Hey i'm Mallory,
I've been through a lot and i dont judge because of it.
Yeah i like to give advice, but isnt that why we're on this site?
I am myself, and i get looked down because of it, but so what? I'm not going to hide who i am.
I am not dating until college.
I dont respect cheaters.
i dont take life so seriously. Come on. We only live like this once. enjoy it =]
And toilet paper is better than sliced bread :D
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Well, I'm a 17/f, I'll be 18 in a month. My exboyfriend just turned 18.
Well here's the thing.. We were together since 2006.. and just like any other couple, we broke up a few times. A couple times my emotions got the best of me that it caused my family to build a great hate for this guy. A lot of drama has gone on with us and our families. Our families don't like the thought of us being together at all. Some of my friends don't either. They tell me that i'm better than him and i deserve better.. but it's just so hard. i've taken him back everytime, he never cheated on me, jus broke my heart a few times. he has left me for a girl before. just once.. and we didnt talk for a solid 3 months. then we came back to eachother because i believe it was meant to be.. i told myself the last time we broke up, which was in february, that i would never look back, and never take him back, but the thought runs through my mind daily. i've never loved someone as much as him. ever. he's my everything. i just don't know what to do.. because i know our families don't want us to be together.. so how would it ever work??? my family doesn't like him, his family doesn't like me.. (keep in mind that at one point my family absolutely loveeeddddd him and his family lloved me) a lot of shit has just happened between us for it to get so bad.. and we have gotten over it.. our families just won't! i'm stuck!!!! i'm scared that if i be with him again, that the same thing is just gonna happen ovr and overr again.. last time we were together.. i basically lost my family cuz of him.. thinking he would stick by me. and he left me and said he wasnt in love with me anymore.. but recently comes back to me and tells me he just cant help himself and he gets so wrapped up in me..and always asks whats up with us.. i'm his first love.. so i know hes notfaking his feelings... we're both the most comfortable when we're together... hes the one guy i can just do whatever and be myselfff and not everrr be embarrasseddd..
we're just good together..
someone give me your thoughts on this..cuz i'm absolutelyt stuck :[
its driving me crazyyy
thanks so much (link)
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You have to realize, youre only 18. He seems to be your first love, which is hard to let go.
You probably thought the first time you guys broke up and got back together, you thought that would never happen again.
But it did.
He left you for another girl!? What makes you think he wont do that again?
You DO deserve better. Dont let any guy treat you like that.
I encourage you to let him go and start moving on.
i'll be praying for you, with whatever decision you make =]
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My ex and I have been broken up for several months. We don't talk at all and go to the same college. I don't see him daily, but we'll cross paths ocassionally and I do know his schedule. Some days I will change my route or come early/late just so he will see me and possibly say something. It's ridiculous that I still do this when the relationship has been over for awhile. I even ask myself "what are you doing?" while I'm waiting for him, but he still gives me those butterflies. How do I get over this? Time has not helped and my friends and family are way beyond tired of hearing about it. (link)
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How long were you dating him? It usaully takes that much time to get over someone, and its not easy.
Hopefully you have supportive friends who can walk you to class.
It's really really hard. He probably is still getting over you as well. Hang out and concentrate on things-always be busy. Either on projects or even exercising.
Ill be praying for ya =]
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Hey, I've never had a boyfriend before (just to get that out there), but I HAVE been asked out by a lot of boys.
Here's the thing though--I have this really weird issue with getting mad at the boys who ask me out! It's usually if I'm talking to them, like, alone (usually over the internet) and they ask me out, I begin nicely and say "I'm sorry, that's really sweet, but I just don't really like you like that." and then it allll goes downhill from there. I usually start accusing them of playing ZAP (a game that forces people to ask certain people out) or I get creeped out and I refuse to speak to them, or I just plain get mad if they say one little thing wrong (ie. "I can't believe I was scared to do that", I would say "what, am I not good enough for you to ask out?").
It always makes me feel really really bad because I know boys are scared out of their minds to ask girls out, but I just can't help it! Please, can someone tell me how to NOT get mad? Or how to react at least? THANKS!! (link)
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They're asking you over the internet. Maybe thats the problem. Because they could be playing ZAP.
Next time someone asks you out over the internet, tell them to ask you to your face. I think that might be it.
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right, i'm with this guy
& he's like a bit smaller than me.
everyone takes the mickey outa him, they say hes fat and horrible. but I definatlely don't see that.
Sure, he isn't the buffest guy on this planet, bu the has the sweetest heart and I wouldn't have anyone else.
His best friend lies to him, saying i call him fat and ugly. But he is really good-looking !!
i would never say that.
So please, help.
What should I say to stop all of this ??
X (link)
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Tell your guy exactly how you fell about him.
I dont know if he believes his best friend, but really talk to him about this. Talk about the trust you two have as well.
And pull his best friend aside and ask why he's saying these untrue things to his friend. He may be a little jealous of you two
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17/f
I really like this boy. Hes like everything i ever wanted but I feel like he is too hard to sort or get him I suppose. I dont even talk to him. :S
Its just too hard and I can't do it and I think he is too good for me anyway.
Anyway one of his friends who is fun and really nice is chasing me. I have only just started thinking about him more often. Like wondering what it would liek to be with him. I only started thinking like this after I found out he liked me. Yet without a doubt I would love to be with the other boy so much more.
I don't think I have a chance with the first boy I really like and I've got no confidence at all around him, yet around his friend I am confident and he likes me.
So is it better to keep loving the first boy or to give it a chance with his friend, although I might not be as happy and I would still be in love with the other boy
Please help me, I'm confused.
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Since you know that you wont have a chance with this boy you really like, i think you should move on, and give the boy who likes you a chance.
i dont see how youre "in love" with the boy you dont really know. You may not be as happy as you think you would with this other boy, but you dont know that yet.
i think you know what to do.
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Yesterday i told my bf i had cybersex the day he buried his grandpa. so i told him that he could have sex with this girl that liked him. So now he is at a hotel having sex with a girl for revenge because i said he could do it. Is it really fair for him to do it? Did he have to listen to me and actually get revenge? (link)
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i think that maybe you guys should have taken a break, but no he should not have had sex with another girl just as much as you should not have had "cybersex"
you guys really need to break this off for awhile because you both will be bringing these issues up in your relationship, and you'll both be unhappy.
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ok well as usal guy problems.the guy gthat i asked a question to in my last thing broke up with my friend for me and she nos it she isnt mad because she wants me to be happy do i go out with him or make sure they go back out? (link)
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woa woa woa. Sounds like you have a friend who wants to keep you as a friend. Im pretty sure this girl is upset, so be a friend, dont date the kid, its not worth it.
and dont try to put them back together, just leave it as it is, you and your friend staying friends.
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I am 15 years old and i am a female and i currently like this guy named torrey.
he is sucha sweetheart and he really knows how to treat a girl proper!
The other day we were playing a game of 20 questions and he asked me if i had ever liked him and i said yes and so i asked him the same question back and he said yes, and then i asked him if he still liked me and he said yes and i told him that i still liked him, but he said he wanted to take things slow, so im not sure if were a couple or not. He keeps saying how badly he wants to kiss me and i told him i want to kiss him really badly too. I really hope he is planning on asking me out becuase i like him ALOT!
Anyways im supposed to be going to his house this week to watch scary movies(his choice) and i don't know if i should ask him to make us official or if i should wait?
SO please Help!
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Just wait. Im pretty sure he'll ask you when you go to his house, or maybe try to grab your hand, kiss you whatever. So just see how it plays out.
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Okay, my friend Emmy has introduced me to her older brother, Alex(he really isn't her older brother), and her bf, Nick(my really close guy friend that he is my older brother). Alex and Nick are the one of the very rare nice guys around the Earth, they try to call me back, they give compliments, they are respectful, just all around nice guys! But here is the problem, I really like Alex! He just broke up with his gf, that is a good thing considering that he seems to be happier lately, and he is completely single. But, Alex just wants to be my friend. He knows how I feel and even Emmy has explained to me that I shouldn't go after Alex because there are some other people he'd rather be with. And considering that I just moved a few miles away from him has really made things hard. I think I may have gotten in to deep, and I think I am getting on Alex's nerves because I do try to call him everyday and try to be his friend. But I just don't feel like a friend. I am so lost and I am soo in way too deep! Should I keep talking to him? Should I leave Alex alone? HELP!
PS: Sorry for it being too long. (link)
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yes! can he breathe?? jk.
but seriously give him a little time. Guys dont like it when girls are clingy, and you're being quite clingy.
Stop calling. him give him time, if he wants to talk, he'll call you.
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me= 16/f
him=17/m
we've been dating nearly a year and im in need of ideas of gifts to give him on our 1 year. I love him with all my heart he's the sweetest guy ive ever met and a lil emotional. i want the gift for hjim to be amazing and remind him of me since he's gotten me many amazing gifts such as a ring, neclace, and an adorable stuffed animal to cuddle with. I dont want the gift to be something to do with his interests cuz thats more of a christmas/b-day gift. I want it to be just something that reminds him of Us and our amazing year together. we havent taken many pictures so a scrapbook wont work im thinking that for our 2 year when we have more things to put in it.
give me as many ideas as possible i need a ton!!
thanks (link)
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well there are 12 months in a year. So write him 12 notes. and in each note write 12 things about him
like
12 things i love about you.
(list 12 things.)
12 things you do that make me smile
(12 things)
12 songs that remind me of you
(12 songs)
guys do appreciate these types of things
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well, i was dating this guy for just about two weeks, and he went on a school trip and on the way home him and one of my (girl)"friends" sat together on the bus. and btw, shes a pretty big slut, she flirts with all her friends boyfriends and anyone elses, but anyways, they held hands and apparently she was like "i feel dirty" and he goes "it's fine, don't worry she wont find out" (she being me :p) and then she got a fruit roll-up out of her bag and put it in her mouth and he ate it up to her lips and then they kissed. Like, even though he did say that, that didn't mean she had to go along with it. they bopth knew it was wrong and that it was going to hurt me when i found out, and they knew that i would end up finding out sooner or later. but im really mad at both of them but it's really weird because i don't feel a huge connectionw ith him, but i can't be mad at him. he's like my weakness. but, he cheated on me and o broke up with him. but, i don't think he deserves a second chance. and, he has a little bit of a drinking problem and idk, but i think that he needs someone there for him and idk but i think i might have just been that person bevaise i know for a fact that when we went out he was sober. but, i font want to be that person trying to help him through it when he's cheating on me or whetever. but, i don't know what im trying to asdk, i just need some help. i need to straighten out my feelings for him and be aware of whats going on.
sorry for it being so long. (link)
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Well now.
Personally i would get a nail gun and shoot him to the ground, but thats probably not the approach you're wanting to give.
ANd you know what? he DOSENT deserve your help through his drinking issues. He dosent even deserve to talk to you. If someone is going to disrespect you like that, dont bother. Kick his sorry butt to the curb. Dont be a door mat and let him walk all over you, for thats what he's using you as.
Well was using you as, you seem to be standing on your feet now.
I would just move on and ignore him. He's hurt you, isnt that enough to make you wanna stop trying to be there for him?
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So there's this guy (there always is..) who I half-like. (I say "half" because I have all the symptoms of liking him.. but can't possibly actually do so). Either way: He really is the sweetest guy and soo much fun to be around!
Now to the problem: He likes me. Not HALF-likes me. He really likes me. I've been through this before (hundreds of times) so I know what my options are:
A: Keep spending time with him, watch him fall for me, then reject him and break his heart when he asks me out.. and lose him forever.
B: Stop spending time with him to ultimately spare his feelings.. and lose him forever.
C: Tell him the truth, slowly see how things change between us and get awkward.. and lose him forever.
D: Say yes when he asks me out, because after all I do "half-like" him.. (well, I guess this is the option I've never been brave enough to try with any of the other guys.. but I'm pretty sure it follows the pattern and ends with..) .. and lose him forever.
You wanna make my day by adding a fifth option?
Thank you! :) (link)
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So you half-like this guy. Keep spending time with him. Become his best friend before anything else, let him know that too. You dont want to hurt him in any way, so becoming best friends first would help you both out.
ANd if you really dont want to hurt him, just stay friends and explain why.
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So my ex who i went out with for 4 and a half months, told me on IM last night that he wanted to talk to me more because we haven't talked as much since he broke up with me. He also was telling me that it was the biggest mistake he's made in his whole life and he wish that day never happened. But then, my friend, who has been quitting quite close with him, has been getting closer and closer, and i asked my ex if he liked her, but he said 'kinda' and he's moving in 2 weeks, so i don't know what to do or say. I don't want to ruin friendships but on the other hand, i'll feel terrible. And i dont understand why he just told me all that but 'kinda' likes someone? i think he's ready to borderline ask her out? but hes moving? and ahh! i have no clue what to do (link)
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Breathe.
This kid is moving. I dont know how far away from you, but it seems too far to date. You didnt mention if you liked him or not, so if your friend is getting involved with him, i would step aside. You wouldnt want to date someone if they "kinda" liked someone else anyway, would you?
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hey im celina.
and i realllyyy need help.
so ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. and mostly things have been great, a few fights here and there but nothing to big, everything usually ends up being fine.
But hes graduating soon, and lately hes been spending time with the kids in his grade, which makes sense i guess bc they arent going to be with eachother anymore, but i feel really wierd about it. Like, i've heard that hes been flirting with some of the girls in his grade when im not there and stuff like that. And hes always so bipolar with me, like one day he will be saying how much he loves me and wouldnt know what hed do without me and the next day he will totally blow me off for his other friends. He normally calls & txts me a few times a day and he hasnt talked to me since saturday, at all! And i really wana talk about how its bothering me with him, but he wont even answer a phone call,even when i know he has his phone!! ugh!! PLEASE help me, and i need someone to tell me more than "everything will be ok". Is this normal for guys to act like this? or do i need to do something about it?
help!
please!
thanks! (link)
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Yeah guys are like this (not all) but some, and it sucks.
Anyway, your bf is not being a very good one, and i suggest you talk to him straight to his face (dont let him make you feel guilty) If he dosent start straightening up and being respectful i would take a break from him for awhile.
You dont deserve to be treated like that.
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so i have this best friend and he is a guy. we've been friends for around 7 years. over the course of our friendship we have grown closer. and after five years we started liking each other. the thing is its always been him for me. we have a complex relationship and mixed emotions about each other. right now we are on a break, but we both feel a little something. the thing is we've both been hurt by each other so many times we don't know what to do. i was pretty miserable after the relationship ended, but one thing i did realize is that i love him. im f/17, but i don't think he "loves" me. i feel this emotional bond we have and we can basically tell each other everything, but i think he prefers someone prettier, smarter, less complex, more confident. what should i do (link)
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For right now i think you should take a little time off for yourself. You dont want to be hurt again by him, or by your emotions.
If he dosent love you for you, then dont waste your time on someone who will look down on the unique person you are. Continue to be best friends, and grow in your friendship, but i would find someone who will value you for you.
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my boyfriend is perfect
he knows im not into a lot of things
im really christian
but he understands that and doesnt ask me to do anything ever
but now i want to
because hes so amazing
and i dont know what to do for him that would make him happy
without going against my beliefs too much
help?? (link)
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If your boyfriend accepts your beliefs as a Christian, and dosent want to do anything agaisnt them, there is a 100% chance you already make him happy.
But, writing him a love letter saying how much you respect/love him for respecting you should make him feel great, without going against your beliefs.
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16/f
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.
this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.
like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!
thanks so much! (link)
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Ah. Your boyfriend has a disorder called jealously. I have it too.
This may be because he had bad relationships in the past? With cheating or whatever. I dont think that its not that he dosent trust you, he may just be insecure.
Maybe he thinks you are flirty.
but after re-reading this i think you boyfriend is obsessed with you. A little too obsessed. A creepy obsessed.
It kind of scares me. I dont know your boyfriend personally, but i know that i probably wouldnt want to mess with him.
Anyway, your boyfriend is jealous, and there is not going to be a change in that. (sorry)
but he does need to let you breathe. You need to confront him in a strict tone, explaining that you love, and would never cheat on him, so he needs to back down. You may also want to threaten him with a break. (I can assure you he wont want to lose you, so that may work.)
good luck!
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f. 17.
so me and my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up.& ive been okay with everything because i knew he wouldnt let anyother girl in because he has a problem with opening up to people and once he does he is a complete ass. but im in love with him, we have history, well he started talking to this one girl who has a bf& he would ask me advice on what to do &i gave him honest advice, never bashing the other girl.&about 2 months later she dumped her boyfriend&now they are dating. usually its okay bc(i know this sounds conceited but the other girls he was interested in were never as good to him as i was) but her, she is so much better then me & i have never seen him so happy, i could never make him as happy as she does. we dont talk really anymore. i always want to call him or text. i just am so depressed all the time. my life is so dramtically different then it used to be and with summer coming up i dont know how to handle this. how do i move on & let them be happy? (link)
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There is no real answer on how to move on but time. You two dated for 2.5 years. It's going to take time to heal your heart and move on.
Whats best is to close contact with the two of them until you are ready. Not half ready. Fully ready. You need to make sure you are 100% ready. Dont be unsure.
Your ex is probably using the girl he is currently dating as rebound. 2.5 years is a long time for a relationship.
and btw no one is better than anyone. You dont deserve to put yourself down.
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