my friend is going to kill herself and she saved me before f
Question Posted Thursday May 31 2007, 1:17 am
my friend is wanting to run away and commit suicide. she was abused with drugs and is planning to kill herself by them. i am suicideal she stopped me when i tried to kill myself now im stopping her but i cant other than tell her how much ill miss her and everything but if she dies ill die right after because i cant live without her. she stopped me by doing that once and another time from cutting grabbing the knife from me and stopping the bleeding i love her. i realize all id miss but i still am suicideal. i will not go to anyone for this only our friends know and one of our friends will be with her all the time. whoever is when she is trying to run will run away with her but not let her kill herself. she was abused by drugs and physically she went from family to family all when she was very young and were 13 now. i need to help her only by our friends. if i was her id be dead by now. are we right for doing this? how else do i help her? i will not get anyone else involved its what she wants but well stopp her if not ill be with her always.
Additional info, added Thursday May 31 2007, 5:06 pm: One of our friends will ALWAYS be with her.
When we were 12 she grabbed the knife from me cutting her own fingers so bad then stopping MY bleeding and another time i will not say.
She saved me life by herself a few times she kept others out and it helped alot more.
im nothing without her.
Me thinking about all this even all that happened in her life that i wont write i would be long gone but she lasted she has a purpose. i will run with her if she does, its decided.
torresjasmyne answered Thursday May 31 2007, 5:02 pm: If your friend is like this and you want to help her then try and get her into a rehab as quick as possible and never give up onher no matter how hard things gyet just let her know that there are people out there that care about her very much and would miss her if she was gone. If that doesn't work then tell her how you feel and if she values her friendship then she wont do that. [ torresjasmyne's advice column | Ask torresjasmyne A Question ]
ductape_n_roses answered Thursday May 31 2007, 2:36 am: I know you said you don't want to go to anyone else but your friends but think about this: It's better to lose a friendship/trust than the friend herself.
You need to talk to someone right away. Look up phone numbers for suicide hotlines. You need help and she needs help.
Other than that, you need to keep her by yourself 24/7. Make sure she understands that you need her and that even if she kills herself, there's not gonna be any difference other than misery for her friends. If she dies, she won't be able to laugh or be happy and she won't be able to do things that are unbelievably amazing. Make her promise you that she'll stay alive as long as you're alive. If she dies, she's going to involuntarily kill you, too. And if she truly cares about you, she'll promise. Make sure she knows that she's an important part of your life and she saved you from death and if she dies, you're going to fail and feel guilty because you're going to feel like you killed her. [ ductape_n_roses's advice column | Ask ductape_n_roses A Question ]
I'm afraid all I can really do is back up what the other two have said before me.
I can understand fully that you don't want to seem like you are going behind your friends back because something like that - she wouldn't like it and may even be very angry at you for it. But as someone else already said, you're 13. I don't mean that in a patronising way or anything at all but if she really is serious about wanting to kill herself you and your friends will need some serious help to deal with this. It may not be something you all can just handle on your own. A friend of mine lost someone in the same fashon and she refused to tell anyone prior to it happening. Imagine how she felt afterwards when she lost her friend. To this day she still blames herself for not doing enough. That will be the last thing you and your friends need as a burden to carry through life.
I can understand how much you care and love her but as someone said, if you really dolove her so much you owe it to her to do everything you can in your power to make sure she is safe and more importantly gets help to deal with the things she is going through. Your friend is clearly in a very deep state of depression and it can be a very dangerous thing especially when the only path you see is suicide.
If you need to talk by all means please do write me in my inboxbut I do strongly urge that if she is very serious about wanting to kill herself then you seek out some help from an adult who is in a position to help her. You said yourself she helped you once but you are still not completely over what happen to you. There is only so long one of you can keep an eye on her to prevent her from doing something and even then it's not an easy task being with someone 24/7. If she is seriously that determined to cause herself harm she will eventually find a way to do it. [ ammo's advice column | Ask ammo A Question ]
crack_is_wack answered Thursday May 31 2007, 1:52 am: You're not going to like this answer, so go ahead and give me a bad rating.
You need to talk to an adult RIGHT NOW. It can be a teacher, your parent, her parent, anyone you trust. YOU MAY THINK YOU CAN HANDLE THIS ON YOUR OWN, BUT YOU CAN'T. I understand that talking to an adult about this kind of thing is difficult, but if your friend is really serious about killing herself, then you owe it to her to do everything you can to stop her. If you love her as much as you say, you'll do what you need to to protect her. Maybe she'll get mad at you at first for telling someone when she said not to, but eventually she'd see it was worth it if you were able to save her life.
mizz_nene93 answered Thursday May 31 2007, 1:45 am: yes, u guys are right for trying to stop her from committing suicide. if you really want to help her, you should tell an adult you can trust. you probably thinking that you shouldn't, but if you're 13, you still have alot to learn & can't solve every problem by yourselves.if you don't want to tell an adult, here are a few websites that may help her & you:
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