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my friend is wanting to run away and commit suicide. she was abused with drugs and is planning to kill herself by them. i am suicideal she stopped me when i tried to kill myself now im stopping her but i cant other than tell her how much ill miss her and everything but if she dies ill die right after because i cant live without her. she stopped me by doing that once and another time from cutting grabbing the knife from me and stopping the bleeding i love her. i realize all id miss but i still am suicideal. i will not go to anyone for this only our friends know and one of our friends will be with her all the time. whoever is when she is trying to run will run away with her but not let her kill herself. she was abused by drugs and physically she went from family to family all when she was very young and were 13 now. i need to help her only by our friends. if i was her id be dead by now. are we right for doing this? how else do i help her? i will not get anyone else involved its what she wants but well stopp her if not ill be with her always.

yes, u guys are right for trying to stop her from committing suicide. if you really want to help her, you should tell an adult you can trust. you probably thinking that you shouldn't, but if you're 13, you still have alot to learn & can't solve every problem by yourselves.if you don't want to tell an adult, here are a few websites that may help her & you:

http://www.sprc.org/featured_resources/customized/teens.asp

http://www.cyberpsych.com/suicide.html

http://www.dmoz.org/Kids_and_Teens/Teen_Life/Suicide/

i hope i helped !! if you ever need any more advice, feel free to email me at nene27612@yahoo.com

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so heres the deal, other people think that im like well pretty, im always getting asked out by guys and that but the thing is..when ever it comes to taking a picture on a camera, of my self, i look TERRIBLE!!!! and it takes me like FOREVER to get a good one. has any1 got any ideas?!?! (i have this new friend on msn and i need a pic for him)

grateful for any replies
xxxxxx

wow you sound like me. people always say that i'm pretty and things like that but i don't always feel that way.
here are some ideas that i sometimes do:
-style my hair a different way(sometimes a bang on one side of my face to slightly cover one of my eyes)
-wear certain clothes that show off my body shape
-taking pictures that only show my "good side"

hope i helped!!!
mizz_nene

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I eat 3-5 small meals a day. Is that bad for me or better than eating 3 large meals?

Actually, eating small meals is healthier than eating big meals. Alot of health experts recommend it.

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at homecoming i danced. unfortunatly i danced like a complete slut. at least i felt like i did... i am not a slut though. i was just freaking with my date and we were doing it front to back, and we would sometimes get low. then we danced front to front, and we would 'get low' again. i am so ashamed!!!!!!


p.s. we werent kissing or anything.


would peoples impression of me lower? i am known to be the good girl and be all proper and reserved. i guess i was having to much fun out there. =(

If everyone thought that you were a "good girl" and "all proper and reserved", they most likely do see you in a different way now. But this might not be bad. Maybe they see you as someone who can have fun 2! And you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself! You were just having fun. But you will always have those "haters" who may call you a slut. Don't worry about them though. Giving in to them would be worse than being called a slut.

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I remember those days, when only love mattered, when pain and happiness werent the same.. i miss tem so much, and im not quite sure how to geth them back. I feel like Im not living..im just..doing. I havn't forgotten how it used to feel, to be alive, though,, as soon as i hear a song from those days i get the feeling back, even if its pain..i miss it, sooo much, i miss it. i feel as if nothing i have matters, and i dont know what ive done to become a different person or have my life changed, but i don't like it. I miss my old life so much, I fear i wont ever get it back, like those were the old days..they're gone now, and now..this is my life. please help me.

Wow...you're in a serious state of depression. The only thing I can tell you to do is to snap out of it!!! You were put on earth for a reason, and I'm sure it wasn't to mope around! Sorry, but I just had to tell it like it is. I'm sure something must make you happy besides some song! Get out and do something! Just try to enjoy yourself and make the best of life. Live life to the fullest everyday because who knows? Life could be snatched away from you any second without warning. Don't get caught up in memories of "the old day", and make new and happy memories!

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14/f
how can you tell if a guy likes you?
like what does he do?

You might prefer a guy's answer, but I think my advice may help you out a little. When a guy likes me, they just talk to me alot and smile and stare at me...it's kinda weird, but also flattering at the same time.(lol)

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I am a teenage girl. I am completely SICK AND TIRED of being single and shunned by everyone I know. Lately I have started drinking. Actually it's a bottle of my parents' red wine that I have taken and hidden from them. Every day since about a week ago I have been drinking about 2-3 sips of it every day. (which is a lot for me) I used to get headaches and feel bad after I drank, but now I feel really good- like it's the only thing that can make me happy. I don't really get hangovers anymore either. Maybe this wine is really strong or something, but I feel the affects of it (without getting drunk) after this small amount. I feel all gross the next day until I drink again. And I fall apart and shake and start crying if I don't drink some. It usually sends this tingling sensation all through my body (similar to sexual desire) and I get really horny. Like I feel like i could masturbate for 5 hours. Then, whatever is upsetting me at the time comes back and I have another emotional breakdown. Please tell me if you think I have become an alcoholic or not.

SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY!!! I don't even know you, but I am kinda concerned for your health. I'm not really the person who can diagnose you, but I really think you should see a doctor or somebody who can help you. You might be REALLY depressed and just need somebody to talk to. I'm always here so feel free to ask me anything. But what you really need to do is get rid of the wine, and just get help.

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heres the deal i have been going out with this guy for about a week and it is obvious to me that things are going no where there is just no spark so can someone please tell me how to break up with this guy gently because he is nice just not boyfriend nice for me.

Wow...deja vu!!! this has happened to me 2. The best thing to do is to tell him how you feel, and maybe you can still be friends. Whatever you do, don't call him, write him a note, or tell someone else to break up with him for you. You should tell him 2 his face. I understand that you don't want to break his heart, but not telling him to his face will just make matters worse.

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15,f missouri
there is this guy that i like, we go to the same school and we hang out alot, he knows that like him, and he says that he likes me, but he isn't doing anything about it. My dad said that i can't ask out a guy, it is forward and unapporpriate. So my question to you is how do i convince him that it is ok to ask me out. he flerts w/ me all the time, and i flert back, but i don't know, any help is appriciated. Thanks in advance
~Ash

Ok yeah...I'm not saying that your dad is wrong, but asking a boy out isn't necessarily "forward and unappropriate". If this guy likes you and hasn't already asked you out, maybe he is too shy or is planning to. But if you don't want to wait around for him to ask you, then I think you should ask him out. How is a girl asking a boy out any different from a boy asking a girl out? Even though boys are usually the ones asking the girls out,in this case I think it's ok.

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Months ago my ex-bestfriend (was my best friend) started a fight with me, (to make the story short), and ever since that we haven't spoke to each other, which has been now 4 months.

I am currently hanging out with a new crowd of people. Some I have known for awhile before my ex-friend and I am happily getting along with them, and never think about my old friendship. I feel confident that I don't need her and I feel like I am much stronger without her.

However, every time she walks by I get this "adrenaline-rushed" feeling that she might go up to me and go off on me, because she is the kind of person that would. I don't know why I get that way, when I feel soo much better without her, and that when she isn't around I could care less what she has to say. Maybe deep down I am afraid of her? Although when she is not around I feel like she is nothing that she is just a waste of time and thought. And it changes when she is nearby.

I am one of those people who don't like to fight and get up in front of someone's face and "tell it like it is". I use alternative ways such as negotiating or just ignore the person. So, what I am asking is, how can I deal with this "adrenaline-rushed" feeling when she is around, and how can I stop it?

Thanks in advance!

I had the same problem with one of my friends...except it turned into an actual fist-fight. We didn't talk for a very long time, which was about 4 months also. The only way I see that you can stop this feeling you get when you're around her is to make-up. You don't have to be best friends like you were before, but it still would feel nice to "clear the air" wouldn't it? That's what me and my friend did, and I personally think it was much easier to be able to walk down the hallway and not have this feeling inside...kind of like the same feeling you had. I don't think that you are afraid of her. Maybe you just want to avoid a huge argument that will only make the situation worse. So my best bet is to make nice and try to be "associates", if not best friends again.

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i am 14/f and i i have this white chalky stuff on mii underwear and i have no idea what it is i am a virgin! however i have masterbated b-4 so0o n-e help will be great!!!! thanks!

There is no need to be worried! it's just discharge.

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ummm i bought this shirt and i plan on wearing it tomorrow, but i have a underarm sweating problem.
but i wanna wear the shirt tomorrow, it's a loose shirt but what can i do to reduce the amount of sweat, or not have it be noticable?

i need to know REALLY quickly, like within 3 hours!!!


thanks soooo much in advance

mwahhh

Try some stronger deodorant, or just bring some with you where ever you're goin. And try puttin on a extra t-shirt so the sweat isn't as noticeable as it would be without it.

Hope you can figure out wut to do!
Mizz nene

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ok, 14/f
so theres this guy at my school, we'll call him michael. he was my bf for almost 1 yr but then we broke up bc we couldnt actually go on a real date. idk, it wasnt ever a problem before. and he's the first person i've ever liked. hard to believe but its true, and i love him so so much. but then theres one of my best friends, we'll call him dylan. now that i'm not going out with mike dylan wont stop asking me out (sry, that sounds kinda conceited) but its getting to the point where its multiple times a day and its really making our friendship awkward. i cant avoid him but i dont want to go out with him. and i've said this multiple times. i still love michael so so so much and i dont wanna go out with anyone else. we might be getting back together but we might not. i dont know what to do

Well, I've had this problem too. I broke up with this boy, and now one of my friends is flirting with me constantly, and asked me out too. If michael can't respect the fact that you can't go out with him somewhere, then he's not right for you. He probably got tired of not being able to go anywhere with him, but he decided that was ok when you 2 started goin out. Idk wut to tell you abouot dylan...just keep tellin him you are not interested. Maybe you can tell him you have another boyfriend at another school. Back to michael...you can't just sit around waitin for michael to come back to you. Even though it will be hard, try to move on if he doesn't day anything about goin back out in a week or so.

I hope you're relationship turns out!
Mizz nene

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Ok, so I was at my school confrence about a few days ago.. and so it was just me, my parents, and my teacher. WELLLL... I was talking in front of them about my grades and I was so nervous that I farted! And it was loud! My face was bright red from embarressment... so my question is-
The next time I feel like i'm going to fart... does anybody have any tips on how to hide the smell and sound.. or actually have any tips on how to hold it back? Oh my gosh, thanks so much! That was such an embarressing time for me.

Ok first, embarrassing things happen to everybody! But here are some tips if you really have to fart and you can't hold it in: If your in class or where ever you are, find an excuse to walk somewhere and then let out your farts as you walk. And if you can't find and excuse to get up, try spraying some perfume so nobody can smell it. And if those don't work, hold it in with all your might! LOL

Hope these suggestions work!
Mizz nene

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well their this boy and we went out for like 3 months and in that 3 months he told me he loved me and then i realized that he meant it and that i loved him too! well their was rumors going around about him cheating on me and i believed but in my mind i knew it wasnt true i just didnt want to look stupid if it was! so i decided to get him back by kissing someone n front of his friends so that they will tell him and he would get mad! well that happened and he really got mad and broke up with me i was hurt but at that time i still kinda believed the stories! so we didnt talk 4 a while but we hung out at the same place! i knew he still liked me and he said sorry 4 the rumors and i said sorry 4 listening to them well we started to go back out but he wasnt the same as the first time! we finally had sex the second time we went out but after that we didnt talk that much! i just realized i still loved him and i think he may still love but even thought we havent talked in a while but i miss how he use to be and i just wanna kno wat should i do? i tried moving on but i keep realizing i love him plz tell me wat i should do i need help really bad!!!!!!!!

First of all, never listen to rumors. Even though they might turn out to be true, you still should have asked ur boyfriend if it was true or not. Second, you never should have kissed another boy. Tryin to get back at somebody because you listened to the rumors could hurt them. And you shouldn't have had sex wit this boy, because most boys just want to have sex wit u so they can tell all of their friends. That might be the reason why he doesn't talk to you now because he got what he wanted from you. I'm not doubting the fact that he loves you, but it still is a possibility that he just wanted sex. Maybe he'll say somethin 2 you when he's ready, or maybe you should just approach him yourself.

Hope you decide wut's right!
Mizz nene



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