like that!! LYLAS!!!!!!! ~Candy the Wiccan :)

Q: i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire

Hun, just relax!! If you are really paranoid, then I think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and your fears. I'm sure you will feel alot better after you talk to him. Try it and if you could, email me back and tell me how it went??? Hope I have been of some help!!!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?

I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Teel him that you want a committed relationship with him. Just talk to him. Thats all I can say. Hope I have been of some help. ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: i need help.......
there is this boy i rely like in my school. im seriously obsessed with himm.....at first when he asked me out and like i rely didnt want to go out wif himm at first but than i relly started to like himm than he dumped me. and we ended up going out lik 6 different times and he dumped me all the times and i relyy lik him n he says he wasnts to be my friend but w.e im around him hes always rude to meee n lik i havent gone out wif ne 1 else cuz i like him sooo much

what should I do???

ps srry if this was to long

My answer to you is that if he dumped you every time and is mean to you, then he isn't worth your time. You need to find a guy that will treat you right and won't be a ass to you. Hope I have been of some help. ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: My friend is going out w/ this boy. When he asked her out, he said that he didn't want to tell anyone. I'm the only one they told. His friends tease him because they hang out so much. She's starting to think that he won't tell anyone because he's embarresed of her. What do you think? If it's just because he doesn't know how to stand up to his friends, do you have any advice?

I'm not saying that this is the reason for him not coming out about their relationship, but he might not want to tell anyone that they are dating because he might be with another girl also and doesn't want anyone to know that he's a cheater. I'm speaking from experience so I know how it feels to have a guy say that they don't want anyone to know about it and I end up finding out that he's going out with someone else and didn't want the other girl to know he was cheating on her with me and vise versa. I think you should talk to the guy and ask him why he doen't want anyone to know about them. Maybe he has a good reason for not wanting anyone to know. But you can never be too sure. Hope I have been of some help. ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Ok, the guy i like is like 5 feet. give or take a few inches. And i'm like 5 8. It's a HUGE height difference, and idc about looks, but i dont want ppl making fun of him b/c he's going out with a giant or make fun of me for going out with a midget. We're both in 7th grade. I think i should just continue liking him. I think i have a good chance with him. What do u think?

My advise is that you should let other peoples opions get to you although sometimes it can be VERY hard. If you like the guy just the way he is and he likes you just the way you are, then there is no reason that you two shouldn't be together. I personally have dated my share of short guys and we didn't care what other people though. We just cared about what we though and how we felt about each other. It may take time but after awhile your feelings for each other will be more important than what other's think about you two and you will be happy. SO if you think it could definatly work out with you two then I say that you should definatly stay with him. Hope I have been of some help.
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Agh... I'm so agitated and confused and depressed at the same time I can barely type this...! Anyways... my gf and I have been going out for about 10 days. My friends and I and her hang out all the time. Well it started last night. My friend was just joking around and he said "I'm like a star in the sky!" (Yeah we're pretty weird sometimes.) And my gf said "If you are then I will love you haha" and this kind of got me down, even though she said she was just kidding. Also, the same day, my friend was just like "My butt hurts." Then she says "Haha let me check that out for you then", and she touched it lightly... In a joking way, but it still didn't feel right.Another thing is, today, when my friend and I were walking towards her, she was like "Hey (friends name)!" And I was thinking to myself... "Eh? :( She didn't even say hi to me..." But... my gf said that she is crazy about me and she really loves me and everything like that, and she said that like the 7th night we were going out... but on msn. =\ Anyways, my question is, does she still like me? Or could she be liking my friend, and not me? I mean, she says she's worried that I will like another girl and dump her in the near future, and she also says that she's afraid to get hurt again, so maybe she will hurt me, and everything will be fine for her? I don't know, but we still held hands and hugged and all the normal stuff we do like that, but it still made me sad... please help... and thanks for reading...

My advice to you is to talk to her about how you feel. She may not realize how she's making you feel. Most of the time talking does work. And with the hugging and hand holding, she should also be making an effort to hold your hand and be the first to give you a hug. You shouldn't have to make the first move all the time. Like they used to say: "It takes two to tango", you can't do the dance with out a partner. Hope I have been of some help. ~Candy the Wiccan