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14/f
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. The only thing is that i have a moustache that is sorta dark and a lot of people notice it i'm sure. It's really embarrising because i don't want him to see it. I can't do anything about it. I'm not gonna wax, shave or bleach it. What do i do? I'm scared that he will be grossed out by it and break up with me. Help! (link)
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You need to wax it or pluck it..ive been through this and the best thing is to wax it.
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im 18 years old, female
i've never had a boyfriend before and i'll ive done is madeout with two guys and that was about two years ago. everytime someone hears that i have never had one they're all shocked because everyone tells me im gorgeous (and i do think im pretty, not trying to be conceited at all) its just that i dont know whats wrong with me. maybe i'm too picky but all these guys try to get with me and i always just see them as a friend and never anything more. im scared to kiss a guy or anything because it's been so long and i just dont know. i like this boy right now but has a girlfriend. he tried "fingering" me and i really wanted him too, but i just couldn't let myself do it. i feel so awkward doing that kind of stuff. all my family and friends are always like why dont you ever have a boyfriend! and im just like i dont know. im so worried about school right now because i just started college and i usually dont go looking for one. im outgoing around people i know, but i wont approach i guy i think is hot when im by myself. what do you guys think, what should i do im starting to get really depressed about this... (link)
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Omg i am just like you and im in the same situation. I am also 18 and ive never had a committed relationship..im not that experienced either and it bothered me for awhile. But then i realized that I need to move at my pace..i dont need to feel pressured by other people to get a boyfriend just because ive never had one. People wonder about me all the time..im sure they prolly think im a lesbian just because ive never had one but im def not and truth is..im just not ready for that. So maybe we are a little slow w. when it comes to boys..who cares? When youre ready..youre ready and youll feel it. And it also depends on the guy you meet..once you find a guy that you really like and you have chemistry with..itll be different. Youll WANT to kiss him..you wont be afraid instead youll be excited. Give yourself time..you have all your life to worry ab boys..focus on you and your time will come when you least expect it. Hope i helped!
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18/M My girlfriend, who I love very much,
is still in high school, and lives about 20 minutes away, and she's depressed and stressed because I don't get to see her as often now that school's in. (weekend's are basically the extent of it, and she want's a job too)
How can we see each other more often during the week when she has homework, and how can I make her feel better? (link)
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Hardcore scheduling..so now that you and your girlfriend are really busy you need to schedule dates of when to see her..this will help your girlfriend and you become more productive and get things done so you can eachother the day you scheduled..plan at least a week in advance or a couple of days..my friend did this when her boyfriend went to college..and they are happier than ever now..relationships are hardwork but if you and your girlfriend are willing to put forth the effort than you will make it
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Hello, my name is Dania. I live in Pittsburgh, PA and my boyfriend lives in Canada. We've never met in person but we've been pen pals for a long time. My question is: How am I going to be able to keep in good communication with him? We have webcams so we use those to talk to eachother through msn. We can't really call eachother because the long distance charges are ridiuculous. How can I make this work? I really don't want us to fall apart. Thank you! (link)
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I am surprised you guys are dating when youve never met..im sure you guys like eachother and everything but after awhile it will get annoying because you cant physically hang out and be with eachother..relationships are about being with eachother and being in their presence..its what makes a relationship grow and if you guys dont ahve that..this relationship will die down because eventually one you guys are gonna get frustrated because you cant see eachother in person..you just communicate by phone and computer..my advice..i wouldnt date eachother..its a bad idea..im sure you wont give me good feedback but its the truth..i cant lie
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14/f ok so im tired of always being akward around guys especially ones that i like so i need flirting tips... thanks muddymidfielder (link)
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I know everyone says this but truly..you just need to be yourself...if you have a good sense of humor use that to your advantage when youre flirting with a guy...if you are just a really sweet person then compliment them on their shirt or hair or w/e..you cant be shy or they will never know youre flirting..guys dont ever pick up signals with shy girls..you have to be outgoing..you also need to make eye contact with them..and maybe give them a cute smile or touch their shoulder..then they will start picking up signals..good luck to you!
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hello my name is seanicka and im 18. Im in a long distance relationship and I was wondering do you think seeing my boyfriend every three months or two is bad? we love each other dearly and willing to make it work. (link)
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It depends on how bad you guys wanna make this work...i dont see a problem in seeing eachother every three months..but i do warn you..it will be challenging and you guys will have to trust eachother completely to make it work. So many girls go into relationships without building that strong trust system with their boyfriends and then they end up getting screwed over. If you guys trust eachother and are willing to do anything then i think you guys will make it. Good luck
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ok i have been talkin to this guy and he lives REALLY far away. I like him a lot and he likes me a lot. He is a very sensative guy and thats what i like. But were starting to get pretty serious. We both agreed already that we can't have a long distance relationship because face it...those never really work out. the thing is i don't want to stop dating other people and wait for him. But then again i would feel like i was cheating. Do you understand what i'm tryin to get to? I like this guy alot but i can't put my life on hold just for him but yet i feel if i dont i'm going to hurt him and in a way hurt myself. Do you see my dilema? I don't know what to say think or do about it. (link)
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Ive totally been in this situation and i know exactly how you feel..the guy i liked lived all the way in michigan and i love in nc! Me and got pretty serious but i realized that..hes not there physically anymore and if you remove the physical part where you see eachother and hang out with eachother theres noway to possibly continue the relationship...my advice..i would end it with this guy for now but dont close the door on him because who knows maybe in the future something will happen and it will all work out..but for right now..i would end it..its for the best..im sure theres some guys just like him in your town..you just gotta be open and available
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i'm with a guy, i didnt go to school with him, hes 18, im 15. so um we always text, but sometimes we get to the point where we have no idea what to talk about. and i have no idea like what subject to bring up.
any ideas to keep a convo going?
and how do you get him to call you?
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well thats your first mistake..you need to meet up with this guy face to face..texting is such a pussy thing to do..meet up with this guy..you might have more chemistry cuz it seems to me that you guys dont have alot in common..if you did..you wouldnt be running out of things to talk about..or you guys are just straight up boring
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okayyyy so when me and my boyfriend make out its really wet. (as in spit) the actual kiss is good but it always seems like its abnormally wet compared to like movies and stuff. is this normal? or do we need to change how we kiss?
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well probably the reason why it is a mess is because your crazy teenage hormones are raging right now therefore producing more spit and other bodily fluids more rapidly and efficiently..my advice go to the doctor and see if theres any medicine out there that can contain these hormones or you could buy a suction straw like the one you see at the dentist that sucks out all the spit after youve got your teeth cleaned from that nasty cherry flavored toothpaste..yuck that shit is nasty...anyways..you could use that every 4 minutes..im sure then..it would reduce the amount of spit
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hi, okay well my problem is about confidence. now everyone tells me without confidence, youre nothing. so i try to convince myself 24/7 to just be confident and comfortable. my main problem- no one ever asks me to be their girlfriend. ive basically never had a boyfriend before. now all of my friends tell me im so pretty, and i guess you could say i fit in with mostly everyone, and im pretty populaur. but if im so pretty, that why doesnt any guys ask me out? i mean everyday at school, atleast one person A DAY that comes up to me, says im so pretty. my bestfriend always gets guys asking her out, so being around everyone who always gets asked out, right infront of my face, kills me. it really sucks to feel like somethings wrong with myself. but my bestfriend also acts a little slutty. now dont think shes a slut, because shes not, shes just a "flirty person." so i thought that maybe if i was a little bit more flirty too, guys would consider me. well that hasnt worked, and now im just starting to realize thats not the kind of person i want to be. so im myself, and thats that. but i just dont get why there are no guys who ever like me.
i dont know what more to say.
please help,
thanks for reading.
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Guys are attracted to confident girls. They dont like girls who are unsure of themselves and dont feel comfortable in their own skin. And yes youre right..being confident is everything. You are going to be faced with so many challenges in your life and without confidence you are not going to be able to handle the real world. My advice is..hold your shoulders high and BELIEVE AND KNOW that you are worth it to a guy. When you do this..guys will notice.trust me..it worked for me.
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So there was this guy at work who I thought was adorable and I really wanted to get to know him but I had this issue where I didn't want to be overtally nice around him because I didn't want to appear cheesy. Eventually he started talking to me and we would strike up conversations. At work he would constantly walk by and rub up against me or would put his arm around me or I would sometimes catch him staring at me. He was even the first person to notice I had gotten my hair cut. He was constantly flirting with me and I thought that I was getting somewhere with him, then we'd have moments where we would just stop talking and stare at eachother and I kept expecting he would ask me for my number to hang out. But he never did. So finally one day I got the courage to call him up and ask him if he wanted to hang out and maybe go out to eat before he left for school. He said yes, but didn't seem too excited when I asked. Then I worked with him 2 days in a row before our "date" and he hardly said a word to me. Then when we did go out to eat(which he even forgot that we were supposed to hang out) it was awkward and he really didn't seem comfortable. I asked him questions about school and his plans to try to show him that I was interested in him and wanted to get to know him. We ended up splitting the check and he left abruptly... but not before inviting me to a party the next day. I don't understand what I did wrong. And if he didn't like me then why would he invite me to a party the next day? I need advice... please.... (link)
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This guy may be just a tease. Some people love to flirt and send out messages that theyre interested in you but when you start liking them..they pull away. Its a physcological game that is completely dumb in my opinion. You're too easy for him..no catch..soo if hes playing that game..then you why dont you play it too. And that party..tell him that you might come..see what he does. And about the moments that you stop talking..you guys are at work..soo maybe hes just trying to do his job with no distractions.
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OK, so we know what lust and love is.. but is it bad to just be in 'lust' with somebody rather than 'love' even though you're like really good friends with the person? (link)
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Yes it does..this just means that you're not really wanting an emotional attachment just a physical one. This happens to me all the time..seems like i lust more than love. Dont worry its normal!
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ok I recently met a guy through his mother, they recently moved into town and asked me to go to a movie with the family. I dont know if he liked hanging out with me or not, he gave me a ride home and actually took me to his apt while he changed clothes before we went over to his parents house again, and didn't take me home until 12:30am but I dont know if i should ask him to hang out again or not. (link)
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Well obviously he is somewhat interested in you if he asked you go to a movie. Dont worry about what he thinks..have fun..be yourself and if he notices that youre having fun hes gonna like you. Guys like fun girls..they like girls that are exciting. So dont worry..have fun and be confident and hes def. gonna like you!
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can anyone think of any reason why a bf wouldnt be happy for his gf if she found a job that she really liked?
I'll right anyone who answers with a 5. Thanks! (link)
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He's jealous because youre paying more attention to the job (which you really like) and youre not paying attention to him nemore. Need nemore advice? just ask!
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I love this guys and he loves me too. Hes so incredibly perfect for me and i want to be with him so bad. The only problem is he lives 2000 miles away! I dont really want to go out with anyone at home but i also dont want to be single for the rest of highschool..i dont think hed every get into a relationship with me because of the distance either. i dunno what i should do..and if i decide to have a bf how do i tell him? (link)
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2000 miles is very far away. Have u ever seen the Real World? Well if you havent..these 7 roommates get picked to live in a house..work together..and have there lives taped. Some of them are leaving their bfs/gfs behind. And has time goes on..theyre relationship starts to fall because they havent seen eachother in awhile..and theyre around other ppl.Its even hard for these 23 or 24 yr olds to keep up this relationship that theyve had. And when i watched that i realized..the percent of still going out when youre far away from eachother is slim. Now if you get a bf..yes you should tell him if you still keep in contact with him frequently. And he could have a gf..you know never kno how youll meet in a new place. My opinion..dont dwell on this guy. And when he comes back to see you and you guys still have that love..then its gonna be surprising and special at the same time. But for right now..if you wanna date someone..then go for it.
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I'm 13 yrs. old....I've never made out with any one.....Well lets cut to the chase I've never had a boyfriend at all....I've had alot of crushes but never an actual boyfriend....is that good or bad? (link)
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Ha..im 15 and still hasnt really made out with neone. I kissed a boy but not makeout. And i havent had alot of bfs..soo thats not bad at all. Some girls just dont want a bf and thats fine. And it doesnt matter wat age you are wen you get your first kiss. Youll find a guy that you really like and youlll kiss him and itll be special. So dont worry..youre not alone!
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i`m EXTREMELY shy on the phone.. when calling a guy to invite to a movie.. would it be easier if i did a 3 way with my friend (link)
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No i wouldnt do that. That sounds like youre too immature to not ask him yourself. Just call him and say "hey..umm friday night would like to go to a movie with me" Its not thtat hard. BUt i do understand how you feel..im shy too. But just be confident.
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OK, i am 14, and just going into highschool.I am going to an all girls school. I have never been boycrazy, i havent even gone out with a boy or anything. I do have a lot of friends who are guys. I really want a boyfriend, but going to an all girls highschool will make it harder. I am also an EXTREME tomboy, and i'm not really fat, just bulky and muscular. How do i get guys to like me? And what can i do to get a bf when im going to an all girls school? help me, i rate high!! (link)
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I used to be alot like you. Even tho i didnt go to an all girls school..i was a tomboy and never really went out with ne guys. But dont think that guys like girly girls..cuz they dont. Guys like girls that can hang with them, that are outgoing and easygoing. So if you can do that..then theres no problem with you getting a boyfriend. And sure youre a little muscular but most guys dont like really skinny girls neways. What you need to do..is be flirty and confident. If youre not flirty and confident then most guys wont find you appealing. Also..when youre oging out with friends and see a hot guy that you want to talk to...TALK TO HIM. Be confident and walk right over to him and start talking. Like lets say you go to the mall..and you see this one guy at a sports store..walk right up to him and be like "thats my fav team too..or you like that team..well i like...blah blah" If you do that then theyll start talking bac. Also wear something cute..and do your a hair little. TRUST me it can go a long ways.
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how did you and your boyfriend get together? you said you were scared, how did you get courage to ask him out? (link)
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I finally got the courage to. I just went for it..i didnt kno what was gonna happen..all i knew is i really liked him. And it jsut so happened taht he liked me too..we jsut didnt kno that we liked eachotehr..until i spoke. DONT BE AFRAID. Have the confidence and youll be fine. Now if he doesnt like you..then OWELL..theres alot of guys out there. TRUST ME.
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im so mad that school yr is over and ima miss all my friends especially this one boy i liked all yr. i didnt get his number i think i got a way to find it out. but im so scared though. i really love this guy and ima be thinking about him this whole summer and i think it might be love. i dont want to use the "l" word but i cant help it. i mean i see things in him that i dont see in most guys. even though he does act like guys act--you know how they are--but i really feel connected to this guy. what should i do? just stare at his picture for the rest of the summer or do something about. becuz im not the bravest person in the world, and i am so scared. can somebody help me becuz my friends don't understand and nobody does. but i dont know if he feels the same way. i guess you can tell by the look in his eyes, but all i see in him is something different. he probably wont break my heart. but im not sure. i cant look into his eyes because i wont see him and its just so crazy. can somebody just help me. (link)
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You need to go for it. If you dont then youll never know what could have happened. If he does like you great..you guys can hang out all summer and have fun! But if he doesnt..then at least you kno you tried. You gotta go for it..i was like that before me n my bf were dating. I was soo scared to get rejected and tahts what you are. Youre scared of rejection which everyone goes through. But you gotta take this chance. hope i helped
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