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CONFIDENCE ISSUE. please help! asap!
hi, okay well my problem is about confidence. now everyone tells me without confidence, youre nothing. so i try to convince myself 24/7 to just be confident and comfortable. my main problem- no one ever asks me to be their girlfriend. ive basically never had a boyfriend before. now all of my friends tell me im so pretty, and i guess you could say i fit in with mostly everyone, and im pretty populaur. but if im so pretty, that why doesnt any guys ask me out? i mean everyday at school, atleast one person A DAY that comes up to me, says im so pretty. my bestfriend always gets guys asking her out, so being around everyone who always gets asked out, right infront of my face, kills me. it really sucks to feel like somethings wrong with myself. but my bestfriend also acts a little slutty. now dont think shes a slut, because shes not, shes just a "flirty person." so i thought that maybe if i was a little bit more flirty too, guys would consider me. well that hasnt worked, and now im just starting to realize thats not the kind of person i want to be. so im myself, and thats that. but i just dont get why there are no guys who ever like me.
i dont know what more to say.
please help,
thanks for reading.
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One thing to know is that most guys go for the easy girls. Not saying you should be easy, I'm saying they go for the mot naive. Others tend to have really high standards. And others just aren't interested.
Point being, just wait for "Mr. Right" I know its painful to watch others get a guy in minutes(exageration) because I have to see my friends get girls all the time and have to deal with the crap they spew out about their GF and then later they break up. One of my friends constantly complains he "needs" a GF. So don't think your alone.
So just be yourself and he'll come around, the right guy I mean. You don't want to be like everyone else who dates, breaks up, and goes for the next target. They are the people who won't ever know what makes a good relationship work. And you don't have to be confident all the time, sometimes a little hesitation and nervousness is good. But being as confident as possible is even better.
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Well, some guys, a lot of guys are intimidated by good looking women. That's their hang up, not yours. They are afraid of rejection. I think if you were to attempt to be more outgoing again you'd find more guys asking you out. You call it "flirty" I call it outgoing. You can't give up if it doesn't work at first, just keep trying. All you really need to do is just to be friendly. Say hello, thank you etc... That's all the outgoingness you really need.
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Guys are attracted to confident girls. They dont like girls who are unsure of themselves and dont feel comfortable in their own skin. And yes youre right..being confident is everything. You are going to be faced with so many challenges in your life and without confidence you are not going to be able to handle the real world. My advice is..hold your shoulders high and BELIEVE AND KNOW that you are worth it to a guy. When you do this..guys will notice.trust me..it worked for me.
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First of all, you need to calm down.
Your main problem is really trivial, its almost shallow that that is your main problem when teens are suffering with anxiety, cutting, and teenage pregnancy.
I will be civil however and answer your question. Being pretty isn't everything. Sure, shallow guys go for the slutty girls with big boobs, it happens. Guys probably don't want to date you because they sense your insecurity, or you don't seem approachable. Forget about having a boyfriend. Be yourself and don't worry about what other people say.
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