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Ok everyone please try not to make tooo much fun of me, but I am 25 and never had a boyfriend. I guess what I am asking is simple: Is my life over? Is there any hope if you haven't had a boyfriend by 25?
I don't know what I am doing wrong. I just haven't found anyone that I find really interesting yet.
Should I stop waiting for interesting just to have someone in my life? Is it better to be bored WITH someone than bored without someone? I don't know anymore! Help!
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hmm..maybe you're scaring men. Men are aaprobably afraid to date you because you may "seem" mean, just by the expression on your face. Do you smile when guys come around? Do you give off a positive vibe? Maybe you should put yourself out more. Start conversations, smile, laugh, show that you're interested :] Be happy. and confidence is KEY! Guys love a girl whose confident and has a luminous personality.
FIERCE & xoxo. (:
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hello well im 16 and my girlfriend is too young for me and here parents decided to that if im gonna keep seeing here there gonna call me sagatory rape i want kno wat u have to do too get in trouble for that (link)
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hey,
well it depends how old your girlfriend is?! How old is she?
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hi I like this 20 year old guy and he likes me I'm 16 in october. I really like him and he likes me. he is scared of what people will think if we date and the law my parents his ect ect ect. what I need to know is what can I say to him to make him ask me to be his girlfriend. thank you (link)
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hey,
i definitely understand what you're going through. two years ago i was 14 yrs. old and i liked this eighteen year old guy. I liked him alot....a lot like love. But because of the sagatory rape issue i chose not to get in a relationship with him. I wouldn't want him to get arrested even though i still wanted to be with him. You should just wait until you're eighteen. I know that's a long time but it's better to be safe than sorry!
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There's this guy that I am seriously like in love with. It's just that every time I try and have a normal conversation with him, I either get really tongue-tied or end up saying something really stupid...
I'm afraid that now he probably thinks I'm an idiot because of some of the dumb things that I've said. I'm soooo nervous around him but I really want to go out with him so...what do I do???
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hey,
Don't you just hate when that happens..ughh. Well this may sound a little stupid but with situations like these.... I think you should write down what you would say to him, that way you'll be fully prepared and you won't stumble on your owns. I know exactly how you feel good luck!
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i have a boyfriend, and he is amazing and perfect. But I can't help but to be tempted by other guys. I just really need passion in my relationship and my boyfriend is so awkward about it. How can i resist temptation, because I don't want to mess up my relationship or hurt my boyfriend =/
and i can't really tell my boyfriend to pump it up in the bedroom - he can't help being a little nervous about that kind of stuff. (link)
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hey,
So you need passion in your relationship huh?!..well, each person in a relationship has needs. I think you should wait a while. A while as in a month and see if your boyfriend hasn't turned up the heat in the bedroom. Your b.f COULD be insecure about the way he performs. So just let him know that you want more. Don't demand, just suggest. I'm pretty sure he'll want your needs to be meet without you having to pressure him.
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okay
im 15/f I liked this boy who asked me out one month and one week ago.We dated for a month and on our one month anniversary he dumped me.He said he loved me and he wanted us to be together forever.I finally said i loved him back.I am mad.I just can't understand what went wrong.I know i did nothing wrong.........So now what?
question is........Should I start dating and make him realize he was wrong and he'll miss me but still go out with the one that makes my ex jealous?Should I tell my ex how I feel but yet I want nothing to do wth him anymore?What do I do?
If there is anyone who can help great if not thanx anyways.
Hopefully he realizes Im the one he loves.
Signed,
Sis15 (link)
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hey Sis15,
uhgghh MEN, can't understand them..never will. NO, you shouldn't date someone to spite ur ex. Because imagine how that boy will feel, he'll feel just like you felt when your ex dumped you. Personally, I don't think you should tell your ex how you feel. How dare he dumps you on your 1 month anniversary after you finally said you loved him back. You have the right to be mad, because honestly i would be mad too. So basically, it's best to move on. You're young, live your life,..and trust me..you'll definitely find the right guy that's worth your time!!!
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okay im a natural flirt and sometimes i dont even know when im flirting just my friends tells me that im flirting and such and when i like someone and they like me back i always back off or my feelings for them starting to fade away and stuff why is it like that? i never had a boyfriend do you think i have a commitment issue? even though they are hot and cute and all i lose interest if they likeme back what does it mean? (link)
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hey,
WOW you are NOT alone,i'm EXACTLY like you. It's like I can flirt with any guy or a guy that's "hot" without even liking them. It's like kind of fun in a weird way, and then you get that after feeling..lol. But then when it comes to a guy liking me, i tend to get shy or back off like you. Well, i'm thinking you DO sort of have a commitment issue. Because, think about it. If a guy comes along and you like him, wouldn't you want to flirt or "get to know him?"Since you could flirt AND THAT'S IT, like no relationship or any of that..that's all you want to be, you just don't know it yet. My guess, is that you probabaly enjoy being single,end of story.=]
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Look...i really like this guy and he really likes me but i also like this other guy...and i think about them both all the time....wat do i do? the guy that likes me back means the world to me while the other one is just a "man Whore" but i like them both...help me (link)
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hey,
well you should definitely go for the guy that likes you. You like him, he likes you, and prerry soon you guys will eventually start going out! =]
Whereas, the other guy is a man whore, your not sure if he likes you..and most of the time if there's a guy that you like and that guy likes you back, there's a tendency to like that other guy more...so i'm saying go for the guy that likes you back! =]
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Ok so my BF and I have been going out almost 3 months, but yesterday he broke up with me, cause we haven't seen each other this summer, but school starts in 4 days. Why would he break up with me if we are gong to be seeing each other everyday? Do you think he is telling me the truth of why he broke up with me? What should I do?
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NO. he lied. And i understand how you're feeling right now. DON'T let him get to you, no matter what happens, because if he sees that you still like/love him, he'll just enjoy the fact that his ex is still drooling over him. If you see him in school, act like you've never seen him in you're life. Just remember that there's plenty of other fish in the sea, and there's a better guy out there for you.
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AHHH!!
please helpp.
okayy this is going to be kinda longg but sum1 please please please help mee
i like this guy and ive liked him for a while
he told me when we 1st became friends he didnt go out with freshman
and i respected that
so i waited until the end of the year
and nothing happened
but he kept flirting with me constantly..i mean like unclip my bra in the middle of class, kick my chair, always whipser stuff to me ( we have close last names so we sat close to each other)
and we would hang out everyday and when we hung out he would lay on me ( ex. my boobs)
and we would watch scary movies and cuddle
and he would call me everynight (school nights) and we would talk for like 3 or 4 hours until like 2 in the morning
but anywayy..thats the info you sorta need to know
just recently i told him i liked him and i asked how he felt back..he totally changed the subject and i asked him again and he signed off (i did this online) but the 2nd time he calls me later and asks me to sneak out with him...i didnt go.
so finally i bugged him so much and i got an answer..
he told me he liked me but prolly nuthings gunna happen between us and i was crushed and im told him i was confused cuz he "likes me alot" but "probably nothings going to happen becuase he cant predict the future"
and i cried for about a week
i really think i love this guy
and you know i wasnt letting him hold me back i hooked up with this other guy and he found out
he was CRUSHED. he was so mad he brought a bat the next time he knew i was with him
and then he told me he didnt want to ask me out becuase he "didnt want to ruin our friendshp"
and my couin whos 30 ( i talked to her about this)
told me thats a bunch of sh*#%
and she said to see is he relle likes me..dont im him..call him ..hang out with him and if he realizes it then hell do something
so it was abotu 2 weeks and i get a random im "hi i miss you =["
so she told me that he just likes to be liked and now that im showing him i dont care hes realizing like oh sh*% maybe shes moving on
but grrr i like him soo much
and i dont know what to do
pleasee shud i im him?
does he like me?
im soo sorry this is so long by the way
but please,,, HELPP!!
thanksss in advance !! (link)
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HEY! First off, i understand how you're feeling and if i were you, i'd be confused too. Apparently, this guy is playing with your heart. Your trusting him with your heart, and all he's doing is just dropping it, over and over and over again. This guy likes to be liked. He likes the feeling that, a girl is obsessing over him.He DOESN'T like you. And every time he breaks your heart, he realizes what he did and tries to suck up to you..like ex. oh i'm sorry, or it's not going to work, or maybe we can just be friends..KRAP LIKE THAT..the best thing to do is just, FORGET about him.I have been in a VERY similar situation, as you are currently in right now, so i understand that you can't just get rid of your feelings over him, it's going to take time..maybe alot of time, but it's not good to like a guy, that is toying with your emotions and is basically wasting your time. Your beautiful, smart, and funny. you deserve better, a guy that will actually be upfront about his feelings and like you as much as you will like him.
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Okay the last advice i got was great but i need more, this is really long but it's really important to me. So he sort of talks to me at my bro's baseball games from the dug out, he teases me, we laugh sometimes, i think he might like me, but he's not making a move, the last game is soon, and he goes to a different school then me, i don't want to just tell him i like him, how can i drop hints: hints that would make him realize that i like him without seeming slutty, and by the way his mom will probably be about 20 feet away.
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oh. man..this is a toughie..lol since mama dukes is around.
Since the last game is approaching..keep doing what you're doing. Laugh, smile, and just hold a conversation with him, like you've been doing. Then at the last game, ask if he wants to hangout or something..movies..mall,,etc.I'm pretty sure he'll accept your invite. Then exchange numbers and/or your myspace...or aim if you have one.
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How do you know when to keep trying to make it work or give up entirely in a relationship? (link)
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it all depends on the situation.
FEEL FREE, to inbox me to talk more about the situation. i have time,,lots of time..so idc how long it is.
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ok so, i know there are a lot of questions out there like what do guys see in girls, or the opposite. well thats sorta what im getting to here. im 15/f and im having so much trouble here, and i need some real advice, not just a stupid answer. i know this is wierd, but ive only had one boyfriend, and it was elementary school for a long time but i dont really count it, because we didnt kiss and stuff, i mean come on i still thought boys had cooties. but i feel really out of place at my school and with my friends. they all have had boyfriends and i havent even had my first kiss. i dont think im that pretty but im not like hideous. im friends with guys but when i start having feelings for them, they like my other friends and it hurts everytime. guys see me as more of a friend, not a girlfriend. i give such good advice to my friends on there relationships, but i dont get why because im not experienced at all. and it just hurts me so much because im helping other people and not getting in return. i try to tell my friends, but they go oh your pretty, youll find someone. they dont give me any advice at all. and i dont know i think theres something wrong with me because no guy really likes me, theres nothing really special about me or anything.
my real question that needs to be answered is what can i do to make guys want me, like what do guys look for in a girl. how do i catch guys attention. ijust feel like theres no guy at my school right for me, even though i know i dont know them all. i just dont know what to do, i feel so bad for myself because im a sophomore and i havent even had my first kiss. and i dont know anymore. i get so sad because my close friends know, and they make fun of me behind my back. i think they feel bad for me but they dont know what to say. they invite me to movies but they always have guys there and there all make out and stuff. and i just sit there.
some please help me i dont know whats wrong, i need to change so guys like me. sorry its long, thank you so much if you read all of it (link)
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omg. you are like a sister from another mister. NO JOKE...yes, i COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from. I haven't ever had a boyfriend or my 1st kiss. i'm 14/f..and i'm a SOPHMORE. SO I CAN RELATE. YOU are not the problem. the guys you meet are. See most guys are interested in breasts,butt,sluttiness. But then again, some boys like a girl, that isn't slutty or stupid. And you're one of them. Most guys are blind to a girl's inner beauty and their wonderful personality. You probably are just meeting or hanging out with the same types of guys like i was doing. You need to broaden your horizons..and when you meet a guy just flirt and have confidence, AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE [guys love that..TRUST ME]..And there is a guy for you at your school..you were seeing but wasn't really looking. But don't worry,becuase what happened to me was, a guy that i never expected to like, is now talking to me and he's about to be my boyfriend. The point is that once a guy you like, and he likes you back. You will feel so happy and wonderful. You'll feel head over heels even though your not in love..lol...It's just the best feeling that i've ever had in a long time, and i'm sure any girl loves that feeling too.
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13/f.Okay yeah I know it's kind of retarded thinking about it now,but it's so pathetic that I've never had a boyfriend before.Ever.I mean I flirt alot,but psh.It's dumb.I feel so stupid sometimes..I just wish I could find someone who liked me too.Liking the person I like now,is worthless.It's not going to go anywhere,considering the age difference >.<
Help please?
I have no idea what to do.
And I think about it everyday.. (link)
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heyyyy. girl u are NOT alone..lol
i'm 14 yrs.old n i'm going to be a sophmore in the fall and i haven't even been kissed yet. and i'm in the same positon as you are, i like someone and it's worthless because it's not going anywhere at all..lol .but the plus side about being single is that, you can always like someone else..and have feelings for a person. Unlike, if you had a boyfriend, you could only like him and he'd be your only option to have feelings for. As you can see being single isn't a punishment, it's an invitation for flirting and just enjoying your carefree lifestyle...THERE IS NO SHAME IN OUR GAME!!!..lol
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Give me some tips on getting a boyfirend or knowing if a guy likes me? How do i get a guys attention? I need help!! (link)
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hey.
i think you're feeling like, most of your friends have one..and you feel kinda "leftout" right?? no need to be rushing for a boyfriend. i definitely agree with the guy below me, it doesn't seem like YOU actually want one. I've been single all my life so far. and i'm 14 yrs.old going into my sophmore year. AND TRUST ME.. if you're not in highschool it's wayyy better to stay single. because alot of guys will be coming after you.[i have experience]...lol..and most of the time you feel like you don't want to be tied down. Just flirt and be yourself...
well if you honestly think you WANT a boyfriend then just laugh alot, smile, BE YOURSELF, act as if you're with your bestfriend, and most of all have CONFIDENCE..because if you want someone..you deserve to have them!!!
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who nos good ways to start convos w/ boys who like sorts and r funny aka the guy i like (link)
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oh. boys like when ur funny. don't worry making some1 laugh isn't as hard as some ppl. think. juss talk about a teacher.. or like comment on him about his appearance , yet in a flirtacious kind of way. For example: "your hair, was lookin a bit rough today, but it was cute and i liked it that way." some thing like that. TRUST me you'll do fine. I'm STILL nervous about talking to my crush these days,but how i look at is, I WANT SOMETHING,, I'M GONNA GO FOR IT!!.. and in end you'll be satisfied!!
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there is this party tonight and i want to tell my crush i like him. i m pretty sure he likes me back.
is this stupid? should i wait? WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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you should definitely tell him! Yes, sometimes we are all afraid of hearing the truth, but that's what ,makes up stronger! And if he says he doesn't like you back, just know that he had his chance and it's time to move on to someone who's worth your time and since you're almost completely sure, most likely he'll say he likes you too. I don't think that's stupid at all. i see it like this: YOU WANT SOMETHING, AND YOU'RE GOING FOR IT!!!!! ..tell me how it goes..need any more help feel free to write me in my [[InBoX]]..kay =]
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this guy REALLY likes me like he called me beautiful and stuff but i REALLY don't have feelings for him at all. and it seems like the more he talks to me and tells me he likes me, the more turned off i get, and the more i like this other guy.
now, the guy that likes me told me he liked me AFTER i told him i liked someone else... so i dont know why he told me. but he did. and he asked me for my cell number & he doesn't text... which is pretty much the only thing a cell phone is USED for... and he called me and he was like, hey i'd really like to talk to you and i mean i feel bad and everything but dude, he's becoming sort of obsessed with me. like the moment i get on my instant messenger, he IMs me.
i just REALLY need some space. i've been trying to avoid going on as much as possible, saying i'm busy etc. and only limiting to talking to him in school, but idk it's just really hard cause of all this guilt.
he KNOWS that i like someone else that's not him cause i told him, but he still tells me he would like to kiss me, thinks i'm beautiful and wants to go to the 8th grade dance with me but i really don't like him beyond friends.
the TRUTH is, i only asked him for his screen name cause i thought he was friends with my crush! it turned out horrible, and NOT what i wanted. cause now my crush's so called friend now DIGS me and my crush still doesn't like me!
please help me? i can't just tell him to lay off cause that would really hurt him.
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the best thing to do, is just tell him "to be friends." yes, this will probably break his heart, and crush him into pieces,but this is what he needs to hear,the truth. The truth may hurt, but if he can't get a clue...then this is the last option. i'm sorry, i couldn't give you more advice on this, but this is the only advice that will work.
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ok...so at my work there's a really nice guy that everyone likes and i just found out he has a crush on me. then the other day he started asking me out to the movies and stuff and i would absolutely love to except im 17 a nd hes 24 and i dont know if it would be worth the risk. OH by the way my dad is our boss. and the last thing i want is for him to find out im going out with one of his employees whos over 20. i mean i actually really do like him but, Should i risk it? (link)
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You should definitely go for it!! If you do, just make sure he doesn't try to lay his hands on you. just because he's 7 yrs. older than you doesn't mean he has the right to hurt you in any physically means. and since your dad is the boss, becareful, and try to keep your relationship on the down low. So basically you should risk it. and if the relationship carries on for about a month or more, or it starts to get serious, i think your father has the right to know. But then again it's your decision, so you can tell him when the time is right for the both of you.
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15/f.
I'm in the 9th grade and I really like this guy. Well, V-day passed and I didn't even bother asking him out or anything....and he didn't make a move either. I know that he likes me as much as I like him. Should I wait for him to make a move? and meanwhile, dress a little more...em..."open?" and flirt around to attract attention..?..or should I just ask him out? :S :S :S (link)
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NO. You should not wait for him to make a move.you shouldn't dress a little more "open" you wouldn't want him to think you were some kind of slut or something. Just keep doing what you're doing that made him attracted to you =]. so i'm definitely going with you should DEFINITELY ask him out. why wait, when this could turn out to be a good relationship? LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE!!!
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