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"...and lose him forever"
So there's this guy (there always is..) who I half-like. (I say "half" because I have all the symptoms of liking him.. but can't possibly actually do so). Either way: He really is the sweetest guy and soo much fun to be around!
Now to the problem: He likes me. Not HALF-likes me. He really likes me. I've been through this before (hundreds of times) so I know what my options are:
A: Keep spending time with him, watch him fall for me, then reject him and break his heart when he asks me out.. and lose him forever.
B: Stop spending time with him to ultimately spare his feelings.. and lose him forever.
C: Tell him the truth, slowly see how things change between us and get awkward.. and lose him forever.
D: Say yes when he asks me out, because after all I do "half-like" him.. (well, I guess this is the option I've never been brave enough to try with any of the other guys.. but I'm pretty sure it follows the pattern and ends with..) .. and lose him forever.
You wanna make my day by adding a fifth option?
Thank you! :)
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Stop trying to see the end of the journey before you take the first step on the road. Stop worrying about what has happened.
Stop trying to decide if it's a "half like or a full like" and just spend time with him if you enjoy his company.
My bet is that you know how it will end because you have already made up your mind. Is it more that you don't want to get serious with him because you're afraid of what other people will think? If he really is the "sweetest guy and sooo much fun" then you have nothing to lose by spending time with him. If your concern is what others will think of you when you are with him or their opinions about the two of you together then you aren't ready for a serious relationship with anyone. Yes, you may get hurt but I guarantee it won't be wasted time because if you learn something you have never wasted your time. You can't learn to really love--yourself or anyone else if you don't get hurt a time or two. Life is too short to worry about what might happen. Enjoy what is happening and see where it goes.
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Well, since you do "half" like him. Spend more time with him. Get to know him and let him get to know you. Become real good friends first. Thats always best. After you guys spend time together you might be surprised how your feelings might change for him. They might get stronger or you might realize that you just wanna be friends. This way, you arent really hurting him if you guys just hang out as friends. But just make sure he knows that as of right now you just wanna be friends cause the last thing you would wanna do is lead him on. Just take things slow and most importantly follow your heart girl. Hope this helped! Lemme know how things work out for you. Best of Luck! (:
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So you half-like this guy. Keep spending time with him. Become his best friend before anything else, let him know that too. You dont want to hurt him in any way, so becoming best friends first would help you both out.
ANd if you really dont want to hurt him, just stay friends and explain why.
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