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My name is Kacie and I'm 16 years old. It's always good to get another person's opinion on your problems and maybe an outsider will have more insight on the situation! Hope I can help you out.
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Well, me and my ex broke up...I'm getting over it slowly, but he wants to be friends. I'm not ready to be friends with him yet. I want to make sure I'm over him, cuz if I go and hang out with him now, I'm sure I'm gonna want him back and miss him. i broke up with him cuz he cheated but didnt get very far cuz he felt really bad and i kno in my heart he luvs me cuz no one says or does tha sweeeeetest things like he does...so ne wayz i took him back but everythin was soo different, i couldnt trust him anymore and my luv for him was fading......he says he cant handle it if we're not friends, but i cant handle it if we're friends.....what should i do? i dont wanna hurt him but he really hurt me..
You can be 'friends' without hanging out. If you see him in the hall or something say hi but that's it. More like aquaintences. Like you know each other but aren't the greatest of friends. That way you both win. he sees you as friends and you don't have much contact. **Kacie**
well..i just went to the movies with alot of people last night (friday) and i was there with the person i like..and we were holding hands and stuff.. then right befor the movie ended..he made out with me..i didnt know what to do..is it true that it comes naturally to you? cause it didnt to me..i know i did terrible..and he is much more advanced than me..this was my first kiss..it was so embarrising cause i know i did a very bad job.. will i ever learn? and why didnt i know what to do right away like everyone told me i would? please help me..
You were probably scared. If you're so worried about doing it bad or not knowing how then you are probably going to freeze up and do it bad and not know how. Once you get some practice in it really does come naturally. It's not really practice it's jsut getting comfortable with the idea and becoming confident ! Good luck *Kacie*
whenever i liek guys i get sort of scared wen i talk to them and my whoel attitude changes around them how can i learn to act the same around him//..?
Hang out with him more often. The more you do, the more comfortable you'll be around him and the more like yourself you will be able to act! **Kacie**
ok, well i like my brothers friend.. lets call him... BOB, ok well BOB likes me too and we always talk and hang out and we've kissed and he sometimes gets all playful touchy but just like flirting and stuff and i wanna go out with him but hes afraid my brother will get insanely pissed off at him.. I talked to my brother and he was like "whatever.. hes cool so i dont care" so i was like, sweet. Well i dont wanna ask this guy out cus i just dont, im not scared or nething but i wanna talk to him about "us" but i dont know how.. i dont think this is making sense.. BUT ANYWAYS i dont know how to talk to him about it.. its reatrded cus i can usually go up to a guy and tell him i think hes hot or that i like him and stuff and they would be like "sweet" or something BUT i CANT with BOB... What would you do if you were in my situation?... I rate high..
15/F
Bring up to him what your brother said to you. Maybe he'll take it from there and save you the trouble. **Kacie**
Theres this girl in my class. I really like her, but shes usually not the type i would go after. Shes really hyper all the time and always going after the "bad boys". She hangs around me a lot before class, and even has a pet name for me. She keeps asking me when am i going to take her out to go driving. Is she just being nice or does she really like me? I'm not the bad boy type, thats why this is puzzling me.
She seems like a flirt, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go for it . **Kacie**
One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?
~Amberlynn
Wow, that's a tough one. I would say wait a while. Then talk to your friend first. Think about it. Which means more to you ... you're friendship or your crush? If they're equal at least consider her feelings first before you head right into it. Good luck. *Kacie*
Hi well my boyfriends friends come up and pinch my ass , everytime I ask them to stop they ust kiss me like Im thier own and my boyfriend lets them what do I do?
Ask your boyfriend why he doesn't care. Then tell him that YOU care and see what he does about it. Maybe him & his friends aren't worth it ... *Kacie**
What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.
Tell her you don't like to have really long conversations but you hope she's not offended when you cut the conversation off. Making excuses works for awhile but pretty soon she's gonna start to wonder if you even want to talk to her at all. **Kacie**
whenever i get to be friends with a guy, i start to LiKe them...i can never be just friends really and its so awful! then after about a month i start to stop liking them...but my guy friends, i dont wanna like them at all EVER (except if we go out sometime ;)) what should i do how do i not like them
It's my theory that a girl and a guy can't be friends without one or the other or both liking the other one at some point in the relationship. It's just how life goes, hormones and everything ... if you like someone enough to be their friend why wouldnt you like them enough more than friends... so don't worr y about liking them .. maybe just don't do anything about it. **Kacie**
me and my ex boyfriend were one of those couples where we were exact opposites. he was kind of "Wigger-ish" and i was moare "Skater". he would even call me a skater .. and then he'd say how much he hates them. it always affended me so he would add "Except for you" but it didnt make much of a difference. when he found out my favorite color was orange, he got all weird like "Holy fuck, you're only supposed to like black". who the hell tells their girlfriend, let alone anyone .. what colors they can like? it really pissed me off, and we broke up later that night for other reasons, and he just moved here over the summer (thats how i met him). now hes going to my school where no one knows him, and he's going to be in most of my classes. i really liked him even though we were different. and im shy around guys so i probably wont talk to him. what should i do if i want to be with him again, but keep him from treating me like shit?
That really sounds like the kind of teasing that he wouldn't notice that you were upset by it. Like he probably thought he was just joking around, you know? So if you want to get back with him the 'treating you like shit' is probably going to continue because I think that's his personality, that kind of joking. Either get along with it, tell him how you feel about it, or forget him as a dating possibility. **Kacie**
i really like this one guy but hes going out with a girl... and it seems like this guy likes me and he calls me almost everynight and when were together he always wants to like make out and things liek that but then if he liked me why would he be going out with his grilfriend? so i don't know what to do anymore just go with the flow or try and work things out and just be friends with this guy...
Well I don't think you should even want a relationship with him because when he wants to make out with you he is cheating on his current girlfriend and what is to say he wouldn't do the same to you. But yeah I would suggest NOT going with the flow because that is not right for any of the people involved. Either just be friends or distance yourself from him! **Kacie**
You see, whenever I fly on airplanes, I usually get airsick, and I begin to throw up. But just a few months ago, I didn't throw up, so I was pretty happy. But last week, I just found out that my bf's mom invited me to Las Vegas, so we're taking a plane. I'm really scared that I'll throw up. AND I don't wanna be ashamed. What should I do to keep me from puiking? It seems so uncool typing this on an advice column but no one knows who I am anyways.
Don't they have medicine for that? Like the ones you would take when going on a boat ride. Look into it. Motion sickness medicine or something. **Kacie**
Brad: u goin to the BBQ
me: oo yeah u??
Brad: i might have to make an appearance
Me: how r u getting 2 the bbq
Brad: miself - most likely
Brad: i can ask madre if i can drive you .. if you would like- im not suppose to drive but she knows i cheat
Brad: just let me know if you need a ride
Me: yea so wuts been goin on in the life of brad lately...??
Brad: busy busy little booy
Brad: :-P
Me: eww put that tongue inside ur mouth
Brad: :-P
Brad: :-P
Brad: :-P
Me: nasty
Me: nasty
Brad: SHUt it
Flirtin or Talkin?? Does he like me as a friend or more than a friend??
I'd have to say it could go either way because guys pretty much flirt, all the time. But yeah it was definitely flirting! **Kacie**
ok i met this guy online and said i was 15..that was 2 yrs ago and now im "17" im really only 14 goin on 15!!! well this guy is really amazing hes sent me pix of him n salutes saying he real....we talk on the fone and everything...i told him a diff name...diff age...and sent him fake pix...he thinks its me..and hes coming out to where i live in 2 yrs for his senior trip...he sed hes told him mom about me and wants to bring me back where he lives!! i wish i was erally who i said i was bc i want him!! he even told me he loves me and thers no other gur like me!! hes totally in love with me and wev been talkin for 2 yrs now!!!!!!!! WAT DO I DO?? do i jst delete my fake screen name and everything...i cant tell him!! he mite call me and that wuld freak me out bc hed b really angry...he picked to come out to see me for his senior tip in stead of goin to the bahamas and im not even real!!!! WAT DO I DO?? =\
You could just delete it and don't talk to him anymore ... or you could tell him you don't feel comfortable meeting and you want it to continue to be an online only type of thing. **Kacie**
On saturday me and my b/f were suppose to hang out, but he canceled. So he said we should hang out on sunday, but he never showed up or called or anything. I tried calling but no one answered his house or cell. Should I be worried? Because he's usually on-line all the time, but lately he hasn't been. He never blows me off ever. I know he wouldn't cheat on me either, he's not that kind of guy. What should I do? Should I be worried??? Please help! :(
Don't worry about it. You don't have to expect the worse there is probably an explination. Or maybe there's not but still don't expect the worst ... just don't worry about it until you hear from him so you can know if ur fears are real or not. **KACIE**
okay i invited this cute guy 2 my cottage down the beach and it's only gonna be me and him and i wonderin if he comes down what should we do??
i really like him!! so what do you think??
*Blonde Beach Babe*
Maybe ask him what he wants to do. Or you could put in a movie or something to entertain you guys. Just to start off with in case it gets a little awkward. Things should gradually get easier after an hour or so. **Kacie**
im 13/f never made out with a guy and i feel so...unloved lol! is there sumthin wrong with me? where did i go wrong?!?
There is NOTHING wrong with you! I guess kids these days are starting everything sooner but that doesn't mean that 13 is old to have never made out before. That is perfectly okay. If you want to and you have the right opportunity then go ahead ... but otherwise you should feel fine about waiting. **Kacie**
I just broke up with a longtime boyfriend. He didn't seem to care at all. How do I deal? What do I do to keep my mind from straying his way?
Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? Well if you broke up with him and he 'didn't seem to care at all' that doesn't neccessarily mean he didn't care ... guys often hide how they are feeling.
Well it is normal for you to think about him ... you said you had a long term relationship so he was a big part of your life and you don't want to completely forget him, but just hang out with other people and don't sit around regretting anything. **Kacie**
I am 16, been on varsity football since my freshman year, im going to be a sophomore, im not really worried about having a girlfriend, sometimes i just wish i had one, do you girls like to get close with a guy before you date them, as in like a best friend relationship, or do you like to meet guys and find something new about him day in and day out....?? i dont no anymore lol
Maybe not be best friends exactly but usually a girl will want to get to know you before she goes out with you. When you are interested in someone just start hanging out with them and get to know them a little and then after awhile you can move on and ask her out or whatever else you wanna do w/ the relationship. You don't neccessarily have to be friends first, just get to know each other!
i like this guy at skool and he really loves me and he asks me out all the time.hes not very popular tho and im afarid that ppl will make fun of me. plz help me!!! thanks
If you like him, why worry about what other people think? If you won't go out with him just because of other people's opinions maybe you should look a little deeper at your feeling for him. Maybe you don't like him as much as you think you do. If people make fun of you just tell them that they need to look inside the person and maybe they would understand what you feel for him.