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Hey whattsupp, my names Erin, but i sign E whenever I answer a question. I'm a sophmore in high school. I used to run, but strained my back and now i'm done. I love track so if you need any help in that I'm your girl! I'm love giving advice and helping people with their problems. I've been through so much in 15 years, that I can pretty much help anyone. Feel free to ask me anything I'd rather tell you that i don't know than give you a bad or wrong answer.
I love clothes so i'm best at answering questions about style or fashion. When I grow up I want to be either an actress or a fashion desighner. So these are my best subjects! Butt, I can help in pretty much all of them :). Please feel free to ask me anything, I'll ALWAYS answer to the best of my ability, and come on here as often as possible!

-E!

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i've dated my boyfriend for only 1 month and now we're together, we haven't fought at all yet but he hasn't changed his relationship status and has the tendency to call other girls "love" the nickname he calls me. and recently, i saw him write on this girls wall saying how she stole his "wife" his old wife used to be his girl best friend. but they're not best friends now.

It obviously bothers you, so you need to tell him. Explain to him what he does. Just say that you feel like he is still acting single etc. Then it is up to you two to work it out. All you can do is talk to him and work it out.

If you need more help, or any other help drop a question in my inbox!

-E

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my boyfriend has kissed 5 girls but was only together with 2 of them, what kind of guy does that make him?

A lot of people kiss before they are together. Therefore, it is possible that he was going to get together with all of them just something came up with 3 of them.
Personally, I wouldn't be bothered. I would focus on how he is with you and how he treats you. His past is his past. He has found someone else, you. I would stop stressing and just go with it. I mean people have kissed hundreds of people while only being with 5. It is nothing to worry about unless he is cheating on you with them. That, my friend, is a whole other question!

-E

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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.

Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.

Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.

I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D:

I think you will be fine. If he looks down upon you then he isn't the guy for you. I think this will really determine weather or not you guys should be together. I don't think you have anything to worry about, but when you tell him I think you should make it very clear that you are not interested in doing anything again etc. etc.
You will be fine. I honestly think you have nothing to worry about. All in all, if how you veiw yourself relys on one guy then I think you should take some time off the dating scene and find yourself. WHo you really are.
This may not be the case, but I am just letting you know!

Let me know if you need anymore help!
-E

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He told me he's not keen on girls with nerves of steel.
what does that mean?

That is weird. It is referring to someone that is vulnerable. It seems like a peculiar thing to say.
It almost seems like this would be the type of guy that would want to be in control and wants the women to follow his lead.-That is how I am taking it.

-E

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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"

that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?

ps i am 21 female

Do you want a man that treats you like this? I know that you can find better than this.
You are in a relationship, your not getting paid. Therefore,e you SHOULDN'T be babysitting!
Tell this creep to get lost.
The man that you first met, is gone. Now you see his true colors, and you don't like it. SO why are you still with him?
Good luck!

-E

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Hi I wanted to answer your questions about your responds to my question of should I stay or leave?

To my boyfriends sibilings, he brother disliked me without ever talking to me and told my boyfriend that i wasnt worth my boyfriends time. His sister liked me or so i thought but now got under the impression that i was calling her brothers or at least one of them a jerk when i wasnt. I was talking about things going on in my life. My boyfriend is constantly fighting with his parents over our relationship. His mom doesnt seem to like me very much but doesnt say anything to me, his dad totally nuetral.

I dont think i have done anything to his family to hate me or even dislike me this much. I avoid talking to them because i know they dont like me but they somehow look for me on facebook, myspace and things like that and cause a scene on the internet. I dont know if any of this make any sense to you because it really doesnt to me.

Oh yeah in case you forgot the question in the first place i'm 18 and a girl.

Wow. This is weird. I have never heard of a family making their son, well basicly miserable. He doesn't want to upset them, yet he likes/lives you. I think you should ask them to start over. Go over there for dinner.
It's weird that the brother doesn't like you. Usually brothers are cool. I would suggest starting over with everything.
NEVER SAY ANYTHING OVER THE INTERNET. It doesn't go away and they can show each other what you say- causing more hatred. Don't accept their friend requests on social sites. They shouldn't be creeping on you. Also, since you can send messages without bring friends, if they do send you a message, DO NOT respond. Don't start problems. Put your profile on privite.
So it is a lot of work. But I guess it comes down to how much you like your boyfriend. Are you willing to work at it. Is he the one?

These are questions you need to ask yourself. Let me know if you need help with this or anything else.

P.s I just remembered you said you are 18, you are going to college. Are you going to stay with him? Do you think you guys will last? Do you see a future with this guy? --- more questions!!!!


-E

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so ive been dating this guy for coming on 6 months not we are really close and we get along perfect.unfortunetly we dont go to the same school... at his school he has a friend that is a girl. lets call her...kim. anyways so kim has told him that he finds him cute and that his girlfriend (me) is the luckiest girl in the world.. also she is constantly wrighting in his face book wall and texting him.. she claims that she really wants to meet me and hangout with me but for some reason it really bothers me.
am i just being over protective? what should i do?

She does obviously like him, and wants to hang out with you to get dirt or something.
Go ahead if you want, but everyone is right, you need to trust your boyfriend that nothing will happen between them.
They are friends, so don't force him to not talk to him, but let him know that you feel she likes him. But not in an accusing way, just concerned.
It's totally okay for it to bother you. You are human. YOU ARE A GIRL. It happens.
Meet her if you want, be careful what you say. Don't trust her.--She is not your new BFF.
But let your boyfriend know how you are feeling, maybe ask him if you two should hang out.

Hope I helpe!
-E

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Hello i recently got married and my husband has pointed out that i argue with him a lot. I've noticed it too. Whenever he says something or points something out i always have to argue with him and tell him he's wrong. Like for example today he was telling me about a certain breed of dogs and their behavior and immediately without even thinking i started arguing saying thats not true. I've never been like that before. Also i tend to pick fights and get mad easier. Does anybody know why this is and how to fix it? I'm doing my best but i still pick fights and i dont want it to ruin my marriage :(

Thanks!

When something is of no importance, like the dog thing, just let it go. Don't comment. I do realize that you said you weren't even thinking, but try to think about things before you say it.
When you disagree with him say, "really?" as in explain more, so that i can see why you think that.
Also, let him know that you are going to try and work on this--so that he knows that you are trying and can't get mad if you do pick arguments, because you are trying to change.
Ask him to help point out when you do it. It will help you to understand why. Maybe, its because you are in a bad mood, the topic, or the situation.
Do something like, whenever you do it you have to give your husband a massage. Or something to motivate you to stop, but make him okay with you picking fights. Does that make sence?

Hope I helped!

-E

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I'm 18 years old and a girl. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half. We dont really fight much but when we do its usually about his family. They dont like me at all. Which i think its fine doesnt bother but what i dont like is that they want me to respect them when their constantly saying things about me and mean things to me. His older brother who's 23 calls me immature and tells me i need to grow up. He's always making fun of me and once he even said he's gonna burn his clothes because he touched me. if that isnt bad enough my boyfriends sister hates me too now i called someone a jerk and she thought i meant her brother and now is giving a bunch of crap when it didnt even deal with their family.
I'm tired of all theses things and i really dont know if i should break up with my boyfriend or just tell his siblings to butt out of it? Anybody got advice for me??

I wouldn't leave your boyfriend over this. Sit him down and talk to him. The other person is right, it is his place to say something. He needs to show that he cares what they say about you. It is rude on their parts, and they should know better. Even if he says something like "I am happy with her, and you guys need to deal with it", that would help. They just need to respect you. I do think you need to have some sort of respect for them--and given the circumstances, I understand why you don't. I'm curious as to why they don't like you. Did you do something? Maybe you did something that you didn't realize upset them. --I am not trying to put the blame on you, because them treating you this way is wrong. I think you should tell your boyfriend that you don't want to leave him, but you can't deal with this stuff anymore. Say that he needs to say something. And if he refuses, tell him that you are not sure that you can deal with it anymore. It is hard to constantly be around that negative energy.
If you did want to say something to his siblings, simply sit them down and just talk to them. Just be like, can we start over. If they say no, then say that you would rather avoid each other. Where you are not talking about each other, and you try not to interact with them unless you have too.
How are the parents to you? Do they see this, and say something? Or, do they agree with the feeling of hatred towards you?
If in a while, nothing changes then you should seriously consider if you want to be around this behavior. You diserve a boyfriend who can stick up to people for you.

Hope I helped
and if you need anymore help, feel free to leave a question in my inbox!

-E

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Hello i asked a question about a month ago about my husband leaving for Afghanistan and how i was super emotional. He leaves in a few weeks and I've been noticing we've been not really fighting but arguing a lot more than we usually do, even about little things. I feel like I'm the one disagreeing more and in a sense causing the start of the "fight" Can anybody explain to me why this is happening? I know you don't know our relationship but we've always had a very strong and open one. Its just these past couple weeks everything is building up on me, stress, emotions etc. why am i taking it out on him? I dont want to fight with him as he leaves :( Somebody help!

It sounds like your angry. Not at him but at the situation. That you don't want him to go, but you know that he has too. If I were you I would sit him down and explain that your getting into fights with him because you're basicly mad that hes leaving you. Just let him know that you don't want to fight anymore, and you want your last few days together to be fight free.

-E

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i like two boys who should i choose or what should i do?????

The first one.

JUST KIDDING.
How are we supposed to know? You didn't say your type, what you like about each one, pros and cons?
We can't make this choice for you even if you do want us too. It is up to you.
Make a pro con list. Put there names in a hat-ONLY because if you pick one and you feel disipointed then you know its the other one you should go with. Or if you pick one and you are happy then go with him.
We can't make this dicition for you, sorry hunn!

-E

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i love my husband very much and we have no problem other than he watches porn and looks at other women i tell him that it called cheating.but he always denies it but i see it in the history of my computer on on the tv how can i stop him .what should i do.if he keeps lieing

He obviously donesn't consider porn cheating. He thinks that you need to be physicly with another women. IF this is not what you think then sit him down and tell him.
Give him and ultimatim. Say its you or the porn.
Suggest ways to help him kick this habbit tell him that you know it is going to be hard, but you are willing to help him through it and be there for him.

Hope I helped

-E

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oka.. theres this boy i am like basically in love with well only problem is is that hes with another girl yet wants ta be wit me but jus donno how to let er go cuz hes been with her for so long how do i sho him im the one he should be wit

I would just tell him flat out. Be like you know I like you. and you like me. But you are hurting me and the girl your with. She thinks he likes her and hes hurting you. Tell him he needs to pick and if its not you then you don't want anything to do with him.
You don't want to be that girl that is always there for him and that he can use. --why should he break up with 1 girl for another when he could just stay with the girl hes with and have you on the side?
Besides, if he isn't going to pick you you probably don't want this guy that you are in love with around you 24/7. Without him around you could get over him faster. if at all.

Hope I helped
-E

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would it be weird if i dated one of my taekwondo instructors? he is 18 im 16, were both interested in eachother he even called me beautiful last class

I guess it is up to you. If you would be embaressed to be seen with him or hes going to make class weird then don't do it.
I would talk to him about maintaining a sence of professionalism in class. He shouldn't be calling you out.
But if you won't make it akward then go for it. Every situation is awkward if you make it. Just talk to him like hes anyone else, but don't act like a couple in class. THAT would be awkward for everyone else.

Hope I helped
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-E

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Well , me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year . &+ He says he loves me and stuff, &+ He got a condom . He wants to have sex, and his birthdays coming up... But idk what to do? Im still kinda intimidated by us having sex. Its not like im scared . It's just im nervous to. Idk what to do or how to do it? Help !

Its up to you. Don't have sex with him just because he wants you too. It does not matter if he bought a condom and is ready, if you are not don't do it. Ask anyone, even people on here, that people regreat having sex with the person they did/at the age they did/at the time they did etc. It is a huge decision. Not one to be made by him. I understand that you are not scared. Maybe-if anything-for his birthday flat out tell him I am not having sex but you can still dress up sexy and just have fun and do things with out totally having sex. THIS IS TOTALLY ONLY IF YOU WANT TO. He does not get to chosose when you guys have sex. You both do as a couple. Talk this out with him. If he is going to pressure you into this, he is not the guy for you.

Hope i hleped
-E

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I have known this guy for a year now we have been talking alot and i like him.. anyhoo he texts me every day after school and wants to hang with me and he says all this sweet stuff to me and was like thinking about someone lately and he finally told me it was me so what does he mean does he like me or what?

I would assume he does like you. Hang out with him!!
This may be your next relationshipp..


:)
-E

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I'm fourteen he's sixteen. He has mono. I can't kiss him. What am I supposed to do??

Its okay! You will survive. TRUST ME!

Alright, in all seriousness, this will only make your relationship stronger. Can you imagine that kiss when he gets better?! It is going to be great. When he gets better plan a special date. This will help you guys know you like each other.

Hope I helped!

-E

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so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice

Deffinetly talk on the phone. Look into going to a movie or something where you don't nessisarily have to talk the whole time. With a movie you can have that to talk about after. Maybe go to dinner so it doesn't look like you are totally avoiding conversation. Don't go to a party, make it 1 on 1. Just find out his intrests and what you guys have in common. If it's a good match the conversation will just flow and keep going. Don't worry about it being awkward- have fun!!

-E

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Hello, I am 16, and i am so sick of my life i really am. So far i ahve llost alot of my close friends,well what i thought was my best friends. They all left because well im not sure really.But have you ever just wanted to give up? yeh thats what i want to do really.give up. not sure what to do anymore. this life that everyone is talkinga about,this great life,is nothing but a lie.

I'm in a simular rut. But I am on my way out of it. Find something to be excited about! Join a new club or sport. Go to the community center and take a random class to find new interests! I wanted to give up too but you need to find something that you can put all your energy in to focus on and excel at! Try art, sewing, acting, cooking anything! Volunteering is really fun. You'll find something I know it. Life really is what you make it. IF you start having fun and trying new things you'll start to enjoy it agian.
Good luck
and let me know if you need anymore help!

-E

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so last night i was at a party, and i ended up hooking up with this kid..we were both kind of drunk, him more so than me. i drove him home after, and we had some fun in the car. The only problem is, he has a girlfriend that he has been dating for over a year. He called me last night and we talked for like 2 hours, and he wants to continue hanging out and doing things, but wants to keep it a secret. is it bad to be that other girl? i do like him and we hooked up a few times in the past before his girlfriend, and he is very sweet and charming, but i dont know if i want to risk being that other girl, and having his girlfriend find out. what should i do?

If you want to eventually be more, don't do it. Right now all he sees you as is a hookup. If you want to be with him you want to be exclusive. Why share your man? I understand if you like him but this is not the way to try and be with him. Your going to hurt your self as well as this other girl. You would hate it if he was cheating on you.
Bottom line, bad idea!

Let me know if you need anymore advise!

-E

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