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Q: What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?
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Q: I cheated on my ex-boyfriend while we were together. I realized I did not love him, and broke it off with him after that. Well, I still loved him very much and he loved me, so one day we decided to hang out as friends. Well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. Well, I realized how much of a mistake that was, so I stopped seeing him or talking to him completely.
Now I found out I am pregnant. I am 19 years old and he is 20. My ex-boyfriend is a really good person and I think he'd make a very good father. If our problems weren't enough, here is the biggest issue.
He is foreign. He is staying in the country on a student visa. He will have to leave in 6 months unless we get married. I desperately don't want him to leave. Not for me, but for our future child. The flight to his country and back to visit would be 1200 dollars per trip. Everyone is pressuring us to get married so he can fulfill his fatherly duties and our child could have both parents around. We've research all possible ways he could stay, and it basically comes down to him marrying me.
What should I do? I can't see myself being with this person forever, but I can't see my child only getting to see his father once a year or so. I am seriously thinking about marrying him until he becomes a citizen, and then divorcing. Ugh, it's so frustrating, I don't even want to think about it!!!
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well you could get married but live in separate appartments and live separete lives . when he becomes a citezen divorce him . you don't have to live together like a married couple , he could see the baby but you wont have to have the commitment of a married couple.
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Q: i am involved with a married man i dont love. i am with him because i have no other financial assistance. he is very controlling, obsessive and he threatens me , even locks me up in the house and demands to know my every move. i can live with my mother but i am scared through past experiences that they might disown me again and i have a 6yr old son. what should i do? i am 26yrs old, female.
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get out of the marryed man relationship , hes abusive and you don't need that . in your time of need your family won't disown you . your responciple and theres no reason why that should happen . if your looking for some financial assitance get a daytime job and be home at night with your son( you may want to take some secretarl corses or become a dental assitant then once you know the buisness become a dentist and open you own place !) . you could also threaten to tell the wife , you'll get out of the relationship and possibly make some extra cash . good luck !
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Q: I have a question about men. I want to have children some day but havent found the right guy yet. When I do find a guy that I like, what are some signs that could tell me whether or not he would make a good father?
Also, is it a bad sign if the man is already in his mid 40's and has never had any children? Is there still a chance he might want kids at that age? I am 26 and know a guy that is 45 and I think he likes me, but he has never had kids.
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im going to say no to the 45 year old , he's older enery isn't high , the kids will be loud and it will disturb him and he's used to not having a responcibility like that . what to look for is a guy with a sence of humor , energy , careing , likes kids , responcible , reliable that sorta thing
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Q: do girls like the smell axe or tag.
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no , they smell really bad your better off getting a real colone
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Q: Umm this is kind of hard to ask but... why does it feel like I'm peeing razor blades? I heard this could be either connected to a bladder infection or an STD. I've never really had sex except with these guys that kind of dress up like girls, because I heard you can get STD's from having sex with women. But you can't get STD's from anal/oral sex right? Well what I'm trying to say is does anyone know what I can do to make the pain go away, short of chopping off my own penis with a butcher's cleaver. 13/m if that helps.
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you should got to a doctor it could be STD'S you CAN get std's from oral and anal sex . man or woman you can get STD's . it may not be STD'S depending on how long ago you had sex and the person you had it with may have passed on STD'S or an infection . there is no way to tell except by geting tested which i recommed you do because it can hurt you and if you sleep with someone else not knowing you have std's you pass it on to them and the cycle continues . to help the pain you may want to pour cold water when you pee , take advil and suck on ice instead of drinking water , take a cool bath and put some neosporin or bactiraban on it .
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Q: ok i met this guy on the internet im 13 he is 17 and i like him and i think maybe he likes me too much. we made plans to meet in the future but i was just havin fun i was kidding about it. i didnt kno he really wanted to do it and now im scared something might happend can someone help?
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just dont talk to him block him ... dont meet him for all you know hes a 45 year old perv who will kidnap you ... just stay away and dont give out personal info.
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Q: I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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flirting , trying to be near you or if he's imature sometimes is always makeing fun of you because he cant stop talking about you and doesnt know how to express himself , he may do favors for you ... its hard to figure out if he likes you because i dont really know what he is like ... him staring and helping you may have been a sigm that he like you but it may also mean that he just helped you out to be nice .
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Q: Thanks for your honesty in your reply. But, if you don't mind another question - why would a seemingly nice guy act like that? He seemed like the type that was mature enough not be into the "head-games" thing. If he does want to get together again, should I just always have an excuse from now on?
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He may be a nice guy but i think because he is in his late 30's is going to act inmature you know before he turns 40 sorta thing where you act wild and spontanious ... its him getting his last bit of fun before he has to be a real grown up . when your in you 30's you still act like a kid . the thrill that your older and married may have been the kick he wanted before he had to really mature . dont worry if he askes you to lunch or something do what you feel is right .
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Q: I've been married for 20 years & never have, and never will cheat on my husband.
A single younger man where I work started flirting with me. He basically expressed his attraction towards me, which was extremely flattering. I let him know right away that I would never cheat on my husband. He seemed to accept this & we have continued to commincate throught our email at work & a couple of coffee breaks.
I have really enjoyed the flattery - I'm 48, he's 37. Once I realized that he really wasn't just trying to get me into bed & truly liked me as a person - I felt great.
He's extremely careered oriented & doesn't have time for a comitted relationship at this point.
I just don't understand why when I started flirting back with him, why he has backed off. I liked the flattery, and am hurt. He started all this.
I simply don't understand why he is reacting this way, I don't need a lecture on why this is unhealthy, I already know from the way I feel.
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he backed off when you flirted with him because he got what he wanted from you which is attention ... after he gets what he wants he doesnt want it anymore ... its like playing hard to get .. once you give in they dont want it anymore because they see that they can get it when ever they want .It may have also been a thrill to flirt with a woman who is married and older that him and he has moved on and so should you .
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Q: ok so i was talkin to my ex n he told me to listen to a song n thats what he wants in life....the song is swing life away by rise against.....the he IMed me n said "we live on front porches and swing life away"...anybody know what the song means or what that verse above means?
thanks
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its about how much he loves you and that verse means sometimes he just wants to be with you and he has fun with you .
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Q: okay i went to the movies last night with my bestfriend. my bestfriend is a guy... we kissed and such because we had gone out b4. in th emovie theater he wanted me to give him a h.j. i wasentt all that comfortable right ?! so i didnt do it.. now hes like rly upset with me and i cant stand it when hes mad at me.. he asked me out and i said yes. (( again )) last time we broke up i got hurt rly bad so i was like "okay maybe he wont be the same" cz we got that close. he said hes gunna be grounded this summer so we cant chill.. we broke up later that night and now he wont talk that much to me cz i didnt give a h.j. but i said i would at school this week (( only 3 days left of school ))
is that bad .. what should i do ?
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if you dont want to give him one dont ! why should you have to make up with him because you didnt give him a handjob !your boyfriend is being a jerk .... i say leave him alnoe ... if he's mad at you because you dint want to do something you really shouldnt be and if its against what you want to do ... just leave him !
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Q: I met this guy online and i really like him...he is really sweet and he asked me out...i said yes and i havent told my friends yet. The thing is they might think it's kind of wierd or strange that I met a guy online that I have never met before and actually talked to him..because they think that you shouldn't do that. Should I tell them or just keep it a secret to myself??
Thanks a lot!!
Confused
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what your doing is puting yourself in danger ... for all you know he could be a 40 something year old perv who lives with his mother ... this is how people get kidnapped ... someone says lets meet then the cops are looking for you ! This guy might be ok but i wouldnt trust him ... if you must see him go in a well lit area with lots of people ... tell your parents where your going !!! carry I.D.
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Q: hey i love your advice column! ok i have a huge question...what are somethings that i can do(actions) to make my bf want to kiss me more?
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try some really good smelling lip gloss ... that should work ...
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Q: my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do?
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if your woried for her and know that this is wrong you must tell her parents .... you'll probably save her from getting into real trouble they'll handel it ... you may not want to but you have to ... this guy could kidnaper her or kill her ... he's nuts to be with a 12 year old he has issues .
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Q: Ok there is this guy and he is 25 and i am 14 we were together for a while but then we had to break up because my mom called the police on him.. we still talk but last weekend I lied to him and he started yelling at me about how I can't stop lying to him... I have written him emails saying I am sorry.. But in an email he sent back to me he said he didnt want ne thing to do with me.. he wrote me back saying that maybe he would be with me.. but not for a while.. should I just give up on him or should I still be friends????
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if your 14 where in the world would you meet a 25 year old guy to go out with . i'd just forget him . he's a loser if he's 25 and wants to go out with a 14 year old ... if you were ever caught togethet your mother would probably kill you and i dont blame her
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Q: hey this is for guys mostly but if girls want to answer ok. so anyways im going out with this guy we have been dating for 2 weeks and i really need 2 buy him a christmas gift but he wont tell me what he wants. guys when u say that what does it mean. and any gift ideas would be soooo great. thanks.
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get him a gift card to best buy and he can choose what he wants
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Q: Hey.. ok I got a lil problem! See.. there's this guy & I really like him but he's already told me that he dont want a g/f right now. Ok.. I was cool with that.. then 1 day he asks me if i would fuck him. I'm like huh? (I'm 14 btw.. he's 16) He's like let's fuck.. ok well I was like umm.. I dont really wanna do that right now but I was really flirty with it like I was playing hard 2 get.. which I kinda was but see.. now EVERYBODY knows that we might do something & he keeps bugging me about it but I still kinda like him.. what should I do?
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if you dont want to have sex with him dont , if he's pressuring you i dont know why you would still like him
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Q: How long would you be willing to date someone before you either left or proposed marriage to them? You being a 30 something female he being a late 30 something male.
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1-2 years depending on the situation
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Q:
What age would you let your Child date?? What would you allow them to do with Him or Her?
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age 14 the youngest . i would let them go out with friends in a group and go places as a group so nothing really serious happens . at 15 i would let the two go alone to places that alot of people are at like a place to eat , movies or the mall .
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just ask
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Info
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Member Since: September 21, 2004 Answers: 317 Last Update: January 14, 2007 Visitors: 19532
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