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New Feelings
I just recently got asked out, and I said yes to make them happy. But, after the first day I'm already feeling crappy. I find myself comparing him to my first relationship, because it was so wonderful. My question is does this feeling ever go away? Can a relationship that starts off with no spark ever get better?
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To start off, u never EVER go out with someone "just to make the happy", cause in all out reality your going to make them miserable if they find out your honest to god reason for going out with them, and it also makes you feel miserable! You-at the moment- are liveing a lie, a hurtful lie. you need to break up with this person because nobody deserves to be lied to when it comes to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. you also need to get over you first relationship, its a memory, not every relationship will be the same, everyone will usually be way more diffrent then the first. well i hope i helped! good luck!
-Aleasa
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Just because you don't feel a spark right away doesn't mean the relationship cant turn into something better.If you think it's worth it,give it some time.After a couple weeks if you still feel miserable,it's time to say buh bye.
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This kinda thing has happened to me and I said yes to him because I didn't wanna be mean but after the first day I felt like an idiot! But the answer to your first question is no and also to your second is no. If you don't like him I think you should break up with him because otherwise he'll fall in love with you and you won't be able to return that feeling and when he finds out that it's not the same for you he will get very upset. So make sure whatever you do do not waste time break up with him!
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yes it can work out... and most likely the feeling will go away! when i first started dating my boyfriend now... there was no spark but eventually overtime we got closer... and everything became so much better... we are now very much in love and everything is so perfect... if u feel like its just not working out though dont stay with him just to make him happy.... do what makes you happy. hope i helped
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I felt the same way. The feeling is only there if you have feelings for your old guy. Try to get over him first, and than the feeling would be gone. try to get to know the guy better before assumin the relationship is dead
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you will never forget your first love, i know i wont, and you cant really tell that a relationship might not or may get better. it might just be that you are afraid of falling for this guy. If i were you, i would not go out with someone you dont like. That only leads to more pain. hope i helped!
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My humble opinion:
First of all, it's usually not a good idea to go out with someone to "make them happy" as you put it. Normally when someone asks you out, it's not just to chill, it's to start a relationship.
An answer to your question:
1) Does that feeling ever go away? Probably, if you have a better relationship than the first one--although if the first one was so wonderful, why are you no longer in it?
2) Relationships don't always need "sparks" to be good ones. So yeah, it's possible for this to get better...but if you're feeling crappy, you might not want to suffer through the waiting process.
Advice which you are under no obligation to follow:
Perhaps you should tell this guy the truth: that you went out with him because you wanted to make him happy. See what he says/thinks, and if you're still feeling crappy, tell him you're sorry and move on.
Good luck!
P.S. Just please remember that guys are humans too, and they do have feelings...dating relationships shouldn't be thrown around lightly.
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