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My heart is broken...
I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now. He's always been so good to me and I love him so much.
A couple weeks ago, I went on his computer and saw that he left a comment on this girl's picture saying how beautiful she was. I can't explain it, but this literally broke my heart. Probably because it was so unlike him to do something like that. I confronted him about it and he said it didn't mean anything and it wasn't a big deal and he was sorry. I believe him. I really do. But I can't understand why it still hurts me so much to think about it. It still kills me inside even though he really didn't do anything that horrible. Sometimes when I'm talking to him I'll remember what he did and I'll get upset about it all over again and he doesn't understand why it's such a big deal.
Can anyone explain why I can't get through this? I don't want our relationship to all of a sudden be bad over a stupid comment.
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I'm often in this situation, though I am a girl I play the "guy" usually. (My boyfriend is overly sensitive I believe.)
He doesn't usually tell girls that they're beautiful so it's out of the ordinary to you, the initial shock of it not only surprised you but made you feel threatened. Even though you know it wasn't a big deal at all you're bothered by that and it's simply because you care. It's much better to be caring and feel threatened than to be impersonal and act like it's nothing.
A girl's mind works differently than a guy's. For example if you ask a the one you care about "did you see that new movie with Angeline Jolie? Wasn't she pretty?" even though you asked and you know she's a celebrity he'll never meet. You'll immediately assume (often without even realizing that you're doing so) that he prefers the celebrity (or in this case other girl) to you.
It's how girls are. We're born looking for security and love, give it some time and you'll be fine. Don't overreact, but be open and honest with him about how you feel. If you guys have been together this long you should be just fine. (:
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Your jealousy level has increased dramatically without you really knowing it.It's so unlike him giving a "girl" a compliment, when it really wasn't a big deal in the first place.I know you may hate feeling the way you do, you can't help it.You need to explain how your feeling to your boyfriend so he will understand it's not your fault or intentionally trying to hurt yalls relationship.It's okay to feel the way you are.Alot of girls tend to over-react about certain things and you need to learn to accept things and not to worry about the little things.Obviously yall love and care about each other considering how long yall have been together.You need to accept that he's yours and your his.Noone else.If you truely think somethings up, talk to him about it, don't ever hide anything from him.You have to have trust in your relationship or it will fail miserably.Hope I helped :]
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it is possible that the reason this is probably bothering you so much is that subconciously you feel threatened. see for a guy, telling a girl that shes beautiful is just that. it's a complament and nothings it meant by it. for a girl the word beautiful has a more serious personal meaning. it's been proven that while girls attach emotional values to certain words without thinking about it guys do not. So don't worry about it. just know that you and him are the ones who have been going out for two years and not the girl in the picture. Hope this helped:)
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you are having troubles becuase you obviously love your boyfriend so much you cant stand the thought of anything like that thats whyit hurt you so much just let him know that and that how much you love him and how much you believe him and then just tell him your having a hartd time getting over it even though he may not understand its worth a shot
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