Well , lets just say i let my jelousy take complete control over myself . Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now [ in a bout a month anna half we will be ] . But i am still just as jelous and insecure as i was just starting to get in the relationship . I seriously don't know why i am , he has not done anything to make me feel like i shouldn't trust him , or be mad when he talks to girls , but i just am ! i hate when he talks to other girls but then i again he doesnt like [ certain ] boys but he has a reason as so do i . But i just need help because im scared if i havent gotten over it in a year where the hell is it going to stop ? We can never go through one day with out me bringing up past things or getting mad about something , but he's the laid back one . Any help please ?
Hey. so yea the way your acting is completely natural. The majority of girls are like this. Unfortunetly there isn't a magic cure but I csn give you some things to think about to make you a little more relaxed. First off he loves you and that is apparent because you have been going out for so long. you don't stay with a person for that long if you do not truly love them. This means that the chances of him cheating on you are slim to none because he loves you and wouldn't want to hurt you. also as a guy he probably feels the same sort of jealosy about you when your with other guys. guys are just less likely to express the feeling because the don't want to seem insecure. All in all I think that you will definetly get over your jelosy and until then just know that it's natural. Hope this helped :-)
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Ok.. Well, I like this girl see... She used to like me, but I'm not sure if she still does or not... Anyway. How do I know if she still likes me, WITHOUT asking her? I mean, I think I MIGHT be inlove with her but... I don't want to love her and her not love me back...
This is weird. it's like a repeat of what happened to me a year ago. The best thing you can do is and i know your going to get mad at me but, the best thing is to talk to her about it. not straight up say "do you like me I like you" but be smooth about. when your alone with her strike up a casual conversation and then casually ask "so did you really used to like me" when shes says yes just say something like "It's funny cause i really liked you but just never worked up the courage to ask you out". After this the conversation will naturally progress. you'll know the right thing to say. if it doesn't get you two together then it will certainly give her something to think about. eventually she may open up to you about her true feelings. this is really really clique but thers an old saying that says"The quickest way to get from one place to another is always a straight line" I hope this helped a little:)
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Yeah this is pretty kiddish. Because I'm almost 17 but how do you know? I've been talking to a number of guys and yet I can't tell which ones really like me or not. Like what are the signals. Do they say they miss you and stuff? I just want to know some signals on how to find out if he likes me or not. thank you for your help!!!!
okay so in general simply talking to a guy will not set off any buzzers. i wish we did but we just don't. to know if a guy likes you, in my opinon, you really have to get to know him well. I know personally that i don't feel comfortable telling a girl i like her unless i trust her enough that if she were to tell me that she didn't like me back it wouldn't be a completely humiliating situation. If you do like a guy definetly flirt big time with him. one of the main reasons us guys usually don't say anything is because we have no idea how the girl feels. if you clearly show a guy that your into him then it may releave some stress and he'll definetly be more open with you about his feelings. Hope this helped a little:)
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i want a guy to have enough balls to answer this
why are you all such pigs????
do you ever like a girl for her personality!!!!
and why is it impossible for girls like me who have a big chest and nice body to walk into a room and not be harrassed like a slab of meat!!!!!!!!!!!!
do any of you have your own personalities or are you all just clones of your damn friends !!!!!
r there no decent guys out their!!!!!!!!!!
prove to me that u r actually decent human beings who r sensitive and care!!!!!!
hey. i'm really sorry that you are treated this way. it's really unfortunet the so many guys act this way towards girls. it's frustrating because it makes all of us look like dicks and then girls tend to use these generalitys that all guys treat girls like pigs(no offense, it just gets annoying after a while) personally the way a girl looks isn't that big a deal for me. I've met plenty of drop dead girls her are dumber than rocks and they just don't do anything for me cause they seriously lack substance. It's hard to have a real relationship with a girl like that because then a relationship can turn physical and thats pretty worthless. I'm into girls who i can just hang around and feel happy with. someone who will sit down and talk to you. as for the whole male reaction to a good looking girl, it's just the way most of our minds work. It's been proven that while women attach strong emotional values to things like words and images men just don't. At a first glance a girl is a girl. Trust me i wish there were more guys that where complete asses but there aren't. on the positive side it makes your life easier because even though there will always be jerks if you look carefully you can always find at least one guy who will listen to you and genuinly care about you as a person and not as a body. don't give in and keep on dealing with it and when you get to where you want to be in life you can look back at them and realize that you truly accomplished something. You certainly have the support of one friendly and sensitive guy:) I really hope this helped:)
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So I am 14 and i took your advice that was in order to get more guy friends i should ask them for there numbers etc. and invite them to go places with my friends. All my friends are 15 and we are sophmores my birthday is in december, so i was just wondering what are some good places to go to hang out. I want to interact with them, so I dont want to go to the movies or someplace you can't interact. A lot of people say restaurants but i would rather do something more fun. So if possible can you give me a few places that you feel is a good place to hang out with a group of about 12 people coed! Thanks so much
hmm well i'd say definetly the mall. I don't know why but guys love the mall for the rediculouse shops and girls just love to shops so it's a good place. another good place is definetly just walking around town. just like walking down the streets and oing into different stores, restaurants, etc. also when your walking around town you may come across a place that you may want to hangout at in the future. I know some of my friends spend alot of time at starbucks while the rest spend time outside a cvs. it all depends on where you live and the environment that surrounds you. and of course the simplest place is just at someones house. you could even use a perons house as a starting place and just head out from there. plus someone is bound to suggest something. Hop this helped:)
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost two weeks, I know that's not long but we havn't even kissed yet and we're both shy.
We've madeout before but that was at a party when we were drunk and it was before we were going out.
And it's really weird cause it's almost like we're not going out cause we hardly act like it.
And I've loved him for so long now and I don't want to give up just because we're both shy, but nothing seems to be happening.
I don't know what to do.
hey so first of definetly don't give up on him cause it sounds like you two could end up having a great, long lasting relationship:) second of the shyness problem can be solved pretty easily. all you two have to do,and it's a little cleque, is talk to each other. lay your feelings out so that you both know how the other one feels. your shyness is comeing from the fact that subconciously you don't know his feelings and therefore can't correctly respond with the appropriate action. for example if you knew that he was madly in love with you then there would be no reason to be embarresed about kissing him or holding his hand because no matter what you do even if for some reason he wasn't ready for a kiss he would still love you. so yea don't worry about it. i know i've always been like this and it has always helped to hear the other person say just how much they like me. Hope this helped:)
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ok just to start i am a man..ish lol (16 years old) but the thing the proceeds to allways piss me off is the way i see other guys looking at girls as if they are mindless sex objects, damn i hate it. one of my freinds freind today was lookin at a girl across the street going oh wow looka her ass i'd bone that bitch and crap like that. am i missing something? because its demoralising as hell and i hate it... how do i just tell him that he is doing something that pisses me off to no end without being so... oh how to put it harsh... well maybe a little to show him a bit, but i dont know ime confused about it i just need a good one liner that will tell anyone i meet like it in the future.
dude you are awesome. I feel the same way. here's the thing. unforunetly alot of other guys are demoralizing when it comes to women. eventually they'll mature and unfortunetly theres not much you can do about it. but there is good news. your like a commodity. girls love a guy who genuine cares about a girl and will listen to her. So even if these guys are being a pain in the ass you know that your a genuine guy. so yea keep on keepin on. Hope this helped:)
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What is your opinion on long distance relationships? I've been going out for my boyfriend for 4 months and in October he's going to college (I'm a grade below him at school) and he will be gone for the following periods of time:
early Oct - early Dec
Late Jan - early March
early April - late May
and then back for the whole summer (after which I will hopefully be going to the same college as him).
I do love my boyfriend, he hasn't said it back to me yet but from what I've gathered he's prepared to do this whole long-distance thing. I'm just wondering whether you feel it is doomed to fail or not, because a lot of people have expressed surprise that I've wanted to do this. Thanks! x
hey so yea keep up the long distance relationships. alot of people assume they won't work but thats because long distance relationships require work from both the boyfriend and the girlfriend. they are very rewarding cause each time you see the person it's like "hey i haven't seen you in a while. we have so much to catch up on". these realtionships,if worked out tend to last longer in my opinion because there is never a loss of interest. my longest relationship was 8 months and it was long distance and my current relationship is long distance. I think that if your willing to make it work then it will work and from what i hear your willing to make it work. so definetly keep it up. Hope this helped:)
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well I DID go out with this guy for 9 months and last friday we broke up and surprisingly i got over it not fully but i dont feel the same for him as i used one cuz hes a jerk now and two hes not talking to me but there is this reallllly cute new kid who i talk to all the time he already knows i like him and he likes me . we talk all the time like to the point where people are wondering if we are going ouT! but theres the thing i do want to and he does too i think but idont know if its to soon to do go out should i just date like hang out a while or just wait a month and then go out with him???!
you should do what feels right but personaly i think that if you like him and he likes you then don't wait. alot of things can change in a month including a relationship. plus he might start wondering why,if there is an understanding that you both want to be with each other,you want to wait a month.Hope this helps:)
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I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now. He's always been so good to me and I love him so much.
A couple weeks ago, I went on his computer and saw that he left a comment on this girl's picture saying how beautiful she was. I can't explain it, but this literally broke my heart. Probably because it was so unlike him to do something like that. I confronted him about it and he said it didn't mean anything and it wasn't a big deal and he was sorry. I believe him. I really do. But I can't understand why it still hurts me so much to think about it. It still kills me inside even though he really didn't do anything that horrible. Sometimes when I'm talking to him I'll remember what he did and I'll get upset about it all over again and he doesn't understand why it's such a big deal.
Can anyone explain why I can't get through this? I don't want our relationship to all of a sudden be bad over a stupid comment.
it is possible that the reason this is probably bothering you so much is that subconciously you feel threatened. see for a guy, telling a girl that shes beautiful is just that. it's a complament and nothings it meant by it. for a girl the word beautiful has a more serious personal meaning. it's been proven that while girls attach emotional values to certain words without thinking about it guys do not. So don't worry about it. just know that you and him are the ones who have been going out for two years and not the girl in the picture. Hope this helped:)
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Ok...so my boyfriend and me have talked about a promise ring. We've been together for a year and a half and we know that we truly love each other and want to spend our lives together. We both decided that we would wait a few more months before taking this step! Do you think this is too soon? Or can you really put a time on these kinds of things!
I say go for it when ever it feels right to you. a promise ring can really become something of great sentimental value and it's a great way of showing you love someone. so you when it feels right jsut go for. Hope this helped:)
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i'm a 22 year felmale and was very clingy to my exboyfriend and is the reason why we broke up.
what i want to know is why do people become clingy what causes this and how can you stop?
him and i still care for each other but i still show him that i am clingy and we both don't like the fact that i became like this.
hey. first off clingy isn't exactlly a bad thing so don't beat yourself up about it. it just another way of saying that for one reason or another you get nervouse that you need your boyfriend around at all times. usually being clingy can come from a few things. the main cause of being clingy is usually the fear that you might lose that person or that if your not around them all the time they may forget about you. thats fine and it's perfectly normal. what you have to understand is that guys feels the same and that it's just normal.the only way to stop is to really convince yourself that he won't leave which is hard but if you really try it can definetly be done.I hope this helped a little:)
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okay..well this is going to be long. but whatever. i was with this guy from like the middle of june until the end of july and we had to end it bc he got into trouble with the police or w.e..anyways i still liked himm and he still liked me..we live like 45 mintues away from eachother to..and like a few weeks afterr we ended it before i texted him and told hinm i missed him and i said i knew it wasnt going to work but i just had to tell him that..then he said he will try and make it work. so we started talking and this time he was like the sweetest guy ever. we made a promise we weren't going to hurt eachother at all and idk he was just like perfect this time..then last friday night he got drunk and did some stuff with a girl..he told me about it on sunday and he felt bad but he said it didnt mean anything. idk if i sohuld believe him or not..ahh please help.=/
I would have to say that i believe him and although that doesn't make what he did right it certainly makes it less wrong. this guy sounds like he really cares about you and is willing to stick it out through hard times. What men do when they drink is stuff the most of the time we regret. I'm sure the decisions he made that night would not have happened if he was not drunk. it perfectly understandable for you to be mad and even he'll understand that but unless it happens again i would keep working at the relationship.I hope this helps:)
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Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do?
Well there is definetly the possibility that he doesn't realize you want to know that he notices. as guys were really not the greatest at reading emotions and feelings and responding to them in the way that we should. the male and the female way of thinking is very different. it's been shown that while women usually connect alot of issues to emotions men see things as finite. We see our girlfriends being amazing girlfriends too us and we think"wow she's an amazing girlfriend" unfortunetly most of the time thats as far as it goes. we don't get to the point where we realize we should aknowledge you for it. So I really wouldn't worry about it.theres no doubt in my mind that your boyfriend loves you alot and completely appreciates the things you do but doesn't realize that you want to hear him say it or show it. I hope this helps:)
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Hello gentelemen.
My boyfriends birthday is coming really soon. Usually on the gift giving holidays I get him a video game and he gets me some DVD's or something like that. Nothing unusual.
Well, this year I want to do something unusual (we have a sex life, just so you know, but we never do anything different or fun. And when I say different I don't mean weird stuff, I just mean pretty much anything not missionary.) I really nedd help thinking of something fun and sexy to do for him. I'm kinda thinking I wanna like ambush him and blindfold him, but where would I go from there?? Help me out, tell me what YOU would like.
Please and thank you!
Hmmm. well there's always the classic lapdance.or you could dress up like go to one of those halloween costume and get the nurse costume or th schoolgirl costume. or you could combine them, like dress up and give a lapdance and then after that he could have free choice of trying one or two completely new positions with you. have fun with it.I hope this helped and I hope your boyfriend has a very happy birthday;)
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OK, my boyfriend went to the Navy a few days ago, and i have cried for about 3 days straight and just today i have barly cried. and i'm really sad because i do not get too see him or talk to him for 2 months, only write.
But my main question is, how can i over come such sadness, i have no one too talk to anymore? also i am scared that he will come back really really changed and things will be diffrent, but in a bad way. can you please advise on not too freak out or something to make me feel better?
THANK YOU~~
right off the bat i'm going to tell you that no matter what happens when he comes back his feelings for you are going to be amazingly strong just like yours are going to be amazingly strong for him.you have to realize that he misses you just as much as you miss him and he loves you alot for really being there for him and waiting for him to come home. try to keep yourself occupied. go out alot and do stuff with your friends and try not to think about it to much. remember just because your mind was taken off him for one day does not mean that he will stop loving you. also now you have something to look foward too. imagine what it will feel like when he gets back. i think it's a little bit harder because it's the navy which is scaary to think about. imagine he's somewhere else and that he'll be perfectly fine. all in all 2 months can go by pretty quickly if your not careful and he'll be back before you know it. Hoped this helped a little:)
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so my bf and I are both pretty shy when we're around each other. We hung out the other day and my one friend was practically forcing us to hold hands. what should i do to get this friend to mind her own business? and how do i overcome some of my shyness around him?
thanks in advance. :]
I would try confronting your friend very nicely and just tell her that you and your boyfriend want to do things your way and if this friend would please stop because it makes you feel uncomfortable. as for the shyness thing the best cure for that ,and i know it's clique, is to talk to him about it. lay your feelings for him out on the line and let him do the same so there is no question about the level of attraction between you two. it may just be that you can't really figure out exactly how much he cares for you and therefore can't react appropriatly. you kiss your mom on the cheek because you love her as a parent, you kiss someone you like on the lips timidly cause it's something new and exciting, you hold hands lay on each other and kiss pationetly because both people in the relationship feel that they understand the other and are sharing something very special. it all depends on the feelings involved. I hope this helped:)
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My name is Angela, im 20 years old. I have a 10 month old son. Im in an emotional bind. I have no idea what to do. Im engaged to an amazing man. I love him so much. The problem, im emotionally attached to someone else. This is the second time this has happened. Ive known my fiance for 6 months. Ive known the other guy for 4 years. I dont know what to do. Should I leave my current fiance for the other guy?
Okay heres the thing. This guy your marrying is an amazing man and if your really willing to try really hard to make it work them i'm sure it will. But if your feelings are way more attached to this other guy and you know that it will never change I really feel that you should leave your fiance only if you know that the feeling is mutual. In the end it could cause less heart ache for everyone. you end up with a man you truly love and don't live and you don't make an amazing guy and yourself miserable by living an empty relationship for several years in which he has feelings for you that can't be reciprocated. Either way it won't be easy but you'll definetly make it through it. You'll really want to think for a while and weigh your pro's and cons. I wish you the best of help and truly hope that this helped you out even a little:)
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So I haven't been with my boyfriend for that long, and right now our relationship seems great everyone thinks we're really cute and perfect.
but lately, i feel really scared that he might meet someone prettier and break up with me for someone else.
how can i get my self esteem back up?
Okay so your definetly not alone. its really common but i can definetly offer you some advice. first off you have to understand that the reason he is with you has only a little bit to do with why he likes you. if you were the most beautiful girl on earth but were as dumb as a doorknob and as shallow as a puddle(sorry bout all the metaphors) he wouldn't date you. this means your unique. he will never find a girl like you no matter how hard he looks. plus you have to understand that chances are very good that he feels the same way. having an amazing girlfriend is...well amazing but it can also be very stressful because there are other guys out there other then him. your both really in the same boat so don't worry about it and stay positive. don't think "he might find someone prettier" think "he's with me right now and nobody else and thats what matters". I hoped this helped:)
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Hey! Thanks for helping me but since you said you didn't completely I'm going to elaborate for you! He and i are best friends and we have liked each other on and off for the last year. Pretty much as long as we've been good friends. He and i do church together like volunteer and are really active in our youth group. He's a lot like me and really understands me which practically no one does. Sometimes (or most times actually) it seems like he's the only one who understands me. Anyway he works at another place and it's a Youth Help Center for teens introuble and stuff (i've never been there) and it's run by a Christian couple and it's a Christian place so the workers can't date until they're 16. It's the rule.
We really like each other but last year dated each others best friends. He redecided not to date anymore because last year he majorly slackd off and kept dating when he wasn't suppossed to. I don't want him to brake this rule. I really want him to do it because I know it's importnat to him and i really care about him. I won't let him brake it. But there isn't a rule about kissing!
He might be taking me to Homecoming as long as he's allowed (he's checking) but i just really want to kiss him. This summer at this 1 time he was really getting close to me and stuff and hitting on me, ect. but at the time i didn't like him so it was awkward. He also asked me out but since i knew he didn't really mean it i said let me think about it and a week later we talked and decided not to.
Another thing is EVERYONE says we are perfect for each other and should totallygo out. Even his MOM said it!!!! I really want to too but I have to wait until spring (his B-day).
I want to kiss him but if i just do it randomly do you think he will freak out? I know he likes me and i really want to try so that's why I want to know how to get him to think about it and really want to. Do you know any ways to bring it up without mentioning us doing it. Like a way to make him subconsioucly think abut it or somthing- I know that's weird but whatever. Thanks so much and sorry it's so long but like i said-it's a long story! lol :D
Hey no problem. I love helping. anyways back to the matter at hand. first off yea totally wait. it's great that he's doing this and it's good to follow through with these things plus it's kinda like seeing christmas presents under the tree and knowing that there something awesome but also knowing that you have too wait and that even though it's hard you know it will be all worth it when on christmas day you rip open those presents and low and behold it is that dress you wanted(although personally I've never had that experience. it's a little far to go for a metaphor but you get the point. okay onto the second part of this. You could definetly be friends with benefits until you can date. it's like "we're friends but we can benefit each other by kissing". Unfortunetly there is no real way to tell somone you want to kiss them without telling them you want to kiss them(if there was it would have made my first kiss ten times less akward) but there are definetly ways to give off signs that something could happen. have him over to your house and dress and put makeup on in a way that says "i didn't do this because i like looking at myself in the mirror" watch a romantic movie and get under some covers with him too keep warm and lay your head on his should or grab his hand and then quickly let go at a sad part. all of these things are clear enough to make him think "what is her motivation behind this maybe I could try something" but doesn't flat out say "KISS ME NOW!!!". then when you get close and turn to look him in the eyes and moves towards every signal that you have sent him will kind of click. I'm not saying this is a sure fire way to get him to kiss you but theres definetly no harm in trying them and who knows ;)
anyways I hope this has helped you out a little:)
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