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ok now i have a boyfriend. hes nice, funny. and god hes gorgeous. But hes extremely sensitive and everything hurts his feelings. Hes jealous all the time and it drives me insane. He always has to be calling me or texting me when hes not with me, and im not the type of girl to expect him to do that. Hes got a life i know what hes doing, so its cool i dont stress over it. we've been together going on 7 months and as soon as i met him i fell for him. i've know him for like 8 months. Sounds like i need to break it off huh? If it were someone else thats what i would say. but honestly i cant. and i dont know why? like in a way i want to, but when it comes down to doing it i just cant. i forget about it. whats that mean?


i rate good if you take the time to help me out. thank you.

Just because of how long you two stay together doesn't mean you need to break it off. If he's too clingy, sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. tell him that you really like him, but he doesn't need to check up on you all the time. Tell him you'd like it if he gave you some space just like you do to him. Good luck && hope i helped.


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about 3or4 days ago i started dating one of my best guy friends. we sort of had some sort of crush/flirt thing going on for a while. but starting an actual relationship with him never crossed my mind. until my cousin (who i recently found out was friends with him) started talking to him about "asking me out" and when he was going to and all that jazz. so when we hung out again. he asked me. it hasnt hit me until now that.. i dont want a relationship. but hurting him would be the last thing on my mind. hes been hurt before.. and is pretty sensative. so i dont know what to do. i know i should give it a chance.. but i dont want to wait to long. and start lying to myself about when im feeling. i dont know what im feeling.
anyone andive on what i could do?

Well, you have good intentions of not wanting to hurt him? However, it's better to tell him that you dont really like him than going out with him just because you dont want to hurt his feelings.
You could wait a little while and see if you really do have feeling for him. Sorry if that wasn't much help. Good luck though!


-TORi

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ok well there is this guy at my school he i really like him he isnt in any of my classes but gym and im too shy to talk to him lol but he knows i like him but ive never talked to him i really wont to meet him thought like talk to him... so maybe then he would go out with me but im too scared to talk to him

Since he knows you like him, just walk up to him && say hi. Then just become friends. You have a better chance of going out with him by talking to him rather than never talking to him. Good luck && hope I helped!


-TORi

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Okay, well there is this boy name andrew and at the end of the 6th grade i started to like him and at first he was cool about it and then he was really mean to me and said mean things to me and really broke my heart although i still liked him. In the 7th grade i went on and off liking him and we hung out a lot more and i was his best friend and he told me that somedays he liked me and other days he didnt and i just stopped like telling people that i liked him i mean if people asked i wouldnt lie about it but one day andrew asked if i still liked him and i said, "ya but i dont want to like you because whenever i like you, your always mean to me." and he was like "that was 1 time and i've changed" and he kisses me a lot and always ask for kisses and i just really like him and he always says these sweet things to me and i mean i really want to be with him but he says that some days he likes me and other days he doesnt and he really hurt me in the 6th grade and i dont even know if he wants a girlfriend and urghh now i just dont know.. somedays i think i'm over him but then when he signs online or calls me or i see him i just completly melt and idk .. should i just keep wasting my time on him or should i try to move on? idk what to do please help i need advice

Something like this happened to me. If he said he's really changed, then i think you should give him a chance. Weather we'd like to believe or not, after guys make mistakes or after they're a complete asshole, some do change. He seems like he's interested in you. && what he did to you is in the past. you never know, he might've acted that way to you cause he liked you too. People act mean to the person they like sometimes. I think you two like each other a lot. So go for it. Good luck && hope I helped.


TORi

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Okay well My problem is I like someone that is about 3 yrs older and i dunno what to do about this cuz my b-day is soon so i will be 16 and he is 18 now so this makes me only 15 and i heard it's jailbate, so should i still date him? I really like him a lot and he treats me so good...
~confused lover~

Yeah. you should still date him. I know a couple that's like 9 years apart. 3 years is nothing compared to other people. Go out with him. Hope I helped.


TORi

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there is this one guy that i really like.i know that i love him too.when i am in love i can't sleep or eat and i can't even breathe right when i see him or think about him. i have know idea what to do. until my one friend had a little chat with him.. he said at first that he would never go out with me. but then later he said i am confused and i need to get my priorities straight. so is it best just to be his friend right now.. or should i try to get him ?

signed

crazy in love but very confused

I think it's best just to be friends for now. Wait for a little while && then try to get him. Good luck && hope I helped



TORi

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well me and my friend went to this concert, and then we met up with some other friends..and one of them i happen to like..so we sat next to each other..and he was all cuddly toward me..and my friend said he was acting like he liked me..so we started talking after the concert through email..and he said mabye we should hang out sometime..i want to tell him how much i like him..but im just not sure if he likes me..i dont know how to take it to the next step...help please..

Seems like he's attracted to you. He said you two should hang out sometime. Then hang out. Get to know him a little more && then you should tell him how much you like him. I'm sure he'll feel the same way. Most relationships start with a friendship. So start to get to know him better before "take it to the next step" Good luck && hope I helped

TORi

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ok so i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 8 months... and last week i went over his house and then we went to the pool..my mom told my dad that he needed to pick me up at 5:30..my dad actually came kinda early at around 4:45!!! so i was out of the pool and me and jared(my bf) were laying on the lawn chair together.. my leg was in between his legs and when i saw my dad i totally freaked out!! 2 days later at nite my bf called and my dad picked up the fone and told me to get off the fone!!! now i can't even talk to my bf!! and my mom is saying things like how my dad doesnt want me to see jared nemore!! and my dad had a chat with me in the car on the way home and he sed i looked like a SLUT!!! i love jared soooo much and i dont think i can take wut my parents a pressuring me to do!! and i cant just not talk to jared!!!
please please please help me!!!!
thanks!!

Talk to you parents about your point of view. I'm sure they'll tell you about theirs. Though you think they absolutely unfair and your reason's better than theirs, your parents have reasons of why they think you shoudln't talk to you boyfriend. And they have good reasons to believe it or not. You need to understand what they think and they need to understand how you feel. They've have boyfriends and girlfriends too when they were your age. They should know what you're going through. All dad's are protective like that, cause no matter what, they still see you as a little kid. Though your dad was wrong to call you a slut. Tell him that hurt you. Tell your parents how much you like him. && that you hate it when they look at something you two do, they just assume stupid things. Good luck && hope I helped. TORi

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well, theres this guy, and hes friends with my ex, but we've always been really good friends, and now i realize that i really really like him, but, he liked one of my really good friends, and he told her, and got rejected. and now i ddont know if i should tell him, or just stay friends with him. anyideas?

Go for it. I think you shouldn't tell him yet. Just give him hints first. Get him to know && like you more. Then after a while, tell him how you feel about him. Good luck && hope I helped
TORi

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This guy I met at camp seems to have a thing for me. While we were there he tried to pull me into a room by ourselves so we could talk. (I definitely know he was not trying to get some. I'm positive.) He also talked to me from his friend's house, and he flirted so much it was crazy. Seriously, every sentence he said alluded to the fact that he has a thing for me. So my question is how do I know if he really likes me or if he just flirts with everyone and wants me to fall for him?

You could see if he does the same thing with other girls. If it doesn't happen, then I say you should give him a chance. Good luck && Hope I helped.
TORi

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O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!

I rate high!
Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17

Alright~ well, first of all, you should've never forgiven him in the first place. There's this saying I like to go by : "Once a cheater, Always a cheater" Just don't accept his apologies && get him completely out of your life. It's hard to get him out of your head && heart, I know, cause it's happened to me before too. I forgived my ex-boyfriend just like you did. He didn't cheat on my sister the second time, but my best friend. I got him out of my life, i coudln't get him out of my head, He was always there. But i spent time with my other friends and they helped me feel better. They ended up dragging me out of my own house cause i was so depressed. You should try to hang out with your best friends too. Well, second of all, not talking to your sister && not forgiving her does you no good. You think it does, but it really doesn't. It hurts you && your sister more. Though she did something horrible, you should still talk to her && forgive her because one, she's your sister, and two you know you love her. You can get your boyfriend out, but you can't get your sister out of your life. Talk to you sister. Both of you should try to understand each other. Good luck && hope i helped.

TORi

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ok well here is the deal i hate these things because they are all alike but i need to no
anyway
ok my friend and i are semi close and he isnt really that cute but today when i passed him in the hall in the morning his eyes caught the light just right and i literally stoped and just stared at him and i mean last year he would make my knees go weak and melt every time i looked into his baby blue eyes (they are like brad pitts eyes in interview with a vampire when he is a vampire not before) and he has the most gorgeous lips but i have to say an ugly nose lol any way the other day i told him his sister told me he had little pink piggy's on his boxers and after i told him hes like well i do see and he showwed me cuase he was wearing them that day and omg i cant stop thinking about him but what i want to know is it love cause i am only in 9th grade or crush or nothing oh and jsut to let you all no io posted before and the title of that post was snibble it was under love relationships

I dont really think that's love. You're probably crushing on him a lot. My friend && I had a talk about this today. He's a guy, && he kept saying that Like && Love are the same thing. && I highly
disagree with him. You just like him. I think it's a crush not love. Hope I helped!

TORi

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i know im so lucky to have my boyfriend but i take him and our relationship for granted a lot and i expect things to be perfect a lot. What can i do to lighten up and appreciate things, like REALLY appreciate things?

Spend more time with him. Start to realize that what you have is perfect. that you have a perfect relationship with the perfect guyy. A lot of girls are dying to have a girlfriend. You know that you're lucky to have your boyfriend, there's a start. Just give him nice cards or a little gift. Good luck && hope i helped

TORi

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ok im gonna try and make this short. me and my boyfriend broke up in march. but we still talk like were goin out like we still say i love you and everything. but than the other day i got asked out by another guy and i said yea. but when my xbf found out he was mad. and start sayin i thought you loved me and everything. so i broke up with my recent bf. cuz i still have feelings for my x i dont know what to do cuz my x says things will never be the same between us again so i dont know if i should move on or what someone please help me i rate high!!!

Well, first of all, if you still had feelings for your ex-boyfriend, then you shouldn't have said yes to the other guy. I dont blame your ex-boyfriend for getting madd about that. Tell your ex-boyfriend that you made a mistake && that you really do love him. Make him feel like you two really going out. Talk to him like you two used to. Good luck && hope i helped.

TORi

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I love this guy and he loves me but where not together anymore but I have to make a chosie its either I move away and go to another school or stay here untill I am done with high school and the only thing that is keeping me here is my ex and my chruch but I love him and I want to make it work with my ex please help me I don't no what to do help?

Are you two not together anymore because of the moving problem?? If you two really love each other;If you really love him, then you should choose to stay. You said yourself that the only thing that's keeping you there is your ex. Stay there and be with him until you finish high school. I'm sure you two will be able to work it out after! Good luck && hope i helped.

TORi

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Age: 13

Gender: Female

There is this guy and i like him a lot but he only likes me as a friend. He knows that I like him and he's fine with it and we still talk. What should I do ask him out or just wait and see what comes next??

Well...if you know that he only likes you as a friend, then you really shouldn't ask him out. He might end up saying no && then you'll just end up getting hurt. Just spend more time with him && try to get him to like you before you ask him anything. Good luck && hope I helped!

TORi

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13/f he is 14/m
Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice.

Give him a chance ^-^
but make sure your friend is by your side at all times~ good luck && hope i helped!

TORi

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i wanna make my boyfriend know that i like him. like i dont want him to break up with me cuz i feel like i havent been the best. and two other girls like him and i personally think they're prettier than me =/.. and i just really dont wanna loose him..like i feel like telling him i love him isnt enough but i dont wanna sound corny if i say more..help!

Just remind him every now && then of how much you love him. you dont need to necassarily tell him in words. you can get him candy or something he likes. just a little gift. You have to remember that he asked you out cause he liked you in the first place. hope i helped

TORi

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ive been dating this guy for 5 months&we really got to know eachother before we even started dating. he ended up getting grounded over the summer for failing spanish&we havent gotten to see eachother since then. we decided it was pointless to date over the summer if we never got to see eachother, so we went on a "break". i think he might be interested in this other girl he just met. she plays basketball with him&his friends all the time. i dont know if he just thinks of her as a friend or more. he said he wants to start dating again as soon as he's allowed to see me again, but i don't know if i should or not. what if he has or had feelings for the other girl? should i trust that he really does care about me&want to stay with me?

If you two have really gottent o know each other before you two even started dating, then you should trust him. you should really ask him if he has feelings for the other girl. If he's HAD feelings for the other girl, then it shouldn't matter because then that means he's over her. I think you should trust that he cares about you. Ask him about the other girl, if you two know each other very well, then you guys are obviously very good friends. he should tell the truth. good luck && hope i helped!

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Ok well my friend and I when we were like 13 We kissed (she's a girl) because neither of us had been kissed before! But I realyy like this boy that likes me back a lot. We've gone on dates and kissed. But the kiss with him seem's real and when I kissed my friend it was just an example. Now my friend is OBSESSED with me, I mean I told her the kiss wasnt real and she is just obsessed! My boyfriend HATES her and now I'm starting to hate her! Please help!

um....Just tell your friend that you have a boyfriend that you'd just like to be friends, and ONLY friends. make her understand that. don't hate her just because you may think she likes you, and your boyfriend shouldn't hate your friend if he knows that he HAS you and he knows that you're not going to all of a sudden run off with your friend. he has no reason to be angry. Just settle your friend down, and talk to her. if she still doesn't care, then that's when you can get angry and cut the friendship. hope i helped.

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