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okay boyfriend trouble. i've been dating this guy for about a month now and im a little confused. i can tell he has very strong feelings for me and he knows i have strong feelings for him too. but he hasn't said i love you yet.. i don't get it. i mean all my ex's had said it way earlier than a month. he's almost said it like 3 times but i have this wierd feeling telling me he's afraid to say it cause he doesn't know what my reaction will be. i know im intimidating at times but i try to soften my expression whenever im with him. what can i do to make him not scared to say it? without losing my way of spitting game and without saying it first. any advice would be grand:) thank ya.
One month isn't a long time. And if you don't rush things it will all end out better... from experience haha. You can pretty much just make him feel comfortable around you and wait. Hope I helped:)
Me and this amazing girl i met last year around november time dated for a month or so. before her i hadnt had a GF for 7 years because i wasnt really all that interested in heart break (not that anyone is...) I fell for her HARD she was everything i ever looked for in a person, to cut a happy story short we broke up because she was moving for uni', its been about 3-4 ish months now since i was with her. i lost my virginity to her and she made me so happy it was unbelievable. but im still thinking about her everyday it used to hurt alot but now she just sticks in my mind for days on end remembering the night we spent... the moment we met... that first kiss and every little thing we talked about on that day.
I dont get out alot... which is probably why iv been single for so long. I dont mind being alone but i find i dont have alot of people to talk to anyway to vent this kinda stuff. i dont know any girls really... at least none that i could call my freinds, i did know a few but i dont really talk with them or see them anymore.
How do i stop thinking of her so much when i dont see any other girls to take my mind off of her?
Im incredibly shy around girls even more so if i like them. im 18 and i have a bunch of hobbies that include just guys or just me so i dont really get out alot and meet new people with them.
thanks for your time reading this
I also met an amazing guy, and he left me for another chick. My heart is still broken, because we went out for a year and he just left me even though he told me he loved me so much, all the time. Everything about him sticks into my head, I still have his clothes in my closet, and all of the presents he's ever given me. I don't get out a lot either and when I do it's with mostly girls. The reason I'm typing this is because I have the same question, but I don't really have an answer.
Sorry, I probably didn't help at all :( ha
15/male my girlfriend and i have been together just over 6 months shes also 15 and she wants to take things further weve only made out im a bit nervous about her seeing me naked my penis is not real big and im not sure she will still like me will it matter do girls care?
It doesn't matter if you guys love each other then the girls wont care. It's been proven that no matter what the size is, the pleasure is the same for the girl. It's mostly just a thing that guys like to brag about. Good luck, she shouldn't mind :)
15 yr old guy im gay and i really like a guy weve become real clsoe over the last few months and i think about him a lot and have developed strong feelings for him hes very friendly towards me i think he likes me too im not sure if hes gay so im a bit worried about being rejected i havent come out to anyone yet and im worried what people might think so im nervous to tell him how i feel so how do i find out if hes gay or not how can i tell him how i feel?
Hey, well I know it will be really hard to do but all you have to do is just come out and say it. Say look I really don't want this to ruin our friendship in anyways, but I'm gay. Or if you want to find out if he is gay or not before you bring it up, say hey I was wondering, what type of people do you like to date, guys? girls? both? Just act really casual.
Good luck, I really hope I helped and tell me how it goes!
I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months today, and it's just not the same. We both know things have changed. He told me he still loves me a lot, and i feel the same way about him, but we're bored. Nothing to do. I want to be with him so much, but it's just so frustrating and it hurts because he doesn't show me that he cares about me anymore the way he used to. I'm so tired of feeling so lost in our relationship, but I'm afraid of losing him. I love him and want to be with him, but I'm so tired of not feeling like he cares.
I've tried and tried talking to him about it and nothing really gets resolved, except that he still loves me.
Can anyone please help.
I really need any advice that can be given.
Thanks you.
This same thing happened to me at around the same time. It helps if you try new things like maybe going to a movie you wouldn't normally see or go to a party together or something. Also another thing that helped us a lot was trying new things in bed. Haha sorry tmi, but it does work.
If you still just don't feel the same about each other than maybe try to not hangout as much, so that when you do get to hangout it's really special. Don't do that for too long, but once you start getting the same feelings go back to normal.
I hope I helped :)
So after my couple of months revenge on my cheating ex-boyfriend, i have come to forgive, then turn to someone else xD (evil isn't it?)
Anyway his name is Jovon, we have been friends since the 7th grade but ever since the recent breajup, we have gotten much closer. Later on, i told him i had feelings for him (bad idea???) He told me that he likes me too, only thing is he doesnt just want to like me for my body. I completley understand: he's kinda known as a man-whore, he bounces from girl to girl for theirr bodies. He also told me he wanted to spend some one on one time with me, so he could get to know me better, that he didnt want me to be, "another fling" that i could be a promising girlfriend and lover (we are both freaks, so i saw that coming). I need some more opinions!!! Could he be real serious about me?? I mean he has fingered 3 of my classmates in short-term relationships (1-3 months)and then moves on. But if it was like the others he would've forced it on me...
Question: Should i ho for it??
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~Olie 14/f ;)
I think that the habit of cheating will always come back somehow in most cases but I don't know the guy. I don't think you should go for it right away, just spend time as friends and make him really care so much about you that he wont hurt you again.
If he is a true manwhore/player, he would know that the like "i don't just want you for your body" will work on a lot of girls.
So he could be telling the truth, or really just wanting to sweeten up to you. Be careful, and take it slow :)
I don't think 14 is way too young to start being serious, it depends on the type of person you are and everything. I'm 15 and I met the love of my life a year ago when I was your age. Too bad he didn't feel the same way. :(
Good luck :)
Welll me and my ex broke up in last october because he cheated one me with his ex girlffriend. We was in love . Den I met this boy . He was in my class . We started going out in december . We are goign strong for 9 months now . But its like now my ex wants to come along in the picture and idk y I let him . We are both in charge of the youth events in da church so its like we have to talk . And one day as we was planning something we kissed for a long time . I told my boyfriend because I dnt like to keep stuff from him . So my boyfriend didn't break up with me . Im so thankful but he said I need 2 choose between him or my ex. I dnt wanna be with my ex because he is da past . But I wanna cut my ex out . Well not out completely but I just feel like im not ova him . I lost my virginity to my currnet boyfriend and my ex got mad at me when I told him . My current boyfriend is very serious about realtionships and I like that . I just wanna know how can I get ova my ex .
I was in a situation similar to this a few years ago. You basically just have to think about how you felt when you found out that he cheated on you. Horrible I'm sure. And once a cheater always a cheater I believe is how most cases go. Just think about how much more of a potential this boyfriend is and how your ex obviously doesn't care about you too much if he cheated on you.
I'm sure he's a good person, but if you want to stop thinking about your ex you need to sort of get mad at him. Because if your just mad then you care and think less about the person.
Good luck :)
There's this girl in my class, and we were just sitting around talking, and she pulled a dollar out of her purse while she was digging for her phone and set it down for a minute, so i took and my uncle had taught me how to, so i made a ring out of it because i was bored, lol, and i set it back down. she smiled, and took it and was like, "aw, yes, i will" and we started laughing about it. Well anyways, later, i was singing 'I Want to Hold Your Hand', by the beatles, and i got to the part and said, "i hope you'll understand" and she was like, "I understand!"
Those are two specific things, but we flirt sometimes, and I asked her for her number so I could text her, and she gave it to me, but maybe just because we're friends. IDK!!!! ha, so, do you think she likes me..?
She DOES like you. Take it from a girls perspective. Yes, text her frequently and then ask her if she wants to go out to dinner and/or movie. If she takes a while to respond, say "just as friends"
Hope I helped :)
Early on in our relationship, my now live-in boyfriend of 1.5 years admitted to me that he had cheated on almost every girlfriend he had ever had. But since we fell in love a few months later, he swears up and down that I am different - that he would never cheat. He says he loves me, respects me, and that we have a long future together. To my knowledge, he has never given me a reason not to believe him.
Despite all this, I find myself becoming more and more suspicious of him as time goes by. I secretly look at photos of his old girlfriends on his computer, I google them, and I am especially obsessed with one old flame in particular - a girl I know he has cheated with in past relationships. I look at her blog, dream about them together, and have even started doing things in the bedroom that I remember him saying she used to do. I know that he isn't seeing her right now, but I am obsessed with the fact that they might have cheated on me in the past, or might again in the future. Things have even gotten so bad that even I search through his email for her name.
I hate what I am doing, but I can't seem to stop. My friends say that I am worried about getting more serious with him - closer to marriage, etc. - and that it makes me worry more about his cheating. But I don't think this is an excuse for the kind of behavior that I'm engaging in! I need advice to help me trust my loving boyfriend, and to stop these awful, snoopy habits. Please help!
It's perfectly normal to doubt a previous "players" actions when your not around. Just sit him down, talk to him and say. Look I know I can trust you with anything, and you are a great boyfriend, but knowing about your past, I sometimes question wether or not you've cheated on me in the past.
See where that conversation gets you, and hopefully he'll reassure you.
Hope I helped :)
So here's my situation. I started working at this sub shop back in June and I found out that one of the other employees was my brother's good friend. I'm 17, he's 20.
At first I thought he was...just not my type. I'm a straight-A student, graduated from high school 2 years early, pre-med, getting my AA degree next May, drank for the first time last June, hates drugs, etc. All that good stuff. Oh and I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss. I'm not a prude and I'm not a loser--I just have met a lot of loser guys and I haven't had any interest in any that have liked me back.
So on a few nights at work that weren't busy we started talking and our conversations got...pretty deep. We talked about our opinions of love and about his past girlfriends and stuff like that. One night my brother asked me if I liked him and I didn't know how to answer because I wasn't quite sure yet--so I didn't say anything and he was like "oh so you do hahahaha". So now all of his friends know, including the guy in question. He didn't tell me that he knew. The guy I mean. He just left it alone and pretended he didn't know anything.
Well I finally talked to him about it because things were getting a little awkward. We talked for about an hour and a half. 1/4 of the conversation was about the subject at hand--dating eachother. The other 3/4 of the conversation was about other random stuff and joking around and etc. He said that when he heard about that I liked him he thought about it and considered it. He said he decided that I was really cool and cute and awesome but that I was just too innocent. He started saying how he has done such bad things in his life(of course i already knew about these things) and he said that we were just total opposites. I agree...we are. He's gothic and into metal music. I'm pre-med and love rap.
But...I think it was a cowardly excuse. He's only dated one type of girl--why not try something different? I'm not asking to get MARRIED here. All I care about is the feeling I get when I'm around him. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met. I don't care about how he has different intrests then me and is a little more experienced.
To conclude, I had that talk with him about 3 weeks ago. I have consistently had dreams about him everynight for about 2 weeks and I cannot stop thinking about him worth a dime.
I just wish that there was something I could do or say that would prove to him that it's not a lost cause and that it's worth a try. I don't really see what the big deal is. Any ideas on something that I should say? or do?
I've requested to my manager that I don't work on certain mornings in order to avoid him--so I can get over him. But the more I think about not seeing him at all anymore the more depressed I get. He really is a great guy. I'm literally down-in-the-dumps over him and that does not happen to me often. I don't know what else to do.
Even if he's done bad things in his life, it doesn't mean he doesn't deserve a nice girl. Also, opposites attract! Why don't you try and schedule some of your hours so that you are together more, and just be like, "you know how you said we were opposites, well opposites attract, and everyone makes mistakes in life. all I'm saying is giving it a try might be nice."
I don't really know how your conversations go, but something along those lines.
hi im 16, a boy.
there is this really...reallly attractive girl who sits in front of me in class. I mean, the first thing i noticed was her body, which is really nice, she looks like...wow. i cant even say, she looks amazing. For some reason, this girl seems like the kind that i dont wanna give up on.
We never talked before, we only like look at each other once in a while. But i have no idea what she thinks. What does she think? How should i approach her? There is homecoming dance pretty soon btw.
any advice?????????
and please dont give me an obvious answer like "just talk to her"
I WANT DETAILS!
Hmm, well you could try and find out what your similarities are. you could do that by adding her on myspace and checking out what her interests are or what her profile is like, then bring them up in class. (dont actually tell her that you were looking on her myspace page, she might get creeped out)
Or, if she's wearing a shirt/belt/jewelry/shoes that you like the color of, say something like, I like your shirt, thats my favorite color/band/pattern/animal/brand ect..
Or, if she has the same cell phone as you (you would see it by noticing her texting in class or something) be like, hey I have that cell phone, or I like your phone, or hey do you have texting?(something along those lines)
You could ask her a question about the class, ask her what school she used to go to.
If you do have a myspace/facebook, message her with a simple "hey whatsup?"
Just casually bring up conversations every day, and warm her up, if you notice a spark, ask her cutely to homecoming! Put a note on her desk, buy her flowers, or something like that.
I hope I helped! 15/f
me and this guy have been texting and he wants to hangout and i want to have sex with him so bad but i don't want to be a slut about it,so how can i tell him i want to with out acualy telling him "hey i want to have sex with you"
Just hangout a few times, and then in the heat of the moment it will happen.
But please please please use a birth control method and a condom. I'm 15, 25 weeks pregnant, and due in december, and I used a condom. I was with my boyfriend for a long time though, and I'm sure you don't want a commitment like a baby if you don't know the guy really really good.
i wont to die
Just think about this, if you've ever been so mad at them you swore you'd never forgive them, but eventually get over it.
That's life, there's ups and downs. I mean sure I've thought about suicide but then I always get back to the point: life is so worth it. It always goes back up! Even if you hit rock bottom, it always gets better with time.
Life is filled with love, and love is the best thing to feel in the world.
Please don't kill yourself. Go to www.teenhelp.org
well im 19 yrs old and im pregnat im probably like 2 months my boyfriend doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby i talked to his mom and she said she would support me. i kno i could just abort and get ir over with it but im against abortion idk what to do.
I know everyone says they dont think you should abort, I didn't , Im 4 months pregnant right now and 15.
But anyways, I think that it would be an incredible hardship in your life if you choose to raise this baby as a single mom. The baby would also have a lowlife father that doesnt want anything to do with him/her.
It's not ending a life, it's preventing one. Babies technically aren't babies until 14 weeks. That's why you can have an abortion up to 14 weeks pregnant.
Hope I helped :)
Do what feels right.
This might be long, sorry.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.
Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.
Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!
Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.
I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this?
Losing virginity to the perfect one, just feels amazing, you really should have waited. It's something you remember forever, and feel the strongest bond towards them.
If your boyfriend is "really perfect", why are you cheating on him?
Well, I think, if you just come out and tell him. It will be BETTER in the long run. If someone told me straight out, I might forgive them, if they never told me and I found out, I would dump them.
hii guyss. well i just finished getting my period and today i had sex and iwas on top and when i got off my boyfriend said the condom fell off and it was in me. then i had sex for about like 2 minutes without a condom but he already finished before and he wasnt hardd.. so i wanna know is it bad the condom fell off ( i took it out like 10 seconds after) andd with the no condom is that bad? i know there is always a chance no matter what i do but i just wanted to know how worried i should be and if i should take the plan b pill or other wise known as the morning after pill..
thanks guys!
since it was right after your period, your chances of getting pregnant are lower because you dont ovulate for a week or so , and the sperm wont last that long.
Unprotected sex will get you pregnant 25 percent of the time. Especially if it's around the date of your ovulation.
You probably wont get pregnant this time, I wasn't so lucky. So please use a condom, and get on the pill, because then I'll feel like I've made a difference in someones life. And if someone would have told me this, I wouldn't be having a baby.
So i have a boyfriend and i really like him a lot. We've been dating for almost 6 months now. How can i tell i am in love and it is not just another crush? Are there any signs? Because idk. How can i tell he really likes/loves me? Please give advise on the signs of falling in love.
If you feel you cannot live at all without him , and feel like your linked together and meant to be.
That's how you know.
my bf has been really busy lately with work, baseball, and school. I work and go to school too but i still manage to have time to do things. my bf never has time to go out..we been together for 4years, I was just wondering what are things i can do to keep myself entertain while he is out doing things. I only have 1 true friend but she is always with her man.. What can i do?
That sounds exactly like me! :)
Well, I go on my myspace, and just look at some people that arent really true friends but sort of friends, and ask them if they want to hangout.
Also, you can hangout with your family, I like to hangout with my sister a lot.
If you don't like any of that, maybe every once in a while have a day to yourself, when you just do your hair, nails, chill out in sweats, and watch a movie, or do something else you would enjoy.
Hope I helped :)
A guy who i have been talking to for the past week keeps on texting me. (even though idk what he looks like, much less what he likes or anything like that.) we've been talking and iv asked him the basic ques. and all what kinda music does he like?, Deos he play any sports or instruments?, his previous relationships. Now we have nuthing to talk about and i just don't know what to say.
ask him what he did that day, or grades at school, or his family and your family. favorite movies, friends, family. etc.. :) hope i helped
hey there theis boy at my school who likes me and i kind like him back but i tell every one i dont and when he ask will i go with him i say no and god knows i want to say yes now my friends ask him do he like me he said no is he just playing how do i make things right
Maybe he likes you but he's also telling everyone he doesn't, like you are with him. Guys don't usually play around with love, so chances are, he really does like you! I say, go for it and tell him you like him; there is absolutely nothing to lose! :]
Just tell him how you feel and he will do the same.
Good luck, tell me how it goes! :)