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So, I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I live in Ontario, Canada. I LOVE giving out advice. All my friends come to me for advice because:-I tell them the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
-I don't sugarcoat things. If your relationship is doomed, I'll tell you. I won't say "just talk to him" or stuff like that.
-I don't judge. Well, I do judge a little bit, but who doesn't. But, you can tell me you just had sex with 309573458346934584357 different people, and I'll still love you none the less.
-I'm just a normal person, and I probably go through the same everyday crap that the rest of you go through.
So yeah, feel free to drop me a line. As far as I know, I've never screwed someone over with my advice!
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My boyfriend is so strange. I had been on welfare for a long time and he used to tell me that he thought I had potential and that I should be working, and that he didnt want me to live off the system. Well I finally got a good job and now he is acting almost jealous of me. When I told him I was really happy and everyone was nice he just said sarcastically "oh it's working out for you". He has a job and makes a lot of money so I don't know why this would bother him.
Does anyone have any insight to his behavior?
Guys like to be in control of money situations, and kinda feel inadaquat(er, spelling?) when their girlfriend is making money, especially if it's more than them. He may just be jealous that you've got a good that you you're really happy with. Plus, he may just feel like since you're making your own money, you don't need him anymore, financially that is. He may just want to be able to control you with money.
I dunno, those are just the things that entered my mind with reading your question. I think you should bring it up in converstaion sometime, when you are both really calm and relaxed, and let him know that you would really appreciate it if he was happy for you. I think you know what to do from there. Good luck, hun!
-Siobhan
So I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is a wee bit older. He's 25.
We've been going out for about a month and he's a great guy to me - he buys everything (not just dinner, like he asks if there's anything I want in stores etc.), he opens doors, he always says the kindest things to me, and yes he's great in the bedroom.
But I've just been wondering lately if this is the best time for me to date someone his age. He's so perfect but it's kind of difficult when I get the weird looks from friends and classmates about dating an older guy. He hasn't met my friends yet and I don't even know if his friends know about me. The whole age thing is just kind of throwing me for a loop.
So, do you think I should keep pursuing this relationship with the chance of getting hurt or just let it go for now with such big differences?
P.S. Remember that I'm only a senior in high school, still dealing with stuff like homecoming and prom. He's already out in the working world...it's a tough choice...
I think that if you're so unsure about this relationship, you're obviously having doubts. So, I say you should listen to your intuition. He does sound like a great guy, but at this point in your life those eight years make a HUGE difference, but in ten years from now they won't, because you'll be out of school, working, and looking for someone to settle down with.
Things will work out if you just follow your intuition (how cheesy)
OK there is this guy(lets say his name is X) who is going to ask me out. I like him a little bit but theres this other guy(name:O) I like love. I dont kno if the guy I love likes me but we are best friends...Should I say yes to X or wait for O...b/c if O doesnt like me I dont want to be alone b/c I said no to X...What should I do?
Go for X, don't wait around for O because you might be missing out on something really great.
im a 16/f and i went on a tubing trip with my team this past weekend and i hung out with this really nice guy. we were together the whole time. we were constantly all over eachother and he held my hand and talked with me the whole time. well people who saw this misinterperted the situation and now everyone thinks i like him. well no ones paying any attention to what he does cause he has a gf...which i didnt know when we were together. he is a really sweet guy and he was so easy to talk to. the thing is that im starting to like him. i see him everyday at practice and he always grabs my waist and gives me small hugs. my best friend keeps telling me that there is no way that he doesnt have feelings for me since he held my hand the whole time and he kept asking me to get on his tube with him. is there anything i can do in this situation to get people off my back and is there any way that he likes me? (even if he has a g/f)
Well, people are always gonna think what they want to, so if they think you like him, let them think it, because it sounds to me like you do.
The thing that worries me is how he already has a girlfriend but he's all over you? If I was in your position I wouldn't exactly trust him to not do the same thing to another girl. But I'm sure you know what you're doing, I just want you to be aware that he may not be the most faithful guy.
Good luck hun!
-Siobhan
ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!!
Stay with our your friends, because you'll need them in the future. Your boyfriend sounds incredibly insecure and very jealous. This could become a serious problem if you intend on staying with him in the future. Talk to him, let him know that you only have eyes for him, and if he stills acts up and accuses you of flirting with your friends, dump him.
-Siobhan
Ok, here's the deal. I have this boyfriend I have been with since 7th grade. We know each other very well, and are really comfortable around each other. But last winter his parents split up and he got mixed up with the wrong crowd, started doing drugs, starting ruining his life in general, and not to mention ruining our relationship not only as a couple but as I see him. He started blowing me off, not calling, not keeping promises, point blank..doing drugs. So we broke up for awhile, and I met this really great other guy. We talked about everything, and it evetually lead into a relationship. He was really laid back and we had lots of good times together. But to be honest, i couldn't open up to this kid as much as the other one. I was very standoffish and I couldn't like him to the point where I wanted to be more than just friends. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me. He was the total opposite of what the other kid was, my old boyfriend is very protective of me and gets jealous and mad vey easily. so that was just what I needed. So, a few things happened, I cheated on this kid with my old boyfriend, and I needed to break up with him. I feel like such a bad person because he is such a good guy. After awhile, my old boyfriend went to Florida to figure out who he was and get more self respect for himself. While he was down there he would call me every single night. I was the only thing he had to hold onto. Now he's back up here, and I've hung out with him, but I'm not convinced he's changed and I don't want him to go back to his old ways. I am in love with this kid because we basically grew up together, but in some ways I feel like I made the wrong decision. Sometimes I feel like I should have gone with the other kid. I need some GOOD advise because I have been thinking about this for a long time.
PLEASE HELP, thank you*
I think you just need to be honest with yourself and the people that you've involved yourself with. You should let boy #1 know that you really do care for him, and even though he'll hate you for it, you should try to push him (just a bit) to getting better. Or try to get him to ask for help, but don't go and get help for him, because he'll feel betrayed.
Don't go back to the second boy if you don't feel that much for him. It's not fair for him or yourself.
Things will work out.
-Siobhan
OKay, my BF is way smarter than me. Perfects on any test and he doesn't study. I use to be known as the really smart kid but i kind of fell back because i didnt care if i was the TOP ya know? well now it seems he gets frusterated when i get a B or don't understand something. its almost like i'm to dumb for him. i really like him but i feel so inferior and when i do/say something dumb he just gives me this annoyed look. what do i do?!
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Have a chat with me, and tell how it makes you feel when he looks down on you and acts like a total asshole. I know it'll be hard to bring up the courage to do so, but once you open your mouth, there's no going back. But it's for the better.
If you tell him, and he's pissed, or he doesn't change. Drop him like a hot brick. He's clearly not worth your time.
To be blunt about the situation, I want this guy and I feel threatened. I hang out with this guy and this other guy and I feel that I'm in competition with the other guy for this guy. Is there anyway to seal my victory even if that be for something bad or misfortunate to happen to the other guy? Give me your advice. Oh and Im not going to kill him if thats what it sound like lol.
Hm, someone sounds a little insecure. Either that or you're greedy and what this boy all to yourself... but hey, who can blame you? I can't honestly say I haven't felt that way every now and then.
What you should do is make this guy realize what a great person who are, do something for him so he can see what an awesome friend you are, then he may become more interested in you.
If you start dating, he'll naturally want to start hanging out with you more than his friend. But if you don't like his friends, I don't think you should get involved with him, as it will just lead to fighting and whatnot.
okay so ive been goin out with this guy for like 2 months and we're both 14. i really like him alot and i want to invite him over to my house. but i dont know how to keep him entertained... because its not like i can have him in my bedroom because my parents will b home. what can we do? i never had a boy over to my house before so im kinda new at all this. please help me quick. and i dont want some things like play board games... cuz thats lame... or do alot of people do that with their boyfriends and girlfriends?
Just chill out on the couch and watch some movies and eat junk food.
All my friends are very touchy-feely sort of people, we always hug each other loads and don't mind being close, both guys and girls. I really like this guy, but due to some unfortunate and complicated circumstances he is ignoring me (I haven't done anything wrong).
But the thing is, he is still the same with all his other friends, and I get very very jealous whenever I see him hugging his female friends, or walking with them in a two.
How can I stop myself being jealous? I don't have a claim over this guy, and I feel so upset whenever I see him like this now because I really do like him.
(It wasn't so long ago - a few weeks - that he liked me. But I didn't like him like that then, and now that I do...I haven't told him this yet but anyway...).
The jealousy is killing me!
Just talk to the guy, if he's mad at you in a way that he's giving you the cold shoulder, that means he probably still has some feelings for you. You should let him know how you feel about him, and he should come around.
Good luck!
ok... i like this guy but i cant say his name, so ill call him MR. BIGGLESWORTH.....and he is dating one of my friends...and the other day my best frined told him i liked him alot and that i was practically in love with him(and i am but that wasnt the way id hoped he'd find out)and he didnt say anything but that copuld have been because his gf was right there idk.....but i really want to go out with and i want him to go out with me to...........on wednsday of last week we were in lunch and he sits about 3 tables over from mine.......and he kept callin my name and when i would look over to him he'd cover his eyes like he was playing peek-a-boo with me and he kept doing it.....then i went to his table to arm wrestle him and he kept letting me win and then finally he plaid for real and he said that if he won that we had to do stuff but he was joking........then i went to go back to my table and he wouldnt let me leave without giving him a hug...........and when he gave me a hug he touched my butt...i know that sounds bad but he only did that when he liked me.......i just want to ask that from what i just wrote....do you think he still likes me or not?i rate good if your answer is good
He may like you, but he has a girlfriend. I'd stay away from him, as, if you tried to take things any furthur, his girlfriend would get pissed and may try to start something.
There's a guy-let's call him Rick. Rick and my brother, Tim, are friends and after Rick found out that i was Tim's little sister (he's a senior and i'm a soph.- "rick" is a junior) he started like yelling hi to me and all that jazz. Today, my brother's other friend asked if i knew Rick and I said yeah, and he said that we should hang out sometime. So here's my question. I'm not sure if this is like a joke or something- like saying hi to your friend's little sister. So my question is, does he like me or is he just messing around?
ps..Soo on saturday i went to the icecream store that I guess he works at and he gave my friend and I free icecream.
Aw. He's definatly digging you. If his friends were asking you about him, Rick more than likely talks about you to them. Next time you talk to him, bring up the idea of hanging out together sometime.
Good luck!
well there is this boy that lives up the street from me and i like him alot and i really want to get to know him... but i am not sure how tho... i want to meet him and get to really know him becuz he seems real nice and cool but i dont want to be obviouse that i am in to him. please help me!!
Does this guy go to your school? Because if he does, and you both walk to school or take the bus, try to walk/bus with him, and start up a conversation.
For the last few days a bunch of boys in my class have been looking at me funny. At first I thought that I mite have had somthing weird on my face or maybe my outfir looked redicules to them. Then they all started talking to me. Not at once, but boys would come up to me all threw out the day and talk to me. This one boy even said that his best friend (one of the boys who wouldn't leave me alone) had a crush on me. I didn't belive him. Another one, was always trying to make me laugh, anouther one was always starring at me. The boy I have a crush on is really cool and always talking to me too. I can tell he has a crush on me. I think all the other boys have crushes on, and it really freaks me out!!!!!! A bunch of girls have been giving me the cold shoulder, or being really mean. My crush is my best friend too, and we are always together, some stupid boy calls us the love birds. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stay away from all boys in general.
Is this just all of a sudden that all these boys are starting to notice you? Because if this type of thing hasn't really happened before, I'd hate to say, but there's probably some sort of rumour going around about you. I know that sucks, but that's pretty much the only reason a guy will REALLY be interested in you, when he knows you'll put out. It's sad, but true.
Ok, I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 years (I know, quite a long time!) I met him at uni and now I am in my final year at uni and he is working miles away. We have never been apart like this before as we were always together at uni.
I have mixed feelings about how much longer I want the relationship to go on for. Whenever we speak on the phone he says something stupid or puts me in a bad mood and makes me unhappy.
I feel I want some time to be young free and single especially as I have been witht the same guy for such a long time. Surely these signs mean it won't last??
Also, I went for dinner with some friends of my flatmate and I met this guy who I found really attractive.
I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but why am I thinking of this other guy all the time when I should be thinking about my boyfriend?
We all went out last night to a club and he was there. He walked me home. Nothing happened but it was so nice to have some attention from someone else and for some reason he made me feel more wanted than my boyfriend does.
Help!! I am so frustrated I don't know what to do! Even if anything did happen, this guy goes back to Australia at the end of May.
Thank you so much if u do reply - i really appreciate it and will give you all 5's! x
I think you know the answer yourself, it's time to split.
Ok, so I've really liked this guy for 3 years but I've never talked to him. *Everytime I have it's been like my friend (she has known him all her life) talking to him and me just kinda standing there. And that was about 2 years ago* How would you just like start talking to him or what would I say? I know the most obvious answer is to start talking to him when my friend does but they dont talk really anymore. Please help.
When you see him walking down the halls, ask him for the time or something, and then throw a compliment at him, like "i like your shirt" or something.
Does age really matter when your falling in love? I'm fourteen and I would like to think anything is possible. I've been dating this guy for a short period of time but it has felt different than anything other than before. On this chain letter thing, and I know this sounds so stupid, but I made a wish to fall in love with him. My friends hate the fact that this guy and I are together, but for the first time I couldn't care less what my friends think. What do you think, is it possible?
I know a couple that started going out in May, 2003 (grade 8) and they're still together, in grade 10.
I don't know about being in love, you know, the unselfish, pure, giving type of law, but at that age you can definatly love someone, just like you love your friends, family and pets. But I'm not too sure about being in love. I think you need a lot of experience to really know what being 'in love' is.
But hey, that's just my personal opinion.
heres my problem. whenever i start to like a guy, i get really excited about it and tell ALL of my friends. then it usually turns out that the guy doesnt like me and ive been humiliated in fron of my friends. how can i keep my love life to myself?
I know what you mean, let your friends know that you're interested, but not by blabbling all over the place. Just ask him what they think of the guy, and they should get the point. That way, if it doesn't work out, they probably won't think that you really really liked him, you were just a little interested.
Make sure that he's not the only thing you talk about either, because that just gets annoying.
i like this guy hes a great guy but hes a big flirt. well i want to no wat kind of things i should go to flirt bac with him. i mean like this girl was talking about this game called nervouse where u touch his leg and move up until they say nervous and it worked and i was wondering what other kind of things can i do to flirt with him and like name kind of things like that girl did because it really helped
Forget about that whole 'nervous' thing, to me, that's just being a tad forward.
Just flash those pearly whites of yours whenever he smiles, and look at him, and if he glances over at you, look away, and then look right back. That normally gets a guy to realize you're into him.
Unless of course, he's just stupid.
O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please.
At your age, having a boyfriend shouldn't matter so much, I'm imagining you're in middle school. Guys at your age are very superficial, and you shouldn't pay attention to them, wait until high school, it gets better. A much wider variety. They're still shallow, but you have more hope.
As for the whole braces thing, I read in Seventeen magazine that most guys would go out with a girl with braces, it's just some urban legend type of thing that they won't, so that's probably not the problem. Guys are too interested in scoring with chicks that are 'perfect'. Whatever that means.
Anyways, keep up the good work with school, and everything will work out!
-Siobhan.