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i am involved with a married man i dont love. i am with him because i have no other financial assistance. he is very controlling, obsessive and he threatens me , even locks me up in the house and demands to know my every move. i can live with my mother but i am scared through past experiences that they might disown me again and i have a 6yr old son. what should i do? i am 26yrs old, female.
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get out of the marryed man relationship , hes abusive and you don't need that . in your time of need your family won't disown you . your responciple and theres no reason why that should happen . if your looking for some financial assitance get a daytime job and be home at night with your son( you may want to take some secretarl corses or become a dental assitant then once you know the buisness become a dentist and open you own place !) . you could also threaten to tell the wife , you'll get out of the relationship and possibly make some extra cash . good luck !
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you need to be strong... my cousin had her child when she was 19 ow at age 24 shes put herself through college...did not marry the father who was a alcoholic and she grew up in a home with a mother who was on an assortment of drugs. i use her as my inspiration in whatever i do. just know that your family although they might not act like it love you no matter what and even so there are other people who truly care about you and arent threatening scary people. you need to get away and figure out what you want to do with your life. get a job thats pays enough and start dont be afraid to get help no matter what age. i hope this helps feel free to ask me any more questions
heart always,
Kiki
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get away from him..get out of there and be strong. you can work hard and save up to improve your finances. try living with your mom..go in there with a "fresh start" and hopefully it will work out. the most important thing is to get away from this man..financial security is nice and all..but i would rather have finance trouble than to go through what you are with this man.
<3 be strong
-melissa
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First off, if you truly dont love this man, get a divorce. Find a way to bring in a little extra money and either live with your mother or another relative or even get a small apartment untill you get back on your feet. If you go to school for a couple more years then maybe you can get a degree and a great job. For now take one step at a time as for your husband-look out for him and if he does anything to you, know that abuse and harassment is illegal and he can go to court. i hope i helped a little but take things slow and everything will get better in time good luck god bless
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There are places that will help you get out.
You really need to get out. You have a 6 year old to think about. You call your mom or whatever it takes until you can get on your feet.
The main thing right now is to get away from this guy before he does something worse. :)
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my advice to you:
i was in the same situation as you acccept he was my step dad and you knoe what i was a fraid to move in with my dad because i thought he would be mad at me for leaving in the firts place, but once i called him and i explained evrything with him he took me in because it wasnt a good place for his dauter it doesnt matter how old you are your parents will love you no matter what i think you should just explain to then what is going on im sure they will understand..........and if they dont do it for you ask then to do it for your son, because it isnt a good environment for him either!!!
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If you dont love him then you shoouldnt be with him. They wont disown i dont think b/c you are their daughter and they wouldnt put you throug that and if you tell them what is going on then they will understand and try and help you. If you are not happy your kid isnt going to be either. you want him to be in the best environment
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