Hey guys,
I'm 14 yrs old and I'm in 8th grade. I havn't exactly got my own life figured out but I'm pretty good at givin other people advice. So please give me your questions!!!!
Favorite Bands- AC/DC, The Beatles, Rolling Stones, Evanessance, Nickelback, Breaking Benjamin, Janis Joplin,(pretty much ALL classic rock)
favorite food- LASAGNA!!!!! (i'm not crazy i swear.......:P)
favorite quotes- just becasue i'm smiling doesn't mean i'm happy......In a world full of cheerios why not be a fruit loop?.....I was uncool before uncool was cool
so......geez thats all i can think of now sry if all that is crap 2 u. I'll work on it later. Much luv!
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My boyfriend, i started going out with him yesterday. And i dont like him at all and hes been saying he likes me alot and he thought i would never say yes to him because im to good for him but i said yes and i hes weird i dont like him and i know im sounding rude and all but hes like a band freak and is weird and stuff and hes a nerd but i know im sounding rude and all i kinda liked him at first but hes really weird and i gave him a chance i mostly judge on personality but on looks to and like i wanna dump him but i dont wanna hurt his feelings and i dont wanna be rude and all and i cant belive i said yes to him and i like alot of other people and stuff but i dont know how to tell him and stuff i dont wanna be rude what should do
nd i dont like him at all but its making me sad he likes me alot so what should i do stay with him or what??? (link)
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Well there is no way to stop going out with him and to not hurt him. But one thing you could say would be
"hey....i kinda made a rash decision yesterday and I think that I mixed up friend like, for romatic like. Before things get too seriouse i think we should just go back to being friends"
i think that is the nicest way to break up with him. Unless you want to keep going out with him for like a month and then you have an excuse and just say that you dont feel the same anymore or you dont like how things are going.
Either way, you shouldnt have said yes if you didnt mean it. Youve kinda led him on, and hes going to be hurt. But just be as nice and considerate as you can. And if he is mad at you, you have to be accepting of that.
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Ok, well, i'm in marching band and I'm a freshman. I went into the year thinking "I'm gonna meet lots of guys and i'm gonna be really nice and outgoing." But i was just wondering....how are you really supposed to get to know guys who aren't in your section and don't play your instrument?? i don't find much time to socialize with them. I see a lot of cute boys, but the problem is i don't get how u get to know them when almost everything you do is practically within your section.
My other question is....
Do sohpmore/junior guys naturally think freshmen girls are really immature? like, if they find out a girl has a crush on them, will they think she's weird and annoying because she's a freshmen? there could be some guys i'm interested in, but i'm afraid to talk to them or anything because i don't want them to think i'm annoying. (link)
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hey
fellow bander here
from my experience, I became friends with people who were all outside my section(guys included) if you ever go on band trips or something you all just kinda hang out and thats where u get to know them
Some upper classmen might think that freshman girls are immature. But if you just be yourself(mature self) and leave out the whole freshman part, they wont even know. And most guys, not to sound shallow or slutty or anything, if they think youre hot and you dont act like a "stupid freshman" they'll like you.
i was friends with plenty of upperclassman band guys.
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what is the difference between holding hands with your fingers laced or just with the two hands cuffed together. does it mean something different if a guy holds your hand in one way or the other?
and does hugging from behind mean a guy likes you? when do you know a guy wants to kiss you?
thanx everyone i really need to know soon hahaha. =) (link)
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I dont think there is a deffinate answer for the hand holding thing. But, from my personal experience whenever I have held hands w/a guy the fingers have been laced, same with my friends and their boyfriends.
I also think that if a guy hugs you from behind he might like you. Usually if a guy hugs you, and you are just friends then its like a side hug. Hope I sorta helped, good question though, decifering boys should be like a college course I swear lol
-marsbars
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So I like this guy sooo much!! And He finally asked me out.. I was about to say yes, cause he is like my dream guy, but i remembered that my mom wont let me go out with anyone. I really like him and all of his friends, and him have told me that he likes me back, but my mom won;t let me go out with anyone period!!
so should i say yes to him and not tell my mom..or??
HELP!! (link)
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hey! I have this exact same problem, im 15 and my parents are still are crazy about dating, guy friends, or just boys in general. So because i've had a few years to work on it, i've found some ways to get around parents. Here are some options
1. talk to your mom first, ask her if you can date and ask her if she meets him then can you date.
2. if she says no to #1 then....just do it anyway....at least you asked first :)
3. one way to go to a movie with a guy is to go on a group movie where a bunch of guys and girls are going. If your parents dont want you going to movies w/guys who are "friends" then just name all the girls that are going to the movie and leave out the part about the guys coming.
4. to go on a one-on-one date this is what i would do.
first you gotta have two friends who will help you out. My movie theater is in a mall....so thats why it works. So bring your two friends with you and tell your mom u guys are shopping. Then you meet the boy at the movie theater and your friends go off together and shop. You meet back up at the end and your mom never knows!
Hope this helps, if you need anymore advice at ALL or have any ideas for me....(cause im in the SAME EXACT situation) just drop one in my inbox. xoxox
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13 female.
well,
i just started a new school wednesday. it's really great and i made a lot of new friends and i'm actually getting pretty popular there.
well, there is this guy [lets say his name is] jimmy. kay so jimmy hands a note to my friend lynn telling her to give it to me. so we pass in the hallway and she gives it to me saying "it's from a boy. hehe." so i'm like "okay?"
so, i open it and it says "hey, i'm jimmy. you are really cute, i'm the tall guy with brown curly hair."
well, jimmy is pretty good looking and really popular, but all my friends say that he always goes for the new girls and always has to have a girlfriend. so that was a turn off.
AND on top of that, he hasn't talked to me at ALL. and all my friends have talked to him and he's like "yeah i really really like her, i wanna ask her out" and stuff like that.
so,
my question is, is he worth my time? he doesn't even talk to me and based on what my friends say, he sounds like a jerk.
what do you think?
thanks. :] (link)
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well I had something similar to this happening to me. My advice to you would be to start talking to him and get to know him before you give him an answer to whether or not you will go out with him. That way you know(or..know alittle better) that he likes you for your personality to, and not just your looks and the fact that you are the "new girl"
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i hardly have any guy friends, and i'm worried about prom this year. how do i talk to guys in class that i've never talked to before without seeming desperate, too forward, etc. ? i just want to make guy friends and have them want to hang out with me on weekends and stuff, but it seems that every time i try to initiate conversation with a guy, he doesn't seem interested. how do we get close enough in one class period together when the teacher's talking to become friends?
i really want a date to prom this year, or i won't really be interested in going. hellppp please (link)
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hey,
Well for me, I have a brother, so its easy for me to relate to guys. But, when your trying to make guy friends, for the sole purpose of just being friends, you have to just act like yourself, seriously! No flirting or any of that, because then the guys will probably not talk to you because they will think you will want something more. Just say funny comments about things that the teacher is talking about or something, that will make them laugh and see that you are just like them. But, some guys just suck at being friends with girls, so not all of them will be able or willing to reciprocate(sp?) the friendship deal. If you have a good sence of humor and one similar to a guy, then it should be easy. hope that helped!
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1. would you perfer a girl/male to make the 1st move & just like grab your head & kiss you OR you make the 1st move
2. how do you show your feelings towards a female/male [ like show them you like them ]
3. how do you become not shy [ like be open & show your feelings towards someone ]
4. what if you like someone, but you dont know them that well to hold a conversation, what do you talk about ?
5. how do you show your feelings towards someone that you arent sure likes you back ?
6. how do you know the person had enough with flirting. like when to stop ? (link)
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1. I would much rather have the guy make the first move, but i've had guys tell me they think its hot when the girl makes the first move.
2. If you like them, just try and hang out w/them and smile when they talk to you. make eye contact for like 2 secouns straight, and then look away. talk to them, find like little ways to touch their arm or w/e
3. It takes a while to become comfortable with someone. But becoming friends first, always helps, for me at least. After a while you will b so comfortable that silences wont feel awkward or anything. -thats the best! cause then its sooo easy to talk- it might take a while to get to this stage, but give it time and just keep talking to them and over time it will happen.
4. Talk about stuff that you have in common. ANYTHING! school, sports, parents, just find something that u can talk abuot and try and keep the convo rolling with that
5. Flirt with them, drop slight hints(but not too obvious, keep em guessing) be nice to them, and try and hang out with them.
6. You can usually tell when someone doesnt want to flirt. Flirting takes two(to work best) whent he other person stops flirting, either A. they just dont want to flirt anymore. or B. they dont like you. But you should be able to tell, u'll be able to feel it
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which part of a guy physically do you like the most.....eyes? abs? arm muscles? cheekbones? hair? lips?
thanks for reading (link)
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i'd say like(this is gunna sound weird) but like sholders? like guys who have broader sholders. and a nice stomach/chest is good. Good smile....and eyes.
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14/f
ive been going out with this kid for about eight months (we've liked eachother for over a year) and we still havent kissed yet. now, ive never been kissed before, so im not sure how to make the move. I've waited long enough for him to make it, but he hasnt. help please :]
oh yeah and we usually hangout with a bunch of people, if that helps. (link)
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Okie dokie hey!
this sounds pretty much like how dating is with me right now and im 15! lol (sigh....lame I know but wutcha gunna do?) So my best friend went out with a guy for about 6 months and they never kissed. It could just be that your boyfriend is nervous, which is understandable. But, you do have the right to kiss after going out for 8 months. So... if you are extremely comforable with him I would say do this:
"hey (insert name) weve been going out for a while and I like you ALOT. Do you wanna....kiss maybe?" (then maybe giggle or wink? thad b cute I think)
If you arent comfortable with doing that then try this:
when you are at a movie(group or alone either works) hold hands and maybe snuggle up to him alittle(dont lilke throw yourself all over him....yet ;) )
Then turn twords him and look at his face. Smile at him and maybe lean in just alittle bit, this will give him the go ahead, and maybe he will kiss you!
Hope i helped, drop one in my inbox if you need more help. I got other ideas!
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k so im like talking to and well i like him and i think he likes me hes asked me to ahng otu like 5 times but ive either been busy or kinda forgott well when we do talk on aim he asks me if i like him i doo but i dont wanna tell him and if he doesnt like me look stupid should i tell himm ? i want to but i keep saying idk or ya mom as in a jokee lol (link)
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oh no doubt, he totally likes you. What I would say to him when he askes you if you like him, you should said"why do you want to know if I like you so bad. Do you like me or something?" then if he says yes, you can say"oh thats cool cause...i like you too"
hope i helped!
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE it when a guy wheres cologne. its super hot and sexy. But when guys wear too much then thats a total turn off. Just remember alittle goes along way.
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Help! Please. Ok so I had this boyfriend for like 8 months. He was always so sweet and everything seemes to go right. He's a (A.) Student so he always expects to get good grades. But this year we entered highschool (we both go to different ones) and he failed 4 classes he was really sad and he said that he needs a brake. He said that he needed time to think and that he loves me but that he needs a brake also that his life isn't going the way he planned. And then I told him that I wasreally hurt. And then I signed off. But I haven't spoken to him for like 4 days he goes online all the time and its hard to see him online and not be able to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him because I'm afraid he won't write back or he says something mean. I don't know what to do. Also. My friend told me that he probably broke up with me because he wnats to date other girls. Is that true? What do u think about all of this?. Help. Sorry this is so long thanks! (link)
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I'm assuming your a freshman. So coming from a fellow freshy I give you this advice,
1. Highschool changes everything. As much as we dont want it to it does. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the worst. As hard as it might be for you to come to the realization that your boyfriend might want to date other people it could be true. You are going to different schools which makes it very hard on a highschool relationship.
2. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend does make it harder to stay up with school and stuff. Especially now when we are adjusting to highschool and the much harder classes we are taking. I used to be a straight A student and now in highschool im getting b's and c's left and right! And thats without a boyfriend.
So my advice to you would be, respect his wishes, but maybe you could talk to him and tell him why your hurt, and that you still like him. Maybe after some time, and he gets his grades back up you guys could get back together.
no garuntees of course but talk to him about it. During this time that you aren't dating maybe you should move on and look for a guy that goes to your school and see how it works out with him.
Dont wait around for your ex. You are too good for that, you deserve to be loved. Hope I helped! xoxox
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Ok so here's the deal, I love my girlfriend to death, and i am willig to do everything for her, and just become so sweet when im around her. Everyone says im whipped, even her, so i want to become more asertive, that way i dont look so whipped. ya know? cause im kinda worried it's annoying her (link)
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From a girls prospective there isn't anything wrong with being nice and sweet. But your girlfriend probablay just wants to see the more manly or tuff side of you(that turns us on too :D ) Or maybe being cutsie 24/7 has gotten her slighty annoyed. So my advice is to not stop being sweet altogether. Just maybe cut back a bit. Hope that helps!
~marsbars
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ok i need to know if this is considered cheating...I am "cake" and one of my guy friends is "d". I talked to him and I know he likes me.
[21:02] Cake: hey
[21:02] d: hi
[21:03] Cake: how's it goin?
[21:03] davis9088: pretty good
[21:03] Cake: thats good
[21:04] d: yea i guess
[21:05] Cake: :P
[21:05] d: i need a hug
[21:06] Cake: aww sry
[21:06] Cake: *hug*
[21:07] Cake: wish i could hug you but i can't really have people over right now
[21:07] Cake: so thats gonna have to work
[21:07] Cake: haha
[21:07] d: what
[21:07] Cake: *hug*
[21:10] Cake: so how's it going with that one chick that turns 18 soon
[21:10] d: good
[21:10] Cake: cool
[21:11] Cake: so you guys are gonna hook up soon maybe?
[21:11] d: umm what do you mean
[21:12] Cake: you said there was some chick that you were talking to at your lunch break
[21:12] Cake: did you guys hookup?
[21:12] d: she won't fuck me
[21:12] Cake: oh
[21:13] d: shes a good girl
[21:13] Cake: so is that all you are lookin for haha
[21:13] d: n
[21:13] d: i don't care that i'm not gunna get laid
[21:13] d: thats kinda why i like her
[21:13] Cake: thats cool
[21:14] d: and if i ever do get to have sex with her awesome
[21:14] Cake: i feel neglected
[21:15] d: why
[21:15] Cake: my boyfriends playing WoW
[21:15] Cake: :P
[21:15] Cake: and he' like hardly talking to me
[21:15] d: whats wow
[21:15] d: never mind
[21:15] Cake: World of Warcraft
[21:15] Cake: oh ok
[21:16] d: well i'm talking kinda
[21:16] d: i still wanna see ya
[21:16] Cake: yeah i have to like pounce on him to get him to talk to me
[21:16] d: punc eon me
[21:17] Cake: yeah but pouncing leads to much more
[21:17] d: hmmm
[21:17] d: i'd like that
[21:17] Cake: silly boy
[21:18] d: so do it
[21:19] Cake: what's your favorite part of sex?
[21:19] d: i'm not sure
[21:19] d: i love it when the girl fels great
[21:20] d: how she asks for more
[21:20] Cake: usually guys are very sure haha
[21:20] d: i just love it
[21:21] d: i dunno why
[21:21] d: i just wihs i could nut up in her
[21:21] d: instead of worry about pullin out
[21:22] d: gosh
[21:22] Cake: yea
[21:22] d: i so wanna do it now
[21:22] d: your so mean
[21:22] d: why doyou have to get me hard
[21:22] Cake: i was just curious
[21:22] d: do yo like to be eaten out
[21:22] Cake: nuh uh
[21:23] d: so yo jus tlike se
[21:23] d: sex
[21:23] Cake: many kinds
[21:23] d: tell me what you like best
[21:23] Cake: humm
[21:23] Cake: thats acually pretty hard
[21:23] d: hmm
[21:24] Cake: i like it when he's first putting it in
[21:24] d: do you like having sex with or without a condom
[21:24] Cake:it's way better without a condom
[21:24] d: so a girl can tell
[21:24] Cake: yeah
[21:25] d: so when could i see what its like
[21:25] d: i wanna have sex with you
[21:25] Cake: you couldn't handle me
[21:25] Cake: haha
[21:25] d: are you sure
[21:26] Cake: no
[21:26] d: y ou couldn't handle me
[21:26] Cake: but i know i can't have sex with you
[21:26] d: why can't you
[21:26] Cake: boyfriend
[21:26] d: how big is he
[21:26] Cake: big enough for me
[21:26] d: soo
[21:26] Cake: i've never measured him before
[21:27] Cake: i dunno
[21:27] Cake: pretty big
[21:27] d: what happens if we had sex
[21:28] Cake: hum
[21:28] Cake: i dunno
[21:28] Cake: i would end up telling him
[21:28] d: well thats cool (link)
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I dont think its cheating, but you were like one step away. What you were talking about with this guy wasn't cool. I know its hard cause you wanna have fun(believe me I understand you) But you have a boyfriend, how do you think he wou ld feel if he saw this? I doubt he would be happy. You dont need to like tell him about it, just try and tone it down w/this other guy next time and tell him your not interested. hope i helped!
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Right. This could be a bit long.
For the last few days/weeks, I have been thinking about having a baby. Me and my boyfriend are very happy and it definatly looks like we will be together for a long time. He has mentioned before bout kids and stuff. but I always said to him that I would but not yet. I am only 17 years old and I have got a 2 year course at collage coming up. also i dont know if he would actually want a kid yet.
but I have been thinking and I would really love to have a kid.
Can someone please help me change my mind because I know I'm to young to have a kid and I probly wouldn't be able to cope. Even though I'm pretty sure my mum would help me out if I did have a child.
Please help me change my mind because I really want a kid but I am only 17.
Any advise would be brilliant.
Thanks
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You have the rest of your life for a kid! Dont you want to be free of that responsability untill you are married and 100% sure both you and this man want a baby? I mean just because you think you will be together with this guy for a long time, doesn't mean you will. You are only 17, things change very fast. You aren't even graduated from high school yet! All I'm saying is, you gotta live before you have a kid. Do your own thing.
You need a good paying job, and a husband to support you when you have a baby. It is extremely expensive, you gotta pay for food, diapers, child care, baby clothes, medical care. Think of everything that will happen!!!
You also need to think of the baby, will you be able to give it a good life? A good home? Be a good mother? If you cant give that baby the best life possible then you are not read for this baby. And what if you and your boyfriend break up? You will be on your own and the baby will not have a father to look up to.
You will also not be able to attented the rest of highschool or college if you have a baby. It is NOT possible at all to do this. You must believe me.
Also do you really think your parents will be supportive of you having a baby at 17? They will only support you because you probably will not be able to support yourself.
I hope I helped change your mind because you are right you are way to young, and not ready at all.
I hope you make the right decision xoxo
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So there's this girl I like from school. We are totally close, like almost best friends and a little while back we would be passing each others notes in class and I told her I liked her and she sadi she liked me back! I was so happy.
So then we would secretly hold hands and just keep passing notes. And she invited me over to see a movie and we totally cuddled together while watching it. After that I was thinking we should go out...but I never told her .So then the hand holding continued until summer break.
Now I live in a small town and she lives in the city so its kind of hard for me to go there so we didnt really get to see each other. So just recently I went to a party and a bunnch of people were there. And she was there too and so was a guy named Brandon. Now I heard stories of them getting "married" as a joke but when I got there she was totally flirting with him and barely noticed me the whole time. Turn out i'm old news and she has a crush on him.
Now obviously i'm jealous but...what happened? I know we weren't going out but...we were getting there. So should I still hang out with her alot? Or will that be just awkward.
Very confused,
Greenlalablue (link)
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Well you guys weren't going out, but you were close. Although moving onto another guy isn't wrong, it wasn't very nice of her. But she still has the right to have a crush on someone else.
First thing I think you should do is get the 411 on these two, are they dating, does she like him, does he like her, stuff like that. You can probably find this out from the same people who joked about them "getting married"
If they are going out, then there isn't anything you can do about it. But if they aren't going out, then steal her back!
Tell her how you feel, and she if she feels the same way. Hold hands, flirt with her, whatever helps you get her back. I hope this works out for you, you seem like a nice guy.
xoxo
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I don't feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. In fact, I feel that its time that we ended our relationship. There seems to be a catch, however. We haven't seen each other much this summer, but we do talk on the phone almost every night. I don't know if its appropriate to end the relationship now, or wait a couple of weeks until school starts and we see each other every day again. What should I do? Wait it out, or say whats on my mind? (link)
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I had this same problem and I decided that it was only hurting him and me to stay in the relationship. You should say how you feel, so both you and this boy can find someone more suited for them. It might be hard to do, but my philosophy is, you have to do it sooner or later, unless u wanna end up married to this guy. That usually makes me want to end it as soon as possible. It is very common to fall out of love, it happens all the time. It might be hard, but dont feel guilty you have the right to change your mind. Hope I helped sweetie, much luv xoxo
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My girl friend, Trish, is so beautiful and I love her so much.
The problem is people say that she is ugly, & I don't think that at all.
I was just wondering if I could get all of your honest opinions. Do ya'll think she is ugly?
http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c54/TriciaxxxAnn/newhair.jpg
I'll rate 5s for all answers. (link)
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i have no clue what people are saying! Your friend is so pretty, I wish I could look like her lol. I mean im not a girl and im not a lesbo or anything, but my oppinion as a girl she is really pretty.
-marsbars
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okay well me and this kid really like eachother like we were talking online last night like all night & it was like really cute cause he kept like telling me how much he likes me crap and i really really like him too. yeah sounds great but last time we liked eachother like nothing happened we just stayed friend. like i really wanna go out with him but like i never ask guys out. i think its sooo weird and like creepy. haha but like i dont know what to do to like get him to ask me out like what to say or what cause ive basically told him that i want to be with him and he said he was like in love with me so please help just like tell me what to do so he like gets the hint and asks me outt haha ill rate highh (link)
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Well maybe he isn't allowed to date. have you asked him? This exact thing happened w/me and I found out the reason he didn't ask me out is because he wasn't allowed to date. So clear things up with him on that. If he still doesn't ask you I think maybe you could ask him. It would'nt technically be "asking him out" you could just do it like this"so you like me right? and I like you, so....do you wanna go 2 a movie or something?" and I dont know maybe that would work? much love xoxoxox
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Hey its the girl who cant go out till i am 18. my names katie and my columnist log on is : dory16
I would also like to talk so please visit my column, cause i couldn't find your e-mail address. Have you ever had to sneak out to a date? (link)
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Hey,
I have once before. For some reason(at least for me) parents seem to be able 2 sence when your lieng! Its crazy! The way i would do it is tell you parents you are going 2 the movies with sum girl friends(which you are....kinda) then when you get to the movies you meet the boy there. Your friends can go hang sumwhere else while you two go on your date. This works good if your friends are willing to go with you. Hope this helps.
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