Whats up? I'm Aleasa and I love to give advice and help people! I'm 15, 5'4", hazel eyes, and long brown hair. I like to sit in my room when its dark and listen to Queensryche (no NOT Queen), Great White, Quiet Riot, Metallica, and Guns~n~Roses, etc. I also like to hang out with my sexy boyfriend Chad, eat, and play video games. Video games I like to play are: Metal Gear Soild, Blood Rayne 1 & 2, Final Fantasy etc.. um yeah anyways, got any questions for me, feel free to ask!
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When I was younger, I liked this boy loads and I know he liked me back. When we moved up to high school, we were put in different classes. Now, although we stare at each other alot and talk every now and again, it's not the same. I still love him and I have a feeling that he still likes me too, but I don't know how I can get things back to be how they used to.
Next year we'll be sharing classes again and I would like to get back to being close to him. Should I let him go completely? If not, have any of you guys got any tips into how we could be close again?
Please help-I rate high! (link)
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I don't think you should let him go completely, you still have a chance to be firendslike you used to. Start talking to him again like you used to, reminisce with him about funny little things that happened when you were close friends. Try to find time to hang out with him more if he wants to. SOrry if this dosn't work, hope I helped! Good LUck!
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my friend has kissed my very "friendly" friend and we have gone out a couple time and we still kiss occasionaly...but we havnt made out. the friend that has kissed him said he is the best kisser..and she has kised a lot of guys and said he was the best. i know he wants to do things with me but i get really nervous. should i just let him go for it? cuz i am very "blonde" and i tend to mess things up.a nd this is really important to me. my girl friend said she would teach me how..but i dont know what to do.
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if you've seen my answers you've heard this over and over again, go with your heart. if your too nervous to go on with this and it makes you feel uncomfertable don't do it, u don't have to. but if you are comfertable with it go for it! hope i helped.
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I just recently got asked out, and I said yes to make them happy. But, after the first day I'm already feeling crappy. I find myself comparing him to my first relationship, because it was so wonderful. My question is does this feeling ever go away? Can a relationship that starts off with no spark ever get better? (link)
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To start off, u never EVER go out with someone "just to make the happy", cause in all out reality your going to make them miserable if they find out your honest to god reason for going out with them, and it also makes you feel miserable! You-at the moment- are liveing a lie, a hurtful lie. you need to break up with this person because nobody deserves to be lied to when it comes to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. you also need to get over you first relationship, its a memory, not every relationship will be the same, everyone will usually be way more diffrent then the first. well i hope i helped! good luck!
-Aleasa
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Otay.. Im a good advice giver and all.. But right now i need some advice from some1 else. Okay well theres this boy i really really like.. And we used to go out but then i broke up with him .. Wanna know the reason? So do i.. I dunno.. I was just in a bad mood and he happened to tick me off and i told some1 i was thinking about taking a break and next thing i know she told me she called him and told him it was over.. So after that.. We were akward around each other for the next few months.. But now were like.. bestfriends again.. And now hes off doin his own thing with his love life.. hes already been out with another girl and he likes this girl right now.. And thats sorda my problem.. Im still crazy about this guy.. And Im SICK AND TIERD OF BEING HURT, cuz everytime he talks about her or even says her name i get upset.. And The thought of never being able to be with him again hurts just as bad.. And my problem is.. I have been thinking latly.. That maybe we shouldnt be friends anymore.. Maybe we should just stop talking to each other and like.. never see each other or anything.. I think thats best.. If i totaly push him outta my head i cant like him anymore right? (btw he knows i love him) But im not real certain.. I cant talk to him about this.. because its about him.. and hes prolly end up saying something and hurt my feelings, not meaning to tho. But then again i want to keep being his friend. and i want to keep liking him. Cuz there is STILL this little tinsy wensy spark of hope.. Plus hes like my bestfriend.. And I tell him everything and anything and hes always there to help me out.. but i dunno.. Im just tierd of being hurt, what should i do? (link)
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I think you should tell him how you feel about talking to you about her, tell him how much it hurts your feelings to hear how much he likes her and what not. You should also still be friends with him, I mean from what your saying hes nice to you, its not like hes being a jerk to you, so anyways give him a chance, he may end up not liking this girl and you could possibly get back together again. i hope i helped you. good luck!
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im 13/f my bestfriend is 13/m and i like him so much!! he knows i like him but he wont ask me out! no one will ask me out because im "uglY" but the guys ive been out with say im beautiful but i dont think so anymore. my self esteem went down, i use to think i was so pretty but the guy i like dosnt like me! but i look alot older than what i am so i get all the older guys but i dont want older guys because they want more from me! how do i get him 2 like me? i know thats a stupid question but ive known him 4ever and ive liked him forever and he use 2 like me 2
please help
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for one thing, thinkging your ugly just because the guy you like dosn't like you back is kinda really sad, that shouldn't make you think that way. and if your so pretty that you can get older guys then why are you saying your ugly? guys in you grade probably think you cute! ok anyways you can't make people like you, they can only like you by choice--their choice--not yours! just be friends, maybe tell him that you like him or something. but don't worry about it, theres other guys that porbably like you in your grade!
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well i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for a while now but i really just wanna be free and be able to flirt with more people i mean but my bf has always been there for me and it just seems weird dumping him i mean we've had problems like people say im cheatin on him and that i like other guys but i mean i am a big flirt and all but i just really dont wanna hurt my bf's feelings i mean i feel like we would never be friends anymore but alot of people say i should dump him because well we never really talk to each other at school or on the fone and when we do were like always saying weird stuff to each other and like everytime we get online hes always asking me why i never hug him well its just i feel like i shouldnt be with him but then again i have to be with him because like hes my first bf to come over to my house and my mom likes him and yeah i dont know what to do should i say its over? or keep going on with my miserable heart=(? help me!! (link)
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dearest, like i've said a million times before, go with your heart. just staying with him is liveing a lie and i'm sure it'll hurt him to know that your just staying with him cause you think you need, hes the first guy to come to your house, and your mom likes him. Your mom may influence your decision, but girl i'm bettin your mom wants you to do what you feel is right and what you feel you need to do, i don't think your mom will mind if you break up with this guy, i mean you can still be friends! well i dunno if i helped any! good luck!
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ha ha ha...ok... Well now, there was this one guy who i went out with for like 5 months. let's call him josh*. And we broke up before winter break. And he claims to still like me and he knows i still like him... but everyone guy around me keeps telling me that he's just using me and stuff, when i ask josh about it, he goes don't belive them. And we both trust each other and everything, that's why we never got into a fight while we were going out. But here's my problem. One of my friends asked him if he thought we should just go back out again. And she said he told her that he's not sure, and he doesn't have time for a GF right now. And i totally understand because he's really athletic and he has bball and baseball and track's about to start soon. So i mean i don't kno what to do. Sometimes we go to the mvoies on the weekend, and we kinda make out a little. so i mean. i don't know whether i should still pursue to like him and everything if it's going to go no where. So? wat do u think i should do? find someone else? or go after him? oh and there's really no one else i like at this school. Oh and josh always says he likes no one but me still, and he doesn't but i really wanna go back out and i just don't know what to do!..help me. (link)
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I think you should express your feeling to him, he might understand. and if nothing works out quit as fast as you want it to, then look for another guy, still keep him there, left him know a spots still open--if your still single-- and you still care for him if he changes his mind. i'm sure theres many others guys out there that have their eyes on you and you don't know. if you see a guy you may like go talk to him and get to know him.
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what is a good way to ask a heavy metal guy to a prom?! and when should i ask him cuz our prom is in may. (link)
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just plain out ask your "heavey metal friend" to the prom, dosn't matter how you ask it, if they wanna with you go they will.
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ok so i go out with this guy and lately i've been getting jealouse of other girls becuz he lik flirts with them rite in front of me and i feel like we dont even go out and i dont wanna brake up with him like right be for valentines becuz he has like this big thing planned...what should i do..o ya i like this other kid ( i have for a long time)HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
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i think you should break up with him now and get it over with. it so rude to break up with a guy after valentines day becasue he has something planned for you, think about it if you spent a whole buncha money on someone then they dumped you the day or 2 after? wouldn't you feel bad? isn't that just selfish and mean.
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See i like this kid hes mad nice funny mad cute .. u kno ,, he got it all .. but i am in a relationship .. and i dnt no what to do ? what should i do .. thank you ! xoO* (link)
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go with your heart, which one do you like most. if you pick that other guy over you boyfriend, wait a few weeks or something, so your boyfriend isn't hurt that you imediatly have someone else. OH OH and you should see if the other guy is in a relationship also.
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This is mostly to the females out there: What is the most romantic- meaningful gift you've ever received? (link)
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this may not seem like much to you people, but for homecomeing i didn't get to go on a day date with my boyfriend, so i was bumed, but he ended up buying me real roses and a teddy bear. hes the only guy thats ever given me real roses! and he said a guy even offered him 50 dollars for the roses cause they were the last ones. i cryed when he pulled them out from behind my T.V!!!
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all my friends have boyfriends right now.. i feel so sad because i dont. im always around them with their boyfriends and see how loved they are. i just got out of a long relationship and miss just the feeling of being told "i love you" or just the feeling of being held in that special guys arms. i feel lonely and ive tried looking. theres no one for me to go out with that i like. please help before i go into a depression.
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girl, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy! just don't worry about it, a guy will come around soon you'll just have to wait like everyone else does. you'll be ok without a guy i promise. chin up, have fun and stop worrying about haveing a boyfriend!!!
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13/f ok..well adults always says how beautiful my sisters and i are but the thing is if im so "beautiful" then why are guys not asking me out or anything?? (link)
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they could be afraid of being rejected, i think guys and girls alike are afraid of rejection so that could be a major reason why. another reason is because maybe the guys are going for the easy/slutty girls right now and they know your not. but no worries, chin up you'll get a guy soon!
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There's this guy who i really really really like (lets call him Jo), but Jo told me that he really liked someone else and only wanted to be mates with me. However he's still been flirting with me and today he wasn't even bothered that his "crush" was there. He looked really chuffed when i laughed at his jokes and i caught him watching me. But later on his friend Bob and i were being really friendly and when i looked over at Jo, he looked kind hurt and gave me this really funny look. Later on I was talking to him on msn and he wasn't as friendly as usual. So i guess the question is do you think that he's maybe starting to like me and what do i do? Thanx, soz this is so long
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Sounds like "Jo" likes you but is afraid to admitt it, i'm sorry but i do not know what you could do, maybe be a little more careful with being friendly towards others guys around him...or maybe you could tell "Jo" how you feel about him, who knows you guys could possibly develop into something
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Okay sorry in advance if this is long...
Alright, well I'm kinda stuck on what I should do about this boy Kyle. Me and Kyle dated like about a month ago, we wanted to get back with eachother but he still was hurt and was missing his ex gf Nichole. She doesn't like him anymore than a friend and I think that hurt him a lot too. Also there is another girl in the picture, Molly. Kyle went out with Molly before me and after Nichole. He kinda admitted he used Molly for sex and other stuff and now she is attached and he says he hates her! He keeps switching from liking me and Molly but we know he likes Nichole. Well the other day I was talking to him and he told me he realized I'm the one he loves, he hates Molly and he is just friends with Nichole and she isn't going to play with his emotions anymore. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to go back out with him because he keeps changing his mind. Right now it seems his mind is set for a while, he told me he wanted to settle down. I don't think he would use me like he did with Molly because when we were going out he didn't force me to do ANYTHING at all and we went out for a month and I'm the one who made the first moves (We only made out lol which is kinda going slow) But when he went out with Molly, they had sex after 3 days. I don't know what to do...I really like Kyle and I don't know if I can believe him...anyone know what I can do?? And if you are just going to say, forget about him...please don't even reply...it's easier said then done!! (link)
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Sounds like your friend kyle here needs to make up his mind, I think hes just saying he likes people just to like them ,i don't think he really likes only one person he likes all three of you and is trying to say he likes you and hates the rest so he can get you, and if it dosn't work out with you, he'll move on to the next girl in line. But thats just what i think...i also think you should go with your heart, always listen to your heart, if it says go for him, then do it, if not then i'd advise you not to. hope i helped hope i didn't cause any hard feelings or offend. good luck!
-Aleasa
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SORRY SO LONG
okay i have been talking to this guy for a month or so...he is really sweet to me but im scared im gonna get hurt.(i was hurt badly in the last 5-6 months)so im kinda keeping my distince from him ya know?now he thinks im playing hard to get and i really like him!now hes going out with some girl he knows from highschool who happens to be a slut.hes been talking to her but only when he was drinking or needed some(he was never like that to me)im still talkking to him but should i even though he has a girlfriend.by the way if all goes well with us he plans on breaking up with her
i DO rate....
signed, confused
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well, it looks like you've gottin to know him so..i want say anything about getting to know him.
you could talk it out, get to really really know him...in a good none-sexual way, and you could take a good hour or 2 less if you want to and really think about if you want to be his girlfreind. he sounds like an ok guy so maybe you could talk to him about going out with him and seeing if you really want to go through with this. the whole thing that since you didn't go out with him, he decided to go out with a slut so when hes drunk he can get some. i'm not sure you want to go throught with him because of that aspect, he could be treating ou better because he wants some from you when you end up going out, but i could be wrong, you should relaly put some deep thought into this. good luck!
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My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I really like him still but today he asked out my ex best friend. She said no but told my friend she only said that because of me. She told her that she is thinking about saying yes to him. The thing is, she has always hated him. We broke friends because I spent too much time with him and now she's saying she's thinking about going out with him. We're still kind of friends but not as good as we used to be, she knows how I feel about him. I don't think she even likes him that much, why is she doing this? (link)
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I'm not sure I can give you very good a very good answer for this one, but i'll try. I think she may have secretly like him the whole time you were going out and what not, but did not want you to know so she wouldn't hurt your feelings? maybe now since you two aren't going out she feels that you don't have feelings for him anymore and thinks you'll be ok with it? I think you should tell her how you feel about this whole situation, she may understand how you feel and reconsider her decision.
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okay my b/f is really into me... like he says that i am his world and he's always saying how much he adores me... well the problem is he has a bad past. he slept around alot and i'm not into that. he knew from the start - before we even started dating - that i'm a proud virgin. he is cool with that but when we are in public, ike at the mall or something, he cant keep his hands off me. it's really embarrasing and i dont know how to react. how can i confront him about this??? Please Help!! (link)
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I don't know if this is much help but, talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and what you wild like to happen and stop happening. If he really cares for you he'll chill out, repect your wishes, and work on changeing that habbit, i hope i helped you! good luck!
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ok well my bf and i have been dating for about 3 months and valentines day is around the cornor and i don't know wat to get him! i don't want to get him something really stupid that hes not gonna like but i want to get him something that shows i really love him! so if u have any ideas! let me know! thanks a bunch
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Make him a really BIG cookies maybe shaped in a heart, its better (in my opinion) to make a big sugar cookie, cause then you can decorate it and what not, belive me, he'll like it...well every boyfriend i've given a giant cookie does so yeah! have fun, and good luck.
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Hey, so here is the thing. My BF and I were really happy, we loved eachother (and still do.) but what happened was he was supposed to move to virginia last month. So we broke up b\c we didnt want a long distance relationship. But then he ended up not movin. He told me this recently and now the girl who ALSO wants him is makin moves b\c we are not officially together again! So now the girl, Amber asked him to the dance and he said YES!!! But then he kissed me and said he wud go with me!!! I feel bad for him cuz hes hot and ever1 want him but i feel bad for ME b\c my bf MIGHT me a playa! What in the world should i do?!?!?!?!
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First off, the whole give him sex advice that XxXhypergirlXxX gave you, that is definatly a not, he would still cheat on you if you gave him sex, and sex before marriage is so dumb, anywho. Sounds like your boyfriends two-faced, I don't think he really loved you, if he did you would be back together again and he would have told the girl no. And another thing, looks are nice, but being hot isn't everything, in the end looks don't matter and hot fades away. And no i'm not some 30 something year old women...i'm 15, i just opened my eyes sooner.
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