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Heyy You c: the name is Jessie. I'm a cheerleader and a singer =] i laugh at anything pretty much, and it usually makes other people laugh. i am very optomistic unless its my own situations. photography is my love and i would be completely lost without my camera. making people happy is what i strive for. I care too much about what other people think, but i'm learning. ive been giving advice for a crazy amount of years and continue to do so. i've never been rated less than a 4. so.. i guess i'm pretty good. i tend to blabber on about absolutly nothing, and i'm pretty sure i've done that alreday so i'll stop

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ok got this gril i like and were really close friends and its a real turn off to me that she smokes cause it is decusting and waste of money and harmful.... even if nothing happens with us what can i say to get her to quit...i have asked her before and she has for a while then started back up what should i do and what can isay to let her no its not worth it!!

tell her that its a turn off.
tell her that alot of guys think its gross and that she'd be so much more respected if she didnt smoke.
then tell her that YOUD like her more and have much more respect and liking in her if shed just stop because its not doing anything good for her.
sure it may take away stress, but its adding to likeliness of death.

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Hello, I'm 15/female.

THIS IS NOT LIKE THE OTHER RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, HELP IS GREATLY APPRECIATED! ALITTLE LENGTHY.


Okay, so I've known John for almost a year now, we met in school were we have 1 class, and lunch together. We talked in school, as friends. Well the last 2 months of school her met my best friend Jess at a party, they both got drunk & you know what. Well they began to like eachother, which was great. I talked to him about her in school, not badly or anything, but he'd ask questions about a girl he liked, which is normal, right ? Okay well my Jess would fight with me & tell me he and everyone else said I was flirting with him, which I wasn't. So I talked to him about it, he never said I flirted with him. Jess also told him the exact thing, just vise-versa. Well John seemed to think she's jealous of me.

Another time we were at a party, Jess got out of control, John couldn't handle her alone & asked me to help. I did, she punched me in the face. He got mad because she was so out of control & they got into a fight. Well later on that night, he was texting me & seeing if I was okay and if I needed a ride or anything, and got into the subject that she has a lot to be jelous of me for, may I mind you they are going out now. Jess & me fought because her boyfriend talked to me, even though I did know him first..

Now they haven't been going out for a week, and a few days ago he commented me on Facebook and said, 'so you stop talking to me now" and commented my picture saying I was cute. Well I commented him back. & he started texting me again, saying things like he wanted me, would ride me all night LOL, he just kept saying he wanted me, things like that. So later on that night, he called me & was like Jess is retarded, & he three-wayed her with me, her not knowing. And he was a total ass to her, calling her slut and saying that he was talking to me and to give me all his things because he'd be seeing me, knowing she'd get mad. Well Jess and me fought again, because I commented him back and because I was talking to him. After that me & John stayed on the phone talking for almost 2 hours. He says in the middle of the conversation " Honestly can you talk to any guy like this " I said no, because I can't. Well I think he's into me, or atleast wants to 'get busy.' & in his facebook, it says like Thanks to people, I'm 2nd, right after his best friend, I'm in caps, and periods all around so I'd be noticed, he said.


He claims to not like her at all, and be 100X happier without her. Also he thinks she's a slut & liar. Also he always has weird Facebook names about her, like "She has STD's" stuff like that. Does he just like Love to Hate her, you know?

He trusts me a lot, and always came to me for help with her or when he thought she was lying btw.

Now me & him haven't talked for a few days, and he called Jess one night when he was drunk & asked her out.

To my questions,
1) Am I wrong to be talking to him when, I knew him first, even thought he's my best friends ex & she forbids us to talk.

2) Does he still like Jess ?

3) Does he like me or just want to have sex with me ?

4) Should I text him, or wait for him to text me, which he might not do ?

5)Should I give effort to him, or his he 'over it' since he hasn't bothered to text in almost a week.

6) Does he just use me to get to her(to get her angry), as she says ?

7) Any other imput is great!


Thank you so much, sorry for the length & scattered-ness. I will clarify if asked.

this is INSANE hahaha.
okay well here

1. your not wrong for talking to him as a friend but youy are wrong in talking to him if your saying things like you wish you were with him or wanna get with him too or something because that can come right back around and bite you in the butt. if you talk to him like thatm explain to him that you cant unless they broke up because its wrong, just talk to him liek a friend theres nothing wrong with that.

2. guys are SO confusing about this stuff. hes either
a)just saying he hates her that much and stuff because he wants you to think hes over her (to either get with you or so he has 2 girls..)
b)really over her
c)is doing it to see if you talk bad about jess and then telling her or something
d)isnt over her but he likes you alot more

3. this question is so hard to tell. a good way to tell is to tell him that in order to have sex with someone youd have to be with them for a year (even if thats a lie..) if he says thats gay, then hes a jerk. if he understands, then hes worth your time. also, ask him! ask him if he likes you or if he just wants to "get with you."

4. wait 2 days for him to text you, if he doesnt, text him (: (he may be thinking "why isnt she texting me?? also)

5. dont give it effort to go get with him or go out wwith him but give it effort as a friend.

6. jess might say he uses you to get her angry because shes jealous but i doubt thats true because whats the point of WANTING to fight with your girlfriend??

7. girl just talk to them and dont say ANYTHING youll regret.. but tell the truth.

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ok i already tolded u i like a guy well he broek up with his girlfriend and i told u he wanted to go out with me know he has another girlfriend. my heart is broken sometimes i want to cry. i listen to no air everyday. he told me yesterday something freaky he locks him self in his room on a full moon.. its that freaky. but is he a player bc he said he likes me but know he has another girlfriend what do i do... im sick of this. im too ugly to get a boyfriend

girl i think you need to get some confidence.
if he's a player, why would you wanna go out with him anyway?
if you guys ever went out he might just end up telling some other girl that he likes her too just like what he's doing to you.
you can find someone else that likes you for you.
he seems to be a tease or a player and thats not cool.
also, tru to work on that confidence thing.
for starters.. when you walk, walk with your head up and smile when someone looks at you. walking with your head up makes you look much more confident and smiling makes you look outgoing and happy with yourself and inm general.

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There is this girl, sammy, last summer she got with this guy i really really liked. i didnt know her at first, but after she realized that me and her boyfriend had a really long and meaningful history she got extremely jealous. She would often wait until i was walking by and kiss her boyfriend, the one i liked, or tell him how much she loved him and how glad she was that they were together, just so i could hear. and i knew this because she would give me a very smug smile after she saw the look of hurt on my face.

..well sammy and her boyfriend broke up and i had finally moved on from him. two weeks ago i was out on a date and she happened to see us. then just two days ago i found out that the guy i had been on the date with is now her boyfriend. I am not really mad at the boy, i mean yea it sucks that he blew me off for her... but hey thats life. but i can't help but thinking that this is a really bad coincidence?

any opinions... is this just a crazy coincidence? or is this girl out to get me and hurt me whatever way possible. i just dont want this guy to get hurt if she is just dating him to get back at me!

soe girls can be total witches in cases like these.
think about it, the only reason she'd be doing this to you is because she's jealous of you.
clearly!
hey, she might like the guy you were on a date with and it may have been a coincidence.
but for now, have a little bit of an open eye and dont let her get to you.
if she flirts with a guy that you like, ignore her.
if you look hurt, thats exactly what she wants.. you to be hurt.
so dont let her see you hurt.
make her think nothing she does bothers you and eventually, she'll give up.

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I have feelings for my best friend for 7 years and still counting. I told her that I am bi sexual and she is fine with it. I talk to her about my struggle for coming out and she listens and gives me advice but I really struggle of trying to get over her! She is bi curious never had a long term boyfriend but confused of her sexuality and not interested to anyone at the moment. I told her I like her but she sees me as a sister. I am never touchy feeling or flirty to her I keep my distance. But she is to me! She leans on me sometimes and flirty to me too. I asked her if she likes me more than a friend she said not as of now sorry I see you as a sister. I want to get over her but every time I try I have a feeling that she does like me more than a friend but denies it. But I don’t think that’s true. I just can’t take no for an answer. I don’t have any gay friends to take me to gay bars or help me hook up with a girl.
I feel like she the only girl in the world I am in love with but I really want to get over her and see her as a sister.

if you were me what would you do?

thats a very hard position to be in.
first of all,
sometimes when girls are really close friends, it'll seem as though their acting flirty towards eachother when they might even both be straight.
some things are like that in todays world.
for now, try to think and believe deeply that she only sees you as a sister no matter how she acts towards you. this should help you understand your guys relationship on friendly terms.

second of all, you dont need a GAY friend to bring you to a gay bar.
there are tons of bi curious or any type of straight people who are allowed into bars like that just to hangout with friends.
if none of your friends feel comfortable doing that, join a gay club or an online website to help you come out about being gay or to neet other gay people.
this way it will help you to open up, and help others too.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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ok this boy i liked has a girlfriend but he likes me. he wants me to go to this powehouse with him on friday should i go... i really like him.. he calls me, he Ims me and texts me on my cell.... i think he likes me do you . he is 16 and im 18

it definately sounds like he likes you.
heres the thing,
you sound like a really great person and you probably are.
but be so so careful when the guy you like has a girlfriend expecially if he likes you back.
the only way you should go to this powehouse with him is if you know for SURE and i mean 100% sure that if he tries to kiss you or anything like that,
you will have enough will power and respect not only in yourself but for that other girl that you can say no.
if he treis anything, tell him you like him but you could never do that to another girl so it would just have to wait until they break up.
if you know that you won't be able to say no to him,
i wouldnt hangout with him if i were you.
you'd get a terrible reputation and not only that but guys would look at you in the wrong way.
if you like him, hangout and do some innocent flirting.
but for now, know that you guys are just friends who are secretly crushing on eachother,
and nothing more than that.
(for now [;)

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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well i want dana but i don't want josh. but know theres a new problem his gf thinks that were playing around and shes a friend of mine and shes suppose to come to my house this weekend and i don't know what to do because dana and i aren't doing anything behind her back.

well the only thing i can truly think of is this weekend maybe talk to her and tell her theres nothing going on between you and dana. if he has a girlfriend, maybe you just shoudlnt flirt with him or people will think you guys are fooling around behind his girlfriends back.

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ok heres the second prob he broke up with me yesterday all b/c of this guy josh and there was this rumer going around school saying that i was making out with this guy josh but its not true and dana didn't even come to me andhe just beleived every one eles, and to top it all off amanda was dating josh and then broke up with him yesterday and thats when they started dating ,but the day that dana broke up with me the night both of them started dating and non i think that i want to go out with this guy josh i don't know what to do can u help me just a little bite. thanks.

well i can tell you right now, if he doesnt believe you.. he's not worth it.
he should believe you if he cares that much about you.
if he believes everyone else, maybe t was meant to be that way, and maybe you should find someone new (besides josh and dana)

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Alright, so this is the first Valentines day I'll have a boyfriend, and I have NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend...hes really sweet and I love him to death but he is the hardest person to shop for. He spent alot of money on my christmas present and I feel bad...so I wanted to get him something really memorable for Valentines day. Hes kinda a redneck and likes outdoorsy stuff. Well any help would be appreciated!!!
Thanks a bunch

haha awww.
okay well theres a few suggestios depending on his personality.
1. a build a bear dressed up in something he likes (whether its a sorts team, super hero, hobby, career, etc.) and have it holding chocolates.
2. a bunch of stuff from godiva (its expensive thoughh)
3. a futon! haha. you can get them between 60-200$ usually but their so much fun and comfy ands guys love them.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo :)

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Okay so, Valentines Day is coming soon and I need some ideas on what to get my boyfriend. I've been dating him for eight months, and hes hard to shop for. I want something thoughtful so, I dont want to get him a gift card.
So if you have any ideas please help me out :)
That would be great

haha awww.
okay well theres a few suggestios depending on his personality.
1. a build a bear dressed up in something he likes (whether its a sorts team, super hero, hobby, career, etc.) and have it holding chocolates.
2. a bunch of stuff from godiva (its expensive thoughh)
3. a futon! haha. you can get them between 60-200$ usually but their so much fun and comfy ands guys love them.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo :)

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We have a valentine's day/ semi-formal every year. I really want this guy to ask me. His locker is 3 over from mine and he is in 3 of my classes. We're friends, but I have caught him looking at me in class. I really don't want to ask him, because, as he is really popular, he is ALWAYS surrounded by his guy friends. I always mean to mention the semi- formal, but chicken out. How should I get him to ask me out? It's in two weeks.

Theres a bunch of different appraches you can take in this situation.
first of all, you can do something cheesy but romantic.
by this, you can stick a note in his locker saying something really cute such as "i think your really cute :) go to the formal with me?

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I like this guy Chris at school. I didn't think that he even knew I existed. Well one day during the summer, he sent me a message on Facebook. I obviously accepted his friend request and we started talking. He plays football and baseball. He is like the perfect guy for me. I also play softball, so we have something in common when we talk. I also tried to make it to a couple of his football games, but I don't know if he knows I was there. Anyway, we have a couple of classes together and I'm starting to think that I could really be interested in this guy. Every night we basically talk online, and he is such a great person. I really feel like we connect on certain levels. We have a dance coming up at school and we were talking in a big group about our dress, hair, etc... and he mentioned something about how he has to find a date. He looked directly at me. I'm pretty sure that means he wants to go with me, but I want to know for sure, and the dance is in a month. I really want to go with him. How could I hint to him that I'm interested, without being pushy?

well first of all, that is SO cute haha.
and secondly, if he looked directly towards you and his body language was pointed at you, he clearly wanted to give you a hint that he's intersted.
when your talking online, you should bring it up slowly at first, such as saying something like "i hope nocody has the same dress as me." then casually say "so did you find a girl to ask yet? i didnt find a guy yet either.." etc.
good luckk you!
:]

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ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.

basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!!

karma can seriously come back and bite you in the ass as you can tell.
but if you want to finish the right way.. start over the right way!
you have to break up with your girlfriends.
all of them.
then you have to promise not only your wife, but yourself that you will NEVER cheat on her again.
if you do.. you will loose everything, your wife, your kids, your world pretty much.
keep that in mind and explain that to your wife and kids, tell them how much you love each and everyone of them and how you would never want to loose them.
and remember.. if you really love them.. you will not cheat your family.

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okay so i leike this guy named jack! he is so cute and well i dont no if he likes me! well he talks to me and when he hated all the girls he said im still the only cool one and all my "girl friends" says he does but like he dosnt talk to me a lot! and he asks to hug one of my bffs and she nos i like him and she hugs him anyways! and i was just wondering if he does i think he dosnt but my friends thinks he does so i want to no!
please help please and thankyous!

truthfully, follow your gut instinct.
its hard to tell this stage in time if he does or not,
but maybe you should talk to him more and flirt alot so that he can talk to you more.
once he starts talking to you more it will be clear if he likes you or not by the way he's acting

ps-- dont worry about your friend hugging him, all friends hug friends, but if it turns into anything more than hugging.. let her know its bothering you.

hope i helped

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15/M

Okay, Ive met this girl, we will call her T... well anyway me and T have been talking for like 5 months now and we liek eachother but still aint going out(she lives 45 mins away from me) Well I told her i love her which i do dearly i always think about her and what not... well anywayz we have been getting into lil fights recently because i want to be with her so bad and she is confused and doesnt know because he dad and mom are about to get a divorce and fight and she gets hit sometimes to and all that, and i have recently relieze me bothering her about a relationship just makes it worse becuz she is going through hell and 1/2.. sometime idk if we will ever work what should i do keep trying to work things out and be happy wait for her to see whats going on or just find someone else?

if you really and truthfully love this girl, and you believe she is the one for you, then don't give up on her.
Even though you both really like eachother and you do want to be with her, try not bothering her about it so much.
Just be calm and see if she brings it up.
She sounds like she's going through alot so maybe instead of getting into fights with her, just try being there for her and she'll see how much you care.

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14/f
ive been going out with my boyfriend for not even a month but ive liked him for a really long time we were at the movies the other day and i gave him a hand job..it was my first time and now i feel really slutty and i regret it..is this normal?

Also we said that we werent going to tell ne one and that it was going to be "our little secret" but i really wanna tell my best friend..do u think i should?

truthfully,
although he is your boyfriend and you have liked him for a while...
a month is a little soon to be giving him a handjob.
even if you were ready, it's natural to feel a little slutty about it because your scared your moving too fast.
trust me, there are many 14 year olds who have done that before.
but just like you.. they dont want to tell anyone because they think people will think they're a slut.
if you were ready.. its perfectly okay.
if you werent, just tell your boyfriend you need to wait a while before doing it again.

as for your best friend...
if she keeps secrets and will keep it,
theres no problem why you shouldnt tell her.
she is your best friend, right?
it just might be a little better if you ask your boyfriend if you can tell her..
just incase she slips...

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what are some tips for making out and kissing?

i need to know everything!

okay here are a few tips...

Great Breath - This is really important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. if you go somewhere with him to eat something, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss, if your lips are too dry they stick and are slightly hard to move. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss, but not too much that it's slimy. and don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.



Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.



Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.


Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose, but not heavily because you don't want to breath all over him. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

good luck!!

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I'm going out with a guy who pretty much used to be one of my best friends. Whenever he used to say something that'd crack me up, sometimes I'd say "ha, I love you, you're too funny." Well, that was when we were just friends.

We've only been going out a couple of days, but he's already telling me he actually loves me. I know I don't love him back just yet, so I don't want to lie to him. And I've tried to explain that to him, and he said he'll say it anyways. I just always makes me feel awkward when he does, so what should I say back?

if you've already explained to him how you feel about him, you could try just smiling, or hugging him when he says it. It will mean alot to him to know that you care how he feels about you. You could also say something like "thank you babe" so he knows you care about him alot, but don't love him just yet.

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