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family making me choose
13/f
I have been babysitting for my step mom's home daycaring service for 2 summers now. A couple of weeks ago I told her that I would work for her. Last week an offer came to my doorstep, someone my sister works for neeeded a baysitter. My step mom gives me $12 and day while the other #30 - $40 a day. I am going to high school next year and I am planning to save my money for college. I told my step mom that I can work for her the days that I am off and she got upset. My dad said that I should have stuck with my step mom... but this isn't all for me... this is for my furture of dreaming to go to vet college and become a vet... Now my dad wants to talk to me... what should I do???
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At least your trying to compromise. And if they want to talk then talk with them. Your not completely kicking your step mom to the curb your still gonna be working for her. And if your saving up for college then you really do need the best pay as possible. So once again compromise either she matches the $30.00 pay or you cut down your hours to work for the better pay. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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Maybe you could work something out with your step mom, like working at her daycare after you are off. Or just try explaining to her that you need to start saving money for college. If you really needed to, you could print out things on the internet that are average costs of vet school and stuff, and tell her how you plan to pay for it, and how it would be a lot easier with the other job's pay. Act sympathetic, because really, you should technically stick with your step mom because you took that job first. But maybe you could compromise with her or something. If you cannot talk to her about this issue without a fight breaking out or her interrupting you, just write her a letter or an email.
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First off, i can see where your step mom is coming from. She is a little upset cause she probably depended on you and liked having you help her around the day care center. And i totally understand from where you are coming because you wanna save your money for things that you want to buy or even college! But girl, youre 13 years old. You should be out there having fun while you can! (: im 16 years old and i just got a job about 5 months ago and thats all i do anymore. Anyways, just talk to you step mom and tell her that you want to save up and that you will do your best to keep trying you work there. Good Luck! (:
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When family relationships and business relationships clash, there's always tension.
Here's a harsh reality: because you are 13, you can only go to work for your sister's employer if your dad says you can. He is your legal guardian and until you're 18, he can tell any potential employer that you are not available for hire. If that's his position, then your only recourse is to convince him otherwise.
Fortunately, you have a strong item in your favor, which is your plans for what to do with the money. Your dad would have to be pretty shortsighted to ignore the fact that for you to save for college, especially starting from the age of 13, is a very responsible thing to do, and he should be encouraging you in any way he can.
The essential problem, as I see it, is the question of whether you're getting a PAYCHECK or an ALLOWANCE. Up until now, I would imagine that your dad and stepmom have viewed your working for her as more of a chore than a job; it's something you've been doing to help out the family, and in return you're getting an allowance. You, on the other hand, are viewing it as a business arrangement separate from familial obligations. I suggest you approach your dad from that angle, and point out to him that as a stepdaughter, you are happy to help out your stepmom; but as a worker, you are going to go for the best offer.
If that angle doesn't help you, try this one:
You have an obligation to contribute to the family. Your dad and stepmom have an obligation to help you grow into a responsible adult. The second obligation is more important, and since you want to use the extra money toward a worthwhile purpose, your dad should be supporting you in that way.
One more thing: If you do take the other job, it would be correct business etiquette to give your stepmom two weeks' notice before leaving. Your new employer should understand and respect that.
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explain to him EXACTLY what you explained to us. Let him no what the money is going for. I think that if its going to college money do it. Your dad will understand as long as its for something other than shopping money...if you know what i mean! HHA!!!
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explain to him your reasons and if your step mom isnt willing to raise your check then.. explain why you want and need the money and why you want the other better job
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