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My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks (link)
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That usually happens all the time to girls. Getting stuck in the middle is tough, especially when you like the guy. My advice is to think of him as a friend, not a boyfriend. Give him advice if he needs it, be pretty normal. Just control the jealousy. Do not wreak your friendship with ur friend. Friendships are awesome to have and majorly important. You could mention it to her....but keep it casual.
Whenever you get jealous remember friendship.
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my boyfriend told me, i have the curiousity of a cat but the heart of a saint.
can someone translate it? i have no idea what it means, please. (: thanks loves. (link)
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I think it means you are curious and sneaky but you have the heart of a saint which i think means you have a big heart (you care a lot.)
Hope that helped,
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I think I might like my ex boyfriends best friend. I don;t now what to do. I still like my ex but I think I may like his friend more. what should I do. If you have ever had a problem like this please tell me what you did. thanks. (link)
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I have never had that sort of problem but here is my advice: I think you should go tell him you like him. It will not hurt...only your ex's feelings a bit. Does your ex have a girlfriend already? Well if he does and you did not feel sad or mad or something like that then I bet her won't feel anything as well. But if he doesn't have a grlfriend, well you will have to make the 1st move because no mattter what you guys will get a boy/girl friend someday or another. Even if it is their best friend. Sure....it may hurt a little to them but after a while they will get used to it. But still sat friends with your ex, he may like you still a little too and would not want to always be left out. That is my advice.
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Went out earlier tonight and stole as many flowers out of gardens as I posibly could, ended up with quite a lot of differant flowers.
Went to this girls house, who I have been out with at least 6 times, climbed over her apartment fence (questioning my sanity at being there in the middle of the night) scatered the flowers on her lawn and left.
I'm kinda scared that she will think I'm a weirdo stalker or something, but I really hope it makes her happy and special...
I have a idea that she likes me...kinda saw her being jeolous at another woman i was talking to one night (the woman was sweet, but happely married to someone else, and I REALLY like this girl)
anyway the real question for the modern age...would you consider this Romantic or Creepy? (link)
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Well to tell you the truth you can look at the question in 2 ways. You can say it was romantic about the flowers and all but creepy because what if the girl you sent them too did NOT like you and had no idea where the flowers came from. But I say in my opinion very romantic.
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Hi Guys my girlfriend is a couple of years younger than me (23) but she acts like a little kid! When we're out with her friends that are her same age group she's acts completely normal and I am so attracted to her as a person when she's like this. BUT whenever she's out with my friends (their my age) she acts like a little brat, i'm a pretty patient person so have put up with it for a while now, but its starting to be a problem as i feel a little nervous whenever I take her out.
she's acts like this constantly when we're with her family too (she's the youngest child), and i guess her family has treated her like she's the youngest child like forever...
What should I do? I really love this girl, but its just in circumstances where its starting to stress me out. If its a psychological thing i wanna help her through this, just wondering what you guys thought. (link)
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She acts like this because like you said she is the youngest child and is used to getting attention. She doesn't act like this in front of her friends because they would think she was immature. She doesn't care if she acts like a clown in front of your friends because it is nature...it was how she grew up. Tell the girl you love her. Do it at the right timing...like when you guys are alone and say it right out...maybe she will understand and stop acting like a pain. I am sure she is just doing that npt because of any love resons but because she was born the youngest. That is my advice.
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me and this guy like eachother and we meet at a camp this summer. but we live 2 far away. I am going 2 see him soon. and some people think that hes going 2 ask me out. but i dont know if i would want 2 because of the distance. like i would but the distance is a big thing.
what should i do?
Thanks (link)
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If you really like him follow your heart. Do what you think is right. If you think distance is a big thing then talk to him about it...maybe you guys can work something out. If you guys can't work something out then meet at camp again. That is my advice.
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Ok, I like guy, guy likes me. I found out he liked me today from a friend of us both. He told her this exactly (at least from what I know) "I like (my name), but I am going to wait a while so I can make sure she is right." Omg, I like him so much, haha, anyways I was wondering when this would be...? (link)
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It may not be anytime soon....but don't let that bring your hopes down. He just wants to make sure that he doesn't get his heart broken or something like that. So if he watches you more closely than usual don't be intimidated. BE YOURSELF! (I know, I know I give everyone that advice when they ask me this kind of question but it actually is TRUE! Believe me! Anyways that is my advice.
P.S. GREAT JOB! CONGRATS! GOOD LUCK!
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ok i no this has got to be the most common question in the world but im still asking it...ok i reallllly like this guy and we talk a lot but not A LOT so how do i know if he likes me or how do i get him to notice me or something! please help me thanks (link)
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Well be yourself...and keep talking..the more you know him and he knows you hopefully the better. If you want to know if he likes you watch his face closely when you talk to him. If he smiles a lot etc. you never know..:) He may consider you a good friend if you guys are close...if he does that is a good start. If you want to get noticed flirt a little. BUT BE URSELF! It is the most important key in lovelife..at least to me. It is better that you be yourself instead of someone else.
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I am a kinda...traditional gurl. i would prefer the guy ask me out. i want this guy that i like to finally realize that what he has been looking for is right in front of him. but i dont want to just come out and tell him that i like him... what should i do (link)
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Here is some advice: like I've said to other people the KEY to all this love stuff is to be yourself. The boy needs to get to know you better and same for you to him. He will hopefully notice that the girl is right in front of him. Flirt a little if you have too. But some traditional things need to be broken slowly but surely tons of people like girls ask boys to go out. So try it if you want.
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There is this girl I like at work. She seems really cool and it seems like we have alot in common. But she says she has a boyfriend for 7 months. What are some ways that I can get her to leave him and date me? I know its bad, but I think there is a chemistry there. (link)
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Not to sound harsh but making he rbreak of w/ her boyfriend is not the best thing to do. If anyone found out there would be major trouble for you. idf there is any chemistry what so ever w/ you and the girl...she would be breaking up with her boyfriend, not you doing it for her. My advice is be yourself. the girl may like you but is waiting for the right time to tell you or she thinks your a great friend. If your a great friend w/ a good personality, your on the way to happiness. That is my advice.
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why do guys find the need to have a skinny girl? it gets me mad when a guy is attracted to some skinny girl when he could have great chemistry and a great relationship with a different girl who is overweight?
sam with girls i guess. but guys seem to have a more 'strict criteria' (link)
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Guys are weird and if they knew how nice some people are they wouldn't care what their weight was. Guys have strict criteria because (I know this sounds harsh but..) they do not want to have rumors about themselves etc. about his gf. It is kinda a popularity contest for them sometimes. I admit I'm not the most skinniest girl in my class but I'm not overweight. I get mad sometimes as well. But it is the chemisty of life. My advice is be yourself and always be true to yourself if you want to get a guy and gain self-confidence.
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I'm 16 and I've never been in love. I'd just like to know if anyone else out there has ever been in my position, because I really feel alone. All of my friends throw around the word "love" after having a 2 hour bf/gf relationship. But, I'm scared when I'm older that I won't ever have that one person to wake up and want to be with everyday! It like scares me. Had anyone else been in my position? (link)
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I'm not exactly in your position, as in age wise, but a lot of people in my grade are dating and I have never been in love or dated at all. I'm waiting for that perfect guy. My time will come, so will yours. You just have to be patient. As for your friends, as I said, a ton of people in my grade are dating as well and all my friends are affected by it, but they don't talk about it too often because there are people like you and me who has never been in love. If you want make a joke out of it..in a good way. My advice it be patient......again like i said, your time will come.
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Ok Me and My boyfriend broke up yesterday due to he liked another girl! It broke my heart, I was mad, and I could have pinched his head off. But now he acts like he likes me AGAIN! Like when I was sitting at lunch today with some girls he kept looking at me for long periods of time. He does that even when I pass him in the hall. And when he sees me on the bus he will look for me and when he sees me he will smile. So Whats going on???!?!? Signed Confused! (Smarty Pants will be reported.) (link)
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I think he may have broke up w/ you to see if you liked him...its sounds weird....anyways just forget about him, if he can't make up his mind on one single thing then why is he even worth your time. If your a brave person I would tell him off but it is your choice wheither to do that. But I say if he broke your heart once..then don't let him do it again. That is my advice.
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okay i need help. there's this guy and i reallllyy like him. he's perfect, awesome personality, beautiful eyes, funny, gorgeous smile/dimples.. what more can you ask for? but anyways, we've known each other for like 1 1/2 months, and we text and call everry night. but then when we see each other at school we barely talk?! when we're on the phone we can carry on a convo. forever. do yall think he likes me? cause i wanna go out with him. but i don't know if he likes me and i don't wanna ask him b/c i'm scared to know his reaction. so what are some ways for him to liikee me? i've never really felt this wayy for a guy before. please help. i rate=) thxx! (link)
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Well if you found the perfect guy....great job..:) Now...for your problem...well I suggest you start talking at school together. That way you can get to know each other more. also it woill not hurt if you ask him..to go out w/ eachother. But your one step to far, first you have to get to know him a little more. I think from all your writing, that he may really like you as a friend. For a guy to like you i would first be yourself and carry on coversation still. Second, flirt a little, not to much though..be careful...and third.....do what you think is right. That is my advice...good luck!
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theres this one boy at my school, i can't tell if he likes me or not because hes always mean to me and says rude stuff to me and hits me and stuff i mean i guess you could say he is just playing around or whatever but is this how he flirts with me because he wont leave me alone!
helppp... (link)
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He probably likes you. Boys can do weird things just to get your attention. That boy certainly wants to get your attention. It seems he couldn't make up his mind about getting your attention so he is flirting and getting you to notice him by playing around. But if he hits you?! Well....idk..this guy must be desperate to tell you something. Trust your instincts......I think he likes you...and he is having trouble figuring out how to get you to notice him. Well aparrently he succeded. It's your call....what do you think....That is my advice. Hope all goes well :)
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okay i have a problem =/ my friend who i am really close to asked me to homecoming the other day, and i said no. well all along i have really wanted to go with him but people at my school hate him because he dumped one of them like 2 years ago, and they are still upset with him. the thing is, i said no because i didnt want people to be mad at me since it is only the 2nd week of school. Did i do the right thing? He seems really upset and i really want to go so does anyone have any advice? xO (link)
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I would have said yes. There is still time! He probably feels bad and upset and now he has no date to the homecoming dance. You shouldn't care what other people think. If your friends were really good friends they would understand. Since it is only the second week of school I guess making good impressions are important. But that is no excuse because now you may become a heartbreaker. So my advice is go tell him your sorry...right in front of your friend if you have too! And if he as no one to go with ask HIM to the dance. I wish you luck :)!
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theres this boy i like... and i wanna ask him out..
i've been dropping him hints..but i dont think he gets it. i think hes afraid to express his feelings (if he does like me which i have no idea about) like one time, at a school dance (we both had no dates) and i told my friend to ask him out for me and she did and he said no..but she said she was just wondering and i didnt really know she was doing that. but that was before he started to know me. cause hes a new kid. but now we know each other a little bit better and i've been really pretty and funny (i guess thats what he looks for in a girl) and a few days ago, i told him i thought he was hott. he didnt say anything though. haha...should i ask him out? but i kinda want to wait til he knows me a lot more... cuz if he says no..i'll never have another chance..but im so confused. what do i dooo? thanks! much love!!
P.S. he rides my bus too. ♥♥♥♥ (link)
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I say wait. You barely know him well enough.It would be much better if you waited because then you can have conversation topics (LOL) and you can learn abouthim a little better. Also...let him know you a little better as well....you say he's new and let me tell you from experience...new is sometimes very...frustrating. But wait about a month or two and if you think it is all right and he is more comfortable with his new school...ask him. There is no harm..only feelings. Follow your instincts. Also since he is on your bus talk to him like a old friend would..he prbably needs a good friend or two. About expressing his feelings...your probably right..he is afraid...he doesn't know what everyone expects him to say..and he probably saw the signs a long time a go but is to "afraid" to show it. But don't worry....give him a little time and if you still like him and he likes you then all will probably work out in the end.
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Ok.My boyfriend and I go together over the summmer.When we are in skool ppl keep sayin that he is touchin other grls.I don't believe them & I believe him.I dunno if he is?(Cheatin on me)What should I do?
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What kind of people tell you these things? If it is close friends, seeing it upclose, I would believe them...it is tough but they're your friends. But if it other people you might want to check it out for yourself or see if anyone that you know well saw anything. If they didn't that trust your instincts or if your too curious,then, like I said, check it out and see if what everyone is saying is true. or if you are a brave girl ask him upfront at the perfect moment...he will show a sign if he is lying. But first I would ask your friends. And ALWAYS be confident of whatever you choose....nowadays any false move may make a rumor. good luck!
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there's this guy at school that I really like, and I think he likes me back because he always kinda flirts with me and stuff during class, but i dont know. the thing is, i know he likes this other girl because he always walks her to class, but i no for a fact ther not going out (plus, he told me). is there any way to tell if a guy likes you?
ill rate high 4 good answers (link)
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Well...guys are mysterious...you never know what they are thinking. A wild guess, maybe he likes you and is telling you he likes someone else so he wouln't lose his cover. It is far-fetched..but you know it actually might be true. The ways to tell if a guy likes you is first, he will flirt with you maybe. He always listens to you. He smiles secretly as if he knows something. Does he make an effort to talk to you etc. etc.? Does he try to be funny and make jokes (that sometimes aren't funny..LoL) or is he the kind of guy who is shy and will never look at you and blushes a lot. Depends..but if you can relate to any of these things (2 or more) then there is a chance that he may like you....(more than 2)a lot.
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do you think it is possible that a fifteen or sixteen year old like a geeky thirteen year old? (link)
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Sure it is possible...love comes in many sizes,you just happened to pick an older/younger size. If you want to know if the person likes you follow the signs....
Hope your question is answered!
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