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ok so here it goes. im 13,f, and one of my best friends is 14,f. well she went out with this kid whos 15, m, and they were pretty serious for like 4 months. well one day SHE broke up with HIM for reasons unknown. he has had relashionships after, yet she hasnt. anyways its been at like 6 months since they broke up and hes obviousley gotten over her but she jsut cant shake him. anyways, over the last couple of weeks me and him have been hanging out and tonight he had his arm around me and we were like makign out and stuff. i honestly dont know if this is just like a friends with benefits thing or if he wants something more, but either way... i dont know whether to tell my friend or not. i mean i like him now, and theyve been over for like 6 months and SHE endded it. i would feel awful if she had like legit feeelings for him but i wanna be able to be with him freeely. any suggestions on how i should handle this? thank you so much sorry this was sooooo amazingly long,

Honestly, I think you should stick by your friend.
Because I have learnt from experience that boys come and go, no matter what they say, how much you two 'promise' you will be together forver. In the end promises are just words.
And best friends mean more than ANYONE in the world.
Remember if she is a truely genuine good friend she will be the one who will still be there for you when the time comes when you and this boy aren't together anymore.
You don't want to go and wreck a great friendship over the sake of a boy who you aren't going to stay long with anyway.
I know that sounds harsh, but that is reality love. You are only young, it is stupid to believe you can be with the boy you like now. You will have many boyfriends in your lifetime. Now when you're young its just time to have fun.
But friends stick by you for life.
Also, think about what your best friend would be feeling about you and her ex. Imagine if that was you.

I hope I could help you.
Good luck. And I hope you do make the right decision.
xx

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alrightt so my ex boyfriend, whom ive gone out with for almost a year until about 3 months ago, is is alll of my classes this year. we sit by each other and laugh and joke around all the time. and the other day he even started playing with my hair, and tickiling me and stuff.(& he also text messages me or calls every single day) the problem is, i think im starting to like him again, and i really cant tell if he still likes me. my question is how do i tell if hes into me again ? or how do go about asking him about it? thanks.

This really sounds like he still likes you! I think you already KNOW that he's into you! You didn't say whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you. If you broke up with him then I'd definately say he really wants you back bad. If he broke up with you he obviously regrets it. When you are in a relationship with someone you need to be totally honest and be able to tell each other anything without fear. One day when you are mucking around just give him a friendly hug and see how he reacts. If you get a good reaction then keep flirting; more than likely you won't need to ask him out and one thing will lead to another!! Hehehe, just one of my little tricks! As I said before you should be able to tell each other anything. Just put on a brave face, take a deep breath and do it! More than likely he's feeling the same way as you - scared of asking. The quicker you do it the quicker it'll be over with; you won't need to worry about it anymore and you'll have your boyfriend back. The good things outweigh the bad.

Good luck, hope all goes well!

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ok so me and my ex have two classes together this year, and we sit by eachother in both of them. We are always flirt and joke around and then on friday he kiss me. Just out of the blue. Does that mean that he wants to get back together with me or what. Any help would be amazing.

I think he's not yet over you! You should talk to him, find out how he feels, talking always helps I find. Think about it...were you the one to break off from him? If so he obviously isn't yet over you. Or was he the one to break off from you? If so he regrets it. Usually it takes quite a while for people to get over past relationships and most will always have a soft spot for their ex (depending on how bitter the break up was!). That's because you did actually love him once!

Hope this helps! :]

xox

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this guy likes me and i dont like him i dont know if i should tell him that i dont like him or wait for him to get over me? Help

Hi! Thanks so much for posting in my inbox, I really apprecite it!

Talking always helps you, I find. It lets you know how he feels and you can get your message across to him. If you just wait for him to get over you it could get more complicated than what it already is. You just need to tell him really nicely that you aren't interested and just don't think you are the right girl for him. Make sure you still stay friends though because that's really important and he'll need support while he's getting over you. If you're too scared to talk to him upfront you could always give him a letter, send an email, or tell him over MSN. Don't make it short and sweet though; that might just sound rude to him. You need to really let him know how you feel. Although first of all I would suggest that you really try hard to work up the courage to talk to him in person. Other forms of communication would be an absolute last resort.

Hope I could help you enough. If there's anything else you need to know you can post in my inbox again or send me an email. My address is: sexy_rexy_xox@hotmail.com (also listed in my column).

Best of luck with this.
xox

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what kinda of guy do 15 year old girls like i need this knowlege.. well i would like it i would feel more comfortable.. it would be nice if a girl my age could answer this to make this acerate.. just .. write down how you would like your lover to be like and just so i can explore differnt opnions from ppl thank you so much


15/m

I'm 16/f and I think that when a girl loves a guy it's for what's on the inside. A beautiful personality always gets me. We are all different so we are all going to have different answers. I think it's really shallow when girls say "Oh, I only like tanned surfy guys with blond hair". I think it doesn't matter what you are like on the outside and I'm sure a lot of girls would agree with me. You can't go past a great, fun, caring personality. Just be yourself.

Good luck!

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iam kinda short about 5''6 do girls liek taller guys.. im kinda skinny to .. but i dno i have a fast metabilism and i need to eat more cause im all about fitness and working out but .. im geting results but not bulky ones i want to be the one thos girls stare at for once


15/ m

I'm just the same as you, really short for my age and pretty thin. A girl won't not like you just coz you're short! It's what's on the inside that really counts! The special thing about you is that when a girl loves you she won't care what height you are or how thin you are, she'll love you for you and won't want to change a thing.

Well yeah, I guess every girl has a dream guy though. My boyfriend is my dream guy! haha, I wouldn't change him for the world. His personality is what gets me, like I said before. And he is skinny like you, but I love that about him. See, lots of girls love skinny guys!! And he's really tall and loves the fact that I'm really short. So I guess it just depends on the type of girl you are into and the type of guy she's into.

Thanks for the feedback. Means heaps when people give good feedback!

Hope I helped!

xox

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k so i know i dont have that good of self confidence.. does it atract girls or turn girls off if so tell me how i can change this please.. i have a problem with being happy with myself

15/m

It depends on the type of girl. I personally don't like it when guys are so overly self confident, I think it makes a lot of us stand off a bit. But the shy guy is always appealing to a lot of girls. Just be yourself because if you put on an act a girl will like you not for who you really are but for what they see. Everyone is different and that's what makes us so special. The world would be a pretty boring place if we were all the same!

Hope this helps.

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Do guys dig chicks with glasses? I need to get glasses I think, and I'm already short, fat, and kind of ugly. Now I need glasses. Now will the boys think I am uglier than before?

Everyone is beautiful, no matter what, both inside and out so don't even think for a second that you aren't! I'm short for my age; I'm 16 but I'm like the height of a 12 year old, haha. But I love it now. That's what makes us special.

Glasses are actually really kewl right now. Heaps of celebs are wearing them too. Not all glasses are the same; when you go to the optometrist (or wherever you will buy your glasses) they will help you choose which type of frame will best suit your face. Then you get to choose from a wide range of awesome colours, shapes etc. You can get sunglasses which are prescription also and glasses that change to sunnies when you go outside in a different light! How cool is that?!

My boyfriend's little sis wears glasses for reading and stuff and when she puts them on she looks sooo cute. So don't worry they can actually make you look better! haha.

If you want to have a look at the different styles, frames and colours you can get head to this site for a look:

http://www.framesdirect.com/

They've got some pretty neat stuff there.

Best of luck with this, hope I could help you.

xox

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alrite well i have never kissed a guy before and my boy friend wants to french kiss me i want him to but im very very very nervous seeing as i dont now what to do someone please explain to me i really dont want to make a fool out of myself please!! thank you so much xx

Ok the first thing you've gotta do is stop freakin' out!! Haha, don't worry it's nerve-racking for everyone one their first time. It's a natural thing so as soon as you start you'll just slip into it. Try letting him take the lead to start off with and maybe let him know that you're a bit nervous cause you haven't done it before. If he's a nice boy he'll understand and look after you! ;)
Have a look at this site for some french kissing tips:
http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm
Hope this helped you! If you need anything else just post one in my inbox.
Good luck!! ;)

sexy_rexy xox

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