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im shy and not sure if im ready for a relationship
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost two weeks, I know that's not long but we havn't even kissed yet and we're both shy.
We've madeout before but that was at a party when we were drunk and it was before we were going out.
And it's really weird cause it's almost like we're not going out cause we hardly act like it.
And I've loved him for so long now and I don't want to give up just because we're both shy, but nothing seems to be happening.
I don't know what to do.
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hey so first of definetly don't give up on him cause it sounds like you two could end up having a great, long lasting relationship:) second of the shyness problem can be solved pretty easily. all you two have to do,and it's a little cleque, is talk to each other. lay your feelings out so that you both know how the other one feels. your shyness is comeing from the fact that subconciously you don't know his feelings and therefore can't correctly respond with the appropriate action. for example if you knew that he was madly in love with you then there would be no reason to be embarresed about kissing him or holding his hand because no matter what you do even if for some reason he wasn't ready for a kiss he would still love you. so yea don't worry about it. i know i've always been like this and it has always helped to hear the other person say just how much they like me. Hope this helped:)
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First, don't stress out too much about how long you've been going out. Each relationship moves at its own speed on its own time, depending on the people involved, and other factors.
I'd recommend just spending time together doing things that both of you enjoy and getting to know each other better. I don't know if this is the case with the two of you in particular, but I do know that for some shy people (myself included), time spent with someone with no relationship-type pressure, just hanging out with them, helps me get to a point where I am more relaxed around them and therefore less shy.
If you worry too much about how long it's been and whether you've kissed since you've started going out, that's just going to put more pressure on you, which is likely to do one of the following: you'll continue to not do so, as you will be too uncomfortable, or the two of you will kiss, but it'll be unsatisfactory as it was done to get it over with and because you felt pressured.
Relax. Enjoy time spent together (because if you can't do that, then why are you together). Let things happen in their own time, and don't let other people's expectations and calendars dictate your relationship.
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I suggest trying something new with this guy. Dont give up, if theres something there it wont take long before something happens. You can try something together you havent done yet, go to the movies, take a walk in the park and talk. Make sure he knows how you feel about him.. so make plenty of eye contact and talk a lot. Do little gestures like holding his hand and cuddling up.. that way you'll make sure he feels the same way. DONT BE SHY!
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