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well, i was dating this guy for just about two weeks, and he went on a school trip and on the way home him and one of my (girl)"friends" sat together on the bus. and btw, shes a pretty big slut, she flirts with all her friends boyfriends and anyone elses, but anyways, they held hands and apparently she was like "i feel dirty" and he goes "it's fine, don't worry she wont find out" (she being me :p) and then she got a fruit roll-up out of her bag and put it in her mouth and he ate it up to her lips and then they kissed. Like, even though he did say that, that didn't mean she had to go along with it. they bopth knew it was wrong and that it was going to hurt me when i found out, and they knew that i would end up finding out sooner or later. but im really mad at both of them but it's really weird because i don't feel a huge connectionw ith him, but i can't be mad at him. he's like my weakness. but, he cheated on me and o broke up with him. but, i don't think he deserves a second chance. and, he has a little bit of a drinking problem and idk, but i think that he needs someone there for him and idk but i think i might have just been that person bevaise i know for a fact that when we went out he was sober. but, i font want to be that person trying to help him through it when he's cheating on me or whetever. but, i don't know what im trying to asdk, i just need some help. i need to straighten out my feelings for him and be aware of whats going on.
sorry for it being so long.
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You can't be responsible for someone else's sobriety. You can't be sure he was always sober when you went out--you can only be sure he was sober when he was with you. You can and are responsible for allowing people trying to walk over you like a doormat.
I firmly believe once a cheat, always a cheat except in very rare circumstances of which this is not. They both betrayed you--her even more than him because she went along with it instead of putting him in his place and telling him that it would be wrong to betray you that way. I would let them both go.
It's okay to be single. It took me a long time to figure that out and the first 6 months I was single I hated silence and I hated being alone with my own thoughts. After 6 months I actually began to enjoy my alone time. I went out with friends, school and work but I also looked forward to the time I could spend alone. I found hobbies that I had always wanted to try and I tried them.
Anytime someone becomes your "weakness" and you aren't theirs (you aren't his if he can cheat) that's not a healthy relationship. Try writing your feelings down in whatever order they come in and then rearrange them into something logical when you get them all out. Then you can deal with them and not be so overwhelmed. Let me know if I can be of any further help.
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he doesn't deserve another chance..
i was in this same situation.. i like this guy a lot who treated me like shit.. & just used me. and he cheated on me a couple times.. but i couldnt let go of him & we were on and off for about 6-7 months. you should let go of him and find someone new.. and also.. drop your friend.. seriously shes not someone you want around your boyfriend if she acts like that... thats not a good friend.. at all.
hope i helped.
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Well now.
Personally i would get a nail gun and shoot him to the ground, but thats probably not the approach you're wanting to give.
ANd you know what? he DOSENT deserve your help through his drinking issues. He dosent even deserve to talk to you. If someone is going to disrespect you like that, dont bother. Kick his sorry butt to the curb. Dont be a door mat and let him walk all over you, for thats what he's using you as.
Well was using you as, you seem to be standing on your feet now.
I would just move on and ignore him. He's hurt you, isnt that enough to make you wanna stop trying to be there for him?
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well first off its good that you broke up with him. and even though you did break up with him that doesnt mean yall can be friends. make sure that you dont have any romantic feelings for him then forgive him and just be his friend which is probly what he needs right now.
well i hope i helped.
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